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Let's Get Married & Do Everything Except Make It Last: A Heart-to-Heart with Men on Loving and Leading
What do men want when it comes to love, marriage, and family? While the answer to this question is often skewed to something more dubious, they want the same things as women. Men want to feel loved, cherished, and supported to name a few. However, the social construct of gender roles is overwhelmingly incongruent and saturated with relationship-ending conflict brought on by mounting expectations to meet unattainable standards. Many men struggle in relationships as they are challenged to meet the standards of a world that has already prescribed what manhood and masculinity ought to be. This book aims to undo many of the misleading concepts used to historically prop up patriarchal beliefs by addressing the roles of religion, economics, politics, socialization, and the intrapersonal development of men and women. These social constructs play an important role in hampering the emotional and spiritual growth of men as husbands, fathers, and leaders. Using snapshots from my personal story of marriage, divorce, and fatherhood, this book is a heart-to-heart discussion about loving, leading, conflict resolution, and uprooting the miseducation of men and masculinity to help you prepare to get married and make it last .
268 pages, Paperback
Published July 23, 2020
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July 29, 2020
The LOVE + MARRIAGE Revolution Will Not Be Televised... Because it's in THIS BOOK!
You know how your computer prompts you for software updates in order to work more efficiently? This book is the SOFTWARE UPDATE for an outdated and antiquated way of love and marriage that causes unmet expectations, silent pain and suffering for husbands and wives as opposed to the Love & Happiness that Al Green sang about.
As the photo shows, I "downloaded" this new software in a quick 48 hours. Once I picked up this masterfully crafted book by author Adrian Carter, I could not put it down until I finished! As you crack the book open, you also experience Carter's heart and soul the same way - cracked wide open - for close examination of the wisdom that can only pour from a man who has been THROUGH THE FIRE and lived to not only tell the story, but show historical, Biblical, academical and social receipts of the hard lessons learned in his pain. His vulnerability is inspiring and jaw-dropping. It's not often you experience a man WILLING to express his emotions and hurt so openly. And that's part of the painful and faulty conditioning that Carter challenges in the book.
He challenges out-dated notions of dating, marriage and the unspoken rules that govern an institution that many enter in ill-advised and misguided ways. If you make the wise choice to read (or devour like I did) this book, you WILL have strong guidance and advice at your finger tips. I have a feeling that men reading this will feel validated, acknowledged, heard, empowered and normalized. I feel that this book is an exquisite guide for a man who wants different and better for himself and a man who actually VALUES finding and expressing his purpose and leaving a powerful LEGACY as a MAN - of his own definition. This is not for all men. All men won't get it. This is a book only for a man who values excellence, intelligence, growth, contribution, love, spirituality and self-awareness and reflection. This book holds men accountable to their unlimited nature. No... this isn't for all men.
Though I am not the intended reader - a man - I love them and desire to be in a loving marriage with one and this book allowed me the opportunity to self reflect on my own limiting beliefs and outdated notions and expectations that I unconsciously place on men that may be burdensome.
There are stories, there is heartbreak, there is laughter, there are booty rubs (yes - booty rubs), there is wisdom, there is understanding, there is validation and most of all an updating of the outdated software and programming that millions of people IN LOVE head into marriage needing an update for.
Carter's book is beyond timely as the antiquated structures of race, gender, culture, are being crumbled to actually respond to what is closer to the Truth than where we have been operating. If you've gone through the devastation of divorce, if you want to AVOID divorce, have clarity and power that you can actually SHARE in with the best selected life partner where you BOTH WIN, this book is required reading! I already can't wait to read it again. Pure literary #excellence.
You know how your computer prompts you for software updates in order to work more efficiently? This book is the SOFTWARE UPDATE for an outdated and antiquated way of love and marriage that causes unmet expectations, silent pain and suffering for husbands and wives as opposed to the Love & Happiness that Al Green sang about.
As the photo shows, I "downloaded" this new software in a quick 48 hours. Once I picked up this masterfully crafted book by author Adrian Carter, I could not put it down until I finished! As you crack the book open, you also experience Carter's heart and soul the same way - cracked wide open - for close examination of the wisdom that can only pour from a man who has been THROUGH THE FIRE and lived to not only tell the story, but show historical, Biblical, academical and social receipts of the hard lessons learned in his pain. His vulnerability is inspiring and jaw-dropping. It's not often you experience a man WILLING to express his emotions and hurt so openly. And that's part of the painful and faulty conditioning that Carter challenges in the book.
He challenges out-dated notions of dating, marriage and the unspoken rules that govern an institution that many enter in ill-advised and misguided ways. If you make the wise choice to read (or devour like I did) this book, you WILL have strong guidance and advice at your finger tips. I have a feeling that men reading this will feel validated, acknowledged, heard, empowered and normalized. I feel that this book is an exquisite guide for a man who wants different and better for himself and a man who actually VALUES finding and expressing his purpose and leaving a powerful LEGACY as a MAN - of his own definition. This is not for all men. All men won't get it. This is a book only for a man who values excellence, intelligence, growth, contribution, love, spirituality and self-awareness and reflection. This book holds men accountable to their unlimited nature. No... this isn't for all men.
Though I am not the intended reader - a man - I love them and desire to be in a loving marriage with one and this book allowed me the opportunity to self reflect on my own limiting beliefs and outdated notions and expectations that I unconsciously place on men that may be burdensome.
There are stories, there is heartbreak, there is laughter, there are booty rubs (yes - booty rubs), there is wisdom, there is understanding, there is validation and most of all an updating of the outdated software and programming that millions of people IN LOVE head into marriage needing an update for.
Carter's book is beyond timely as the antiquated structures of race, gender, culture, are being crumbled to actually respond to what is closer to the Truth than where we have been operating. If you've gone through the devastation of divorce, if you want to AVOID divorce, have clarity and power that you can actually SHARE in with the best selected life partner where you BOTH WIN, this book is required reading! I already can't wait to read it again. Pure literary #excellence.
March 25, 2021
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book. It is authentic, well-written, and compelling. The content is intriguing, and I especially like the chapter titles. They are quite interesting.
November 27, 2021
Was a good read. Interesting insights.
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