WARNING: REVIEW CONTAINS SPOILERS.
Confession time: I chose this book as a 'hate read' (you know a book that sounds so terrible that you just HAVE to read it to see if it's as bad as it sounds? Yeah...). And honestly, some aspects of the books surprised me by how NOT terrible they were. But there were several parts that made me want to throw it against the wall (and if I hadn't been reading it on my kindle, I probably would have. Multiple times). So yeah, I have a lot of thoughts on this book. Here we go.
Let me preface this by saying that I am a Christian and I have read and enjoyed a few of Francine Rivers' books, namely, the Mark of the Lion series and Redeeming Love. I've read many many books by Christian authors in the past, and Francine Rivers is one of the authors that I do like for the most part. I commend Rivers for trying to tackle a subject that is obviously dear to her heart, but I feel like this book ultimately failed (HARD) for me. To be fair, I'll start with:
The Good (and/or The Not Terrible)
1. Again, this is a tough and very loaded subject. I am begrudgingly impressed that this book exists at all, and I'm sure that Rivers has gotten a lot of flak for it.
2. As much as this book annoys me, I have to admit that it was pretty darn readable. I finished it in less than two days.
3. Despite the fact that the majority of main characters in this book are Christian (or claim to be), they are flawed in a very believable way instead of being super perfect.
4. The relationship that builds between Joe and Dynah is nice.
5. I liked that this book expressed how people can talk a big game about their morals, but the true test of what you believe occurs when you're thrown into a terrible situation. Ethan, the 'perfect Christian guy' becomes a massive victim blaming jerk who can't deal with the fact that his fiancee has been 'defiled' (seriously, I wanted to punch this guy in the throat so many times), Dynah's good, moral parents have so much baggage that is brought to the surface by this event, and Dynah has to reconcile her previous views of God with the horrible things that are happening to her. Seriously, bravo, Rivers.
But for all the good, I am still giving this book one star, and I would give it zero if I could. And so:
The Bad (aka Things that Made Me Want to Light Every Copy of This Book on Fire)
1. It's sooooooo preachy...sooooooooooooooooooo preachy.
2. You expect me to believe that every single person that Dynah knew besides her grandmother and Joe was THIS gung ho to try and make Dynah HAVE an abortion? REALLY? Not ONE OTHER Christian she knew was going to try and convince her not to have an abortion? REEEEEEEEEEALLY????
3. Holy cow, has EVERY WOMAN in this universe had an abortion? Two generations in the same family and then the third generation considering it seriously enough to actually go to an abortion clinic? Seriously? I get what Rivers was trying to do but it was all just way too convenient for me.
4. The victim blaming in this book is off the charts. Does victim blaming happen in the real world? Yes, and it makes me equally as angry. Added onto that is the extra layer that exists in a lot of Christian purity culture that any woman who has sex before marriage is dirty, defiled, impure, and broken. This mentality is disgusting and sadly happens all the time in the real world. I'm not saying that it's bad that Christians believe premarital sex is a sin, but mentally throwing women (and especially, oh, I don't know, RAPE VICTIMS) in the metaphorical garbage is just vile, and Jesus would not have done it (see: the fact that he hung out with ACTUAL PROSTITUTES and treated them with compassion and love) Is this mentality throughout the entire book believable? Definitely yes, unfortunately. but it makes me SO ANGRY regardless.
5. This book had so many one-off comments that made me want to flip ALL the tables. I returned my digital copy to the library so I can't give exact quotes, but here are the worst offenders that I can remember (and trust me, there were many more):
-While fighting with Hannah (Dynah's mom), Doug (Dynah's dad) is freaking out about the rape and yells that the rapist might have AIDS! Or he might be BLACK!!! I seriously had to put the book down for a minute after this. Yes, the rapist was despicable. All rapists are. But WHY WOULD IT MAKE A DIFFERENCE IF THE RAPIST WAS BLACK? Racist, Rivers. Disgustingly racist. Shame on you.
-When Dynah runs away from home to gather her thoughts, there is a brief period when she is living in a hotel and cannot find a job. She contemplates applying for benefits, but remembers that her father (again! Prince of a guy, Dynah's dad) has often ranted about people 'leeching off the government' so she decides she doesn't want to do that. There is no shame in needing public assistance and to shame people who DO need it is extremely gross. And, reality check Dynah, if you are unemployed, single, and pregnant, you are EXACTLY the kind of person the system exists to help. It's your choice if you don't want to apply for it, but don't dump on all the people who use it.
-The waitress that worked at the diner before Dynah got the job there (Susan, I think? I don't remember her name) mentions that she calls one of her Asian coworkers 'Ho-Chi-Minh' (I believe-it was something similar if not that exact nickname) and that he hates that nickname. Here's a tip, maybe don't call someone a nickname that they don't like, especially if that nickname is directly tied to the other person's race. Again, that's racist.
6. I do not like how this book addressed the topic of rape. I suspect that Rivers chose to make her protagonist a rape victim so she wouldn't have to deal with the touchy topic of consensual premarital sex among Christians, and also the fact that Dynah got pregnant from rape pulls the whole abortion debate into a gray area for a lot of people. However, the rape seems to get shoved pretty far into the background as soon as Dynah finds out she's pregnant. Then it's 'should I or should I not get an abortion' for the rest of the book. I don't want to diminish how difficult it must be to decide whether or not to get an abortion. That has to be one of the most difficult decisions for any woman to make. But aside from the men in Dynah's life repeating over and over that they want to beat the rapist to death and everyone contemplating what a 'monster' the baby will be because her father is a rapist (which seriously, gross), the book just seems to mostly drop the rape aspect of it. I also take issue with the fact that the rapist was the stereotypical 'stranger in the shadows' (which I know does happen, but much less often than the victim knowing their rapist), but I assume that Rivers didn't want to deal with fleshing out the character of a rapist and possibly dealing with Dynah taking him to court or anything like that. At its heart, this book is about abortion, not rape, but the fact that Rivers introduced rape as a plot point and just conveniently disposed of the rapist bugs me.
I know that a lot of people loved this book. If you loved it or were moved by it or it changed your life for the better, I will not discount your experience or say that you're wrong. You're entitled to your opinion and I am not going to fight anyone about whether this was a good or a bad book or extrapolate on the reasons I listed for disliking it. But personally, I hated this book. Capital 'H' HATED it. Would not recommend. To anyone. Ever.