Patty Bear grew up among the "Plain People" amidst bountiful farmlands, black bonnets, and black cars. It was a world unto itself, both bucolic and beastly, with traditions and beliefs from the old world deeply rooted in the fertile soil of Central Pennsylvania.
Insulated by a culture that steadfastly kept its distance from outsiders and the march of progress, as a little girl she anticipated following in her mother's footsteps. But in 1972, at the age of eight, her father sparked religious controversy and ignited a scandal rare in the Mennonite community. Abruptly subjected to the chaos that surrounded the ritual practice of shunning, Patty, her mother, and five siblings were swept into a tornado of absurd accusations and public humiliation, forced to hide and endure publicity that headlined prominent national newspapers for almost a decade.
With her childhood and adolescence overshadowed by domestic violence and her father's abusive rhetoric, as well as persistent teaching by the Church that women were designed for subjugation and obedience, Patty's assumed image of her future gradually shifted-leading her to heed the call of her wild soul and the whispers of her Guides toward a bold quest for freedom she never imagined possible.
Patty Bear’s incredible story sucked me in. She opens with the literal 50,000-foot view of the world from the cockpit of an airliner over Russian Siberia—a view she would never have seen had it not been for the painful experiences she and her family were subjected to by her father—then transports us to the vividly drawn, deceivingly simple and bucolic world of her childhood—a world where children gather around their mother, in her long dress and bonnet, and rub her tired feet while she reads to them; where they frolic in lush, bountiful gardens, and work fertile farm land; where they sit down with their friends to tables overflowing with mouthwatering home-cooked meals. I found myself blissfully lost in the first eighty pages of this story, achingly innocent save for the occasional foreshadowing of the ways in which this Garden of Eden would be shattered for her and her siblings. When her father has a disagreement with church elders, and is excommunicated and shunned, Patty’s view of the world is transformed. In an interview with Patty on the Aviatrix Book Review website and podcast, Patty shares that this was an accountability project. And hold them accountable she does- both her father, and the culture from which she emerged. Responding to countless pages of newspaper stories and court documents, Patty breaks the tradition of silent obedience and dismantles the story that was offered to the public. There are definitely some trigger warnings for family violence, but which Patty presents with as much restraint as possible to get the point across. I found this to be an incredibly beautiful, painful, and triumphant read that would appeal to a broad audience, including an Oprah’s Book Club or Reese’s Book Club reader.
Solid 4.5⭐️ || Whether you are familiar with Mennonite communities or not, this is quite interesting! Plenty of universal themes here just waiting for #bookclub discussions. Memoirs are definitely one of my favorite genres for this reason — relatability. ((And of course for those of us who know the author personally, this was an amazing window in to so much I don’t know.))
I thoroughly enjoyed this read. When she brilliantly described the farm and the meadows I could envision everything in my head and almost smell the flowers. Thank goodness the kids had each other to lean on. What a trial they all went thru. I could feel their pain, embarrassment, humiliation etc. It was reeling. The research that had to of been done by the author must have been very time consuming. Putting all the pieces together chronologically. The accomplishments of the author and her successes are outstanding. At the end I wanted more. I wanted her to continue on with every detail of her life up to the future. I hope this book does empower other women to discover their potential and reach for the stars. It was hard to put down. Loved every minute!!!
I could see the authors “second” family home from my childhood bedroom window. She graduated from my high school nine years after me and picked berries in the same field where I had worked as a young teen. I checked out books from the same library she writes about. At the time, I knew that her father was being shunned by his wife and the Mennonite Church. But I never knew exactly why, or maybe I just don’t remember. I’m not sure the average reader would enjoy this book as much as someone with my many connections to her story. I devoured it. Patty’s mother died in February 2021. It appears she made many friends in the second chapter of her life.
I related to this book on several levels. I live in the vicinity where much of it took place. My childhood included a conservative religious community where women’s roles were to be submissive in all things. From my own educational background, I was appalled to learn the extent of the abuse and terrorism to which she was exposed. But I was glad to read her careful and accurate descriptions of the various ways that abusers manipulate and “gaslight” to maintain control and power. I applaud her as a writer. Ms. Bear, I would invite you to write your story of your time at the Air Force Academy and beyond as you survived in another “Man’s World”!! I am so glad to know the truth of a story that I had heard bits of as a young adult, too, from news articles. Thank you!
I could not put this inspiring memoir down! I am always fascinated by how people are shaped by their families, some people look at their immediate surroundings and that's all they see. Some people look around and know in their hearts that there is more, there's a better way. Content warning: it's about a family fleeing an abuser and the courts, media, and religious institutions are no help at all, it's not graphic but it's relentless and I felt so frustrated along with them throughout the story. I just had to keep reading, good thing I had a free two days! The writing is fast-paced and the insights along the way are brilliant. I highly recommend this book and I hope the author follows up with more of her story because I get the idea there's a lot more to her pilot life, but this book was about growing up and how she got there and it's wonderful.
Here we have a story of one woman's escape from a fanatical father, the circumscribed life he demanded of her, and the simple life of the ‘Plain people.’ Once Ms Bear frees herself of the constraints of her childhood, and navigates away from crushing self-doubt, she rises to the pinnacle of achievement. Reminiscent of Tara Westover's 'Educated,' Ms Bear's book takes us behind the scenes of an often violent and disruptive childhood, to her triumph after many harsh realizations, and finally her understanding that she is worthy of far more than her violent and judgmental father believes she is. The awakening is not easy, nor is it pain free. As she writes, 'being frozen is uncomfortable, but it is nothing compared to the burning agony of thawing.’ Bear writes beautifully, and her story, heartrending at times, infuriating at others, will resonate with anyone trapped in a cultish environment. The story takes us to a bucolic place and time, with few of the amenities of current life. The author sprinkles in references to lush farm life, the smells, the foods, and the promise of a simple life in her Mennonite community. When her father’s irrational anger against the church boils over, and that life is destroyed, her determination to find something better drives her to succeed. One distinct phrase from her father chills her soul: “You’re on your own,” he says. Alone in a field one day, newly aware that his words are both warning and liberating, she sees very clearly that she must escape. She hears another voice: “You will have a bigger life.” The author avoids politicizing her situation, or demonizing the church she grew up in. Indeed, she expresses a degree of gratitude that she was born when she was, a time that offers opportunities unimagined by women her mother’s age. ‘Had I been even ten years older, this path would not have been presented to me. I bow my head in gratitude to my courageous...sisters who preceded...and blazed a trail for every woman who followed.’ Finding painful irony in her situation, and hearing again her father’s admonition, she knows she is indeed ‘on her own,’ and realizes that, without her father’s anger and selfishness, she would not have had the impetus to achieve what she did. The author ends the book triumphant. In an addendum, she advocates for those who speak up, and who refuse to ‘just get over it,’ as she writes. Her treatise on truth, likely learned at the church of her childhood, and reinforced by her father’s emotional abuse, contains instructions for others who wish to escape as she has. In the author’s words: (avoiding the truth) bypasses justice that might be restorative for everyone, including the perpetrator. Or perhaps because it patronizes the injured and overtly suggests they should “just get over” what was done to them, because it’s becoming inconvenient for the rest of us to hear about.” Ms Bear certainly ‘slipped the surly bonds of earth.’ Four stars, only because this reader felt the heavy use of court testimony and newspaper copy detracted from her brilliant writing.From Plain to Plane: My Mennonite Childhood, A National Scandal, and an Unconventional Soar to Freedom
If you've ever wondered what it's like to grow up in a cloistered sect—in this case, Reformed Mennonite—this book honestly and vividly details both the "bucolic and beastly" aspects, as the author so perfectly describes on the back cover. But while it is a unique coming-of-age tale that allows us a front-row seat to growing up "IN the world but not OF the world," this memoir is so much more than that. Although Patty is heavily conditioned with the dogma that women are inferior and that theirs is the One True Church, as early as six, Patty hears, sees, and feels the whispers of her Spirit Guides ... and rather than fear or ignore them, they become part of her inner compass. Yes, she expects to follow obediently in her mother's footsteps, but when her world falls apart at age eight, those mystical occurrences ultimately guide her toward a path she never could have imagined as a child.
When Patty, her mother, and her five siblings are virtually catapulted into public scrutiny after her father is excommunicated and shunned from the Church, the decade that follows is unimaginable to most of us—hiding, fleeing violence, being splashed across newspapers, all because their father takes his cause to the media and maintains he has every right to treat his family and others the way he does. This view of the abuser being seen as an innocent hero, and of the family being seen as tormentors of this "innocent" man, is one of the most powerful messages of the book: that perspectives can be so twisted by the media and unknowing bystanders that the truth is known only to the victims of these emotional, physical, and spiritual crimes. The way Patty depicts how this was her reality for years—including reprints of actual newspaper articles—allows the reader to not only stand beside Patty and her family but also to reflect on how gullible we may be when we don't know the whole story. In short, we need to be more mindful of making assumptions, particularly those perpetrated by the often biased slant of mainstream media. Patty doesn't preach this directly, but the message rings true and is a profound takeaway.
Beyond all that, this is a true hero's journey, one that made me feel every possible emotion for the author as she grew from a little girl who adored her farm, to a child who worked tirelessly both at home and at real jobs to make ends meet, to a teen trying to fit in when the odds were stacked against her, and then pursuing a career path unheard of to her for women.
I, for one, am grateful Patty Bear refused to remain silent any longer and found a courageous voice to tell her story—it enlightened me with its rare blend of sweet and salty, humor and outrage, dogma and mysticism. Spending this time growing up with Patty captivated me from the start and left an indelible impression.
From Plain to Plane is a fascinating memoir because of the trajectory Patty Bear’s life takes, but also the abuse her family experienced at the hands of her father, and the media (and court's) willingness to look the other way, all in the name of "freedom of religion." Her story is an important reminder that those with power and privilege can often control a narrative, and that justice is best served when voices who have been oppressed--like Gale Bear and her children—also have a chance to speak.
Book Report: “From Plain to Plane: My Mennonite Childhood, a National Scandal, and an Unconventional Soar to Freedom” by Patty Bear. Fascinating story. It’s a mouthful for a title, but it’s exactly what aroused my curiosity about this story. I met the author at virtual book club discussions with Aviatrix Book Club. She is a delightful, intelligent, and accomplished aviatrix, recently retired from the airlines, early due to the pandemic. Before her successful rise to the airline pinnacle of international wide body captain, she was an Air Force pilot after graduating from the Air Force Academy. I knew all that about her first. When I saw the title of her book, all I could think was, “She was a Mennonite?” The main time period of this story was the 70’s, the years I was in high school and college. (She’s a bit younger than I am.) I remember hearing about this case and the discussion of whether a husband could be accused and guilty of raping his wife. I didn’t know details, but I recall thinking that if that was going on, she needed to figure out how to not be his wife anymore. I wondered about the story at the time, but did not delve deeper, busy as I was in high school and college. Everyone talked about this story a lot, but I had no idea of any other details. This book reveals sides I couldn’t have imagined based on the short clips and headlines that came to my attention at the time. The author was the third oldest of six kids in a Reformed Mennonite family in the farmlands of Pennsylvania. Their family started off in an idyllic setting of living and working on their farm, attending their church, and remaining very close to their large extended families and church members. It was a very cloistered and protected community. They were in the group of that type of religion that did use cars, phones, and other modern tools, but they did dress very plainly and had very strict rules. The father in this family had differences with the church leadership and he was excommunicated. This called for everyone in the church to shun him, including his wife. The kids were not technically members of the church yet, so they didn’t technically shun him. However, he began acting so erratically and abusively, that the entire family was terrorized. The author then grew up in a world of anger and hurt as the father tried for years to get the courts to punish the church and to force his wife and kids to be with him. The author tells her story of survival and is inspirational as she details the steps she took to get away, to get educated, and to be financially independent. Her achievements are quite remarkable. We have had periods in the life of our family that were difficult to survive. I penned a novel borrowing from those experiences. The catharsis I had for this endeavor was very rewarding. I feel so happy for this author that she had the writing skills to compellingly tell her story. Having this series of events spin around in your head must be the stuff of madness. I’m sure this book helps her entire family, as well as her own children. It’s an amazing story of survival, gumption, and fortitude well told. I have three words for my friend, Patty Bear: Bless your heart! 💕
Patty Bear let's us inside her world, from childhood to present times, with an uncensored look at all that transpired. From the weird to the wonderful, the traditions to the tragedies, the blessed events to the shunning both inside and outside their beliefs, we see a family from both sides of their faith. Torn apart by one man's tirade against a church, held together by the blood that ran through their veins, it was hard being a witness at times to some of his actions, the reactions, and games. He could never see past his own selfishness to what he was doing to everyone around him. He could put on a show and play the wounded party, but in truth, he was creating his own victims. I won't dwell on his piece, although it is a big part of the tale shared, because I don't want to taint our celebration here...because there is much to celebrate.
Despite all Patty and her siblings, as well as their mother for that matter, went through, there was light at the end of the journey. All achieved freedom in their own way, some more so than others, and watching their growth happen regardless of the events unfolding was something to smile about. I loved when Patty found her footing, so to speak, in sports, but also when she really started to spread her wings to fly. It was satisfying to see this child become a young adult with a dream and eventually a woman with a destiny destined by her self. She was even able to see that while she may have wished it all away if given the chance, the hardships she went through, the bad times she survived, all went into making her the strong person she is today.
All in all, it was a fascinating story, filled with memories of things held close to her heart as well as some best forgotten, but learned from.
“From Plain to Plane” is a book I couldn’t put down – a definite page-turner. The story of the Bear family’s early years in the Reformed Mennonite community to the present day is a story that can touch all of us whatever our circumstances might be. On a personal note, I could relate to several aspects of their journey having experienced situations, that although different, sounded a familiar note.
One of the most striking features that I felt in reading the book was the resilience of the Bear family in turning turbulence into triumph in the way they lived their later lives. Their travels through the difficult years with their father, Robert Bear, and confronting the stringent and unbending doctrine of the Mennonite Church was an amazing story and a testament to the perseverance and strength of the human spirit. The family not only survived but thrived – a life lesson we can all appreciate as the author unfolds their passage through four decades of living. This is a book I would certainly read again.
Reading this was not for pleasure but more for a type of research. I found it very interesting that this author portrayed all that she went through, watching her mom as a Plain person, and her dad who was against the practice of shunning, yet hurt all of his family as he went against the church, never spoke badly of the Reformed Mennonite church. Her father who made it his life goal to tell everyone that he was wronged by this practice, hurt his family in so many ways, was not ever bad mouthed by her or siblings in her accounts. The practice of this church is done for their belief of staying a True church, is shown without saying it was a bad thing. In the interview at the end of this audible book she speaks about the abuse that this church puts on both women and girls, but also speaks about how adverse the affects on men and boys in this church. This book was told well, and informative to some point about the church practice of shunning. It showed a very sad upbringing of six children and allows insights into this true history.
This book was well written and gave one a sense of what it was like to be a part of Patty’s family. It seemed to be written as fairly and objectively as possible and chronicled Patty’s path to her current success.
An amazing story of a woman who overcame religious trauma and took to the skies as a pilot. One of the coolest parts of the book was when she got into the Air Force Academy despite everything she was going through!
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wow. Just wow. This is one of the most beautifully written non-fiction books I have ever read. Patty's writing reflects the time and age she was at the time of certain events. It was eye opening and helped me as a reader understand what she went through and the emotional turmoil she must have been going through. I am still amazed at everything Patty went through and how she became a pilot. It is an incredible story that I recommend for you to read.
This book was especially fascinating to me because I live in the area where this all happened, even though I am to young to remember any of it. What is shocking about this whole story is how badly the justice system failed to protect her mother and family (even given that it was the 70s) against her father.
whether you are judged by your peers, your parents, religion, or colleagues, Patty Bear inspires belief in your goals, dreams and preservation of self. In a world where it is easy to be the victim, Patty Bear focused on the good and her dreams, while retaining compassion despite the family challenges she had. Beautiful book