Do As I Say, Not Who I Did: Honest Advice on Hookups and Relationships in College

by Ali Drucker

This is shame-free, affirmative sex education for college-age women, and anyone just discovering what they want
 
“ Do As I Say, Not Who I Did  is not subtle, delicate, or laced in metaphor. . . . It’s compelling, funny, and unflinchingly educational while delivering a stream of unconditional compassion for the reader.”— Daily Campus
  
It’s hard to overstate how much we put pressure on early sexual encounters—and how little real advice is out there.  How do I deal when I keep running into my one-night stand? How can I tell if I’m too drunk to have sex? How do I say stop when I’m not really into it? Why do I keep getting all these UTIs? 
 
And most of   Why is so much of sex ed focused on what could go wrong instead of what actually feels good?  In this unflinchingly honest guide to hookups and relationships in the twenty-first century, Ali Drucker answers these questions and more—with “been there, done that” confessional advice, plus input from experts on sexuality and from students in college today. 
 
If you missed out on shame-free, affirmative sex education . . . if you’re nervous about having sex . . . if you’re just discovering what you want (and how to ask for it)—this book is for you.

Genres: Nonfiction

272 pages, Paperback

Published April 12, 2022

Reviews

[Andee · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thank you NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for review

Ok, I'm not the intended audience for this book. But I have one daughter who just graduated college and one still in. I think they'd both benefit from reading this.

Ali Drucker covers everything, much better than any parent could. Think of her like the friend you need to talk to when you don't want to talk to anyone else. Relationships, mental health, Queer sex, parents - it's all there.

I won't be getting this for our middle school library, but you should get it for your college kids.

[Kelsey Ann · Rating 3 out of 5]

The author's heart was in the right place, wanting to create a book for college students about honest sexual advice through her experiences, however I found her cited resources were not always accurate and were very outdated. Perhaps she could've shared her stories and at the end of each chapter provided resources for people to educate themselves further with trusted sources, like Dr. Jen Gunter or Emily Nagoski (they wrote The Vagina Bible & Come As You Are).

[Kat]

The way I wish I had this when I was in my late teens/early twenties. Drucker made serious, sometimes scary topics very easy to understand. Using real life experiences gives the reader ease for any and all of the topics at hand. I cannot wait until I am able to pick up a copy for my younger siblings and the library.

[Libby Stuart · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good book, had good messages. I think the messages were more effective when she told stories about her or people she’s interviewed. put things into perspective. It talked less about sex safety advice than i thought it would, and more so about consent and things. I think this would be a great book to read before you head off to college, it tells you what to expect.

[Haley · Rating 4 out of 5]

I think this is a good book for anyone in college or even for those still navigating their twenties. The stories covered a range of topics and honestly gave good advice.


I received this book for free in exchange for an honest review from Netgalley.