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In the possession of stolen lucre, Brume Lauva takes a big step and decides to run away from a life he has known for more than a decade; a life of consistent failures, and from a girlfriend that shattered his heart and his last feeble grip on a broken dream.

Lagos, he believes, could offer another chance at life, where he could mend his broken heart, and perhaps start to dream again. But en route to his land of promise, a fatal bus crash occurs, and Brume is the only survivor—without a scratch. He flees the scene of the accident and hitchhikes his way to Lagos.

In Lagos, he begins to live again. He gets reconnected to a long-lost friend, with whom he shared dreams in the university. He invests the stolen money and finds love again. He gets all he craved on a plate—money, comfort and something resembling happiness. But there is more to this world—a monumental text that would change his life forever. MEN DON’T DIE is a thought-provoking story of love and money; death and spiritualism. About a man’s personal struggles against the unfairness of life, in search of true happiness.

Ever Obi was born in 1989 in Aba, Nigeria and currently lives in Lagos where he writes and works as a Financial Risk Manager. Men Don’t Die is his debut novel.

352 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 2020

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October 20, 2024
Though it took me a moment to finally get into the groove of reading this book due to so many distractions I finally started reading it seriously this weekend and now I’m done.

This was a wonderfully told story.
In primary school during Cultural and Creative Arts classes, we learned about “tragedy” as a drama genre and I think that’s the best word to describe the life of Brume. But as a story, Men Don’t Die is a compelling and memorable read.

It draws light to harsh realities and truths that are the stories of real people and I must praise that. Sir Ever writes this story in a way that is neither boring nor unoriginal.
I honestly have never been so moved or impressed by a story that ended the way this book did. It is a good read.

I would definitely recommend.
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October 30, 2020
LIVING THE DREAM IN LIMBO; A PSYCHO-PHILOSOPHICAL INTERPRETATION OF EVER OBI’S MEN DON’T DIE
Ever Obi’s Men Don’t Die is a 342-page fictional piece from the Regium imprint of Paressia Publishers. The title of this imagination-provoking text is a bold assertion that ‘men don’t die’, which also bellies they underlying semantic extension that dreams don’t die. But in reality, this is fully clad truth, walking upside down; judging from the progression of the plot, the dilemma of the unsuspecting reader and the mental exhaustion of the protagonist, Brume Lauva. Suffice it to say that the only villain in this story is the boogey man─ death! Death exposed the reality that our humanity is marred by frailties and we are puns at the whims of our own miscalculations and inordinate desires. A common factor connects all the characters and that is death, and the many ways in which the characters affected by it, handle the accompanying losses. In Men Don’t Die, we witness the varying degrees of grief and how it connects people; Eddie Lauva loses his wife, Brume loses his mother and his father, Turmi and his family loses their mother, Philip Odoh and Vicki loses Aiwa, Gabe loses his wife, Ify, her father and their entire family mourn the painful exit of Emma. And if we travel down to the surreal and antithetical worlds of Acosmos and Makoko, Brume lost Nnamdi and Lisa before he even got to know, while the entire family of Pa Nebu died. There is also the material and emotional level of loss of relationships and things as seen in Brume’s loss of Yaya, the love of his life, Gabe’s deep reflections on how his teenage daughter lost her innocence and now walks around with a protruding belly, and Barrel’s loss of his loot, every man carries in his heart, a burden of grief processed in intricate uniqueness.

There is a deep philosophical thrust to Ever Obi’s Men Don’t Die, the author suggests either willfully or by sheer coincidence of creative agency (I mean Ever believes in divine frenzy and the natural flow of the story as he doesn’t take responsibility for the psychic violence witnessed in this unique tale), that the dead are not completely dead as we carry them in our hearts and give life to them once again through our memories, reflections and grief. And subsumed within the plot is the belief that the world of the living and the dead are interconnected and somewhere in the middle, we have the world of the undead; restless souls with unresolved conflicts, unexplored desires, unfinished businesses; souls that wander at the threshold between the living and the dead. I mean the rate at which Brume kept sleeping and waking and closing and opening his eyes while in transit physically and while transiting across worlds, I deluded myself with the possibility that there might be a sequel in which Brume would wake up yet again and take his offer letter to his dream job, and welcome back his strayed but repentant sweetheart Yaya. I also imagined that the dream girl, Aiwa, who slept at studios in America at the expense of her medical school grades somehow missed the ill-fated flight and is alive somewhere living her dreams of becoming a musical star. I couldn’t bear the torture that all their dreams and vexation of spirit ended up in Limbo and eventually Brume in particular was seen standing on sinking sand that ultimately swallowed him up. Nnamdi and his fiancé are seen living their marital dreams and raising their son in Limbo where Nnamdi had retired from his oil company job to become a world acclaimed business coach and tycoon. Acosmos is another cosmos where unfulfilled human desires and dreams are made to seem to have been accomplished. And beyond surrealism is the placebo effect that Acosmos gave Brume and for once we see a man calm and living out all his life dreams until… This author played on our minds and did he win? Of course he won countless times as we didn’t see the end of the mind game coming until we got to the end!

There are two groups of people who handled under-achievement in life differently. Fanti, Turmi, Eddie Lauva, approached life with contentment and hope, while Brume, Yaya, Mr. Ebiri and Gabe expected so much from life and to give them the benefit of the doubt, they initially tried but failed to sustain the will to be calm and hopeful in their circumstances. Brume’s case is peculiar as he is a bit self-conceited and consumed with the will to “become” and this made him feel easily rejected by loved ones and a failure; he ended up concluding that the world had conspired against him. He never spared a thought or benefit of doubt for the supposed choices of those he felt abandoned him and other possibilities there might be. This fictional text is the definition of realism and resonates the bitter truth that sometimes, our dream happy endings either don’t happen or perhaps don’t end happy and the title reiterates this fact when the word “don’t” is removed from it; men die, dreams die and only the living can dream and fulfill their dreams. Acosmos is just a fickle of a dead man’s mind and as such not real. This may sound like cliché, but of a truth, the darkest hour is closest to dawn hence the need to keep hope alive and make the right decisions. Just as Obierika is a foil for the character of Okonkwo in Chinua Achebe’s Things Fall Apart, so is Turmi to Brume. And Eddie Lauva, Brume’s father seems to me like an improved version of Nwoye, Okonkwo’s father in Things Fall Apart. The ultimate end of Brume who is not a bad man but a man who made poor decisions is as self-destructive and as suicidal as Okonkwo’s decisions. Thus he embarked on a suicide mission when he took the heavy bag of money, and his suicide was sealed even before the accident as he carried the heavy bag of money on his shaky legs. Thus, in Men Don’t Die, we see the end of over-attachment to dogma’s, dreams and sense of achievement as seen in Turmi’s mother, Brume and Philip Odoh respectively.

And the title of David Diop’s poem, “Looser of Everything” knells in my head when I reflect on the characters of Brume, Philip Odoh, Pa Nebu, Aiwa, Turmi’s mother, Barrel, Gabe and to an extent Nnamdi. Pa Nebu’s circumstances are more bizzare as it seemed his children lived out the fates of the biblical villians whose names they bore. Nebuchadnezzar was locked away in prison where he must have been treated like an animal for over seven years before he died, Judas died while “attempting” to steal and Jezebel was bellied by the debris-clogged stagnant river of Makoko. Igbos often say that, Aha onye na edu onye; a man’s name orders his journey of life and Men Don’t Die echoes this truism through the fates of Pa Nebu’s entire family including his wife. One of life’s puzzles on the silence of the universe and God as seen in The Myth of Sisyphus is seen in the death of a prophetess while hoping for a miracle and the death of a mother while praying. The image of Turmi’s mother on her hospital bed fervently waiting for a miracle and that of her family sitting at the church pew praying for her recovery is allusive to Samuel Beckett’s Waiting for Godot, the miracle never came but her weary and ever-searching soul finally found rest. For me, Brume’s suicide note happens to be the highlight of the entire story as it echoes some of the questions we carry in our hearts. There is a Marxist undertone of the plight of the underdogs and the class stratification of the society into haves and have-nots, but death, disease and loss levelled up the two binaries as both the rich and the poor cried over here!

Summarily, I give a hearty 4.5/5 to Ever Obi’s Men Don’t Die and will recommend it for everyone especially those seeking closure to some of the puzzles of life, existence, after life, death and other related philosophical truths. This creative piece is highly philosophical without being preachy, almost like the author played the role of a tour guide like Judas’ ghost did at the end or a chaperon like Junior, and allowed us to discover events for ourselves without necessarily giving away his position. I love the playful unseriousness of minor characters like Maurice, Junior and Baba Obirin who amidst life’s circumstances find their expression and spread joy. I also spotted few typographical and lexical errors which were contextual than outright. Men Don’t Die is a needed break away from the normal and the natural and I loved every bit of the journey that brought with it some sense of otherworldliness. Brume remains my hero, as he threaded the path we all dread but must thread.
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February 6, 2025
A book’s title is significant, and *Men Don’t Die* is no exception. If you had asked me initially what it meant, I would have pointed to Charlie’s words on page 68: *“No matter what the problem is, just be strong, man. Men don’t die.”* Brume, the protagonist, interprets this as a call to extraordinary stoicism in the face of life’s struggles. However, by the end of the book, I realized the title carries an even deeper meaning.

Have you ever heard of *Akudaaya*? In Yoruba belief, this term refers to people who die tragically before completing their destined years on earth. Denied entry into the afterlife, they are sent back to finish their time—returning to a different location, assuming a new identity, and living a full life until someone from their past recognizes them, forcing them to vanish and restart elsewhere. In describing the manner of such tragic death, the Igbo people called it *Onwu Ike*. This legend has been portrayed in Nollywood films, but I first learned about it in Yoruba class in secondary school, and it has fascinated me ever since.
How does this phenomenon relate to Ever Obi's "Men Don’t Die"? You’d have to read it to understand, but the interplay of life, death, and spiritual realism is deeply woven into the narrative.

The novel tells the story of Brume Lauva, a young Petroleum Engineering graduate who believed his Second Class Upper would secure him a job in an oil company. Reality, however, had different plans. Years of job hunting led him nowhere, and he refused to take up the factory job his father once held—until his late father’s ghost urged him otherwise. At the same time, his long-term girlfriend, Yaya, left him for Ibe, a wealthy man who could offer her financial security. *Does love truly conquer all?* This book suggests otherwise. As the Igbo say, *Ego bu nma nwoke*—money is a man’s beauty. Brume’s love wasn’t enough to keep Yaya from secretly dating another man for eight months while their eight-year relationship was still intact.
Reeling from heartbreak, Brume lost the factory job he had reluctantly accepted, plunging him into depression so deep that he nearly took his own life. But fate intervened—he came across stolen money and fled Port Harcourt for Lagos, seeking a fresh start. Unbeknownst to him, this decision set a dangerous criminal, Barrel, on his trail.
The book is rich with interconnected characters, and at one point, I wondered how their lives would all converge. The author masterfully unravels the web, revealing layers of complexity that kept me captivated. One of the standout themes is friendship—particularly the brotherhood between Brume and Turmi. Their bond transcends mere companionship, unlike Brume’s relationship with Nnamdi, which was confined to discussions about dreams, books, and women. With Turmi, there were no boundaries.
There’s also a strong moral question embedded in Brume’s journey: *Do circumstances justify abandoning one’s morals?* The book alludes to Michael Henchard from *The Mayor of Casterbridge*, reminding us that choices have consequences. Was Brume right to take the stolen money? If you were in his position—jobless, betrayed, and hopeless—what would you have done? In a corrupt society like Nigeria, where goodness is rarely rewarded, would you still choose the moral high ground?

This novel is a tragic one, and the author doesn’t hold back on the emotional weight. By the end, I was left in deep thought, grappling with the eerie sense that something profound had unfolded—a story that dances between the physical and the spiritual.
I typically rate books on a scale of 1 to 5, but this one? It breaks my scale. The author’s conversational storytelling—something I also experienced in his second book, *Some Angels Don’t See God*—made the book feel alive, as if it had a soul of its own. It’s a *6/5* ⭐️ for me. If you appreciate stories that blend spiritual realism with raw human struggles, this is a book you shouldn’t miss.
Read it, and let’s discuss—because this one stays with you long after you turn the last page.
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March 5, 2021
A very excellent story with an excellent plot twist that truly had me at the edge of my seat. However, there was just something about the writing style. I described it as quite melodramatic at some point. Brume, the main character quite a melodramatic fellow.

I loved how the book dealt with depression. After, the plot twist at the end, this was my favourite thing about the book. its quite impossible to see a Nigerian book that adequately discusses depression, and in MEN, that's an oasis. Men don't Die is an oasis. The topic of depression was eased in so well we follow the series of events that led Brume to feel this way. it is not rushed or situations lingering too long that you as a reader get bored, it just flows.

I would give this a 3.7
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July 1, 2025
My heart… this book pulled me in, completely consumed me, and then put me back together. The plot was thick and engaging, keeping me on the edge of my seat as I rooted for Brume. I thought he had made it, until the unexpected twist left me stunned. What a story! Sometimes, we must appreciate what we have in front of us because tomorrow is not guaranteed.
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16 reviews
November 3, 2020
A brilliant debut ... Intriguing ... Suspense-filled.
You will literally feel your heart race as you follow Brume in his quest for happiness ... or money.
Ever Obi gets you hooked with his storytelling and leads you on until he finally drops the end on you like a bomb.
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July 1, 2022
What a story.
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3 reviews
March 21, 2025
It was a really good and emotional read for me.
I still that while Brume was a bit greedy, he definitely deserved more.
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July 11, 2025
The last 50 pages made it worth it at the end
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57 reviews
September 26, 2025
Ever Obi is such a wonderful writer, the way he writes about grief,love, and life is nothing like I've read before, he takes you on the journey of a character but still finds a way to interweave it with the whole plot of the book, this is fantasy like I have never read before. Indeed, MEN DON'T DIE
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