My pride is taking a bit of a hit admitting this, but I wanted to believe. Grief messes with you. It made this lifelong skeptic take pause, buy a freaking book, and say, “but what if?” And despite it being relatively simple to explain the well-documented tricks mediums use to create the illusion that they have any sort of special abilities, so many of us still continue to turn the other cheek.
Why?
Maybe it’s just not that easy to let go of the hope that you can still talk to the people you love once they’re gone.
But in the end, Laura Lynne Jackson and her book, “Signs”, still couldn’t convince me that there is an “other side” any more than she could convince me that some of us possess an ability to communicate with the dead. Despite a ringing endorsement from newly-woke comedian Chelsea Handler and an admittedly fascinating podcast, in the end, I had to side with reason.
It’s a lovely concept, if you don’t think too critically about it: the existence of the “other side”, shrouded in love and light. A reality where death isn’t real and we get to be with our loved ones again. Not just our loved ones, either, apparently. Our pets and our unborn babies, too, according to Laura Lynne!
Here’s my other problem with this book:
It encourages us to look for comfort in all the wrong places. When faced with loss, it’s only natural that we look to feel better at just about any cost - and mediums fill that void happily and hungrily. Two weeks ago, I said to a friend that things that bring us comfort “can’t be bad.” But that’s not true. Aside from the financial loss many suffer at the hands of so-called mediums, mediums also offer a false promise of closure. This is Psychological Manipulation 101. What grieving people need in order to truly heal and move on are compassion and understanding; not false empathy and hope.
Finally, I want to address those who have a strong faith. Although I am personally not one to turn to religion and spirituality as a way of understanding the world, I acknowledge that many do. Despite my own beliefs, this is not my attempt to undermine your faith. You don’t have to believe in mediums in order to believe in the afterlife.