Тревожные дети. Как превратить беспокойство в жизнестойкость

by Michael Grose, Jodi Richardson, Майкл Гроуз

Авторы предлагают родителям и педагогам новый взгляд на воспитание тревожных детей, делясь с ними работающими инструментами, стратегиями и советами, позволяющими превратить психологическую особенность в возможность для развития. Простым языком они рассказывают о причинах, симптомах и биологических основах тревожности, чтобы каждый взрослый и ребенок смогли понять, почему возникает тревожность и как с ней справляться.
Книга будет полезна родителям и специалистам.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Audiobook, Self Help, Psychology

336 pages, Hardcover

Published January 1, 2021

About the author

Michael Grose is the author of nine parenting books and a past parenting columnist with both Fairfax and News Ltd. Michael, through his company Parentingideas, supplies over 30 parenting articles every year to nearly 1500 Australian schools. An experienced media performer, he’s been a regular commentator in the Australian media for over a decade, with regular appearances on the Today Show, The Circle, The Project and many other television and radio programs.

Reviews

[Betsy · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a great starter book for people just learning about anxiety, and is a good reminder book full of basic information for those of us who have spent some time learning about anxiety. It was a good book to read this summer before heading back in the classroom this fall. Kids who have anxiety can thrive when given patience, routine, and structure. Kids, in general, thrive when they know the expectations and what is to come. They can begin preparing themselves when they know what to prepare for.

[Eric · Rating 4 out of 5]

Four takeaways from the book: 1) Build up to something you're anxious about. Many small steps help practice the future event. 2) Move towards the challenge, not away from it. More challenges will build resilience. 3) Live a healthy life. Sleep enough, exercise, eat well, etc. 4) Have a balance between authoritarian and compassionate parenting. Good, strict boundaries and appropriate tenderness create the best path for anxious children.

[Emily Rosén · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was incredibly eye opening and helpful, starting from the very first chapter. It helped me understand my anxious daughter's thought processes, and most relieving, how I can help. I was able to start adjusting my responses and see a change in her spirit from the first day of reading. This is a must read for anyone an anxious child in their care.

[Andreea Mălăescu · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book offers an overview of how anxiety manifests in children and highlights the importance of a healthy lifestyle and stability in managing it. It presents a few useful techniques, but the solutions feel rather superficial.

I would have liked the topic of anxiety to be explored in more depth, with concrete examples and more practical strategies. While the information is valuable for someone just starting to understand this subject, the practical, solution-oriented part felt quite limited.

[Cambri Morris · Rating 5 out of 5]

Have I tested the theories and practices discussed in this book? No. Have I implemented them and found wild success in helping my child manage his anxiety? Nope. But it definitely did calm my anxiety on behalf of my child. It was practical and reassuring and affirming of the idea that mental health needs to be talked about more, especially from a young age. Absolutely.

[Jared Guertin]

This was a quick and enjoyable read. I read it to enhance my psychotherapy practice. It has a lot of practical support for managing anxiety, and it is aimed at the parents of an anxious child. I also really appreciated how it had a lot to say about how it is important for the parents to manage their own anxiety - both to model for the kids and because parental anxiety can affect the child's anxiety.

[Ashley Setterlind · Rating 4 out of 5]

Pretty standard “anxiety” content…but I appreciated the author’s tone! As a US reader, some portions of the book were irrelevant, but it was still worth the read!

[Rochelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a must read for parents who have children suffering with anxiety. It helps explains what anxiety is and has great advice for helping your child, with practical exercises you can do with your child.
It is a great Australian resource, easy to read and follow.
If your child has anxiety I would recommend this to you, not only to read, but to keep on the your shelf for future reference.

[J S · Rating 5 out of 5]

Clear, practical and with Australian references/support which is very useful. I particularly liked some of the conversation prompts and scripts to use in discussion with your child.

[Christine · Rating 4 out of 5]

One of my children has anxious tendencies, and I didn't know if it rose to the level of something clinical - so I picked up a book to learn more about childhood anxiety.

The book referenced a lot of books on parenting and childhood development that I've already read, so in some ways it felt very redundant. It contained a lot of advice that applies widely. Make sure your child eats healthfully, gets enough sleep, gets enough exercises, has opportunities to practice independence, give your child household responsibilities etc. etc. If you haven't ever read a parenting book before you might have found this profound, but I found it to be common sense.

It did provide me enough of an insight into how anxiety presents in children for me to be able to keep an eye out for signs it may be time to reach out to a professional. The book also contained a lot of practical advice about calming techniques and breathing practices, including ways to introduce them to young children.

The gut punch as an American was the section all about how much mental health services Australian children are entitled to and how to go about accessing them (something I would have felt was extremely practical if I happened to be in Australian.)

The book did satisfy the need for me that inspired me to pick it up.

[Sunshine Biskaps · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book. I love learning as much as possible about kids (specifically teenagers). The two authors of this book did a great job encouraging compassionate parenting and empathising with the child. Ahhhh, I see that you feel this way or that way. A good take away from this book is the section about the way kids think about themselves. We need to allow them to discover that their thoughts are not fact. And allow them to practice a more positive frame of mind.

I am sad.
I think I am sad.
I am having the thought that I think I am sad.

The third sentence doesn’t sound as bad as the first or second ones. I think we need to also share stories with our children, especially the stories of us making mistakes and also learning from them. Our kids cam understand that their parents/ guardians also make mistakes and it’s ok, they survived it!

Overall, a great read, even if your kid is not “anxious”. I think this book would be helpful or any parent because at one point or another, all children cam be hard on themselves and insecure.

[Kian.ting · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is written by an Australian but the issues with anxiety and the symptoms are prevalent through all allicted children all over the world. Sometimes as an adult I forget that I was once a child and at that time the world seem scary to me too. This is a good book in that it brings parents back to the understanding that their children are afraid of the big world and they need our assurance, availability and our hand to walk them through it. I didn't know that a sedantary life style would also contribute to a child being anxious. What I learned from the book is that anxious children don't become anxious just with one incident, it is a compound of issues from what they eat, their sleep hygiene, the trauma they faced and all the other stuff that adds to it, this book makes me more conscious about their needs but not to a point of needing to bubble wrap them, but more to be with them and coaching them as they navigate this world.

[Lindsay · Rating 4 out of 5]

Nothing mind blowing or new, but I appreciated having a full description of anxiety as well as parenting tips/lifestyle ideals all in one condensed and easy to follow book. I say “ideals” because the chapters about sleep and healthy eating I had to eye roll a bit… like ok I hear you say 11-13 hours of sleep for my 4 year old and a balanced diet with plenty of protein could help decrease anxiety but actually achieving those things is not as simple as having a bedtime routine and offering a variety of choices. Mostly I was encouraged that I’m already doing a lot of things right! I look forward to incorporating more intentional deep breathing and mindfulness activities to see if that helps at all.

[Carolyn · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great resource for parenting and working with children and teens with anxiety. The first portion of the book focuses on identifying anxious children and meeting them with empathy and modeling how they can manage their anxiety. The latter portion teaches coping strategies relevant for all ages (thought distancing, mindfulness, mood journaling and emotion labeling, and establishing healthy eating and sleeping routines).

[Bearded Reader - Adam · Rating 4 out of 5]

The concepts in the book are immediately actionable and help me to understand how my parenting can help support my child’s well-being. Although I am not sure the book breaks new ground, the skillful presentation, and heavy emphasis on supporting parents with accessible guidance make it a valuable resource and worthwhile read.

[Joanne · Rating 5 out of 5]

This provides a great introduction to anxiety for parents who may not know where to start. Practical tips for managing anxiety are provided as well as information on what to expect if you seek professional guidance.

[Brynne Jensen · Rating 3 out of 5]

I would recommend this book for anyone with an anxious child or someone who has a child with behavioral issues that may be underlying anxiety. This book could be especially helpful for grown ups who have not experienced anxiety in themselves.

[Ming Ma · Rating 4 out of 5]

I listened to the audiobook read by one of the authors. It contains some very good advice about dealing with anxiety. I find the narrator very passionate about the subject. Its a bit overwhelming for me still.

[Sally Marshall · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good descriptive book with some practical tips

[Daniel Demarle · Rating 5 out of 5]

An Excellent read

[Manrico · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very comprehensive and really good book. Aimed at helping children, but practically all the tools and tips here apply to adults as well. Thank you.

[Daniela · Rating 5 out of 5]

Copiii anxiosi de la anxietate la rezilienta

[Dionna · Rating 4 out of 5]

Info seems to be geared more toward younger (elementary) kids, but I found several helpful tips.

[Jo Govan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic advice for parents of anxious children. Reassuring, encouraging and proactive. "Your anxious child is not broken".

[Anne Reynolds · Rating 5 out of 5]

an amazing exploration of anxious kids and how we, as adults, can help them in whatever capacity we are given

[Anna · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you already have a baseline understanding of anxiety this book won’t have anything to offer you.

[Andreea · Rating 5 out of 5]

Este o carte utila, interesanta, care prezinta numeroase solutii pentru ameliorarea anxietatii.

[Hutch Hussein · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some good practical tips!

[Vin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practical advice

[Jolene · Rating 3 out of 5]

some good info about what anxiety is. not much practical info that I didn't already know