Thriving in Non-Monogamy An Ethical Slut's Guide: Overcome Jealousy, Enjoy Sex, and Honor Yourself

by Erin Davidson RCC MA

Enjoy the healing power of pleasure as you reflect on your ideal relationship

We are all deserving and capable of enjoying fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships. Thriving in Non-Monogamy will guide you through the process of getting in touch with your inner ethical slut, evaluating relationship values, honoring your needs and fears, and developing the tools to build relationships that work best for you.

Whether that means ethically opening up or improving a monogamous arrangement, this ethical slut handbook provides stories from people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship arrangements who confront their unmet needs, insecurities, internalized trauma, and struggles with open relationships. You'll also find reflection questions to help you approach your own arrangement with curiosity, openness, and compassion.

Learn about the principles of being an ethical slut

Ethical slut may sound like an oxymoron, but it is a way of thinking that can teach you to overcome jealousy, enjoy sex, and honor yourself.

Genres: Polyamory, Nonfiction, Self Help, Sexuality, Psychology

206 pages, Paperback

Published October 13, 2020

Reviews

[Simone · Rating 5 out of 5]

SO grateful this book exists! Very thoughtful and well rounded - it covers so much more than just non monogamy and I learned so much. Thank you!

[Kaia Ball · Rating 3 out of 5]

A good starting primer to those new to poly-living. I appreciated the introduction of vocabulary relevant to the community & lifestyle. I felt like Part One was a strong opener and did good work challenging mononormativity.

I found it a bit alienating at points, with references to 90's properties and a 'sk8r boi' phase. Things like the AIDS crisis were mentioned without explanation/background. There also tended to be an emphasis on reflecting on various past relationships, a bit harder for younger folks like me!

I also wanted some harder statistics/facts/references. Was disappointed to see the oft misquoted 'half of all marriages end in divorce' quote, which is pretty thoroughly debunked. Was hoping to see more on V, N, and W relationships, which were often mentioned, but never fully diagrammed out or blurbed.

All in all a solid start for the uninitiated, left me hungry for more.

[Nernwon · Rating 4 out of 5]

What I know after reading this is I am not poly, and there is a limited type of ENM that I would entertain; still, I found the reflection questions very thoughtful and Davidson’s continual iteration that love is about vulnerability, risk, compassion, communication, and being open to change is is articulated skillfully.

[José Stein · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excelente libro

Muy informativo, para entender todo tipo de relaciones sobre todo para quienes les interesa el tema de la no monogamia ética

[Kay · Rating 5 out of 5]

A good general reference and start !

[Jodie S. · Rating 4 out of 5]

Such a great book! A great introduction into CNM, and helps understand yourself a lot more.

[Troy Zaher]

DNFed but I think it’s a good resource for many. We just took from it what we needed. I’ve recommended it to multiple people who are new to polyamory

[Heaven Payne · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this would be a really good book for people that are JUST delving into the non-monogamy world. Being that I already knew quite a bit, it was a little hard for me to get through, but there were several good quotes and parts to it as well. Definitely a good read for people interested in learning more about relationships outside of societies "norm."