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Learn to Love Yourself Again: A Step-by-Step Guide to Conquer Self-Hatred, Ditch Self-Loathing, & Cultivate Self-Compassion
I’ve read books with a whole lot of “smile more!” and “just don’t let things bother you” methods. This isn’t that.-Amazon Customer Review
This book puts an end to mental exhaustion.-Amazon Customer Review
To not love yourself—what a frustrating, stress-filled way to live.
The negative self-talk, depressed moods, and fears of all kinds lead to nowhere but a place of more fatigue and hopelessness. You may “Am I doomed to always and forever be a victim of my own self-criticism, uncontrollable emotions, and unstable mental health?”
Self-love doesn’t work as pop-psychology would have us believe. Just take yourself to get a massage and treat yourself to your favorite meal. This doesn’t lead to lasting happiness, joy, inner peace, and fulfillment.
Self-love is a byproduct of how you handle your a) thoughts, and b) emotions. If you’re not convinced of that, simply notice what’s happening inside your mind and body the next time self-hatred and self-loathing take place—your thoughts and emotions are tearing you apart from the inside.
Therefore, having the confidence you can handle any thought or feeling that can possibly arise, no matter how negative, intimidating, scary, or overwhelming, is the key to loving yourself again…
This book puts an end to mental exhaustion.-Amazon Customer Review
To not love yourself—what a frustrating, stress-filled way to live.
The negative self-talk, depressed moods, and fears of all kinds lead to nowhere but a place of more fatigue and hopelessness. You may “Am I doomed to always and forever be a victim of my own self-criticism, uncontrollable emotions, and unstable mental health?”
Self-love doesn’t work as pop-psychology would have us believe. Just take yourself to get a massage and treat yourself to your favorite meal. This doesn’t lead to lasting happiness, joy, inner peace, and fulfillment.
Self-love is a byproduct of how you handle your a) thoughts, and b) emotions. If you’re not convinced of that, simply notice what’s happening inside your mind and body the next time self-hatred and self-loathing take place—your thoughts and emotions are tearing you apart from the inside.
Therefore, having the confidence you can handle any thought or feeling that can possibly arise, no matter how negative, intimidating, scary, or overwhelming, is the key to loving yourself again…
- GenresSelf HelpPsychology
97 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 20, 2020
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January 3, 2023
Do you Love you?
I have struggled with the feelings of feeling I am not good enough, my thoughts don't matter, and at times not liking myself very much. This book opened up where the root of these lies were coming from. It was from early childhood, and somehow it became who I THOUGHT I was. Now that I have the tools I am going to break the pattern and learn to Love myself again. One other thing that I have noticed is that the enemy is very quick to use my thoughts against me and delights in my beating myself up and taking reactions of others as something that is wrong with me.
I have struggled with the feelings of feeling I am not good enough, my thoughts don't matter, and at times not liking myself very much. This book opened up where the root of these lies were coming from. It was from early childhood, and somehow it became who I THOUGHT I was. Now that I have the tools I am going to break the pattern and learn to Love myself again. One other thing that I have noticed is that the enemy is very quick to use my thoughts against me and delights in my beating myself up and taking reactions of others as something that is wrong with me.
September 20, 2023
This is short and sweet, and highly effective.
The author gives some examples of his own negative thinking cycles and how having thoughts about something, and having emotions about something, and having emotions about having thoughts about something, and how having these thoughts and emotions tangled together are at the core of how we torture ourselves. His guides are easy to follow, concisely written, and delivered in a friendly and compassionate tone. You will find the solution in this book. Highly recommended.
The author gives some examples of his own negative thinking cycles and how having thoughts about something, and having emotions about something, and having emotions about having thoughts about something, and how having these thoughts and emotions tangled together are at the core of how we torture ourselves. His guides are easy to follow, concisely written, and delivered in a friendly and compassionate tone. You will find the solution in this book. Highly recommended.
July 22, 2022
Not the girl I was
I have thought negative things all my life but I want to change because I want a more inner peace and I want to know all there is to fully accepting me for me and love me so much and these book I would recommend to all the people that stand in there world of silence those who live with some kind of illness it is a mental illness a or any incapacitated person because they should learn to love themselves first thank you for these book
I have thought negative things all my life but I want to change because I want a more inner peace and I want to know all there is to fully accepting me for me and love me so much and these book I would recommend to all the people that stand in there world of silence those who live with some kind of illness it is a mental illness a or any incapacitated person because they should learn to love themselves first thank you for these book
January 24, 2024
احساسات نه خوبن و نه بد، بلکه فقط هستن و نباید از این بودنشون، شرمنده، ناراحت، عصبانی و ... باشم
افکار ما از احساسات ما جداست و اغلب ما افکار رو به جای احساساتمون بیان میکنیم، در واقع در بسیاری از مواقع جمله درست اینه: من فکر میکنم فلان، و این به من احساس بهمان رو میده
کل کتاب درباره همین دو تا نکته است، نه روش خاصی میگه و نه لزوماً خیلی مطلب داره، اما همین آگاهی رو که به آدم میرسونه به نظرم کفایت میکنه. من همینا رو بتونم یاد بگیرم بسه
افکار ما از احساسات ما جداست و اغلب ما افکار رو به جای احساساتمون بیان میکنیم، در واقع در بسیاری از مواقع جمله درست اینه: من فکر میکنم فلان، و این به من احساس بهمان رو میده
کل کتاب درباره همین دو تا نکته است، نه روش خاصی میگه و نه لزوماً خیلی مطلب داره، اما همین آگاهی رو که به آدم میرسونه به نظرم کفایت میکنه. من همینا رو بتونم یاد بگیرم بسه
January 6, 2022
What a great read!!
This was an interesting read, and I personally am always working to build a better version of me and working to love myself again is definitely in need and that is why I chose to read this book and it was very helpful! I definitely recommend this book thank you Nic for sharing your knowledge on thus topic!
This was an interesting read, and I personally am always working to build a better version of me and working to love myself again is definitely in need and that is why I chose to read this book and it was very helpful! I definitely recommend this book thank you Nic for sharing your knowledge on thus topic!
January 4, 2022
Thank You
I had no idea where to start with loving myself. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years and it’s honestly been about 18 years since I loved myself. I appreciate all the ideas and steps. For once in a long time I feel hopeful.
I had no idea where to start with loving myself. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years and it’s honestly been about 18 years since I loved myself. I appreciate all the ideas and steps. For once in a long time I feel hopeful.
September 28, 2022
Anyone can Benefit
I've read thousands of self-help, fix my perspiring books. Until I started Nic Saluppo's series, I simply couldn't get it. He makes it so easy to understand and put into action. Probable because he's been through it. Thanks!
I've read thousands of self-help, fix my perspiring books. Until I started Nic Saluppo's series, I simply couldn't get it. He makes it so easy to understand and put into action. Probable because he's been through it. Thanks!
July 8, 2023
Recommend
I am loving reading all these books in ur series. It's helping me out alot on things I need to do & some other ppls too. I have my mentor Bbf encouraging me to do this. Asking her questions .
Thank you!
I am loving reading all these books in ur series. It's helping me out alot on things I need to do & some other ppls too. I have my mentor Bbf encouraging me to do this. Asking her questions .
Thank you!
November 18, 2020
Simple effective techniques to get in a better place.
I find his writing style easy to follow and easy to implement. I like this book and it's message. X
I find his writing style easy to follow and easy to implement. I like this book and it's message. X
August 13, 2022
short and Practical
A great book and easy read. Will be reading again. The author provides simple practice advice without all the fluff a lot other books have.
A great book and easy read. Will be reading again. The author provides simple practice advice without all the fluff a lot other books have.
April 28, 2023
This book showing me how to love myself
And also the practice part it's useful
And also the practice part it's useful
July 19, 2024
کتاب از خود بیزاری از آلن دوباتن
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