1000+ Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships

by Marc Chernoff, Angel Chernoff

New York Times bestselling authors Marc and Angel Chernoff deliver inspiring, actionable advice for keeping relationships strong--for couples, parents, friends, and more.

Millions of readers turn to Marc and Angel Chernoff for fresh and relevant insights for living their best lives. In their newest guide, they share hard-won secrets for strengthening our connection to the loved ones who matter most. With their signature combination of common sense and uncommon wisdom, they bring together ideas for fostering intimacy and trust, expressing our needs, showing gratitude, and more. Topics include:

An inspiring touchstone to read with a partner, with a friend, or solo, this simple yet powerful book offers an instant insight for anyone seeking to better understand and nurture the bonds that bring us together and make our lives whole.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology

352 pages, Hardcover

Published April 6, 2021

Reviews

[Shaunna]

Some reviewers don't like the lists. I enjoyed the lists because the format made for quick-to-read inspiration that I could easily soak up when I only had 15-30 minutes at a time. Many of the habits were common sense or common tropes we've all heard before but it never hurts to be reminded. I very much appreciated the overall positive vibe throughout the book as it was a nice break from the news or social media.

[Nopadol Rompho · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am a fan of Marc and Angel Chernoff's books. This is the second one that I read. It gave me a lot of insightful thought about how to make relationship successful. Strongly recommended.

[Shauna Thompson · Rating 1 out of 5]

Blah blah blah common sense blah blah.
And if not for the common sense nuggets like “try to eat dinner w the whole family AT LEAST once a week”, there were ridiculous statements such as

Being a parent is an attitude not a biological connection

If you've never been hated for even a short period by your kid then you've never really been a parent

Kids that keep a gratitude journal are 25% happier. 25% sounds pretty scientific. How measured? A yard stick, a scale, a blood test… or as written in the author’s parenting journal? Spare me the parenting journal.

I could not read any further. Didn’t finish and am in awe that folks can write stuff like this and make money. I don’t usually write such negative reviews but I can’t help myself w this one.
Sorry, not at all a fan.

[Liz · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is simply a bunch of blog posts smashed into a book.

[Victor Adams · Rating 4 out of 5]

1000 Little Habits of Happy Successful Relationships" is an insightful and practical guide for anyone looking to strengthen their romantic relationships. The book's strength lies in its accessible format, with each habit presented clearly and concisely, making it easy to implement small yet impactful changes in daily interactions.

The variety of habits covered ensures that there's something for everyone, regardless of where they are in their relationship journey. The advice is grounded in real-life scenarios, making it relatable and actionable. I particularly appreciated the emphasis on communication, mutual respect, and understanding, which are crucial pillars of any successful relationship.

However, while the book is comprehensive, it can sometimes feel overwhelming due to the sheer number of habits listed. A more structured approach, perhaps categorizing habits based on relationship stages or challenges, might have enhanced the reading experience.

Overall, "1000 Little Habits of Happy Successful Relationships" is a valuable resource for couples looking to build and maintain a healthy, happy relationship. It's a handy reference that you can revisit whenever you need a little nudge in the right direction.

[Jay DeMoir · Rating 3 out of 5]

The most of it was quite redundant, there were some pieces they were truly insightful and very helpful. I took this is being one of those things where my grandmother would say, “ take what you can and leave out what you don’t need.”
However the last phase of this definitely left me in tears. It was beautiful

[Lexi · Rating 3 out of 5]

Rounded up from 2.5. It was quite repetitive towards the second half.

[Emily Mellow · Rating 2 out of 5]

Do you like reading endless lists of rules to live by?Then you will love this book. The authors ardently want you to have a better life, and have they got a plan for you.

I almost put it down the third time they mentioned "God's plan" but somehow they kept my attention anyway.

The final five minutes of the book are devoted to selling you their online happiness program, making the entire book reek of one long infomercial.

I do have to say that I teared up the entire time I read the "50 short love stories" sent in by readers of their blog. Those were truly beautiful. But then I realized that the whole book, compromised of lists as it is, was probably just literally raked from their blog and poured into a book, and that's why it's not great.

Not that there is no good advice! It's pretty much all good advice, but boils down to: have some empathy. The end.

[Larry · Rating 4 out of 5]

One of the better self-help books I've read.

The focus is on romantic relationships but the principles here apply to other sorts of relationships such as friendships, parent-child, professional.

Secular. I think the authors may have mentioned God once. The trouble with this is, the whole question of accessing the spiritual power to implement these recommendations is swept under the rug. For example, the subject of forgiveness comes up a lot in these pages. Some people by nature do not find it very hard to forgive, but others find it very hard. So if you are in this second category where forgiveness just goes against your nature, how are you supposed to overcome your nature and forgive your partner or someone you feel has wronged you? The exhortations to forgive are just going to seem foolish to you.

A lot of these books are telling you to be a person of integrity, to be humble, to treat others with kindness and respect, to control your temper and so on, but they don't tell you where to find the power to bring about these changes (assuming these virtues aren't part of your character naturally) and you are left to suppose that such fundamental transformation is possible through human effort and will-power. The Christian answer is the power of the Holy Spirit inside of you overcoming your sinful nature.

The good thing about the secular approach is it makes the book accessible to a wider audience rather than just the church crowd.

That problem aside, there is a lot of good stuff here about setting boundaries, dealing with toxic people, managing conflict, communication, not judging, being in it for the long haul. I found the style pretty entertaining. Not a grim book of rules. Highly recommended.

Here's their web site.

[Olivia Devania · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's been a while since I read a self-help book, and I choose this book as it seems easy to read. I would say this book is similar to Heanim Sunim's book, which consists of great insight and reminders, so it is the kind of book that would feel too much to read in one go, and I would like to revisit it when in need of a reminder.

As the topic of this book is about relationships, I love the fact that the writer mentioned relationships with ourselves first before it goes to insight on relationships as a couple, a family & a friend. Another good thing about this book it also captured insight on conflicts, expectation& boundaries topic

All in all, it's a great book full of insight & the book I would revisit.

[Ayushi · Rating 2 out of 5]

Hello everyone!

This book felt like reading a volume of words with barely any content. I think the author made some really good points and has good inputs to maintaining relationships but it felt extremely repetitive and stretched, like reading a book of instagram quotes strung together. There are some exact lines that are reused in the chapters multiple times.

I think a teenager might be able to get alot from this book. I personally didn't enjoy it. I went through the chapters with my friends, family and significant other but couldn't gain much.

This book offered no perspective shifts or revelations but just a little reminder to cherish my relationships which I already do. I can see how it would help someone else though.

Take care 💕

[Wendelle]

This book is full of very good reminders, such as foregoing the chase for external validation in favour of standing on one's own principles, in making decisions about forging relationships. I read some reviews calling this book trite, I guess another way to put it is that these lists of reminders are elemental and timeless.

[Debbie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Just ok. I felt the "real life" examples seemed contrived. They were supposedly true stories of real people, but they felt simplistic and fabricated. And the "truths" given in the book were pretty trite and could have been found in any self-help book on the planet.

[Bonnie Staughton · Rating 4 out of 5]

I've enjoyed the helpful advice Angle and Marc Chernoff give in their emails about life, happiness, relationships, etc. This book was more of the same but now in a form I can refer to when needed. A lot of good information and techniques to improve your life and relationships.

[Tori Redman · Rating 4 out of 5]

A fun and easy read. The only part I did not like is that they tried to include religion with the mention of god. Other than that there were some great tidbits.

[Poornima Gopinath · Rating 2 out of 5]

A good read and something to remind you of what has to be important. reminds you to live every day a little better.
Skip it if you have read many lifestyle books.

[Selina Stone · Rating 2 out of 5]

A bunch of subpar blog posts compiled into a book

[Josephine White · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good tips, but a bit long winded and repetitive.

[Karishma Udit Chhatrapati · Rating 4 out of 5]

A lovely book that reminds you about little things about all relationships. I experienced shifts in perspective as I read this book!

[iamsihouche · Rating 4 out of 5]

nice to open once in a while

[Sameeksha Suryavanshi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book.

[A.Arahi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Small, bitesize chapters with meaningful advices. Advices we often forget.

[Tenley · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good self help book!

[Keke Andriani · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book beautifully explores the concept that feeling broken signifies a journey of love, effort, and life's lessons. It resonated with me, revealing how each heartbreak led to a new perspective on setting boundaries and embracing self-pride. The narrative eloquently portrays the transformation into a stronger, cooler version of oneself post-breakup. The author's self-love journey, born from resilience and courage, is truly inspiring. The ability to recognize when to walk away, preventing further damage, reflects a profound understanding. This book, with its powerful insights on igniting and extinguishing the fire within, left me deeply moved and appreciative of the strength found in self-love.

[Cassidy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I liked this book a lot. I didn’t read the parts about children because I don’t have any right now but this is definitely a good read. I’ll be looking back on it for sure.

[Salma · Rating 4 out of 5]

Finished this and if you’re into personal development, you will enjoy this book.

There are lots of useful reminders and if there’s one golden nugget I’ve taken from this book, it is to set a mantra for each day, then work your way around achieving it without letting anything get in the way. 👉🏼 E.g. Today, I intend to live happily without letting anything affect my inner peace 😌. Then go ahead live happily your day and not let anything set you off track, no matter what the day might throw at you. Life is too short to dwell on the negatives ✌🏼🕊

[Rachelle · Rating 3 out of 5]

1000+ Little Habits... quick suggestions to live a better life and improve relationships with spouses, friends and peers. I didn't love the book overall because of dull simplistic ideas, but there were a few helpful tips sprinkled throughout, and the short stories included from real people were heartwarming.

[Shermin · Rating 2 out of 5]

I stopped reading at 27% because I got seriously bored. The frequent boasting of their expertise after speaking to thousands of couples every chapter got old real quick. The descriptions feels surface level. No concrete case studies or real examples. That being said I still think it’s valuable points they have mentioned. But that is all. Very boring.

[Nuenue · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing book. If you want to learn how to improve your life and let go of past pain this is the book for you. This book also helps you with everyday life and family relations and relationships in general.

[Jennifer Hoots · Rating 4 out of 5]

Helpful relationship tips.