Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex

by Tiffany Kagure Mugo

Sex can be scary, but it doesn’t have to be. Every one of us can have great sex. Why is lube so important? How do you navigate consent? How do you put on a condom correctly? How do you enjoy erection-free sex? What is kink? This book will answer your burning questions and tell you all you need to know, in accessible bite-sized bits. A guide to all things sex and sexuality, busting myths and upgrading the knowledge you already have, it is the ultimate tool to help elevate your sex life!   

270 pages, Kindle Edition

Published April 21, 2020

About the author

Tiffany Kagure Mugo is co-founder and curator of HOLAA! a Pan Africanist hub that advocates for, and tackles issues surrounding African female sexuality. She is a TEDx speaker, host of the radio show Between The Sheets on Transafrica and a Board Member of FRIDA Fund. She has stories and pieces in over half a dozen anthologies and contributes to a host of spaces speaking about sex and politics. She is a psychology major and future sex therapist whilst currently being a sex and relationship conceptual expert. She was previously an Open Society Youth Fellow. She wrote Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex (Kwela Books, 2020). During her down time she looks for existential answers on the rims of wine glasses and is a polymath for no pay. She lives in Joburg.

Reviews

[Lorraine · Rating 4 out of 5]

So you think you know all there is to know about SEX, well I have been well schooled. This 260-pager will make you think differently about all things sex and sexual and sensuality. From consent to relationshipping differently to introducing new things, making a banging sex video, booty calling especially in these social distancing times, BDSM, threesomes or more somes, snacking (food for the soul and body😋), polyamory, and my best chapter so far, Relationship Anarchy.

I had so much happiness in my belly reading this. I especially enjoyed the chapter on the art of sending nudes and how to make a sex video. More than them being total crackers, they were educational. I learnt so much from them that I WILL NOT BE SENDING NUDES OR MAKE A SEX TAPE ON MY PHONE ANYTIME SOON...OR AT ALL!! The two chapters on "Sex Work" were such an eye-opener and busted most of the myths around sex work for me. Found them very empowering.

I loved the conversational style of this book and it has such an easy flow to it. The chapters bled into each other which left me with a huge smile plastered all over my face that my jowls hurt. There was a community- feel around this book and I am proud that Tiffany reached out within her community when putting this delicious guide together. It takes someone mature and comfortable in their skin and talents to reach out like that. Rally her mates around towards a bigger goal.

Get your copy. Women's Month is fast approaching. We are no longer doing high -teas. We are taking charge of our needs. ALL OF THEM🙆🏿‍♀️🙆🏿‍♀️🙆🏿‍♀️🙆🏿‍♀️🙆🏿‍♀️. Put on your heels and empower yourself with this Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex @kagsmugo

[Anschen Conradie · Rating 4 out of 5]

#QuirkyQuickGuideToHavingSex - Tiffany Kagure Mugo
#KwelaBooks (NBPublishers)
ADULTS ONLY

Everyone who grew up with either Lahaye’s ‘The act of marriage’ and/or secretly obtained porn as only source of sexual wisdom, will probably find this book a welcome breath of fresh air on the subject. The author is outspoken, amusing and has no filters, but that is exactly what is required when producing a book like this.

The book is very clear on one thing: consent is essential. And children, animals and corpses are unable to provide informed consent. Subjects are relevant and diverse: getting STD tested; crotch exercises; sexual health; toys; orgasms; anal sex; threesomes; mixing food and sex; pornography; sex workers; sexuality and gender labels, to name a few.

The author did not work in isolation; input was obtained from a medical doctor; a black queer feminist activist; an expert in media studies; a communications professional and a human rights activist. The author is the co-founder and curator of HOLAAfrica, a Pan-Africanist hub that advocates for and tackles issues surrounding African female sexuality.

The book will not be appreciated by everyone and is recommended for open minded readers realizing that their definitions are not the only ones out there.

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[Between2_worlds · Rating 3 out of 5]

"I said, certified freak. Seven days a week. Wet-ass pussy. Make the pull-out game weak, woo (ah)". - Cardi B

If Dr T is the mom giving you the low down on all things sexual health, pleasure & rights then Tiffany Kagure Mugo's is that aunty. The aunty you go to ask anything & everything sex. You go to her because she makes you comfortable & because she'll answer you honestly & enthusiastically.

I absolutely had a ball reading Mugo's guide to great sex. Her humour really made me comfortable & I approached sex in such a different way. I learned that communication, lube, practice & safety are necessary pillars to having great sex. I loved how she divided the chapters in bite sizes that were so informative & invited experts to contribute on specific sections she wasn't as clued up in.

My only critique with this guide is I wish Mugo had dedicated a chapter on how to give good cunniligus & I wish some sections had diagrams - I mean sex is also visual.

Besides this, it is as it's says - A Quick Quirky Guide to Having Great Sex. Definitely a great companion read to Dr T's Guide to Sexual Health & Pleasure.

[Ophelia Kemigisha · Rating 4 out of 5]

It really is an aptly named book: it’s short, easy to read, has amazing tools, and manages to be quite comprehensive. Would recommend for everyone, and I think it would also help if you’re trying to dispense useful information for the young adults and curious teens in your life.

[Helené Coetzee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fabulous book. Easy, practical and entertaining. Great for anyone who has sex, or thinks about having sex or has had sex. So basically, everyone.