As the book says. “You supply the will, and this book will supply the way.” I’ve been following the author’s teachings for several decades now and this book complements the wonderful book and classic, The Leadership Challenge. In Everyday People, Extraordinary Leadership they adapt their trademark Five Practices of Exemplary Leadership® framework to today’s more horizontal workplace, showing people that leadership is not about where you are in the organization; it’s about how you behave and what you do. My favorite take-aways include:
- Titles are granted, but being a leader is something that you earn, and you earn it not by your place in the organization but by how you behave.
- Leadership is a relationship between those who aspire to lead and those who choose to follow; there must be a human connection. Credibility is the foundation of leadership.
The 5 Practices of Exemplary Leadership are:
1. Model the Way. Exemplary leaders know that if they want to earn the respect of the people around them and achieve the highest standards, they must be models of the behavior they expect of others. Before you can be a leader of others, you need to know clearly who you are and what your core values are. Once you know that, then you can give your voice to those values and feel comfortable sharing them with others. People expect their leaders to speak out on matters of values and conscience. Leadership is values in action. How you spend your time is the most precise indicator of what’s important to you. What you spend your time paying attention to, working on, and with whom you spend it speak volumes to others about what your actual priorities are compared to what you might say you care about. Turn critical incidents into teachable moments. Tell stories to reinforce values and connect with actions. Ask purposeful questions - Well-phrased questions present opportunities to teach and reinforce shared values of the organization. The key to asking good leadership questions is to first think about the “quest” in your question: Where do you want to take this person (or group, unit, organization) with your question? What value or values are you trying to reinforce with your questions? What beliefs, perspectives, and principles do you want people to be thinking about?
2. Inspire a Shared Vision. People describe their Personal-Best Leadership Experiences as times when they imagined exciting and meaningful futures for themselves and others. Clarify your vision and get others on board by listening deeply, discovering a common purpose, and taking pride in being unique. You have to engage the people you are involved with and work with in conversations about their lives, about their own hopes and dreams, and how they can see these realized by sharing and participating in the vision. Creating a common vision is about developing a shared sense of destiny. It’s about enrolling others so that they can see how their own interests and aspirations are aligned with the vision and can thereby become mobilized to commit their individual energies to its realization.
3. Challenge the Process. Challenge is the crucible for greatness. It provides the context in which adversity and vision interact to provide for the creation of something new. Change for the sake of something better; making the current situation better demands change. Be willing to experiment and take risks; make it safe (create “psychological safety”) to take risks; make small wins work (The incremental change process has been called “small wins,” and each success builds people’s commitment to a course of action. Small wins form a consistent pattern of accomplishment. A series of small wins contributes to constructing a stable foundation on which bigger risks can be taken.); learn from mistakes (Change and leadership involve taking risks, and with any uncertain action, there are always, at a minimum, mistakes made, set-backs experienced, and, worse yet, failures. When you engage in something new and different, you make a lot of mistakes. Everyone does. That’s what experimentation is all about.); be resilient or exhibit grit (Grit is an individual’s ability to maintain passion and perseverance for a purpose despite a lack of positive feedback. What’s critical is how you respond to and cope with the inevitable mistakes, setbacks, and failures).
4. Enable Others to Act. Leaders know they can’t do it alone. Grand dreams don’t become significant realities through the actions of a single person. Without trust, you cannot lead. Individuals who are unable to trust others fail to become leaders precisely because they can’t stand being dependent on the words and work of others. The feeling of “we” cannot happen without trust. Showing concern for others is one of the clearest and most unambiguous signals of your trustworthiness. When others know you will put their interests ahead of your own, they won’t hesitate to trust you. However, this is something people need to see in your actions—actions such as listening, paying attention to their ideas and concerns, helping them solve their problems, and being open to their influence. When you show your openness to their ideas and your interest in their concerns, people will be more open to yours. It is paradoxical, but the most effective leaders are those who give their power away to others. That is, they make those around them feel strong and capable. They listen to and credit others’ ideas, and they make sure that people do not feel left out of the loop when it comes to important decisions. They help their colleagues take ownership and feel a sense of responsibility for achievements. They enhance the competence and self-confidence of those around them. Provide choices (freedom is the ability to make choices) and foster personal responsibility and accountability.
5. Encourage the Heart. Genuine acts of caring, whether exhibited in dramatic gestures or simple actions, uplift people’s spirits and keep them motivated. It is part of a leader’s job to recognize contributions by showing appreciation for individual excellence. Adopt a winning attitude and expect the best out of people. Create a spirit of community; Human beings are social animals—hardwired to connect with others. People are meant to do things together, to form communities, and in this way demonstrate a common bond. When social connections are strong and numerous, there’s more trust, reciprocity, information flow, collective action, happiness, and greater prosperity. Supportive relationships at work—relationships characterized by a genuine belief in and advocacy for the interests of others—are critically important to maintaining personal and organizational vitality.
The book concludes with a critical statement: Leadership development is self-development. Leadership is fundamentally about your relationships, your credibility, and what you do. Leadership has everything to do about how you behave.
The 5 fundamentals for learning leadership are: Believe you can, Aspire to excel, Challenge yourself, Engage support, and Practice deliberately.