I Will Ruin Your Life: The Invisible Scars of Narcissistic Abuse

by Iman Elwan, Kaighla Um Dayo (Editor)

In 2008, Iman Elwan, an American convert to Islam, moved to Cairo, Egypt, to pursue a new career as an English teacher. Shortly before moving, she met the man of her dreams – literally. But instead of a great new life with her Egyptian husband, she found herself subjected to verbal abuse amidst confusing behavior and mixed messages from the man she married.By examining her marriage in retrospect, Iman walks us through the process of discovering what was wrong with her husband. This story provides the reader with a raw, honest account of what a marriage to an individual with a personality disorder is like. Iman guides readers through the stages that make up the vicious cycle of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Abuse relationships, including Love Bombing, Idealization, Devaluation, and Discard. She provides a first-hand look at the devastation and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that continues to affect her even years after the abuse, including the reopening of old wounds from childhood abuse.___________________________________________________________________________________________________Reader "A harrowing and brutally honest tale of one woman’s fight to save her husband from his demons – without clear knowledge of the true battle she was facing. This is a difficult and often distressing read, with the author’s emotional rollercoaster of determination, pain and confusion clearly expressed on every page. Anyone who is or has ever been in any kind of abusive relationship, whether they knew it or not, will see parts of themselves in this story." -S.F., Sydney, Australia

452 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 1, 2020

Reviews

[Marge · Rating 4 out of 5]

Insightful & Interesting

Interesting, well written. Thank you. Repetitive, the nature of an abuser and an enabler, but kept my interest for the most part.