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THE ART OF BEING PRIVATE: Building In Silence
Early 2019, I was pondering about what being private really means in my day to day life, the Holy Spirit immediately answered me with a vivid vision of what happens when I share my private life with others. He showed me people gathered in the living room, some sitting on the sofas, some standing and still some couldn’t even fit because the room was crowded as they all faced and looked at me; I was shocked! He said, “you have invited them all, they all come inside your house when you share your life". From then on I understood that being private is not just about protection, like in the case of Elizabeth who hid herself for 5 months when she was pregnant with John the Baptist (Luke 1:5-25), no, it’s also about wisdom and humility. I had to ask myself, am I prepared to invite everyone in my house concerning A, B or C? From then on, it was imperative for me to learn from Christ, the art of being Private. There are days I want to share my happiest private moments, my new breakthroughs, my plans & goals but then I remember, is it necessary, what is my motive, what is the purpose? Am I seeking man’s applause? The heart of this book is to show you the Truth that you may be set free if you struggle with being private and if you seek man’s applause as you hide behind the things you share with people. There's a price to pay for your identity, for the anointing on your life, for your destiny, your blessings and your life purpose and calling. There are beautiful qualities and virtues that are confounded in the acts of being private. I pray that as you read this book and discover these qualities, the Holy Spirit of God will help and empower you to put to practice these qualities and wisdom shared in this book, in your day to day life, finding the inner peace and joy through Jesus Christ as you make those discoveries, steps and choices, Amen.
177 pages, Kindle Edition
Published August 10, 2020
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July 23, 2021
Promising but falls short
3.5 stars
I admire the author for her self-love and beauty content on YouTube, and learning that she was also a woman of Faith made me intrigued by this book. The ART OF BEING PRIVATE is partly a guidebook, part sermon on how living a private, intuitive lifestyle where you, God, and your spouse are at your center—-all the noise of fake friends, prying family members, town gossipers, fraudulent people of social media, and the like should fade to the background. The main reasoning being, in order to prosper you have to be true to yourself and not rely on other people for validation or confidence, only you and the Lord can do that. I think this is a great starter for people who are at a crossroads in their life where they feel constantly deceived and misguided by people who they “spill” all their business to, with no positive gain in return, but I felt this book was only good for just that—-appealing to one very narrow specific person.
It’s better than other religious self help book I’ve read, and I have to give credit that there’s some solid advice and even prayer examples for the reader, but this book didn’t move me in any way, and I found the one-note examples a bit too vague. I’d also hoped there’d be more personal anecdotes from the author on how she followed her steps (which really aren’t steps but general advice for certain situations), but her personal life and testimony is only mentioned in the beginning.
I think this book could have benefited more with more personal testimonies from the author , more editing to make it easier to read , and perhaps even a co-sign by the authors husband, whom she attributes a lot of gratitude towards.
3.5 stars
I admire the author for her self-love and beauty content on YouTube, and learning that she was also a woman of Faith made me intrigued by this book. The ART OF BEING PRIVATE is partly a guidebook, part sermon on how living a private, intuitive lifestyle where you, God, and your spouse are at your center—-all the noise of fake friends, prying family members, town gossipers, fraudulent people of social media, and the like should fade to the background. The main reasoning being, in order to prosper you have to be true to yourself and not rely on other people for validation or confidence, only you and the Lord can do that. I think this is a great starter for people who are at a crossroads in their life where they feel constantly deceived and misguided by people who they “spill” all their business to, with no positive gain in return, but I felt this book was only good for just that—-appealing to one very narrow specific person.
It’s better than other religious self help book I’ve read, and I have to give credit that there’s some solid advice and even prayer examples for the reader, but this book didn’t move me in any way, and I found the one-note examples a bit too vague. I’d also hoped there’d be more personal anecdotes from the author on how she followed her steps (which really aren’t steps but general advice for certain situations), but her personal life and testimony is only mentioned in the beginning.
I think this book could have benefited more with more personal testimonies from the author , more editing to make it easier to read , and perhaps even a co-sign by the authors husband, whom she attributes a lot of gratitude towards.
May 5, 2024
Excellent Confirmation
God has called me into a season of silence. Silence from engaging in family dynamics of toxic levels. This teaching confirmed for me that I made the right decision to remove myself from social media years ago and recognize that even the best intended social media platforms, (the Bible app) can trap a person into comparison. Grateful for the confirmation that leading a quiet life is biblical and fruitful. I pray that the Holy Spirit guides me to apply the principles from this book.
I'm not a writer but I was distracted by the spelling of quite a few words. Has the English language changed or is this an artistic way of writing? (Favour vs favor; realise vs realize; learnt vs learned)
God has called me into a season of silence. Silence from engaging in family dynamics of toxic levels. This teaching confirmed for me that I made the right decision to remove myself from social media years ago and recognize that even the best intended social media platforms, (the Bible app) can trap a person into comparison. Grateful for the confirmation that leading a quiet life is biblical and fruitful. I pray that the Holy Spirit guides me to apply the principles from this book.
I'm not a writer but I was distracted by the spelling of quite a few words. Has the English language changed or is this an artistic way of writing? (Favour vs favor; realise vs realize; learnt vs learned)
January 23, 2021
Interesting read.
This book has helped to make me reflect on the whys of what I share with others and why, as a woman of God who is wonderfully and fearfully made, I should respectfully work on minding my own business -- physically and spiritually.
Some parts of the book seemed to be a bit redundant, and there were many, many typos in my copy... If Ms. Madyara, or any other author, needs an efficient copyeditor... I'm your girl!!
All in all, this was a quick read jam packed with nuggets of wisdom.
This book has helped to make me reflect on the whys of what I share with others and why, as a woman of God who is wonderfully and fearfully made, I should respectfully work on minding my own business -- physically and spiritually.
Some parts of the book seemed to be a bit redundant, and there were many, many typos in my copy... If Ms. Madyara, or any other author, needs an efficient copyeditor... I'm your girl!!
All in all, this was a quick read jam packed with nuggets of wisdom.
January 5, 2024
Apt book for such a time as this
In an era where we are conditioned to splatter our lives on every social media platform available, this book gives key reminders to how we are meant to steward our lives well, and also how to guard ourselves and everything that God places into our hands. Yes, we are meant to be a light in the world, but just as good light when under extraordinary amounts can actually cause harm, so it is for our lives, thank you Dephne for this amazing book and your entire ministry, such a blessing.
In an era where we are conditioned to splatter our lives on every social media platform available, this book gives key reminders to how we are meant to steward our lives well, and also how to guard ourselves and everything that God places into our hands. Yes, we are meant to be a light in the world, but just as good light when under extraordinary amounts can actually cause harm, so it is for our lives, thank you Dephne for this amazing book and your entire ministry, such a blessing.
September 12, 2021
A book I needed to read and will reread soon
I've watched Daphne's videos on YouTube and have been drawn to her teachings this book is an in depth study of what it means to move in faith and in private. The tools within the chapters are empowering in any faith walk and personnaly speak to me in this season of my life where I need heavenly strategies to move in accordance to the purpose that God has for me, in private.
I've watched Daphne's videos on YouTube and have been drawn to her teachings this book is an in depth study of what it means to move in faith and in private. The tools within the chapters are empowering in any faith walk and personnaly speak to me in this season of my life where I need heavenly strategies to move in accordance to the purpose that God has for me, in private.
March 9, 2025
A practical read
A great read with practical insights that invites the reader into Holy Spirit assisted self reflection and inevitable change. If you’re considering reading this book I highly recommend journeying through it with an open heart, you will be the wise for it! Happy reading
A great read with practical insights that invites the reader into Holy Spirit assisted self reflection and inevitable change. If you’re considering reading this book I highly recommend journeying through it with an open heart, you will be the wise for it! Happy reading
May 31, 2021
Completely changed my outlook
The Holy Spirit really spoke to me through this book. So many revelations were passed onto me, I’ll definitely be reading it over and over again and throughly applying these important and precious teaching in my life.
The Holy Spirit really spoke to me through this book. So many revelations were passed onto me, I’ll definitely be reading it over and over again and throughly applying these important and precious teaching in my life.
June 15, 2021
Very eye opening.
The Lord told me to read this book .I had it for a while but never read it .after reading this book my eyes have been opened to somethings that I should and should not be doing.
The Lord told me to read this book .I had it for a while but never read it .after reading this book my eyes have been opened to somethings that I should and should not be doing.
June 20, 2024
Great Teaching
This book was very informative. I believe in our Christian walk the things discussed in this book are very beneficial. I will read this book again! It was really good,couldn’t put it down!
This book was very informative. I believe in our Christian walk the things discussed in this book are very beneficial. I will read this book again! It was really good,couldn’t put it down!
March 19, 2021
Please, Just read this book it has enlightened my eyes to see and walk better in life. there is a power hidden in every word. Grace available to become private.
May 9, 2021
Beautifully Articulated
Dephne articulates principals that are clear and inspired. It has helped me tremendously in this season to value a quiet life.
Dephne articulates principals that are clear and inspired. It has helped me tremendously in this season to value a quiet life.
August 16, 2021
It's so eye opening
September 16, 2020
A much needed book for such times.
This was definitely a much needed book. I consider myself a private person, but it helps to know why and have the Word of God back it up.
This was definitely a much needed book. I consider myself a private person, but it helps to know why and have the Word of God back it up.
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