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All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss
All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss is a book dedicated to supporting and empowering women and their partners through miscarriage, stillbirth, and other types of pregnancy loss.
The book is part memoir, part therapy session; combining the personal story of Kim Hooper, who endured four losses, with therapeutic insights from Meredith Resnick (a licensed social worker) and Dr. Huong Diep (a board-certified psychologist). It is our hope that reading this book feels like sitting and chatting with someone about their experience, while therapist-friends listen in to provide clarity and comfort.
All the Love is the most in-depth book available to console women and partners in the wake of pregnancy loss. Topics include how to navigate the medical part of pregnancy loss, the emotional rollercoaster of grief, connecting with your partner, returning to “normal” life, rediscovering yourself, deciding whether to try again and having a baby after a loss. The book touches on considerations for LGBTQ+ couples and people facing racial, cultural, or socioeconomic issues that compound their grief.
For a loss that is so common, each woman’s story is beautifully unique. We want each woman to feel seen in this book. We want her to feel validated and hopeful as she steps into what’s next on her journey.
The book is part memoir, part therapy session; combining the personal story of Kim Hooper, who endured four losses, with therapeutic insights from Meredith Resnick (a licensed social worker) and Dr. Huong Diep (a board-certified psychologist). It is our hope that reading this book feels like sitting and chatting with someone about their experience, while therapist-friends listen in to provide clarity and comfort.
All the Love is the most in-depth book available to console women and partners in the wake of pregnancy loss. Topics include how to navigate the medical part of pregnancy loss, the emotional rollercoaster of grief, connecting with your partner, returning to “normal” life, rediscovering yourself, deciding whether to try again and having a baby after a loss. The book touches on considerations for LGBTQ+ couples and people facing racial, cultural, or socioeconomic issues that compound their grief.
For a loss that is so common, each woman’s story is beautifully unique. We want each woman to feel seen in this book. We want her to feel validated and hopeful as she steps into what’s next on her journey.
400 pages, Paperback
Published March 23, 2021
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About the author
Kim Hooper
9 books403 followersKim Hooper's latest novel, Woman on the Verge, will be released on June 17. Her previous novels are: People Who Knew Me (2016), Cherry Blossoms (2018), Tiny (2019), All the Acorns on the Forest Floor (2020), No Hiding in Boise (2021), and Ways the World Could End (2022). She is also co-author of All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss (2021). Kim lives in Southern California with her daughter and way too many pets.
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December 26, 2022
"No amount of anxiety can change the future. No amount of regret can change the past." Thank you for this book.
February 15, 2025
Let me just start this review by saying this book isn’t just for those who suffered loss—this is for all my L&D girlies who want to connect with their patients better. For all of the angels I’ve cared for, as well as their mamas, the biggest thing I have to offer as a nurse is support, empathy, and the power to help them navigate their grief. This book was incredibly inclusive and I am positive will help people offer better support for those with similar experiences. It’s also for family who want to comfort their love ones through loss and understand the journey they are going through (special emphasis on the chapters about incredibly unhelpful things people say!). This book is so honest, relatable, and even humorous (because let’s face it, you can’t get through anything without a sense of humor). I could not recommend this book enough.
March 29, 2021
This book was exactly what I needed in the wake of losing our son at 17 weeks in January. It put into words the emotions I was feeling but didn’t know how to describe. It made me feel heard and seen. It will now be in any care package I give to friends who lose the babies. Thank you for writing this gift.
May 29, 2023
I’ve rated all the books I’ve read on miscarriage a 5, but this one is (so far) my favorite.
March 22, 2021
All the Love has achieved its intention and purpose by delving into each delicate, yet often unspoken, aspect of pregnancy loss offering: comfort in assimilating with the experiences of others; guidance when we need to know where to turn and how to process what has happened; and hope in learning of the resilience of others that have walked a path like your own. Incredibly useful and cathartic.
January 22, 2021
I was recently given an advance readers copy of “All the Love: Healing Your Heart and Finding Meaning After Pregnancy Loss,” in exchange for an honest review. I devoured this book – which will be released in March 2021 – in two days and highly recommend it to anyone who has lost a pregnancy.
This book expertly balances one woman’s story of pregnancy losses – including two ectopic pregnancies, one early miscarriage, and a second trimester miscarriage – with expert insights from social worker Meredith Resnick and psychologist Dr. Huong Diep. The authors examine different kinds of losses, as well as the medical and emotional aspects of pregnancy loss. The book validates the reader’s feelings (whatever they may be) and examines how to grieve “in a society that sucks at grief.” It also provides information about different therapeutic techniques for individuals and couples. There are sections devoted to getting pregnant and having a baby after a loss, as well as the decision not to try again.
This book is not your mother’s pregnancy loss book: it is modern in every aspect. For example, it discusses the invisible experiences of the BIPOC and LGBTQ communities and opens with a note discussing the use of pronouns throughout the book. It also has a chapter devoted to navigating social media and hashtags post loss. In addition, it explores the difficulty of grieving when your loss “feels overshadowed by a major event,” specifically COVID-19.
As a mother of twins and a Board member of my local twins club, I was particularly interested in the chapter about loss during a multiples pregnancy, as I know people who have lost one or both twins. I was glad to see the authors distinguish between what happens if someone loses one versus both babies and to recognize that those who lose one may vacillate between grief and gratitude.
The book has short, easy-to-read chapters. It is long (400 pages) but does not need to be read cover–to-cover. A reader can easily flip to the section that speaks to them in the moment, whether it be a chapter on how to have a ceremony for your baby, process anger, or practice self-care. At times it is formatted in such a way that it can be somewhat difficult to tell which author is writing, though that may be rectified in the final edition.
The book also has a gorgeous cover, which includes an upside down peony and a butterfly, a symbol for death in several cultures. I appreciated that it was symbolic rather than a drawing of a rattle or empty crib.
In short, if you are looking for ways to navigate your pregnancy loss, I highly recommend this book.
This book expertly balances one woman’s story of pregnancy losses – including two ectopic pregnancies, one early miscarriage, and a second trimester miscarriage – with expert insights from social worker Meredith Resnick and psychologist Dr. Huong Diep. The authors examine different kinds of losses, as well as the medical and emotional aspects of pregnancy loss. The book validates the reader’s feelings (whatever they may be) and examines how to grieve “in a society that sucks at grief.” It also provides information about different therapeutic techniques for individuals and couples. There are sections devoted to getting pregnant and having a baby after a loss, as well as the decision not to try again.
This book is not your mother’s pregnancy loss book: it is modern in every aspect. For example, it discusses the invisible experiences of the BIPOC and LGBTQ communities and opens with a note discussing the use of pronouns throughout the book. It also has a chapter devoted to navigating social media and hashtags post loss. In addition, it explores the difficulty of grieving when your loss “feels overshadowed by a major event,” specifically COVID-19.
As a mother of twins and a Board member of my local twins club, I was particularly interested in the chapter about loss during a multiples pregnancy, as I know people who have lost one or both twins. I was glad to see the authors distinguish between what happens if someone loses one versus both babies and to recognize that those who lose one may vacillate between grief and gratitude.
The book has short, easy-to-read chapters. It is long (400 pages) but does not need to be read cover–to-cover. A reader can easily flip to the section that speaks to them in the moment, whether it be a chapter on how to have a ceremony for your baby, process anger, or practice self-care. At times it is formatted in such a way that it can be somewhat difficult to tell which author is writing, though that may be rectified in the final edition.
The book also has a gorgeous cover, which includes an upside down peony and a butterfly, a symbol for death in several cultures. I appreciated that it was symbolic rather than a drawing of a rattle or empty crib.
In short, if you are looking for ways to navigate your pregnancy loss, I highly recommend this book.
June 24, 2025
Of all the books I’ve read on pregnancy loss (and I’ve read way too many this year), I would recommend this one the most for being very comprehensive, relatable, and inclusive of different types of loss. As someone who had a 2nd trimester TFMR and a miscarriage, it was very hard to find books that were sensitive to the differences between these experiences. Many books focus on early miscarriage, but since this author experienced miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, and a 2nd trimester loss, it felt like this book spoke more closely to my experience and needs.
The only negative is at times it felt like the authors were trying to be too inclusive and missed the mark. For example, the chapter on facing loss as a single parent was not grounded in any personal experience and instead of consulting someone who did have that experience, it was written purely as conjecture in a way that felt offensive. Ideally those chapters could have had guest contributors, or it would have been better to omit them if the authors did not know what that experience was like. Overall though, this is a very comprehensive and helpful resource.
The only negative is at times it felt like the authors were trying to be too inclusive and missed the mark. For example, the chapter on facing loss as a single parent was not grounded in any personal experience and instead of consulting someone who did have that experience, it was written purely as conjecture in a way that felt offensive. Ideally those chapters could have had guest contributors, or it would have been better to omit them if the authors did not know what that experience was like. Overall though, this is a very comprehensive and helpful resource.
June 20, 2025
I would love to never have experienced what I did that led me to searching for books on miscarriage at my local library. Alas, here I am. This book popped up on the library list and I brought it home with me.
I shed tears while reading this whole book. It was a truly healing experience. The style of writing really does make it feel like you’re chatting with some girls over coffee about this awful, personal, taboo topic. I really appreciate the 3 authors for their knowledge and words of affirmation. This book made me cry and cheered me up at the same time.
I shed tears while reading this whole book. It was a truly healing experience. The style of writing really does make it feel like you’re chatting with some girls over coffee about this awful, personal, taboo topic. I really appreciate the 3 authors for their knowledge and words of affirmation. This book made me cry and cheered me up at the same time.
September 25, 2024
All the Love is an immensely helpful book that I will revisit often in the coming weeks/months/years.
November 3, 2024
Of the several books on miscarriage and pregnancy loss I’ve read, this is By Far. The. Best.
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