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In the Absence of the Ordinary
We have entered a time of descent that takes us down into a different geography. In this shadowed terrain, we encounter a landscape familiar to soul: loss, grief, death, vulnerability, fear. We have, in the old language of Alchemy, crossed into the Nigredo, the Blackening. This is a season of decay, of shedding and endings, of falling apart and undoing. This is not a time of rising and growth. It is not a time of confidence and ease. No. We are hunkered down. Down being the operative word. From the perspective of soul, down is holy ground.
Many of the great myths begin in a time such as this. The land has become barren, the king, corrupted, the ways of peace, lost. It is in these conditions, that a ripeness arises for radical change. It is a call to courage (from the French for full heart) and humility. Every one of us will be affected by the changes wrought by this difficult visitation. It is time to become immense.
This collection of fifteen essays and reflections were written over the years, often in response to local or cultural experiences. They form a primer on ways to hold this wild terrain through practices rooted in soul. May they offer you some ground upon which to find solace in these unsettled times.
Many of the great myths begin in a time such as this. The land has become barren, the king, corrupted, the ways of peace, lost. It is in these conditions, that a ripeness arises for radical change. It is a call to courage (from the French for full heart) and humility. Every one of us will be affected by the changes wrought by this difficult visitation. It is time to become immense.
This collection of fifteen essays and reflections were written over the years, often in response to local or cultural experiences. They form a primer on ways to hold this wild terrain through practices rooted in soul. May they offer you some ground upon which to find solace in these unsettled times.
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Published March 1, 2020
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June 15, 2025
Book Review: In the Absence of the Ordinary: Soul Work for Times of Uncertainty by Francis Weller
As a sociologist and public health professional, I approached Francis Weller’s In the Absence of the Ordinary with both professional curiosity and personal vulnerability. Weller’s collection of essays—a lyrical blend of psychotherapy, ecology, and soul activism—resonates deeply with contemporary discourses on collective trauma, structural alienation, and the public health crisis of disconnection. This is not merely a book about grief; it is a radical reimagining of how we might metabolize the fractures of modernity.
Emotional and Intellectual Resonance
Weller’s framing of our era as a “rough initiation” (a liminal space where old systems crumble) struck me as profoundly sociological. His critique of modernity’s “false armor”—the illusion of individualism, the erosion of communal rituals—mirrors my research on how neoliberal structures exacerbate mental health disparities. The essay The Gift of Restraint moved me to tears with its call to “slow down and listen to the whispers of the world,” a stark counter to public health’s often mechanistic solutions to suffering.
As a woman in academia, I found Weller’s emphasis on embodied wisdom particularly validating. His rejection of detached intellectualism in favor of reverent engagement with grief aligns with feminist critiques of Cartesian dualism. Yet, I also felt a pang of frustration: while Weller beautifully articulates the wounds of late capitalism, his solutions often hover in the realm of the metaphysical. How might these soulful practices translate into policy or community interventions?
Constructive Critique
-Structural Blind Spots: Weller’s analysis of collective trauma would benefit from explicit engagement with intersectional frameworks. How do race, class, and gender shape access to the rituals of kinship he prescribes? The essays occasionally risk universalizing grief in ways that may not resonate for marginalized communities navigating systemic violence.
-Public Health Bridges: While Weller critiques modernity’s psychic numbing, he misses opportunities to connect with public health literature on social determinants of mental health. A dialogue with scholars like Judith Herman or Bruce Perry could ground his poetic insights in actionable theory.
-Praxis Gaps: The book’s strength—its spiritual depth—can also feel exclusionary. For readers steeped in secular or scientific paradigms, more concrete examples of soul work in clinical or community settings would bolster its applicability.
Why This Book Matters
In the Absence of the Ordinary is a vital antidote to the despair of our times. Weller’s essays remind us that grief—whether for a dying planet or a fractured society—is not a pathology to be cured but a sacred thread connecting us to what remains alive. For sociologists, it challenges us to center soul in structural analysis; for public health practitioners, it offers a language to reclaim healing as a collective, embodied practice.
Thank you to the publisher and Edelweiss for providing a free review copy. This book will stay with me as both a balm and a provocation—a call to become immense in the face of collapse.
Reviewer’s Note: Pair this with Braiding Sweetgrass (Kimmerer) for ecological kinship, or My Grandmother’s Hands (Menakem) for trauma-informed somatic work. A rare work that marries poetic grace with urgent social critique.
As a sociologist and public health professional, I approached Francis Weller’s In the Absence of the Ordinary with both professional curiosity and personal vulnerability. Weller’s collection of essays—a lyrical blend of psychotherapy, ecology, and soul activism—resonates deeply with contemporary discourses on collective trauma, structural alienation, and the public health crisis of disconnection. This is not merely a book about grief; it is a radical reimagining of how we might metabolize the fractures of modernity.
Emotional and Intellectual Resonance
Weller’s framing of our era as a “rough initiation” (a liminal space where old systems crumble) struck me as profoundly sociological. His critique of modernity’s “false armor”—the illusion of individualism, the erosion of communal rituals—mirrors my research on how neoliberal structures exacerbate mental health disparities. The essay The Gift of Restraint moved me to tears with its call to “slow down and listen to the whispers of the world,” a stark counter to public health’s often mechanistic solutions to suffering.
As a woman in academia, I found Weller’s emphasis on embodied wisdom particularly validating. His rejection of detached intellectualism in favor of reverent engagement with grief aligns with feminist critiques of Cartesian dualism. Yet, I also felt a pang of frustration: while Weller beautifully articulates the wounds of late capitalism, his solutions often hover in the realm of the metaphysical. How might these soulful practices translate into policy or community interventions?
Constructive Critique
-Structural Blind Spots: Weller’s analysis of collective trauma would benefit from explicit engagement with intersectional frameworks. How do race, class, and gender shape access to the rituals of kinship he prescribes? The essays occasionally risk universalizing grief in ways that may not resonate for marginalized communities navigating systemic violence.
-Public Health Bridges: While Weller critiques modernity’s psychic numbing, he misses opportunities to connect with public health literature on social determinants of mental health. A dialogue with scholars like Judith Herman or Bruce Perry could ground his poetic insights in actionable theory.
-Praxis Gaps: The book’s strength—its spiritual depth—can also feel exclusionary. For readers steeped in secular or scientific paradigms, more concrete examples of soul work in clinical or community settings would bolster its applicability.
Why This Book Matters
In the Absence of the Ordinary is a vital antidote to the despair of our times. Weller’s essays remind us that grief—whether for a dying planet or a fractured society—is not a pathology to be cured but a sacred thread connecting us to what remains alive. For sociologists, it challenges us to center soul in structural analysis; for public health practitioners, it offers a language to reclaim healing as a collective, embodied practice.
Thank you to the publisher and Edelweiss for providing a free review copy. This book will stay with me as both a balm and a provocation—a call to become immense in the face of collapse.
Reviewer’s Note: Pair this with Braiding Sweetgrass (Kimmerer) for ecological kinship, or My Grandmother’s Hands (Menakem) for trauma-informed somatic work. A rare work that marries poetic grace with urgent social critique.
July 3, 2021
Thought-provoking philosophical and spiritual themed essays. Offers a blueprint to enrich our lives by diverting from the path of rushed, egocentric consumerism that dominates modern life.
September 3, 2025
I love Francis and consider him a teacher but this felt rushed. Abbreviated.
August 31, 2025
Absolutely fantastic and exactly the medicine I needed at this point of my life.
September 16, 2025
More all-encompassing than his previous book and attuned to the conflicts of our times. To slow down and be grateful with affection is the goal. What’s not to like about that?
August 22, 2025
Francis Weller’s writing feels like being invited into the deepest room of the soul.
In In the Absence of the Ordinary he speaks with such honesty about the long dark, about the thresholds we cross when life strips us bare.
His love for Native traditions and for the living world runs through every page, steady and reverent, carrying us back to belonging.
I have long loved his work with grief in The Wild Edge of Sorrow, and this book feels like a companion to that path, widening the circle, showing how grief, beauty, and love are inseparable threads.
The language is luminous and unhurried, more ritual than reflection, reminding us that descent is not exile but initiation.
What struck me most were his reflections on the medicine we find when we go deep.
It is in the very heart of the long dark that something essential is restored, our capacity for tenderness, for reverence, for seeing ourselves as part of the living whole.
Weller reminds us that what we most fear to enter often holds the remedy we most need.
I am so grateful for Francis Wellers’ presence in the world. ♥️🙏🏼
In In the Absence of the Ordinary he speaks with such honesty about the long dark, about the thresholds we cross when life strips us bare.
His love for Native traditions and for the living world runs through every page, steady and reverent, carrying us back to belonging.
I have long loved his work with grief in The Wild Edge of Sorrow, and this book feels like a companion to that path, widening the circle, showing how grief, beauty, and love are inseparable threads.
The language is luminous and unhurried, more ritual than reflection, reminding us that descent is not exile but initiation.
What struck me most were his reflections on the medicine we find when we go deep.
It is in the very heart of the long dark that something essential is restored, our capacity for tenderness, for reverence, for seeing ourselves as part of the living whole.
Weller reminds us that what we most fear to enter often holds the remedy we most need.
I am so grateful for Francis Wellers’ presence in the world. ♥️🙏🏼
August 18, 2025
Francis Weller has an ability to weave together grief, soul, and community in a way that feels refreshing and profoundly needed for these times. This collection of essays is like a compass for moving through the uncertainty, fractures, and anxieties of modern life while reminding us of our enduring connection to the sacred. I especially appreciated his reflections on descent, self-compassion and gratitude, timeless reminders that healing often begins in the depths. A contemplative, nourishing read for anyone seeking meaning and resilience in an era of upheaval.
November 27, 2025
I love his writing which provides the reader with a state of calm, incredible insights and points to consider in these unpredictable situations we find ourselves in. I especially like the essay format with reflections at the end of some sections.
February 23, 2024
Inspiring and poetical, beautifully written
August 31, 2025
First read was cursory. I bought a copy and will revisit deeper in the winter.
September 20, 2025
Frances Weller’s work is always profound and his words are exactly what we need for these times. A balm for the soul and a guide for our darkest moments.
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October 3, 2025Fucking good. Got into this book without any expectations. Didn't know what it was going to be like. So much of it deeply resonated with my being and seemed so true to my soul and consciousness.
November 20, 2025
Right book at the right time. Absolutely loved this!
November 23, 2025
A missive for the rising tides of grief in America and a reframing of what’s possible when Indigenous rituals and sacraments are treasured instead of mocked.
October 1, 2025
I devoured this book.
Weller writes with depth about what he calls the Long Dark - those periods of descent, great change, and profound transformation that the collective and individuals traverse. He shares wisdom to help navigate such journeys of the soul and creates a soft landing for the multitude of emotions such times evoke. This book engaged me mentally and moved me emotionally.
As a professional in the field of childbirth and the rite of passage into parenthood, this book resonated profoundly. While Weller speaks of the period we're in collectively as one of "absence of the ordinary" the loss of what is familiar and ordinary also applies to the period of transformation individuals and couples go through when becoming parents.
I recommend expectant parents and anyone going through transformation read this book.
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This will be a book I return to over and over again and have already recommended to others.
Weller writes with depth about what he calls the Long Dark - those periods of descent, great change, and profound transformation that the collective and individuals traverse. He shares wisdom to help navigate such journeys of the soul and creates a soft landing for the multitude of emotions such times evoke. This book engaged me mentally and moved me emotionally.
As a professional in the field of childbirth and the rite of passage into parenthood, this book resonated profoundly. While Weller speaks of the period we're in collectively as one of "absence of the ordinary" the loss of what is familiar and ordinary also applies to the period of transformation individuals and couples go through when becoming parents.
I recommend expectant parents and anyone going through transformation read this book.
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This will be a book I return to over and over again and have already recommended to others.
November 1, 2025
This book came at the perfect time. I read half of it and then found the essays after that a little repetitive. But it certainly helped me through these complicated times
October 3, 2025
A majestic and healing book unafraid to look at the critical moment we are in and offer deep medicine for the challenges ahead.
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