Coffee Self-Talk: 5 Minutes a Day to Start Living Your Magical Life

by Kristen Helmstetter

Short affirmations to help you boost your self-esteem, find happiness, and attract the magical life of your dreams—all with your next cup of coffee!

Do you want to live an inspired life of sparkling adventure and achieve goals you never thought possible? Get started this morning! Coffee Self-Talk introduces an accessible, powerful routine to pair with your morning coffee so you can start every day with positivity and energy. This easy daily ritual only takes five minutes and starts with positive, uplifting thoughts to reframe the way you talk and think about yourself. By priming your brain for happiness, success, and self-love, Coffee Self-Talk helps you take control of your life, increase your confidence, and manifest your dreams. With included self-talk scripts, guidance on how to personalize them for your own goals, and ideas for creating your own affirmations, this book will help you:

• Learn to love yourself
• Unlock happiness, resilience, and confidence
• Change your bad habits
• Attract wealth, success, and prosperity

No matter your circumstances, now is the time to live your best, most magical life—faster than it takes to finish your first cup of coffee!

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Psychology, Audiobook, Professional Development

200 pages, Kindle Edition

Published August 30, 2020

Reviews

[Stacey Holderer · Rating 1 out of 5]

This was very disappointing. The book is very repetitive, and truly all information could have been relayed in a one page magazine article. In addition to its simplicity, the author chooses to use the F*** word which is unnecessary and also contradictory to the idea of a peaceful, reflective morning ritual. I was so looking forward to something new and inspiring and this completely missed that mark. I was embarrassed that I gifted one copy of this to a friend.

[Hailey Ciesiel · Rating 2 out of 5]

Extremely repetitive..

This book is about 15% advice and 85% repeating of that same advice over and over, and the advice is nothing special. Basically give yourself a pep talk every morning with your coffee, there ya go! I just saved you a couple hours of your life!

[Charlotte · Rating 2 out of 5]

Thank you to Netgalley for this ARC

This wasn't at all my cup of tea. Having read plenty of self help, this was just a rehashing of the same old manifestations and affirmations and it just wasn't worth my time to read it.

[Patrice M. · Rating 1 out of 5]

Nice idea but author borrowed Father in law's thesis and put in her own words- problem is I found her writing to be boring so I skimmed a few chapters after reading 3 moved on.

[thewoollygeek (tea, cake, crochet & books) · Rating 5 out of 5]

A lovely little read, full of great affirmations , encouraging self care and self love. Practical and simple techniques, Such a handy book.

Thanks to netgalley and the publisher for a free copy for an honest opinion

[Jennifer Hartman · Rating 3 out of 5]

I enjoyed reading this book. But if you know anything about daily affirmations than you will probably not learn anything new from this book. But if you don't know much about affirmations than this book is for you.

[Jan Carson · Rating 2 out of 5]

I read a few reviews on another site and thought this would be an interesting book with new information. It's not. The information is presented using very casual language repeating the same concepts over and over again. It easily could have been consolidated into one chapter. I skimmed through several of the chapters due to the repetition.

The author is very enthusiastic and eager to provide her information. Realistically, you can do a quick search about affirmations and get all the info you need in a few paragraphs.

[Kendra · Rating 2 out of 5]

Okay. 2.5 rounded up to 3 stars.

Its not like it wasn't bad. It just wasn't new.

Self talk, affirmations, positive self reflection, gratitude, we've all heard of this in different ways, the way that Kristen Helmstetter set hers apart is with her "coffee talk" method. Basically, use 5-20 minutes in your day to practice talking yourself up, aka self talk, and why not do this while drinking your morning coffee?
It seems very simple. And maybe I'm just bitter and stuck in my negative ways and actually need this self talk more...but it also seems like well "no shit, I have to talk good things about myself and my surroundings in order to bring good things and feel good about myself."

I don't know. I think the repetitiveness of reading coffee and self talk throughout the book about a million times got to me.

Also, it felt like the chapters repeated themselves continually, with only changing just a little bit. Like I got it. But then again, I guess repetition is part of the whole process- the more you hear/read/write something- the more it sticks... so i guess kudos??

Thank you #netgalley for allowing me to read this ARC in return for an honest review.

[Ivana Oltovska · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome inspirational book it helped a lot :)

[Gigi ✨ · Rating 3 out of 5]

Thank you to Netgalley for providing me with this book!

I've been in a mood to change up the type of books I read and this seemed like a fun one! I drink coffee/tea every day so I thought, why not! Many of the tips in here are pretty easy to implement; a lot of it was affirmations. For those that look for constant ways to keep things positive and find the silver lining in everything, this is easy to do.

The author was relatable and this was an easy quick read.

[Monte Brogdon · Rating 2 out of 5]

While I found this book helpful and insightful, I also found it repetitive. Overall, it is still worth a read because it offers great insight into self-talk and creating good habits.

I received this in exchange for an honest, unbiased review via NetGalley

[Nightraine · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not what I thought it would be.

[Lauren Chase · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book about making positive thinking, self-talk, and affirmations a part of your morning routine is uplifting and a light and easy read. Its also really accessible and you can use her approach right away - over your morning cup of coffee (or tea, or juice 🙂). This book is well grounded in the principles of manifesting/ law of attraction/ new thought / affirmative prayer. While I would have liked to see some direct references to these approaches, the author focuses on practical application and spares the reader any philosophical or weighty discussion. And I can see the value in that for many readers, especially those new to this type of personal development technique.

I would recommend this book (or give as a gift) to people who are new to affirmations, manifesting etc. It's a great place to start. And for more seasoned readers on these topics - there is value in the author's direct approach, keeping the focus on routine, ritual, and repetition. I've read a lot of these subjects and was pleasantly surprised by how much I enjoyed this book.

If you want to read more in this vein explore books by Florence Scovel Shinn, Esther Hicks/Abraham, Louise Hay, and New Thought/Science of Mind authors.

[Diane Law]

An easy 5 minute routine to start your day on a positive note. Good ideas and affirmations.

[Andriana Ristevska · Rating 5 out of 5]

,,Благодарното срце е секогаш поблиску до изобилствата на вселената."

,,Кафе-муабет со себеси" е книга која ќе ви подари една многу различна перспектива за животот. Преку едноставни примери ќе ве натера да сфатите дека мислите се сè! Толку едноставни примери што ќе звучат премногу лесни за да бидат вистинити, но верувајте ми, кога ќе се уверите во нината моќ, никогаш нема да се вратите назад.

Сте слушнале за моќта на зборовите, но дали знаете за моќта на МИСЛИТЕ? Дозволете ѝ на Кристен преку нејзиниот живот да ви ја покаже таа моќ.

Читајте доколку:

• пиете кафе/чај наутро
• сакате 5 минути во денот само за себе
• потребна ви е пауза од хаотичниот живот
• сакате да имате секојдневни рутини
• знаете за моќта на мислите, ама не знаете од каде да почните
• сакате да се будите со возбуда и исчекување
• трагате по интересни, лесни и забавни начини да се подобрите самите себе
• сакате да читате инспиративни цитати
• сакате да примените чекори кои веќе се испробани

Ова е одлична книга за сите оние кои трагаат по тајните на човековата природа. Ама запомнете, морате да ѝ пристапите со верба и отворен ум, бидејќи никој не може да му помогне на човек на кој не сака да му биде помогнато. Огромна препорака од мене!

[Charlie St-St · Rating 2 out of 5]

The good thing about this book was that it provided a lot of real-life examples of what self-care might look like in reality - e.g. lots of positive affirmations that can be quickly adopted and adapted to suit the individual. However, I found it quite repetitive and probably wouldn't have finished it if it hadn't been the best car-ride-commute accompaniment I had to hand.

I think the coffee self-talk is a great idea, and I'll definitely come back to it one day when I actually have time in the mornings; but for now I don't feel like this book has had a profound impact on me or the way that I see myself...
Maybe I need to commit to self-talk to be more WOWed.

[Susan · Rating 1 out of 5]

DNF

This book was way too long for what it was trying to convey. I should not be feeling bored and frustrated when reading a self-help book about a simple 5-minutes moment within a morning routine, but alas, I was. Plus it was about 20-30 minutes instead of 5.

It would me much more digestible either as just a workbook or just a guide, not a mix of both with too much repetition.

I got more out of page 27 (the 3 steps) and random prompts here and there than the book as a whole.

[Carrie Miller-Kistner · Rating 2 out of 5]

The book is a bit repetitive for me. I felt like everything could have been summed up on 50 pages. I do like the idea behind it and think a little positive self talk could do us all some good.

[Brittany · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nice idea. But could have been two chapters. I felt like I was reading the same stuff over and over and over again. It took me months to finish

[L. Soper · Rating 4 out of 5]

I picked up this little gem at my library store while scouring the shelves for exactly this type of book- something that would bring some inspiration and spark some joy and creativity in my life.

I'll be honest, I'm not a fan of the writing. It's not the redundancy - that's actually really important for the brain - it's the over-the-top glittery, fist-pumping statements. They were just a bit much.

That said, the premise of the book and it's message is solid and pure: take the time to start your day by setting yourself up for success by spending time with your thoughts, telling yourself positive things about yourself and your life, and making this a new habit while having your morning cup of coffee.

I'm a huge fan of Norman Vincent Peale's The Power of Positive Thinking. I read that hand-me-down book throughout high school like it was a guide to survival- and it is. "It is indeed a fact that the person who thinks with positive self-reliance and optimism does magnetise his condition and releases power to attain his goal. So expect the best at all times."

In my 20s I discovered Wayne Dyer who helped me through some really hard times with the mantra: "Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change."

That way of thinking led to the Tao Te Ching, and so on.

While I have tapped into these essential resources over the years, I've never found an effective way to incorporate these teachings into my life in a very tailored, specific way.

Coffee Self-Talk reminded me of the power of positive thinking and also sparked the "aha! " realization that, by taking these teachings and creating a script that personalizes these teachings for me and my life as it is right and combining this practice with drinking my daily morning coffee, I'm creating a positive daily ritual, that is effective and enjoyable.

So, while this particular book/author is not my favorite, it did exactly what I needed it to do! For that alone, 4 stars ☺️!

[K8E · Rating 3 out of 5]

I don't usually read self help books so the tone was a little annoying for me. However the concept as simple as it seems is something we should all be practicing. What we say to ourselves matters! Helmstetter covered all the basis of self talk with examples to pull from to create your own positive self talk ritual. I'm definitely glad I read this.

[Sarah Gilligan · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great book at its core! The only reason I didn’t give it 5 stars is because editing dropped the ball in a few areas (except grammar).

What I loved: this book is full of neuroscience, data from studies, and psychology! Kristen’s writing is beautiful too. She took dry facts and made them “shimmer” (a word she liked to use). Self-talk is an old practice therapists and counselors have prescribed to patients that Kristen has breathed new life in! I used to think it was just a tool people in therapy and counseling used, but Kristen convinced me that EVERYONE can benefit from this way of thinking, and I hope she does change the world with her books! I loved that she’s asking readers to make it a part of every day by tying it to their morning beverage habit too. She referred to a very popular book right now about habits which is something else I liked about this book; it’s present and therefore relevant! She also discussed some very 21st century tips for writing your self-talk script.

What editing could’ve done better: The cover of this book won’t reach as many people as it has the potential to. I actually passed it up because it just didn’t look like my cup of tea (“five minutes a day to start living your magical life”? No thanks). It looked and sounded gimmicky to me and like it might make reference to practicing magic or something. It also looks like it’s targeting women with all the little hearts and pink details, but men can benefit from this book too! I’m so glad I read it (only because my sister insisted), and magical is a great adjective to describe life after self-talk, but I do think the cover could be tweaked to reach a larger audience.

After reading the book and already seeing positive changes in my own life due to self-talk, I totally understand Kristen’s elevated state of writing. I do have concerns about a reader seeing her very jazzed style and thinking, “ok this lady is just naturally hyped about life, so I’m not sure that her tips and tricks will work for me.” (Listen to her, skeptics!) I understand that all the exclamations in the scripts are a part of the process, but the excitement in other areas seemed out of place to me.

I also wish there was an index full of all the references to scientific studies.

Overall, I would say this book is relevant, intelligent, and full of heart! I’m very glad I read it!

[Barbara Mahoney · Rating 3 out of 5]

There were some things I really loved about this book. I loved that the author attached coffee drinking, an activity I do every day and enjoy, with an affirmation practice. She made it very easy by stating that it would only take 5 minutes while drinking your coffee in the morning. I did follow along, not sure it would work for me, but I found I loved doing it. I have been writing and re-writing my affirmations and it saying them each day starts my day on a positive note! Affirmations are positive statements you say to yourself i.e. I take care of my body by exercising, eating right and practicing mindfulness, etc.

Critique: the author curses unnecessarily at times and it turned me off. She is talking about creating a beautiful and peaceful way to start the day and then throws in some curses from time to time. It detracted from my enjoyment of the book - it didn't fit! Also, I was turned off by affirmations to garner more wealth - just not my thing. I was inspired by the affirmations dealing with health, happiness and love. The author never suggested any affirmations to do with service to the community or others and I felt that was sorely missing from this book. It is something important to me i.e. using my gifts to make the world a better place. The author's affirmations were very "me" oriented.

All in all, I'm glad I read this book. I have started a practice of doing my affirmations while drinking my coffee in the morning. It is a really nice way to start the day!

[Claire · Rating 3 out of 5]

Not sure what to make of this book. I do understand where the author was coming from with some of it, I mean it's great to recite life-affirming phrases each & every day and make yourself feel better. But some of what was in this book I swallowed with a huge dollop of skepticism. I mean, to speak out loud a lot of phrases each day and all of a sudden you'll lose weight, get a best friend or get a partner? Really? And not everyone's life makes doing the things in this book quite as easy as she makes it out to be. I also did find some of what she was saying a bit patronising in manner too. So, in conclusion a good book with good intentions, but not something I feel I'll be getting a lot out of. A bit disappointing.

[brenda janowiecki · Rating 4 out of 5]

No matter where you are in life, you need this book. Self talk done every day can rewire your brain to being more positive, break bad habits and create lasting new ones that line up with your life goals. Better yet, the author also gives tons of shining examples of self talks for multiple avenues of life, from health, fitness, mediation and even how to help your kids make their own self talk messages. Highly recommend this one.

[Chara · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is more realistically a 2.5.
The concept of this book was good. And the overall message of positive thinking I did enjoy.
The execution of the book was not necessarily my favorite. I thought that the language was a bit over the top at times and cringy. My biggest pet peeve was probably referencing research without like citing the research. I really think this book would have benefited if it did go into more in-depth of the type of research that the author had done. But I also don’t necessarily think that was her intention in writing this book to be a scientific and research base. She’s just really here to sell an idea and she did that. I’m not necessarily fond of books trying to sell itself.

But I had fun with this book. I annotated it and used tabs, it is one of the first books I have used tabs. There was a handful moments, that I thought worthy of tabbing. That made for a really good reading experience. The concepts in this book will be marinating in my mind for a while.

[Stef Bevins · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this book to be very useful in starting a daily time frame for positive self-talk and affirmations. I had previously learned about affirmations and starting utilizing them but fell out of practice so this book was a good way to start implementing it back in. I love all the examples that Kristen provided in the book as well.

[Sandra · Rating 2 out of 5]

Muy repetitivo, no he encontrado nada nuevo que no haya visto antes en otros libros. Siento que se le podrían quitar perfectamente la mitad de las hojas y no pasaría nada. Una pena porque me llamó mucho la atención el título, como buena amante del café que soy pero se me ha hecho muy pesado a pesar de tener pocas páginas.

[Hadewych · Rating 3 out of 5]

A lot of repetition, but the message behind this book is useful and beautiful. Definitely going to follow the coffee self-talk. At the end of the book you can also find different sort of scripts to help you with your personal coffee self-talk.

[Rowley · Rating 3 out of 5]

A light 5 mins a day read.