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The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction
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Published January 1, 2008
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Arielle Ford
47 books78 followersArielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. For the past 30 years she has been living, teaching, and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is a celebrated love and relationship expert, author, speaker, and is the co-creator and host of Evolving Wisdom’s Art of Love series. Her mission is to help people Find Love, Keep Love and Be Love.
Arielle is a gifted writer and the author of eleven books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction (published in 21 languages and 40 countries).
She has also written many groundbreaking books including Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After and Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, and Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.
A long-time “Student of Love,” Arielle regularly presents workshops around the world including England, Germany, Italy, Mexico, Kuwait, Canada, Romania, Ireland, Austria and Bali as well as personal growth centers such as Omega Institute, Kripalu, The Chopra Center, Esalen, Alternatives in London, AwesomenessFest, Celebrate Your Life, and many other prestigious venues..
Arielle has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love.” She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.
Arielle is a gifted writer and the author of eleven books including the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction (published in 21 languages and 40 countries).
She has also written many groundbreaking books including Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate: A Practical Guide To Happily Ever After and Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships, and Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.
A long-time “Student of Love,” Arielle regularly presents workshops around the world including England, Germany, Italy, Mexico, Kuwait, Canada, Romania, Ireland, Austria and Bali as well as personal growth centers such as Omega Institute, Kripalu, The Chopra Center, Esalen, Alternatives in London, AwesomenessFest, Celebrate Your Life, and many other prestigious venues..
Arielle has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love.” She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.
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December 30, 2013
I read this book and enjoyed it. I did the recommended affirmations and also created the Love Mandala referenced inside. I returned the book to the library thinking it was a decent read and originally gave it 3 stars....4 months after creating the mandala, a small "vision board" area, and posting affirmations around the mandala on my dresser mirror, someone who fit my exact desires appeared in my life! That was September 2012. He now lives with me and we are celebrating a year of growth, happiness and love!
Was it the book? Was it my intentions? At the very least I can say this book gave me hope, and made me feel as though I was doing something about what direction I wanted my life and relationships to take. It also helped me focus on exactly what I want in a partner and what I bring to the table myself. Worth picking up and applying to your life!
Was it the book? Was it my intentions? At the very least I can say this book gave me hope, and made me feel as though I was doing something about what direction I wanted my life and relationships to take. It also helped me focus on exactly what I want in a partner and what I bring to the table myself. Worth picking up and applying to your life!
September 11, 2018
I was on this like soul mate kick for the past three years of my life...I couldn't take it anymore...I wanted my soulmate to find me now, and I was angry because everyone else seemed to be finding their happily-ever-afters whether that be alone or married, and I kept coming up with zero...It was very frustrating.This book found me at the library one rainy day here in baltimore, md. And I read it in one sitting, plus, took notes and completed all of the exercises...that was almost a year ago now and my soulmate still hasn't found me yet (sighes), but, at least I'm not as frustrated as I had been over the past couple of years about it anymore...If you follow the practices of the law of attraction or just want a fun read to get your true love juices flowing I would recommend this book to you...If you think that all of the teachings about positive thinking and using the law of attraction are a bunch of bs, this is definately not the book for you...none the less I can not lie I thoroughly enjoyed the experience of reading this book:)
October 26, 2019
I'm always a bit critical when I see cheesy titles like this one but because it's a LOA book, I decided to check it out.
First of all, it's a smooth read, the book is filled with suggestions, ideas and stories for the hopeless romantic. I think the stories are especially inspiring for those who have been single for a long time and are losing hope... they almost sound like happy-end-fairytales. Be prepared to read lots of them.
I've been asking myself a lot of times why friend x or y is single. People who are attractive, and sweet... I could not really figure out why they could not attract a partner. As a LOA student, my curiosity always tries to figure out things. When Arielle mentioned the state of the bedroom, it totally made sense. I can name several single-friends with the biggest mess in their room... you know, the kinda mess you don't want a new partner to see! It made me understand the dynamics of single people, and most of all, the ways they are blocking a possible new relationship, a lot of times subconsciously.
Arielle talks about affirmations, vision boards, the kind of LOA stuff you already know if you have read other LOA books. I'm not sure if I agree with obsessive vision boarding and massive wishlists, but this is just one of the many ideas given. She also talks about self worth, feng shui and blocks.
The best thing for me personally were the questionnaires. Basically they are questions which reflect how ready you are for your new person. If there is even 1 question getting a 'no', that's the reason why you are single. Which can be something you have peace with, or not, but still an important reason why you are single.
Because of this book I now have a better understanding of why several of my friends can't find a life partner. If they would ask for ideas or help, I will use this book as a reference for sure.
First of all, it's a smooth read, the book is filled with suggestions, ideas and stories for the hopeless romantic. I think the stories are especially inspiring for those who have been single for a long time and are losing hope... they almost sound like happy-end-fairytales. Be prepared to read lots of them.
I've been asking myself a lot of times why friend x or y is single. People who are attractive, and sweet... I could not really figure out why they could not attract a partner. As a LOA student, my curiosity always tries to figure out things. When Arielle mentioned the state of the bedroom, it totally made sense. I can name several single-friends with the biggest mess in their room... you know, the kinda mess you don't want a new partner to see! It made me understand the dynamics of single people, and most of all, the ways they are blocking a possible new relationship, a lot of times subconsciously.
Arielle talks about affirmations, vision boards, the kind of LOA stuff you already know if you have read other LOA books. I'm not sure if I agree with obsessive vision boarding and massive wishlists, but this is just one of the many ideas given. She also talks about self worth, feng shui and blocks.
The best thing for me personally were the questionnaires. Basically they are questions which reflect how ready you are for your new person. If there is even 1 question getting a 'no', that's the reason why you are single. Which can be something you have peace with, or not, but still an important reason why you are single.
Because of this book I now have a better understanding of why several of my friends can't find a life partner. If they would ask for ideas or help, I will use this book as a reference for sure.
June 6, 2018
Call me a hopeless romantic, but I believe in soulmates, and I believe in the law of attraction.
This book gave an interesting take on preparing to have a soulmate in your life.
If you are interested in such things, you will find it to be enlightening and enjoyable reading.
This book gave an interesting take on preparing to have a soulmate in your life.
If you are interested in such things, you will find it to be enlightening and enjoyable reading.
April 27, 2011
The best part of the books is reading about how people met. I'm a big sucker for real life love stories!
September 22, 2013
There were some good tips at the beginning of this book. I believe in the Law of Attraction and this book goes into that area. The author gave examples of internal dialogue that we may be sending out to the Universe that has caused confusion or stoppage. Sending mixed signals is clearly covered and a few neat solutions are presented to include creating a visual "mapping" of what you are looking for. Lay it out all there. Sort through your thoughts. Are you ready for a relationship? This and other questions are presented for you to ponder. Good stuf!
The author used a few examples of relationships and how they came to be that I thought were cool examples of how the Universe delivers what we request, so be careful what you request.
After the "mapping" I felt the author went outside of my comfort zone into the "yeah right" area.
The author used a few examples of relationships and how they came to be that I thought were cool examples of how the Universe delivers what we request, so be careful what you request.
After the "mapping" I felt the author went outside of my comfort zone into the "yeah right" area.
July 29, 2022
#9 of 25 loa books
Good
Whether this book 'works' or not doesn't depend on the book. The main thing is your subconscious mindset. If you diligently do all the exercises but subconsciously hate men, the man you wish for cannot come into your life simply because your energy is too contradictory. Working towards becoming the partner you want works best.
Good
Whether this book 'works' or not doesn't depend on the book. The main thing is your subconscious mindset. If you diligently do all the exercises but subconsciously hate men, the man you wish for cannot come into your life simply because your energy is too contradictory. Working towards becoming the partner you want works best.
August 21, 2014
First of all - this is the book for those who believe in soul mates and destiny and really wants to find The One. Honestly, I am kinda skeptical towards the exercises she suggests, but her idea is just wonderful. It isn't said that if you do everything that is in the book, you will find your one true love, no. It just makes you be sure that you obviously will find the best partner for you, if you have enough patience. The main idea in the book is that IF YOU WANT TO FIND A PERFECT MAN IN ALL SENSES, WHY NOT BEGIN WITH YOURSELF? Are you sure that YOU are good enough for this charming prince? Maybe this is why he isn't with you yet - because he is looking for his mrs Right and you are just lying on a couch eating cookies and crying over sad movies. Get up from your bed, make yourself beautiful and start working on your body, brain and intelligence. Become a wonder woman and your superman will surely find you. I loved the book, it really reassures you and helps you forget all the previous drama to be free and open to some new experience in future.
And what if all your life and all your experience you have now is just a practice before your Mr Right?)
And what if all your life and all your experience you have now is just a practice before your Mr Right?)
July 18, 2019
A fabulous book
I can’t recommend this book highly enough. It’s fabulous. I’m actually writing a book about finding love, so I did what writers often do—look to see what the masters have written...without copying them, of course. Arielle Ford is a master at finding true love and living the law of attraction. She also writes in a fun, loving, uplifting way...coaching the reader to live the life of his or her dreams.
Since I already have the love of my life, I thought about other dreams that want to express, and this book, while specifically about finding one’s soulmate, could be about any long-held desire. Arielle encourages us to gain clarity: what do we want? Is there room in our lives for it? What needs to be cleared out? What actions need to be taken? And then be ready to receive. Thank you, Arielle, for this lovely roadmap to a life well lived.
I can’t recommend this book highly enough. It’s fabulous. I’m actually writing a book about finding love, so I did what writers often do—look to see what the masters have written...without copying them, of course. Arielle Ford is a master at finding true love and living the law of attraction. She also writes in a fun, loving, uplifting way...coaching the reader to live the life of his or her dreams.
Since I already have the love of my life, I thought about other dreams that want to express, and this book, while specifically about finding one’s soulmate, could be about any long-held desire. Arielle encourages us to gain clarity: what do we want? Is there room in our lives for it? What needs to be cleared out? What actions need to be taken? And then be ready to receive. Thank you, Arielle, for this lovely roadmap to a life well lived.
October 5, 2020
I wanted to share with others that I used this process in the book in my 20's and it really did work! I met my 'perfect partner' about a year after reading it and we've been together since 2013. Arielle invites you to get clear on what aspects you'd like in your partner and it turns out he was all of mine (I didn't specify age so he was a bit older!) After dating him for a bit, I did tell him i got clear on all of the things I was looking for in a life long partner, and the beautifully crazy part was he had created a a similar process with a vision board and list too to attract me! I recommend this book wholeheartedly x
March 16, 2020
This book was entertaining, and gave me hope. Whether the LoA actually works or not, there really is no harm in trying. At the very least I'll carry on a positive outlook in life. I liked that the author actually gave a step-by-step guide on how to do some techniques on how to manifest your soulmate. It made it more "tangible" in a sense because I can actually do those activities while savoring the waiting period. I mean regardless if they work or not, it is nice to meditate and reflect on things that I want for my future relationship. The personal stories of the people featured in the book were also inspiring and uplifting. Arielle's personal story of when she met her husband was surreal. It must be nice to have such serendipitous moment when I meet my own soulmate.
Overall, I liked this (audio)book.
Overall, I liked this (audio)book.
December 20, 2018
3.5 ⭐️. It has more substance than I expected. And it’s inspired me to make a change or two.
December 3, 2023
No es para gente joven, pero es interesante y entretenido
August 6, 2014
رح أحكي بالعربي .. عشان آخد راحتي بالتعبير :P
بديت أسمع الكتاب الصوتي ( The Soulmate Secret) بناءاً على توصية من صديقة إلي ، ما كنت متوقعة شو ممكن يكون محتواه ولا شو هالسر الخرافي إلّي ممكن يخلّيني ألاقي "رجل أحلامي"!
الكتاب عبارة عن تجربة الكاتبة الشخصية و تجارب ناس غيرها طبقوا الأسرار و التمارين المذكورة في الكتاب و خلّتهم بالنهاية يلاقوا الشريك المناسب إلّي عم بدوروا عليه من زمان أو بالأحرى their soul mates
تلخيصاً لبعض أفكار الكتاب ..
لازم تآمن بدايةً إنه مش بس إنت عم بتدوّر على "شقيق روحك" ، إنما هو كمان عم بدوّر عليك و حاطط بباله نفس مواصفاتك إنت بالزبط! ولازم تآ��ن إنه بالنهاية رح تلتقوا ، كيف و وين هاد الشي برجع للقدر إلّي رح يجمعكم بالوقت المناسب.
بس بالمقابل لازم تخلّي كل الخيارات قدامك مفتوحة و تسعى دايماً إنك تتعرف ع ناس جداد و تروح عالأماكن إلّي ممكن تلاقي فيها شخص بالمواصفات إلّي بتدوّر عليها.
لازم تحب حالك قبل أي حدا تاني لأنه إلّي ما بحب حاله مستحيل يقدر يحب غيره أو يعطي للعلاقة من قلبه ، لازم تكون مبسوط بحياتك بوجود شريك و بعدم وجوده. و عشان تجذب الشريك المناسب لازم تكونه! مثلاً إذا كنت بتدوّر عحدا مهتم بصحته و رياضي لازم تكون إنتا هيك بالأول.
لازم تتخلص من أي شي بالماضي ، أي علاقة فاشلة أو حزن أو غضب لازم تشيله من جواتك لحتى تفسح المجال لحدا جديد يدخل قلبك و هو صافي مرتاح. و طبعاً الكاتبة قدمت تدريبات جيدة جداً بخصوص هالشي مستحيل تخطر عبالك تعملها!
و غيرها كتير من الأفكار اللطيفة و المبتكرة بتخلّيك تحدد بالزبط شو بدّك ،بس عالأقل بتطلع من الكتاب حابب حالك أكتر و مقدّر حياتك و كل شي فيها و مقرر إنك تنبسط فيها بغض النظر عن وجود الشريك.
ضلّ أجربها و أشوف شو النتيجة ، إذا كانت النتيجة مش مرضية رح أرجع و أتراجع عن تقييم النجمات الأربعة :P
بديت أسمع الكتاب الصوتي ( The Soulmate Secret) بناءاً على توصية من صديقة إلي ، ما كنت متوقعة شو ممكن يكون محتواه ولا شو هالسر الخرافي إلّي ممكن يخلّيني ألاقي "رجل أحلامي"!
الكتاب عبارة عن تجربة الكاتبة الشخصية و تجارب ناس غيرها طبقوا الأسرار و التمارين المذكورة في الكتاب و خلّتهم بالنهاية يلاقوا الشريك المناسب إلّي عم بدوروا عليه من زمان أو بالأحرى their soul mates
تلخيصاً لبعض أفكار الكتاب ..
لازم تآمن بدايةً إنه مش بس إنت عم بتدوّر على "شقيق روحك" ، إنما هو كمان عم بدوّر عليك و حاطط بباله نفس مواصفاتك إنت بالزبط! ولازم تآ��ن إنه بالنهاية رح تلتقوا ، كيف و وين هاد الشي برجع للقدر إلّي رح يجمعكم بالوقت المناسب.
بس بالمقابل لازم تخلّي كل الخيارات قدامك مفتوحة و تسعى دايماً إنك تتعرف ع ناس جداد و تروح عالأماكن إلّي ممكن تلاقي فيها شخص بالمواصفات إلّي بتدوّر عليها.
لازم تحب حالك قبل أي حدا تاني لأنه إلّي ما بحب حاله مستحيل يقدر يحب غيره أو يعطي للعلاقة من قلبه ، لازم تكون مبسوط بحياتك بوجود شريك و بعدم وجوده. و عشان تجذب الشريك المناسب لازم تكونه! مثلاً إذا كنت بتدوّر عحدا مهتم بصحته و رياضي لازم تكون إنتا هيك بالأول.
لازم تتخلص من أي شي بالماضي ، أي علاقة فاشلة أو حزن أو غضب لازم تشيله من جواتك لحتى تفسح المجال لحدا جديد يدخل قلبك و هو صافي مرتاح. و طبعاً الكاتبة قدمت تدريبات جيدة جداً بخصوص هالشي مستحيل تخطر عبالك تعملها!
و غيرها كتير من الأفكار اللطيفة و المبتكرة بتخلّيك تحدد بالزبط شو بدّك ،بس عالأقل بتطلع من الكتاب حابب حالك أكتر و مقدّر حياتك و كل شي فيها و مقرر إنك تنبسط فيها بغض النظر عن وجود الشريك.
ضلّ أجربها و أشوف شو النتيجة ، إذا كانت النتيجة مش مرضية رح أرجع و أتراجع عن تقييم النجمات الأربعة :P
June 12, 2011
Just finished this book and it was okay. I do like the thought that the one is out there looking for me as I am looking to him. It also gave me a different way to think of the qualities I am looking of in my life partner. But this book seems to come from the idea that the reader doesn't like himself or herself and waiting for "the one" to complete them. So, if you fit that description this book is perfect for you as she gives exercises and tips on how to fall in love with yourself first before you find "the one" for you.
February 28, 2016
And we have a winner! I give it the first place among the most boring and useless books I have had the misfortune of reading this year. People, be smart, and don't waste your money or time on it. You won't learn nothing new or useful from this 'bestseller'. If you want, I can summarize this book's content for you in one sentence: think happy thoughts, wish for happiness and you'll be happy. Fascinating.
August 1, 2013
I loved this book! It had some very great exercises to do that made you feel like you were making a difference. I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction and this book has helped me further into believing. Fantastic read, thank you very much Arielle Ford. You're an inspiration to us all :0)
April 6, 2010
"A Love Letter from God" is the redeeming chapter of this book.
July 23, 2018
This book is how I ended up with my Fiance. In eight months or so after reading too. I highly recommend to those searching for their soulmate twin flame...I have mine and we just celebrated one year.
June 3, 2021
Easy breezy and to the point
This book was very easy to understand; I loved how many of the concepts were followed by a tangible example of the concept being applied.
This book was very easy to understand; I loved how many of the concepts were followed by a tangible example of the concept being applied.
March 16, 2022
This book is powerful, but down to earth, I will continue to reference this book until my soulmate crosses my paths and stops and tells me he’s found me.
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April 10, 20205. Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you're willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become an energetic match for the love you're seeking.
6. I'm a firm believer that to realize success in any area of our lives, we must balance faith with action.
If you make the space for it, love will find its way to you, and even the most unlikely couplings are possible.
A soulmate is someone with whom you share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can be completely yourself. It's someone whom you love unconditionally and who loves you unconditionally. Without trying to sound too sentimental, a soulmate is someone who "completes" you.
7. "We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything--the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things--all of it, all the time, every day. You're saying, 'Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness." {Susan Sarandon/𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘞𝘦 𝘋𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦?}
Just being able to visualize isn't enough-- you have to 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 in every cell of your being the outcome you want to create in order to begin to draw it toward you. It's the feeling--not the image--that holds the power to attract.
8. As you cultivate the feelings you are longing to experience with your soulmate and begin to live as if they were already with you, you will automatically be guided to impulses and actions that will you upon the path to finding him or her.
14. When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience an inner conflict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognizing the possibilities for love that exist all around us.
The Universal Law of Attraction states that we draw to us those people, events, and circumstances that match our inner states of being. In other words, we attract experiences that are consistent with our beliefs. If we believe that there is plenty of love in the world and we are worthy of giving and receiving that love, we will attract a different quality of relationships than someone who believes in scarcity or feels unworthy of happiness. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful, and fearful place, then eventually that will become our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soulmate is out there is a critical first step in the formula for manifesting him or her into your life.
15. When deep down in the core of your being you believe that your soulmate exists, there is no limit to the ways he or she can enter your life.
The point is, it is not necessary for you to know how or where or when your soulmate will appear. Your only work right now is to begin to nurture the belief that he or she exists and that you will find each other when the time is right.
17. Regardless of our personal histories in relationships, we can choose to adopt the belief that everything we've been through has been but preparation for finding our true love.
28. Ultimately, it;s not your job to know 𝘏𝘖𝘞 your soulmate is going to appear. It's only your job to be ready, willing, and open to receive your soulmate's love. You don't exactly know where air or water come from, but you totally believe they are there for you. As a human being, you know that air and water are part of your diving inheritance. No matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It's there for you. It's always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are, and once you do, the Universe will bring you more of it. In other words, there is nothing for you to do; there is only a way for you to 𝘣𝘦. Be the loving person you are; live in the knowingness that you deserve to have a loving, committed relationship; and savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
35. Remember, what you believe to be true about yourself in the innermost recesses of your heart and mind is what gets mirrored back to you through your external circumstances.
You are inherently lovable, and the moment you start believing that with all your heart and mind, you will begin to see evidence of it all around you. Now is the time to see yourself as you want your beloved to see you and to treat yourself as you would have him or her treat you. You wouldn't long to find true love unless you were capable of being such a lover.
40. --it's imperative that you create emotional, physical, and psychological space in your life and that you actively plan for his or her impending arrival. Nature abhors a vacuum. This means that the faster and more completely we clear out the old, the more rapidly and easily we'll draw in the new.
41. When I envision my own heart, I see it as a vast, loving, elastic, sacred space that fits within my chest and expands to encompass everything in the Universe. There is a place in my heart for people I love and am currently in relationship with, and there is a place in my heart for those I have loved but am no longer invested in or directing my attention toward.
42. You may not realize it, but resenting someone binds you just as tightly to that person as longing does.
45. It wasn't so much the fairy tale version of Prince Charming I was looking for but rather a deep connection with the man I felt was part of my life's destiny, a man my soul would recognize as home.
57. ...if you want to be ready, willing, and able to welcome your soulmate into your life, you must carve out the physical, emotional, and mental space that will allow to recognize his presence and pursue your connection with him. But there is also another kind of space you need to begin to cultivate, and this is the spaciousness that can only arise from quiet reflection and meditation.
58. I have come to understand that timing really is everything. To accept this means that we become willing to work on the Universe's timetable rather than clinging stubbornly to our own. Timing and destiny are inevitably entwined and we must learn to trust the divine unfolding of each.
62. Our homes are not just shelters made up of four walls, windows, and doors. Ideally, they are havens, inner sanctums that reflect our deepest feelings and highest values. The underlying vibration or feeling you get when you walk into a place is an indication of that home's energy. The sights, smells, and and tastes that meet your senses contribute to this feeling, but there is also something more subtle that can only be registered in your gut as a feeling of being comfortable or uncomfortable in a particular environment. When you walk into a room where people have been fighting and feel tension so thick you could cut it with a knife you are tuning in to the energy of that room. Likewise, when you walk into someone's house and feel instantly at ease, it's often more a function of the energy of the place than any particular architecture or decor.
64. Eliminating physical clutter from your life is one of the fastest ways I know to increase the inflow of new positive energy.
74. In Feng Shut, your bedroom is a place that promotes a harmonious flow of nourishing and sensual energy. Ideally, it should be inviting and soothing, exciting and calming at the same time.
78. Hopefully you are now inspired to transform your home into what I like to call "a soft place to land." This refers to both the physical environment of our homes as well as the emotional places within our hearts. A soft place to land is ultimately what we are looking for in an intimate relationship. And by creating a space in your home right now that you can retreat to, you are in a very tangible sense giving yourself what you are looking for in a relationship.
83. But if what God said to Neale (𝘋𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘥 𝘞𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘤𝘩) is true--that wanting only produces more wanting--then once we've identified what it is we want, we must learn how to shift our state from wanting it to having it. In the simplest terms, this is the process of living as 𝘪𝘧.
Living as if means stepping outside of your current reality and stepping into the reality you wish to be true. It's when your daily actions reflect and are congruent with your belief that your soulmate exists and is already yours.
84. She sent a clear message to the Universe, and the Universe delivered.
85. When you live as if what you want is already your reality, you gain a whole new perspective on your life. Back in the 1970s, when the human potential movement was just beginning to emerge, research revealed that the human nervous system can't tell the difference between a real event and an imagined event. Conjuring the sensations of what it will be like to share your life with another not only changes the way you feel, it can alter your attitude, your posture, and even guide you toward new behaviors.
86. Now is the time to stop complaining that "all the good ones are taken" and by all means to stop referring to yourself as a "diehard bachelor," a "spinster," or in any similar derogatory terms. Remember, you will attract someone who energetically matches the degree of esteem you have for yourself. If you are engaging in behaviors you wouldn't want your future lover to see, stop them.
88. Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate is magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate were already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready 𝘯𝘰𝘸.
91. To magnetize someone into your life who will love, cherish, and adore you, you first have to become your own biggest fan.
92. Living as if is a statement to the Universe that you're not willing to postpone your joy to some distance time in the future. The more you live each day as if you were already deeply and passionately in love, the easier it becomes for love to find you.
95-96. And here is the key to unlocking the full manifestation powers of the Universe: You must 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺 place your order.
Of course, placing an order for the love of your life demands a bit more thought than ordering up your favorite coffee drink. To do it correctly, you must first search your heart to discover what your really, really desire. I'm sure by now you probably know what you 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 want in a partner, but attracting your soulmate doesn't work that way. You must ask for what you 𝘥𝘰 want. And the clearer and more specific you are when you ask, the easier it will be for the Universe to answer your call.
Now is the time to deeply and honestly consider your unique goals, desires, tastes, and preferences. As you become clear about what is really important to you in every area of your life, you'll begin to send out a strong and consistent signal that will draw you to a partner who has values and goals that are similar to yours. If, however, you allow yourself to linger too long in ambiguity or get caught in the trap of "keeping all your options open," you may confuse the Cosmic Order Taker as to what it is you really want.
97. Compromising and accomodating to another person's needs are a part of growth, both as a couple and as individuals. However, if you find that being with a particular person means having to compromise one or more of your core values, I would suggest that he or she is probably not the person for you.
101. It's far more important that you clarify the inner characteristics you want in a partner than hold out for someone who has a specific physical characteristic.
Sometimes we have to let go of what we think we want in order to make space for the Universe to deliver what we need.
113. As Deepak Chopra writes in 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘚𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘚𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘓𝘢𝘸𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘚𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴, "In order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn't mean giving up the intention to create your desire... you give up your attachment to the result."
125. In trying to manifest your soulmate without first clearing out the emotional and psychic clutter of your past, you run the risk of attracting the same type of person you have failed with in the past.
126. As you prepare yourself to magnetize your soulmate, you must decide now to actively begin healing the deepest wounds of your heart. Please note that I said 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯 the healing process. For many of us, this may be a lifelong journey, and you don't have to be free of every bit of emotional baggage in order to manifest your soulmate. In fact, one of the things a soulmate does is help you to heal your deepest wounds. Nonetheless, if you are really committed to sending out a clear and pure signal of your readiness to attract a healthy, committed partner, you really do need to clear out the emotional blocks that keep your anchored to the past in a negative way.
A heart that is burdened with old hurts, disappointments, and resentments is simply not open enough to allow love to enter. In fact, your unprocessed or unhealed emotional wounds may be sending the Universe a mixed message.
127. Similarly, to release the emotional blocks that keep us from allowing love in, we must call upon the power of forgiveness. In her award-winning book, 𝘚𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘋𝘪𝘷𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘦, Debbie Ford, my sister and a bestselling author, explains that "forgiveness is the hallway between the past and the future." Put simply, when we have healed the scars of our pasts, we open the door to a more fulfilling future.
128. None of these men treated me with respect because I didn't respect myself. None of them were available to me emotionally because I was unavailable to myself. None of them were faithful because I was always betraying myself. All of them were caught in the same trap of dishonesty and denial as I was.
130. I became the love I had been looking for. I finally forgave myself.
131. Experience told us both, "If you do what you always did, you're gonna get what you always got!"
... forgiveness if a two-part process: first, we must forgive those who have hurt us, and second, we must forgive ourselves for all the times we didn't listen to our intuition or made choices out of desperation, or for any of the hundreds of other things for which we blame ourselves.
132. It's important to forgive yourself for all the times you allowed yourself to remain in relationships that didn't serve your highest and best good--and it's equally important to put it in writing.
137. Breathe deeply and feel the ways that your connection to the past is making you unavailable for love in the present.
138. Sometimes we hold onto the past--even if it was painful or unfulfilling--as a way to distract ourselves from the depth of longing that we have to find true love.
To the extent that you're holding on to the past, you are not available
6. I'm a firm believer that to realize success in any area of our lives, we must balance faith with action.
If you make the space for it, love will find its way to you, and even the most unlikely couplings are possible.
A soulmate is someone with whom you share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can be completely yourself. It's someone whom you love unconditionally and who loves you unconditionally. Without trying to sound too sentimental, a soulmate is someone who "completes" you.
7. "We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything--the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things--all of it, all the time, every day. You're saying, 'Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness." {Susan Sarandon/𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘞𝘦 𝘋𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦?}
Just being able to visualize isn't enough-- you have to 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 in every cell of your being the outcome you want to create in order to begin to draw it toward you. It's the feeling--not the image--that holds the power to attract.
8. As you cultivate the feelings you are longing to experience with your soulmate and begin to live as if they were already with you, you will automatically be guided to impulses and actions that will you upon the path to finding him or her.
14. When our beliefs contradict our desires, we experience an inner conflict that not only paralyzes us, but can actually prevent us from recognizing the possibilities for love that exist all around us.
The Universal Law of Attraction states that we draw to us those people, events, and circumstances that match our inner states of being. In other words, we attract experiences that are consistent with our beliefs. If we believe that there is plenty of love in the world and we are worthy of giving and receiving that love, we will attract a different quality of relationships than someone who believes in scarcity or feels unworthy of happiness. If we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful, and fearful place, then eventually that will become our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soulmate is out there is a critical first step in the formula for manifesting him or her into your life.
15. When deep down in the core of your being you believe that your soulmate exists, there is no limit to the ways he or she can enter your life.
The point is, it is not necessary for you to know how or where or when your soulmate will appear. Your only work right now is to begin to nurture the belief that he or she exists and that you will find each other when the time is right.
17. Regardless of our personal histories in relationships, we can choose to adopt the belief that everything we've been through has been but preparation for finding our true love.
28. Ultimately, it;s not your job to know 𝘏𝘖𝘞 your soulmate is going to appear. It's only your job to be ready, willing, and open to receive your soulmate's love. You don't exactly know where air or water come from, but you totally believe they are there for you. As a human being, you know that air and water are part of your diving inheritance. No matter what mistakes you have made in the past, you are still going to wake up every day and have access to air and water. The same is true for love. It's there for you. It's always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are, and once you do, the Universe will bring you more of it. In other words, there is nothing for you to do; there is only a way for you to 𝘣𝘦. Be the loving person you are; live in the knowingness that you deserve to have a loving, committed relationship; and savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
35. Remember, what you believe to be true about yourself in the innermost recesses of your heart and mind is what gets mirrored back to you through your external circumstances.
You are inherently lovable, and the moment you start believing that with all your heart and mind, you will begin to see evidence of it all around you. Now is the time to see yourself as you want your beloved to see you and to treat yourself as you would have him or her treat you. You wouldn't long to find true love unless you were capable of being such a lover.
40. --it's imperative that you create emotional, physical, and psychological space in your life and that you actively plan for his or her impending arrival. Nature abhors a vacuum. This means that the faster and more completely we clear out the old, the more rapidly and easily we'll draw in the new.
41. When I envision my own heart, I see it as a vast, loving, elastic, sacred space that fits within my chest and expands to encompass everything in the Universe. There is a place in my heart for people I love and am currently in relationship with, and there is a place in my heart for those I have loved but am no longer invested in or directing my attention toward.
42. You may not realize it, but resenting someone binds you just as tightly to that person as longing does.
45. It wasn't so much the fairy tale version of Prince Charming I was looking for but rather a deep connection with the man I felt was part of my life's destiny, a man my soul would recognize as home.
57. ...if you want to be ready, willing, and able to welcome your soulmate into your life, you must carve out the physical, emotional, and mental space that will allow to recognize his presence and pursue your connection with him. But there is also another kind of space you need to begin to cultivate, and this is the spaciousness that can only arise from quiet reflection and meditation.
58. I have come to understand that timing really is everything. To accept this means that we become willing to work on the Universe's timetable rather than clinging stubbornly to our own. Timing and destiny are inevitably entwined and we must learn to trust the divine unfolding of each.
62. Our homes are not just shelters made up of four walls, windows, and doors. Ideally, they are havens, inner sanctums that reflect our deepest feelings and highest values. The underlying vibration or feeling you get when you walk into a place is an indication of that home's energy. The sights, smells, and and tastes that meet your senses contribute to this feeling, but there is also something more subtle that can only be registered in your gut as a feeling of being comfortable or uncomfortable in a particular environment. When you walk into a room where people have been fighting and feel tension so thick you could cut it with a knife you are tuning in to the energy of that room. Likewise, when you walk into someone's house and feel instantly at ease, it's often more a function of the energy of the place than any particular architecture or decor.
64. Eliminating physical clutter from your life is one of the fastest ways I know to increase the inflow of new positive energy.
74. In Feng Shut, your bedroom is a place that promotes a harmonious flow of nourishing and sensual energy. Ideally, it should be inviting and soothing, exciting and calming at the same time.
78. Hopefully you are now inspired to transform your home into what I like to call "a soft place to land." This refers to both the physical environment of our homes as well as the emotional places within our hearts. A soft place to land is ultimately what we are looking for in an intimate relationship. And by creating a space in your home right now that you can retreat to, you are in a very tangible sense giving yourself what you are looking for in a relationship.
83. But if what God said to Neale (𝘋𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭𝘥 𝘞𝘢𝘭𝘴𝘤𝘩) is true--that wanting only produces more wanting--then once we've identified what it is we want, we must learn how to shift our state from wanting it to having it. In the simplest terms, this is the process of living as 𝘪𝘧.
Living as if means stepping outside of your current reality and stepping into the reality you wish to be true. It's when your daily actions reflect and are congruent with your belief that your soulmate exists and is already yours.
84. She sent a clear message to the Universe, and the Universe delivered.
85. When you live as if what you want is already your reality, you gain a whole new perspective on your life. Back in the 1970s, when the human potential movement was just beginning to emerge, research revealed that the human nervous system can't tell the difference between a real event and an imagined event. Conjuring the sensations of what it will be like to share your life with another not only changes the way you feel, it can alter your attitude, your posture, and even guide you toward new behaviors.
86. Now is the time to stop complaining that "all the good ones are taken" and by all means to stop referring to yourself as a "diehard bachelor," a "spinster," or in any similar derogatory terms. Remember, you will attract someone who energetically matches the degree of esteem you have for yourself. If you are engaging in behaviors you wouldn't want your future lover to see, stop them.
88. Remember, the process of attracting your soulmate is magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soulmate were already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready 𝘯𝘰𝘸.
91. To magnetize someone into your life who will love, cherish, and adore you, you first have to become your own biggest fan.
92. Living as if is a statement to the Universe that you're not willing to postpone your joy to some distance time in the future. The more you live each day as if you were already deeply and passionately in love, the easier it becomes for love to find you.
95-96. And here is the key to unlocking the full manifestation powers of the Universe: You must 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺 place your order.
Of course, placing an order for the love of your life demands a bit more thought than ordering up your favorite coffee drink. To do it correctly, you must first search your heart to discover what your really, really desire. I'm sure by now you probably know what you 𝘥𝘰𝘯'𝘵 want in a partner, but attracting your soulmate doesn't work that way. You must ask for what you 𝘥𝘰 want. And the clearer and more specific you are when you ask, the easier it will be for the Universe to answer your call.
Now is the time to deeply and honestly consider your unique goals, desires, tastes, and preferences. As you become clear about what is really important to you in every area of your life, you'll begin to send out a strong and consistent signal that will draw you to a partner who has values and goals that are similar to yours. If, however, you allow yourself to linger too long in ambiguity or get caught in the trap of "keeping all your options open," you may confuse the Cosmic Order Taker as to what it is you really want.
97. Compromising and accomodating to another person's needs are a part of growth, both as a couple and as individuals. However, if you find that being with a particular person means having to compromise one or more of your core values, I would suggest that he or she is probably not the person for you.
101. It's far more important that you clarify the inner characteristics you want in a partner than hold out for someone who has a specific physical characteristic.
Sometimes we have to let go of what we think we want in order to make space for the Universe to deliver what we need.
113. As Deepak Chopra writes in 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘚𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘚𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘓𝘢𝘸𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘚𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴, "In order to acquire anything in the physical universe, you have to relinquish your attachment to it. This doesn't mean giving up the intention to create your desire... you give up your attachment to the result."
125. In trying to manifest your soulmate without first clearing out the emotional and psychic clutter of your past, you run the risk of attracting the same type of person you have failed with in the past.
126. As you prepare yourself to magnetize your soulmate, you must decide now to actively begin healing the deepest wounds of your heart. Please note that I said 𝘣𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯 the healing process. For many of us, this may be a lifelong journey, and you don't have to be free of every bit of emotional baggage in order to manifest your soulmate. In fact, one of the things a soulmate does is help you to heal your deepest wounds. Nonetheless, if you are really committed to sending out a clear and pure signal of your readiness to attract a healthy, committed partner, you really do need to clear out the emotional blocks that keep your anchored to the past in a negative way.
A heart that is burdened with old hurts, disappointments, and resentments is simply not open enough to allow love to enter. In fact, your unprocessed or unhealed emotional wounds may be sending the Universe a mixed message.
127. Similarly, to release the emotional blocks that keep us from allowing love in, we must call upon the power of forgiveness. In her award-winning book, 𝘚𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭 𝘋𝘪𝘷𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘦, Debbie Ford, my sister and a bestselling author, explains that "forgiveness is the hallway between the past and the future." Put simply, when we have healed the scars of our pasts, we open the door to a more fulfilling future.
128. None of these men treated me with respect because I didn't respect myself. None of them were available to me emotionally because I was unavailable to myself. None of them were faithful because I was always betraying myself. All of them were caught in the same trap of dishonesty and denial as I was.
130. I became the love I had been looking for. I finally forgave myself.
131. Experience told us both, "If you do what you always did, you're gonna get what you always got!"
... forgiveness if a two-part process: first, we must forgive those who have hurt us, and second, we must forgive ourselves for all the times we didn't listen to our intuition or made choices out of desperation, or for any of the hundreds of other things for which we blame ourselves.
132. It's important to forgive yourself for all the times you allowed yourself to remain in relationships that didn't serve your highest and best good--and it's equally important to put it in writing.
137. Breathe deeply and feel the ways that your connection to the past is making you unavailable for love in the present.
138. Sometimes we hold onto the past--even if it was painful or unfulfilling--as a way to distract ourselves from the depth of longing that we have to find true love.
To the extent that you're holding on to the past, you are not available
October 18, 2020
I read this book because I want to meet my soul mate. I have been looking for him for a long time.
It's comforting to think he is out there looking for me, too.
Right now my rating is "fluffy at best and stupid at worst." If I meet my husband after my vision board is completed, I will come back and give the book 5 stars.
The exercises in the book are pretty fun and insightful; you will learn a lot about yourself from doing them. The book is so easy to read, you should actually pace yourself and do the exercises that go along with each chapter or you could finish the whole book in a day.
I don't expect anyone will ever read this review, but for my own thoughts I'm going to address some of the book's weaknesses and my own challenges in finding my soul mate so far.
First of all, when I meditate or pray about finding him, I get the overwhelming sense that he is dead. Of course this is extremely disconcerting. But since I am mainly alone anyway and Law of Attraction says you can find "someone like them, or someone better" (by the way, you can use this mantra too if you have unrequited love for a person who doesn't share your feelings) I have come to terms with this and am ready to move on and find someone anyway. Even if my soul mate really is dead, I don't think he would want me to be alone this long without deep affection from anyone. I truly believe I can find someone in this life.
Second, the book puts a lot of emphasis on healing your wounds and loving yourself. At first it deeply resonated with me because everyone has some small parts inside of themselves that need love. However, at some point in the middle of the book I felt like we were just navel gazing. To be honest, I do love myself (not trying to sound conceited.) I don't think we can achieve true love just from patting ourselves on the back and thinking about how great we are. At least for me, I want to be sharing that love with another person. For example, I think about the love shown to me by my parents, how much sacrifice and care they showed me growing up.
I think Arielle's response to that would be something along the lines of, "Great! You're ready." Ok, well, I have been ready, so where is he? (Or someone like him, if he is dead.)
That brings me to the third issue, "Savor the Waiting." I have hobbies, friends, and a job. I also consciously make time for dating and meeting guys. I won't go into the details because Arielle would say to just keep using the Secret and pressing forward. That's fine, but her book is completely tone-deaf to the large population of women readers who would like to start a family.
Even her own story about meeting her husband hinges on the fact that neither of them want to have children. Her soul mate actually dumps the woman he is seeing for Arielle because of it. How do you even date someone long-term with a huge difference between you like that? How did having kids never come up? And these people are in their 40s, not teenagers. Really made me question the integrity of her husband, but then I'm not dating him, so whatever.
Finally, Arielle talks about signs, feelings, and senses all collaborating and coming together when you are on the right path or even messages and voices in your head when you meet your soul mate. I read some other reviews and this is the part people complain about being "woo woo." Well, I have a different criticism. What if you have experienced those signs but the person turned out not to be your soul mate? An example from my own life: I went on a date with a guy who was ridiculously my type and so handsome. We seemed really interested in each other and ended up spending the entire day together over 7 hours. I remember around the fourth hour getting a very strong sense that this was the type of first date that becomes the story you tell after you are married. I can't explain the feeling exactly but that's close. At the end he asked to kiss me (gentleman) and we ended up making out. I still remember how shy and excited I felt that day.
Clearly he did not become my husband or I wouldn't be reading this book. A few weeks later he told me he was moving to Antarctica and ghosted me. I am not making this up. That is why people say this type of thing like the Secret is "woo woo." The feeling I had that he was the One was just a feeling, it doesn't necessarily reflect reality. But according to the Secret, the feelings create reality, and I am just not feeling "in love" with the universe enough to get the reality I want. Even though I never imagined or felt in my wildest dreams that a guy I like would suddenly have to move to Antarctica, I somehow created that to happen.
Every couple that gets together in this book reads like a fairy tale where the story ends after they fall in love. In real life the story just begins then. You get to spend the rest of your time together growing and being in love. That is why those of us who want to fall in love long for it so dearly.
It's comforting to think he is out there looking for me, too.
Right now my rating is "fluffy at best and stupid at worst." If I meet my husband after my vision board is completed, I will come back and give the book 5 stars.
The exercises in the book are pretty fun and insightful; you will learn a lot about yourself from doing them. The book is so easy to read, you should actually pace yourself and do the exercises that go along with each chapter or you could finish the whole book in a day.
I don't expect anyone will ever read this review, but for my own thoughts I'm going to address some of the book's weaknesses and my own challenges in finding my soul mate so far.
First of all, when I meditate or pray about finding him, I get the overwhelming sense that he is dead. Of course this is extremely disconcerting. But since I am mainly alone anyway and Law of Attraction says you can find "someone like them, or someone better" (by the way, you can use this mantra too if you have unrequited love for a person who doesn't share your feelings) I have come to terms with this and am ready to move on and find someone anyway. Even if my soul mate really is dead, I don't think he would want me to be alone this long without deep affection from anyone. I truly believe I can find someone in this life.
Second, the book puts a lot of emphasis on healing your wounds and loving yourself. At first it deeply resonated with me because everyone has some small parts inside of themselves that need love. However, at some point in the middle of the book I felt like we were just navel gazing. To be honest, I do love myself (not trying to sound conceited.) I don't think we can achieve true love just from patting ourselves on the back and thinking about how great we are. At least for me, I want to be sharing that love with another person. For example, I think about the love shown to me by my parents, how much sacrifice and care they showed me growing up.
I think Arielle's response to that would be something along the lines of, "Great! You're ready." Ok, well, I have been ready, so where is he? (Or someone like him, if he is dead.)
That brings me to the third issue, "Savor the Waiting." I have hobbies, friends, and a job. I also consciously make time for dating and meeting guys. I won't go into the details because Arielle would say to just keep using the Secret and pressing forward. That's fine, but her book is completely tone-deaf to the large population of women readers who would like to start a family.
Even her own story about meeting her husband hinges on the fact that neither of them want to have children. Her soul mate actually dumps the woman he is seeing for Arielle because of it. How do you even date someone long-term with a huge difference between you like that? How did having kids never come up? And these people are in their 40s, not teenagers. Really made me question the integrity of her husband, but then I'm not dating him, so whatever.
Finally, Arielle talks about signs, feelings, and senses all collaborating and coming together when you are on the right path or even messages and voices in your head when you meet your soul mate. I read some other reviews and this is the part people complain about being "woo woo." Well, I have a different criticism. What if you have experienced those signs but the person turned out not to be your soul mate? An example from my own life: I went on a date with a guy who was ridiculously my type and so handsome. We seemed really interested in each other and ended up spending the entire day together over 7 hours. I remember around the fourth hour getting a very strong sense that this was the type of first date that becomes the story you tell after you are married. I can't explain the feeling exactly but that's close. At the end he asked to kiss me (gentleman) and we ended up making out. I still remember how shy and excited I felt that day.
Clearly he did not become my husband or I wouldn't be reading this book. A few weeks later he told me he was moving to Antarctica and ghosted me. I am not making this up. That is why people say this type of thing like the Secret is "woo woo." The feeling I had that he was the One was just a feeling, it doesn't necessarily reflect reality. But according to the Secret, the feelings create reality, and I am just not feeling "in love" with the universe enough to get the reality I want. Even though I never imagined or felt in my wildest dreams that a guy I like would suddenly have to move to Antarctica, I somehow created that to happen.
Every couple that gets together in this book reads like a fairy tale where the story ends after they fall in love. In real life the story just begins then. You get to spend the rest of your time together growing and being in love. That is why those of us who want to fall in love long for it so dearly.
December 22, 2017
So as silly as the title is, and as silly as the concept of manifesting the love of your life may seem, this book was really inspiring to me. I think having read it during the time I did (just recently), it really resonated, and it made me start asking myself whether I was the best version of myself. It facilitated me in cultivating love for myself and, perhaps strangely, thinking of myself in terms of "what am I doing that will help and inspire my (as yet born or conceived) child?" and "would I want to date me?". It also helped me to start truly believing that the best is yet to come, my soulmate exists and I don't need to stress about when he'll show up in my world, and that I have an infinite capacity to love and be loved.
March 12, 2023
I absolutely loved the messaging in this book and it definitely got me out of my comfort zone spiritually. It’s definitely a change of pace from my left-side-brain logistical way of thinking and after exhausting the dating apps, I’m ready to open myself to a new approach toward dating… this book was exactly that! The activities were very useful; I liked the treasure map and feng shui ones the best. This is a great book to pick up if you’re fed up with dating, but still optimistic that your soulmate is out there! It’s just the push you need to keep your spirits high.
September 29, 2021
Do soulmates exist? I don't know. I know that God is all that truly satisfies, yet I also know that there is a secret that God wants to teach us about Himself and his relationship with us and how the trinity work that is to be learned in marriage. I enjoyed the writers vulnerability in sharing her quest and her story. I am grateful that I took the time to understand her journey. I learned more in this process.
January 28, 2022
While I like the overarching standpoint this book is trying to present, I really needed to skip a surprising length of around 15% of the book as she in details go into rules of feng shui. The exercises she presents seemed tidious and unworth of my time, but she did make me realise I need to settle score and make piece of some of the relationships and heartbreaks of my past. The audiobook is available for free on YouTube.
August 10, 2023
Great read if you really want that big, life changing love.
Great advice and perspective to prepare yourself for a romantic soulmate. Soulmate can mean a lot of different things, but in all senses, it’s someone that you have a relationship with that extends far beyond this lifetime. This book helps you align to the right frequency to receive that great romantic soulmate that you and that other person planned for.
Great advice and perspective to prepare yourself for a romantic soulmate. Soulmate can mean a lot of different things, but in all senses, it’s someone that you have a relationship with that extends far beyond this lifetime. This book helps you align to the right frequency to receive that great romantic soulmate that you and that other person planned for.
February 17, 2025
I think the first part of this book has a lot of value. Love yourself, do the things you've always wanted to do, project positive energy, and you'll attract that. I didn't make any lists or do the visualizations. Except I did imagine cutting the strings to past relationships. There is a lot to consider, and I think there is validity in figuring out what you want. And then turning that over to the universe.
February 7, 2021
I am a hopeless romantic and I've always longed for love, so I decided to buy this book.
Although some topics were really out of my comfort zone, I chose to approach it with an open mind. This book definitely gave me a different outlook and ways on how to manifest and approach looking for love. It's a great book and I cannot wait to see the results of my vision boards!
Although some topics were really out of my comfort zone, I chose to approach it with an open mind. This book definitely gave me a different outlook and ways on how to manifest and approach looking for love. It's a great book and I cannot wait to see the results of my vision boards!
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