Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

by Jim Fay

A time-tested parenting book with over 900,000 copies sold!Now updated to address technology use, screen time, and social media.Designed for preschool and beyond, this helpful and practical psychology-based parenting method is an invaluable guide for all parents! Teach your children healthy responsibility and encourage their character growth from a young age. Learn to establish healthy boundaries with your children through easy-to-implement steps without anger, threats, nagging, or power struggles.Trusted by generations of parents, counselors, and teachers to lovingly raise responsible children, Parenting with Love and Logic includes solutions for dozens of specific topics such screen timeGrades and report cardsChoresGetting ready for schoolPeer pressureCyberbullyingNavigating crisis situations and griefAnd much more!Each issue is indexed for easy reference. Learn how to tame tempers and re-establish a calm, healthy relationship and positive communication with your child today!“This is as close to an owner’s manual for parents as you will find. Now, parents can embrace mistakes as wonderful learning opportunities to raise respectful, responsible, and caring children.” —Gloria Sherman, MA, MED, LPC, cofounder, Parenting Partnership“I have been delighted to share the powerful yet simple wisdom of Jim Fay and Foster Cline with my counseling clients. The principles in Parenting with Love and Logic are practical, proven techniques that keep parents on track to raising responsible, loving, confident children.” —Carol R. Cole, PhD, LMFT“Parenting with Love and Logic is a terrific book for parents that provides important concepts and practical solutions to help children become emotionally, socially, and morally healthy.” —Terry M. Levy, PhD, codirector of Evergreen Psychotherapy Center; coauthor of Attachment, Trauma, and Healing“Parenting with Love and Logic is an essential component for our schools, parents, and teachers. Thousands of families have been positively impacted by the love and logic principles.” —Leonard R. Rezmierski, PhD, superintendent support administrator, Wayne RESA

Genres: Parenting

260 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 8, 2020

Reviews

[Joyce · Rating 3 out of 5]

I understand that this book is a bit of a staple among child-rearing guides. The logic is around training children to take responsibility for their actions and choices. It also comes from a Christian perspective. I buy some of what is being sold here but not all of it.

[Abby · Rating 3 out of 5]

I gleaned a few pearls of wisdom from this book. I tend to be skeptical of any solution that parades itself as “THE ONLY solution” so I’m glad this book offers disclaimers. Different kids need different parenting styles, and so do different parents. I didn’t like everything here. However, I did agree with the baseline principles.

[Laura · Rating 4 out of 5]

Overall, the advice in this book is on-point, but with some notable exceptions.

1) The authors are Christian and their Christianity is not advertised in descriptions of the book. Yet their religion is infused throughout the book. This was certainly NOT the case with older books of theirs, of which my Jewish mother was a big fan.

2) The language is sometimes outdated, even though this version was written in 2020.

3) There is subtle and not-so-subtle sexism in the way these two men frequently chastise women who are struggling with how to mother effectively.

4) They are clearly conservative in many areas, especially in their discussions of what constitutes healthy sexuality once these kids grow into youth and into adulthood. They managed to have a discussion about porn while apparently maintaining the notion that all porn is (equally) bad; absolutely no mention of consent, misogyny, racism, and other problems that can make porn abusive and toxic.
Also… we are supposed to teach kids not to look at porn, but there isn’t any mention of teaching them not to send d**k pics / nudes? And how about teaching boys not to coerce or force girls into sex… I know there is a separate book for teenagers, but it seems like there was a place for some of these missing pieces in this book.

[midnightfaerie · Rating 5 out of 5]

The best parenting book I've ever read, and I've read a lot. This principle is based on making your children independent by having them make their own choices from a young age. The difficult thing is to let your children fail. Instead of telling them to get their coat, the premise is, tell them it's chilly and ask them if they want a coat or not. But if they say no, you have to let them be cold. This is hard for parents, but letting them fail at a young age like this, helps them make smarter decisions when they're older.

That's a simple way of putting it, and I really don't do it justice. They have tons of examples and ways to implement this in the book, and I've just started reading the one about teens and am excited to start implementing it. It's hard to be strong sometimes and put the decision into their hands and let go, but it's so worth it in the long run. I feel like it really works. I'd recommend this book to anyone with kids.

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book on parenting, addressing real life situations with doable solutions. The point is to raise children to think for themselves, not to hover, doing everything for them, or not to order kids around, telling them what they need to do. Actual examples of conversations between parent and child offer models to follow. I highly recommend this book.

[Maria Angeles · Rating 5 out of 5]

must read for all parents

Very eye opening . I actually started reading this book last year and was discouraged because I felt I was failing as a parent . A year later passed and decided to try reading it again. This time I had a different attitude towards reading it and found Very applicable “pearls” and I’m hoping I can change my way of parenting a little bit at a time…

[Isaac · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good and practical

This a great book with fantastic and practical advice!
I'd definitely recommend it. Letting your children learn life's lessons when they're young before the consequences get too big, is a wonderful gift you can give to them, society, and yourself.

[Laura · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars

[Maddie Carr · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book with helpful pearls at the end to refer back to when things come up. Focuses on empathy and giving kids choices for their behavior.