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Total Marriage Refresh: 6 Steps to Marital Satisfaction
Looking for the best marriage book? Welcome to the Total Marriage Refresh!
We spend thousands of hours on education and training to have a successful career but almost none on how to have a successful marriage. No wonder marriage can be so difficult, we haven't been properly trained.
Consider this book your new training manual! It will walk you through the top six steps to marital satisfaction. The pages are packed with practical insights and tools to help all couples spanning from those recently engaged to those looking for marriage counseling books.
Below are the top six steps to marital satisfaction covered in the Total Marriage Refresh.
Establishing a Covenant Foundation:
How you approach marriage greatly impacts how you respond to problems when they occur. The contract approach says you're committed as long as you're in love and your needs are met. In contrast, the covenant approach says you're committed for the long-haul, even when you go through seasons of winter. The covenant approach fosters deeper security, which leads to greater emotional and physical intimacy.
Owning Your Brokenness:
Have you noticed you and your partner aren't perfect? You have shortcomings you brought into marriage and they interact with your partner's shortcomings, creating sparks and sometimes bonfires! Learning to identify and own your brokenness creates emotional safety and will help you resolve conflicts quicker.
Learning to Share Power:
Ideally, couples would effortlessly share power on decisions in marriage. Unfortunately, this is rare because some partners are controlling and some are passive. Therefore, learning to share power so both partners have an equal voice on all topics pertaining to the relationship is critical.
Developing Emotional Attachment:
Most couples start out being best friends with one another. However, as kids, careers, and finances enter the scene, many lose their connection. This step helps couples get it back through constructive conflict resolution, healing resentments, and nurturing emotional intimacy.
Cultivating Sexual Fireworks:
Amazing sex happens naturally in the early stages of relationships but usually becomes problematic long-term because of unhealed sexual trauma, differences in libido, stress, or emotional distance. This step helps couples develop a model of sexual intimacy fusing voice, choice, and passion.
Staying in Love:
The ultimate goal in marriage is to stay in love. After all, you got married in the first place because you were in love. Therefore, falling back in love and staying in love is vital to a healthy and happy relationship. This step will show you the keys to get there, which will naturally affair proof your relationship too.
If you're ready to learn step by step how to have an amazing marriage, order this book today!
We spend thousands of hours on education and training to have a successful career but almost none on how to have a successful marriage. No wonder marriage can be so difficult, we haven't been properly trained.
Consider this book your new training manual! It will walk you through the top six steps to marital satisfaction. The pages are packed with practical insights and tools to help all couples spanning from those recently engaged to those looking for marriage counseling books.
Below are the top six steps to marital satisfaction covered in the Total Marriage Refresh.
Establishing a Covenant Foundation:
How you approach marriage greatly impacts how you respond to problems when they occur. The contract approach says you're committed as long as you're in love and your needs are met. In contrast, the covenant approach says you're committed for the long-haul, even when you go through seasons of winter. The covenant approach fosters deeper security, which leads to greater emotional and physical intimacy.
Owning Your Brokenness:
Have you noticed you and your partner aren't perfect? You have shortcomings you brought into marriage and they interact with your partner's shortcomings, creating sparks and sometimes bonfires! Learning to identify and own your brokenness creates emotional safety and will help you resolve conflicts quicker.
Learning to Share Power:
Ideally, couples would effortlessly share power on decisions in marriage. Unfortunately, this is rare because some partners are controlling and some are passive. Therefore, learning to share power so both partners have an equal voice on all topics pertaining to the relationship is critical.
Developing Emotional Attachment:
Most couples start out being best friends with one another. However, as kids, careers, and finances enter the scene, many lose their connection. This step helps couples get it back through constructive conflict resolution, healing resentments, and nurturing emotional intimacy.
Cultivating Sexual Fireworks:
Amazing sex happens naturally in the early stages of relationships but usually becomes problematic long-term because of unhealed sexual trauma, differences in libido, stress, or emotional distance. This step helps couples develop a model of sexual intimacy fusing voice, choice, and passion.
Staying in Love:
The ultimate goal in marriage is to stay in love. After all, you got married in the first place because you were in love. Therefore, falling back in love and staying in love is vital to a healthy and happy relationship. This step will show you the keys to get there, which will naturally affair proof your relationship too.
If you're ready to learn step by step how to have an amazing marriage, order this book today!
145 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 26, 2020
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December 28, 2020Super, I won the book, really excited to start reading this one
December 17, 2020
If I was a newlywed, or in a marriage experiencing a few wobbles, or extreme turbulence, then I’d love to sit down with Dr. Fisher for a chat. As that is not possible, this book is the next-best solution. Even those whose marriages are in great shape will benefit. Here, you’ll find professional advice written in a conversational style. It is easy to read, but calls for effort and perseverance if you want marital satisfaction.
One of the best ways to learn is from the mistakes of others. The author shares plenty of his own, and uses case studies to illustrate the six steps he proposes. These six steps include establishing a covenant foundation and not think of divorce as an option; owning your brokenness; learning to share power; developing emotional attachment; cultivating sexual fireworks, and staying in love. For best results, you must follow them in the order presented.
If your marriage has some miles on it, then you’ll recognize yourself and your spouse in the pages of this book. You’ll nod your head in agreement, chuckle, or cringe with embarrassment. Best of all, you’ll find solutions.
There are many books on marriage on the market, and some concepts in this book are not new. But what sets it apart is the simplicity of the advice. The application questions and exercises are very doable, and you can use the book as a handy reference to dip into whenever needed.
What I liked is that the writer does not ascribe to a particular philosophy or faith. Couples everywhere can apply these six steps and get results. The personality test that Dr. Fisher recommends is a useful tool in understanding yourself and your spouse. And women, in particular, will enjoy the tips offered in chapter five and six.
This book offers hope for all couples. But it requires honesty in admitting in which season your marriage is at. Both partners need to commit to reap the desired results.
Dr. Fisher compares marriage to a garden that is alive and requires tending. You will get out what you put in. This book is not too short or too long. It is just right. Invest in your marriage–get a copy. Your spouse will thank you.
(This review was published on: https://reedsy.com/discovery/book/tot...)
One of the best ways to learn is from the mistakes of others. The author shares plenty of his own, and uses case studies to illustrate the six steps he proposes. These six steps include establishing a covenant foundation and not think of divorce as an option; owning your brokenness; learning to share power; developing emotional attachment; cultivating sexual fireworks, and staying in love. For best results, you must follow them in the order presented.
If your marriage has some miles on it, then you’ll recognize yourself and your spouse in the pages of this book. You’ll nod your head in agreement, chuckle, or cringe with embarrassment. Best of all, you’ll find solutions.
There are many books on marriage on the market, and some concepts in this book are not new. But what sets it apart is the simplicity of the advice. The application questions and exercises are very doable, and you can use the book as a handy reference to dip into whenever needed.
What I liked is that the writer does not ascribe to a particular philosophy or faith. Couples everywhere can apply these six steps and get results. The personality test that Dr. Fisher recommends is a useful tool in understanding yourself and your spouse. And women, in particular, will enjoy the tips offered in chapter five and six.
This book offers hope for all couples. But it requires honesty in admitting in which season your marriage is at. Both partners need to commit to reap the desired results.
Dr. Fisher compares marriage to a garden that is alive and requires tending. You will get out what you put in. This book is not too short or too long. It is just right. Invest in your marriage–get a copy. Your spouse will thank you.
(This review was published on: https://reedsy.com/discovery/book/tot...)
June 19, 2022
Informative and interactive
Great content with exercises that are practical and useful in order implement the strategies within. A book I will keep in my library as a reference tool for a long time.
Great content with exercises that are practical and useful in order implement the strategies within. A book I will keep in my library as a reference tool for a long time.
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May 27, 2022Won this book in sweepstakes Been married over 50 years if I followed this book I wouldn't have been married this long maybe others will find this to be a help to them
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June 15, 2022Good book
December 9, 2020
Dr. Fisher makes valid points that every married couple needs to hear because we have yet to, as he puts it, receive adequate training for the lifelong occupation of spouse. It makes so much sense! Total Marriage Refresh isn’t just a book of revelations and truth bombs though. The author first reframes our mindsets on marriage to improve security. I appreciate how Dr. Fisher walks me so delicately through practices that foster a healthier perspective and greater empathy towards my husband. He then works on building oneness and connection. It seems like he covers everything, from understanding your partner’s background and personality to recovering from affairs to improving your sex life! Practical application tips and reflective questions in every chapter make this an indispensable tool for couples, newly married or decades in. An easy read that reaps rewards!!
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