Maybe one of the most important books I’ve read. Rarely does a book feel so obviously helpful (as it reminds you of so many personal ministry experiences) while at the same time brings conviction and healing personally.
This book is funny, and super practical. It will forever stay on my book shelf because of it’s usefulness to “diagnose” and “treat” (understand and appropriately address) staff team “illnesses” (difficult people and situations on ministry staff teams). It was quoted in “When Narcissism comes to Church” and the quote was so true that it drove me to find this book, and I could have underlined half of the book.
I read it straight from cover to cover, however you could easily use it as a reference book and skip to chapters that are relevant to see how your situation might correlate and find helpful and practical tips on how to handle your situation with humility and genuine care for the offending party. Chapter titles are clever, like “Temporary Paralysis” (Widespread inability to make decisions) and “Rigidity of the Body” (Too Fixed in One Place to Budge - Even an Inch) and address practical problems you’ve definitely seen if you’ve been serving in ministry very long, or will eventually see if you haven’t. I wish I had read this book 10 years ago and had it as a reference all these years.
The biggest problem is that the book seems to be out of print and almost impossible to find. I got my copy used in “Like New” condition and was grateful I could get my hands on it. But even considering the difficulty in obtaining it, I highly suggest this read for anyone working in ministry on a team! Just don’t buy the $800 version on Amazon!