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The 50/50 Friendship Flow: Life Lessons From and For My Girlfriends
A Simple and Uplifting Way to Deepen Your Friendships
We all have friendships that we have maintained over the years. But now more than ever it’s easy to lose connection with those who you care about—and the uncomfortable feeling of being disconnected from our friends is all too common.
The 50/50 Friendship Flow offers a conscious path to not simply maintain friendships, but to deepen those relationships to support connection and bring joy and a sense of purpose to both of you.
As you read The 50/50 Friendship Flow you will discover
That everyone you meet is both your teacher and your student
A feeling of wellbeing and happiness as you deepen your friendships
The power of the one-on-one meeting
The purpose and impact that each person brings into your life
The 50/50 Friendship Flow encourages each of us to give one another the gift of time. It reveals the power of sitting down one-on-one with a friend for the sole purpose of letting her know the positive impact that she has made in your life.
We all have friendships that we have maintained over the years. But now more than ever it’s easy to lose connection with those who you care about—and the uncomfortable feeling of being disconnected from our friends is all too common.
The 50/50 Friendship Flow offers a conscious path to not simply maintain friendships, but to deepen those relationships to support connection and bring joy and a sense of purpose to both of you.
As you read The 50/50 Friendship Flow you will discover
That everyone you meet is both your teacher and your student
A feeling of wellbeing and happiness as you deepen your friendships
The power of the one-on-one meeting
The purpose and impact that each person brings into your life
The 50/50 Friendship Flow encourages each of us to give one another the gift of time. It reveals the power of sitting down one-on-one with a friend for the sole purpose of letting her know the positive impact that she has made in your life.
- GenresNonfictionSelf Help
313 pages, Paperback
First published October 6, 2020
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About the author
Shari Leid
7 books36 followersShari Leid received her Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from the University of Washington in 1992. A former litigator, having graduated from Seattle University School of Law in 1995, she currently operates An Imperfectly Perfect Life, LLC, a professional life coaching business serving women, helping guide them towards recognizing their power
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December 29, 2020
This book really helped me in the friend's department. During my life I have had around five great and caring friends at different times. The friendships always ended after a while because I felt I didn't need a friend. I also found myself doubting their sincerity as a friend, which I now realize was my mistake. I felt like it was too much of a commitment. This book really changed my life. Everyone needs a good friend they can talk to, meet up with to have a good laugh, go out to eat, or maybe grab a cup of coffee. Life is too short not to have a friend you can relate to and depend on.
March 25, 2023
The 50/50 Friendship Flow is part self-help, part empowerment, and part celebration of girlfriends. Each chapter is a date. Each chapter has a life lesson from one girlfriend, and each one ends with a journal prompt to encourage the reader to look further inward and at relationships.
After reading several emotionally heavy books, it was nice to have this lighter read. It was easy and fast to go through each chapter. One that resonated with me was that the power of a smile cannot be underestimated.
This book encouraged me to think about deepening relationships with girlfriends, life lessons from others, and empowering ourselves.
I was gifted this book in return for an honest review.
After reading several emotionally heavy books, it was nice to have this lighter read. It was easy and fast to go through each chapter. One that resonated with me was that the power of a smile cannot be underestimated.
This book encouraged me to think about deepening relationships with girlfriends, life lessons from others, and empowering ourselves.
I was gifted this book in return for an honest review.
October 11, 2020
I was quite interested in reading this book because of the concept of life enriched by friendship. After all, I have been blessed with great friends, especially girlfriends, who have supported and encouraged me at various stages of my life. I have also learned so much from them.
Besides, the author Shari Leid is a cancer survivor, wife, mother, an adoptee and an adoptive parent, a litigator, and a life coach. I love reading books by people who work hard, overcome many odds, and achieve lots.
Shari meets with 50 women friends in a year. She shares with them what she has learned from them, how they inspire her, and how they have enriched her life. According to her, everyone she meets is both her teacher and her student, regardless of their age or how long they have been her friends.
By embarking on this journey, Shari intends to reiterate her belief in the effects and significance of relationships. By writing this book, she wishes to show others this. While I am sure she achieved the former, I am not convinced of the latter....
For the full review, please head on over to Read and Reviewed.
Besides, the author Shari Leid is a cancer survivor, wife, mother, an adoptee and an adoptive parent, a litigator, and a life coach. I love reading books by people who work hard, overcome many odds, and achieve lots.
Shari meets with 50 women friends in a year. She shares with them what she has learned from them, how they inspire her, and how they have enriched her life. According to her, everyone she meets is both her teacher and her student, regardless of their age or how long they have been her friends.
By embarking on this journey, Shari intends to reiterate her belief in the effects and significance of relationships. By writing this book, she wishes to show others this. While I am sure she achieved the former, I am not convinced of the latter....
For the full review, please head on over to Read and Reviewed.
October 20, 2020
I didn't realize until I was a chapter in, that this is really a self-help book. The author has taken life lessons that we all should be following in one way or another, matched them with some of her friends, and written a book about it.
If you already pay attention to your friends and other people around you, you'll already understand most of these lessons, but the way they are laid out in this book is definitely worth a read. The differences among the author's friends is interesting to read. Couple that with the friend's own thoughts about the subject of that chapter, and it makes this book an easy read, although there's never any guarantee with a self-help book that you'll gain anything from it.
There were a couple of chapter I skimmed because the "lesson" wasn't of interest to me, but that doesn't mean it won't be to someone else.
If you already pay attention to your friends and other people around you, you'll already understand most of these lessons, but the way they are laid out in this book is definitely worth a read. The differences among the author's friends is interesting to read. Couple that with the friend's own thoughts about the subject of that chapter, and it makes this book an easy read, although there's never any guarantee with a self-help book that you'll gain anything from it.
There were a couple of chapter I skimmed because the "lesson" wasn't of interest to me, but that doesn't mean it won't be to someone else.
January 26, 2021
A great book, it was very helpful. It is interesting and fun to read.
October 28, 2020
If 2020 has taught us anything – between social injustice, quarantine and the election – it’s that women need other women. And this book by Shari Leid is the perfect reminder!
In it she explains on how she prioritized her friendships by going on “50 dates.” After each date, each woman’s essence (and a professional photo) is captured.
In this book, readers will understand how to:
--Know your talents and gifts, emphasize your own worth
--Create long-lasting, deeper friendships
--Learn from people who are different from you
--Engage in face-to-face meetings
--Cherish the people who create an impact in your life
--Give one another the gift of time
--Support women and create a sense of commonality and belonging
--Recognize the power you have in creating joy in others
--Live with more gratitude
--Bring out the best in others (without involving your ego)
--Become more observant and really “see” people
--Change the energy in a room
--Learn, grow and teach with every encounter
And many more… In fact, after every “date,” she gives you a journal entry and synopsis. I don’t want to give the whole book away, so you’ll get the gist with these bullets.
The goal for this book is to encourage more women (and men) to open up and reach out. Connect and grow. After all, we all just want a sense that we belong.
In it she explains on how she prioritized her friendships by going on “50 dates.” After each date, each woman’s essence (and a professional photo) is captured.
In this book, readers will understand how to:
--Know your talents and gifts, emphasize your own worth
--Create long-lasting, deeper friendships
--Learn from people who are different from you
--Engage in face-to-face meetings
--Cherish the people who create an impact in your life
--Give one another the gift of time
--Support women and create a sense of commonality and belonging
--Recognize the power you have in creating joy in others
--Live with more gratitude
--Bring out the best in others (without involving your ego)
--Become more observant and really “see” people
--Change the energy in a room
--Learn, grow and teach with every encounter
And many more… In fact, after every “date,” she gives you a journal entry and synopsis. I don’t want to give the whole book away, so you’ll get the gist with these bullets.
The goal for this book is to encourage more women (and men) to open up and reach out. Connect and grow. After all, we all just want a sense that we belong.
October 14, 2020
2/5 stars!
I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
I liked the idea of this book, but sadly, I don't think I get anything from this that I didn't know about already. I think I'm just not the right audience for this book. Maybe if I were younger, I would have appreciated this book more.
I voluntarily read and reviewed an advanced copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
I liked the idea of this book, but sadly, I don't think I get anything from this that I didn't know about already. I think I'm just not the right audience for this book. Maybe if I were younger, I would have appreciated this book more.
November 22, 2020
Powerful
The 50-50 Friendship Flow details the author’s inspiring meetings with fifty extraordinary women and sharing life lessons from their walks of life with the readers.
Incredible quotes mentioned in the book are thought-provoking.
This book empowers women to be themselves and also guides them towards recognizing their power focussing on the vast importance of relationships in life.
Every chapter begins with a brief about the wonderful women, how the friendship blossomed between them, and their life learnings. At the end of the chapter, there are challenges, action plans, and journaling tools to do yourself.
Each relationship is a unique bond that carries its own depth and beauty. Every interaction is always an opportunity to grow, learn, and teach.
An Interesting and a must-read book providing an optimistic outlook by embracing life’s constant flow.
The 50-50 Friendship Flow details the author’s inspiring meetings with fifty extraordinary women and sharing life lessons from their walks of life with the readers.
Incredible quotes mentioned in the book are thought-provoking.
This book empowers women to be themselves and also guides them towards recognizing their power focussing on the vast importance of relationships in life.
Every chapter begins with a brief about the wonderful women, how the friendship blossomed between them, and their life learnings. At the end of the chapter, there are challenges, action plans, and journaling tools to do yourself.
Each relationship is a unique bond that carries its own depth and beauty. Every interaction is always an opportunity to grow, learn, and teach.
An Interesting and a must-read book providing an optimistic outlook by embracing life’s constant flow.
December 25, 2020
Leid goes on ‘50 dates’ that prioritized her friendships, and over the course of these meetings and the lessons, this book empowers women to be themselves and encourages them to recognize the power of important relationships in life, to open up and reach out, to connect and grow, to belong.
I love books about female friendships, and I really liked the idea behind this book, where the author meets fifty extraordinary women and shares life lessons from their walks of life with the readers. It is also kinda similar to the idea I have for my new podcast '11 Questions', so bonus points!
Thank you netgalley for this ARC.
I love books about female friendships, and I really liked the idea behind this book, where the author meets fifty extraordinary women and shares life lessons from their walks of life with the readers. It is also kinda similar to the idea I have for my new podcast '11 Questions', so bonus points!
Thank you netgalley for this ARC.
January 17, 2021
I won this book in a Goodreads giveaway. I was pleasantly surprised at the readability and interactive-ness of the book. I have never heard of the 50/50 friendship flow challenge in which you sit down with 50 women you have met in your life to learn from them, all in a years time. This has inspired me to do the same (post-COVID). I am a big fan of catching up with friends and just talking about much more than the weather and banal subjects. I was very happy to see journal prompts included at the end of every chapter. There is also a book club happening on Instagram in real time!
January 5, 2021
Shari Leid's "The 50/50 Friendship Flow: Life Lessons From and For My Girlfriends" is exceptionally well-written and organized. The print is easy to read and the book is detailed and easy to use; just remember to keep a pen or pencil on hand! An extremely useful and insightful book, I definitely recommend it!
My copy of this book was won from a Goodreads giveaway and I appreciate the opportunity to read and review it.
My copy of this book was won from a Goodreads giveaway and I appreciate the opportunity to read and review it.
March 2, 2021
When I received this book, I was so excited. I loved that it was not only was it a great journey about connecting deeper with the author's friends, but a reflective journal. My book is now filled with notes, highlights, and tabs to mark stories that remind me of my own powerful, gorgeous friends. This book has inspired me to set up my own 50/50 dates, safely through Zoom and Facebook. I can't wait to share with my friends what I have learned.
February 3, 2023
What is even the point? Boring descriptions of, who I am sure are, incredible women. Grainy black and white photos. Trite advice. Decent writing prompts. Honestly, I feel like the book started as a series of diary entries, and probably should have stayed that way. It would have been far more interesting if each of the women would have been able to tell a story in their own voice each chapter. 2 stars because I’m sure 50 women out there were really happy to be honored in print.
February 24, 2021
A good book to get your friendship groove back post-COVID. Nicely highlights what different friends can bring to your life. One caution is that the author highlights meeting 50 friends, which might make some feel they don't have enough friends! However, the intro (from one of the friends) highlights that this also works with fewer friends, in her case 20.
November 9, 2021
I received this book as a giveaway, thank you Goodreads. I found it to be unrealistic in my world. I cannot express how I feel because it would be a rant. Thank you for the opportunity to read this.
January 6, 2023
The author makes friends easily, and most of those covered in this book are fascinating and instructive.
March 1, 2023
Not even a book, just a collection of weird notes from ‘meetings’ with friends
November 22, 2020
Life has handed us all a heavy dose of chaos this last year, and it seems to never end. Because we're not able to physically be around people we would normally see regularly, maintaining friendships and relationships can be a strain. For me, I can appreciate this book even more because of it. The author is so open in her detailing of her personal friendships with the women she meets over the course of a year.
It's a fascinating journey that caters to a sense of empowerment among women. As women, we should be supportive of each other in various ways. Not only is it about figuring out your own worth, talents, goals, and gifts as a person but what you add to a friendship. One of the best lessons was about learning from other people. Whether that is their experiences, their knowledge, or backgrounds, it's all-important. I love that the author encourages others to not only give your time to those important to you but to show compassion and gratitude for the other person's time as well.
Overall, I think this is a very valuable tool in todays world. Well written!
It's a fascinating journey that caters to a sense of empowerment among women. As women, we should be supportive of each other in various ways. Not only is it about figuring out your own worth, talents, goals, and gifts as a person but what you add to a friendship. One of the best lessons was about learning from other people. Whether that is their experiences, their knowledge, or backgrounds, it's all-important. I love that the author encourages others to not only give your time to those important to you but to show compassion and gratitude for the other person's time as well.
Overall, I think this is a very valuable tool in todays world. Well written!
July 27, 2024
HIGHLIGHTS:
1. THE CHALLENGE:
- set up 50 dates, one on one, with 50 of your friends throughout the year. Learn from them. And record your experience.
- Everyone who comes into your life has something very important to teach you as you go along life’s journey.
2. SERVE: If you have been blessed with talents and gifts, then you have a duty to help people in the community who need what you have.
- Support your friends right where they are. Don’t bring your journey into their struggle.
- When you move your life forward, always take others forward with you.
- Your positive energy can uplift the energy in a room. It comes from the ability to be comfortable with who you are. You have to let go of your ego. Let go of the fear of judgment from others.
3. GRATITUDE: I want to walk into a room and effortlessly lift the vibration of the room to a higher level. Tell the people in your life how much you appreciate them.
4. LEADERSHIP: Bring up the strength in those you lead. Quickly assess the situation and respond accordingly in a way that brings people together.
- Within each challenge, an opportunity exists.
5. HUMANITY: Practice truly seeing people. Start with a smile.
6. AUTHENTICITY:
- True influencers are women whose power springs from the fact that they are living their authentic life.
- Knowing your value comes from living an authentic life.
- Acting in the spirit of kindness demonstrates your strength.
- Align your actions with your values, even when inaction may be an easier road.
- Speak your truth rather than be dishonest to spare feelings or to try to gain acceptance. Either change or release any other relationships that are riddled with a bunch of BS.
7. EMPOWERMENT:
- Move through the world knowing your unique importance to your community.
- Actively listen: take a bit to analyze, offer room for ideas and solutions to flow. Bring a conversation to a higher level.
- I bear responsibility, and I always have choices in every situation.
- Plural purposes: we can live and pursue multiple avenues with the gifts we have been given. We do not have to be restricted only to one direction.
8. Tell your friends, especially your long-term friends, how much they mean to you.
9. What are five childhood family memories or daily family rituals that shaped you are today?
*Half the book is for journal entries after each little mini-chapter of 4 pages. Most of the women are well-rounded all-American high achievers.
1. THE CHALLENGE:
- set up 50 dates, one on one, with 50 of your friends throughout the year. Learn from them. And record your experience.
- Everyone who comes into your life has something very important to teach you as you go along life’s journey.
2. SERVE: If you have been blessed with talents and gifts, then you have a duty to help people in the community who need what you have.
- Support your friends right where they are. Don’t bring your journey into their struggle.
- When you move your life forward, always take others forward with you.
- Your positive energy can uplift the energy in a room. It comes from the ability to be comfortable with who you are. You have to let go of your ego. Let go of the fear of judgment from others.
3. GRATITUDE: I want to walk into a room and effortlessly lift the vibration of the room to a higher level. Tell the people in your life how much you appreciate them.
4. LEADERSHIP: Bring up the strength in those you lead. Quickly assess the situation and respond accordingly in a way that brings people together.
- Within each challenge, an opportunity exists.
5. HUMANITY: Practice truly seeing people. Start with a smile.
6. AUTHENTICITY:
- True influencers are women whose power springs from the fact that they are living their authentic life.
- Knowing your value comes from living an authentic life.
- Acting in the spirit of kindness demonstrates your strength.
- Align your actions with your values, even when inaction may be an easier road.
- Speak your truth rather than be dishonest to spare feelings or to try to gain acceptance. Either change or release any other relationships that are riddled with a bunch of BS.
7. EMPOWERMENT:
- Move through the world knowing your unique importance to your community.
- Actively listen: take a bit to analyze, offer room for ideas and solutions to flow. Bring a conversation to a higher level.
- I bear responsibility, and I always have choices in every situation.
- Plural purposes: we can live and pursue multiple avenues with the gifts we have been given. We do not have to be restricted only to one direction.
8. Tell your friends, especially your long-term friends, how much they mean to you.
9. What are five childhood family memories or daily family rituals that shaped you are today?
*Half the book is for journal entries after each little mini-chapter of 4 pages. Most of the women are well-rounded all-American high achievers.
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