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IRRESISTIBLY FEMININE: How To Activate A Man's Everlasting Devotion To Your Heart - A Woman's Love Guide To Successful Dating and Relationships
BECOME IRRESISTIBLY FEMININE You want your man to be strong, competent, and devoted to giving you what you need to feel happy, secure, and loved. Yet if you are like most women, you are doing things that ensure your man never steps up in the way you want. You may be enabling and even encouraging him to remain passive, self-interested, irresponsible, and undevoted. Many of your innocent, and even loving behaviors and words are pushing your man away and preventing him from being the man you need him to be. This book will put an end to that forever. You will discover just how easy and natural it is to begin interacting in a radically different way with your man. It’s not about trying harder to get what you want. It’s about letting go and not trying to ‘do’ anything. Only then will you become irresistibly feminine, and effortlessly activate a man’s devotion to your heart. ABOUT THE AUTHOR Zak Roedde is a dating and relationship coach. He has coached hundreds of men and women to rekindle their attraction and love for each other and transform their relationships. He does this by teaching them about the secrets of masculine and feminine polarity. Relationships are messy, boring, and stressful without polarity, but they are a dream come true once you have mastered it. Learn more WWW.RELATIONSHIPOFYOURDREAMS.COM
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Published December 25, 2020
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July 27, 2022
This could have been a 1 page blog
This could have been a one page blog. Don’t recommend it — Highly repetitive and boring. There are better books out there about masculine vs feminine energy.
This could have been a one page blog. Don’t recommend it — Highly repetitive and boring. There are better books out there about masculine vs feminine energy.
January 31, 2021
SO worth it!
Easy to read and digest. But more than that, a different and refreshing perspective on how men and women can relate lovingly and polarized (and keep being "into" each other till, forever, really) to each other.
I pointed the finger at my man for years, thinking that my man was the "feminized" one until I realized that, after different life experiences and feminism, I was the one constantly in my masculine, most of my life...
What Zak shares is gold, a true gift and to be honest? Nowadays it's a real turn on for me to CHOOSE to submit to my husband.
Just by letting go, surrendering and showing my heart, letting my husband witness me in my emotions, our relationship has dramatically changed. I was always looking for outcomes, a control freak afraid of uncertainty. Now I understand how that affected my relationship and communicated to my man that I didn't trust him, both as a man and as a leader.
I could go on and on.
I reccomend the book. Anyone will learn way more than one thing if they're willing to read it with and open heart and mind (cause I can see how it can be triggering for a lot of people. Me being one of them if I has read it a couple of years ago haha).
Easy to read and digest. But more than that, a different and refreshing perspective on how men and women can relate lovingly and polarized (and keep being "into" each other till, forever, really) to each other.
I pointed the finger at my man for years, thinking that my man was the "feminized" one until I realized that, after different life experiences and feminism, I was the one constantly in my masculine, most of my life...
What Zak shares is gold, a true gift and to be honest? Nowadays it's a real turn on for me to CHOOSE to submit to my husband.
Just by letting go, surrendering and showing my heart, letting my husband witness me in my emotions, our relationship has dramatically changed. I was always looking for outcomes, a control freak afraid of uncertainty. Now I understand how that affected my relationship and communicated to my man that I didn't trust him, both as a man and as a leader.
I could go on and on.
I reccomend the book. Anyone will learn way more than one thing if they're willing to read it with and open heart and mind (cause I can see how it can be triggering for a lot of people. Me being one of them if I has read it a couple of years ago haha).
May 25, 2023
Excellent book about male and female communication dynamics to support male leadership and devotion and female joy.
December 12, 2024
A book about the masculine and how we’re meant to serve him. The narrator/author being a straight white man feels like daddy telling you to be a good girl in order to get dessert. There are components of polarity that are accurate across many mediums which is the ONLY reason this got a 2 from me. I would not consider this even an entry into polarity and if you decide to read it (though likely a waste of time as you’ve already seen plenty of Reddit sub threads that explain the contents in > a paragraph) USE DISCERNMENT. As someone who throughly enjoys reading on polarity and feminine energy this was boring, repetitive, and egotistical. Even the way he speaks about his wife and aiding her into her feminine energy it’s like he’s describing breaking a horse. Ick.
January 2, 2021
Great thought provoking information
I really appreciate the perspective of the author. It has given me so much to think about. What he teaches resonates so much for me. I hope all readers will read with an open mind and not jump to conclusions too quickly. He does an excellent job of backing up his statements with examples and deeper explanations. The content is excellent if you'll take the time to ponder and let it all sink in. I would definitely recommend it to anyone looking to improve their relationship.
I really appreciate the perspective of the author. It has given me so much to think about. What he teaches resonates so much for me. I hope all readers will read with an open mind and not jump to conclusions too quickly. He does an excellent job of backing up his statements with examples and deeper explanations. The content is excellent if you'll take the time to ponder and let it all sink in. I would definitely recommend it to anyone looking to improve their relationship.
January 28, 2023
Inspiring, told from a personal experience
This book by Roedde is in the same vein as GS Youngblood’s Masculinity in a Relationship. However, it’s told as a story of how a couple learned polarity through trial and error and the husbands utter devotion to making it happen. It’s very easy to read and even includes from how-to advice. If you like it, I recommend GS Youngblood as well.
This book by Roedde is in the same vein as GS Youngblood’s Masculinity in a Relationship. However, it’s told as a story of how a couple learned polarity through trial and error and the husbands utter devotion to making it happen. It’s very easy to read and even includes from how-to advice. If you like it, I recommend GS Youngblood as well.
March 21, 2023
This book was absolutely terrible, one of the worst I’ve ever read. The author is very misogynistic and it feels as though he expects the world to revolve around him. There were a few moments of almost valid points, if only he had not polarized the feelings and emotions by gender. 90% of the book was very sexist and contradictory. If I could rate this book negatively I would.
January 4, 2021
Amazed by the mindset shifts I encountered
Great read. Eye opening. Consciously, the ideas in this book were new to me, but they absolutely ring true instinctually.
Great read. Eye opening. Consciously, the ideas in this book were new to me, but they absolutely ring true instinctually.
April 27, 2021
Good book with practical advice
This book is good to read if you have already read some on male/female polarity. It is written from the male perspective. and if you have not already decided that you want to live more in a feminine energy then you might get offended by how some things are worded. I bristled at a few points but I think the author sharing personal examples helped me to stop and think if I had noticed anything like what he was saying in my life.
This was the book that helped solidify everything else I had read on being more in my feminine energy in my relationships. The action ideas also helped because some readings just tell you to be vulnerable or receiving but don’t give any concrete advice on how to do so, which I really needed.
I applied a couple of the action items to change my wording in a text “thank you” I sent a guy I’m seeing and he immediately called me after receiving my text to just tell me “You’re welcome” and I could hear the joy and pride in his voice, so different then the polite, almost wooden you’re welcome that I would normally receive.
This book is good to read if you have already read some on male/female polarity. It is written from the male perspective. and if you have not already decided that you want to live more in a feminine energy then you might get offended by how some things are worded. I bristled at a few points but I think the author sharing personal examples helped me to stop and think if I had noticed anything like what he was saying in my life.
This was the book that helped solidify everything else I had read on being more in my feminine energy in my relationships. The action ideas also helped because some readings just tell you to be vulnerable or receiving but don’t give any concrete advice on how to do so, which I really needed.
I applied a couple of the action items to change my wording in a text “thank you” I sent a guy I’m seeing and he immediately called me after receiving my text to just tell me “You’re welcome” and I could hear the joy and pride in his voice, so different then the polite, almost wooden you’re welcome that I would normally receive.
September 23, 2021
Glad I found this book!
Very interesting insight. It fully explains why my last boyfriend left abruptly as he was a very devoted man. I was so devestated as I had never dated anyone like him. I felt lucky and happy, but we had started to argue about a difference of opinion around sex although the sex itself was good. It wasn’t even worth having a debate or argument over!!! I created the same dynamic with the current guy I am seeing because he wouldn’t commit to being exclusive and thinks sex comes first and I believe it should be the other way around. It is hanging by a thread and he is not being respectful Any longer. I started rereading books on feminine and masculine energy as I knew that me trying to control things was ruining all of my romantic relationships, but I couldn’t seem to stop. Being written from a mans perspective was really helpful and helped me fill in some blanks. I started using it today and saw a small increase in his devotion. I will use this dating relationship to work on myself using these principles and let go of the outcome:)
Very interesting insight. It fully explains why my last boyfriend left abruptly as he was a very devoted man. I was so devestated as I had never dated anyone like him. I felt lucky and happy, but we had started to argue about a difference of opinion around sex although the sex itself was good. It wasn’t even worth having a debate or argument over!!! I created the same dynamic with the current guy I am seeing because he wouldn’t commit to being exclusive and thinks sex comes first and I believe it should be the other way around. It is hanging by a thread and he is not being respectful Any longer. I started rereading books on feminine and masculine energy as I knew that me trying to control things was ruining all of my romantic relationships, but I couldn’t seem to stop. Being written from a mans perspective was really helpful and helped me fill in some blanks. I started using it today and saw a small increase in his devotion. I will use this dating relationship to work on myself using these principles and let go of the outcome:)
January 25, 2023
Ah, well; I have a long way to go before becoming this women. I understand the mixed reviews on this book.
This book is written by a male.
I am not sure if I could ever be this women no matter how much I try and read books on the topic. Gosh, it’s like the author is saying without saying be a door mat. Is there another way to show your spouse that you trust his leadership?
However, I understand the reasoning behind some of the things the author recommends. He explained the masculine/feminine energy dynamics and gave real life scenarios but it seems like the masculine energy has superiority over the feminine energy big time and every time.
I’m going to keep trying..and apply what I can from this book. But I will grab another book on this topic.
This book is written by a male.
I am not sure if I could ever be this women no matter how much I try and read books on the topic. Gosh, it’s like the author is saying without saying be a door mat. Is there another way to show your spouse that you trust his leadership?
However, I understand the reasoning behind some of the things the author recommends. He explained the masculine/feminine energy dynamics and gave real life scenarios but it seems like the masculine energy has superiority over the feminine energy big time and every time.
I’m going to keep trying..and apply what I can from this book. But I will grab another book on this topic.
November 10, 2022
Newlywed
As a new bride, I have found this advice to be of extreme value in my relationship with my husband. As I apply this knowledge, I can see the effect, and it is helping me learn how best NOT to behave and how best to treat my man.
His response in return is what I need to feel safe and loved. I am learning to let go and trust so that he can grow as the leader of our home. He is happiest when I trust, and I’m happy that I get to shrug off the load of responsibility and let him shoulder the weight of care and concern. Sometimes that’s not easy, but we’re headed everyday toward a very satisfying married life!
As a new bride, I have found this advice to be of extreme value in my relationship with my husband. As I apply this knowledge, I can see the effect, and it is helping me learn how best NOT to behave and how best to treat my man.
His response in return is what I need to feel safe and loved. I am learning to let go and trust so that he can grow as the leader of our home. He is happiest when I trust, and I’m happy that I get to shrug off the load of responsibility and let him shoulder the weight of care and concern. Sometimes that’s not easy, but we’re headed everyday toward a very satisfying married life!
February 17, 2023
De los mejores libros que he leido
Suelo tardarme bastante en terminarme un libro pero este lo leí en pocos días, es muy interesante y me he sentido totalmente identificada. La manera en que explica las polaridades es muy fácil de comprender. Cómo mujer con mayor energía masculina me cuesta aceptar del todo algunos conceptos pero debo admitir que tiene mucho sentido todo lo que plantea. Pondré en práctica todos sus consejos. De todos los libros sobre energía femenina este es el que más me ha gustado hasta ahora. Comprensible, ejemplos de la vid real, práctico y conciso. 100% recomendado para hombres y mujeres.
Suelo tardarme bastante en terminarme un libro pero este lo leí en pocos días, es muy interesante y me he sentido totalmente identificada. La manera en que explica las polaridades es muy fácil de comprender. Cómo mujer con mayor energía masculina me cuesta aceptar del todo algunos conceptos pero debo admitir que tiene mucho sentido todo lo que plantea. Pondré en práctica todos sus consejos. De todos los libros sobre energía femenina este es el que más me ha gustado hasta ahora. Comprensible, ejemplos de la vid real, práctico y conciso. 100% recomendado para hombres y mujeres.
March 16, 2023
Solid advice that works!
Before reading this book, I came across Zak on FB. His posts resonated with me because they mirrored the dynamic my bf and I had naturally established. Polarity really is the key to a successful relationship. This book helped me to understand why it works so well, and gave good examples to illustrate each pont. I found the section on feminine communication especially helpful.
Before reading this book, I came across Zak on FB. His posts resonated with me because they mirrored the dynamic my bf and I had naturally established. Polarity really is the key to a successful relationship. This book helped me to understand why it works so well, and gave good examples to illustrate each pont. I found the section on feminine communication especially helpful.
July 11, 2024
I read it in 8 days, and basically highlighted more than half the book.
I felt my belly swell many times over with the fires of sadness and grief, mixed with feeling seen, excitement, joy, release, relief, peace, and determination. I’ve participated in Zak’s live classes, as well as FB group. I feel so thankful. Thank you Zak 🙏🏾
I felt my belly swell many times over with the fires of sadness and grief, mixed with feeling seen, excitement, joy, release, relief, peace, and determination. I’ve participated in Zak’s live classes, as well as FB group. I feel so thankful. Thank you Zak 🙏🏾
March 6, 2025
This was so valuable!! I suddenly understood all the relationship problems people have talked to me about. I must say that it could have been way shorter (even though it is very short already) and that it was a tad bit repetitive. I didn't mind because I liked the writing style and I could just skip paragraphs if I felt like I got wat the author was trying to say.
I say it's worth it!
I say it's worth it!
April 3, 2022
feminine communication explained
This finally makes sense to me after trying to dive into masculine and feminine. Zaks writing makes it make sense and easy to comprehend such an ancient art. Thank you! I had many ah- ha moments while reading.
This finally makes sense to me after trying to dive into masculine and feminine. Zaks writing makes it make sense and easy to comprehend such an ancient art. Thank you! I had many ah- ha moments while reading.
April 20, 2022
Highly Insightful
This book opened my eyes to what I was doing right and doing wrong in my marriage. I also appreciated how open the author was with his own experience using the advice he was giving. The book is also well written and easy to implement.
This book opened my eyes to what I was doing right and doing wrong in my marriage. I also appreciated how open the author was with his own experience using the advice he was giving. The book is also well written and easy to implement.
October 27, 2023
Excellent
This book is a must-read for both sexes. I've even begun implementing this with my 11-year-old son, giving him more chances to develop his masculinity and he is loving it. Men need this, no matter their age and as women we always benefit.
This book is a must-read for both sexes. I've even begun implementing this with my 11-year-old son, giving him more chances to develop his masculinity and he is loving it. Men need this, no matter their age and as women we always benefit.
May 25, 2024
Amazing book highly recommend
This book was absolutely amazing...immediately began making changes in myself as I continued to read. I recommend everyone read this book especially women who are not living in their feminine energy.
This book was absolutely amazing...immediately began making changes in myself as I continued to read. I recommend everyone read this book especially women who are not living in their feminine energy.
January 10, 2021
Helpful insight
I found this book very helpful in seeing the perspective of how men work. How as a woman to feel from my heart and live from that center.
I found this book very helpful in seeing the perspective of how men work. How as a woman to feel from my heart and live from that center.
March 15, 2021
Best book I've read on polarity hands-down. It teaches the reasons & the actions so clearly, in all circumstances that will come up. Must read for anyone wanting to polarize their relationship.
January 5, 2022
Excellent.
A book for men to read as much as women. And ideally together. Devotion needs submission. And submission devotion. And each party blooms.
A book for men to read as much as women. And ideally together. Devotion needs submission. And submission devotion. And each party blooms.
July 7, 2022
Wow
This book is so eye opening. Thank you... I recommend this book to any woman is looking to learn how to truly love their husband
This book is so eye opening. Thank you... I recommend this book to any woman is looking to learn how to truly love their husband
August 17, 2022
the first step in polarity…
Is reading this book!
Perfectly put together as a tool to understand and begin the journey of living the divine feminine. Highly recommend!
Is reading this book!
Perfectly put together as a tool to understand and begin the journey of living the divine feminine. Highly recommend!
October 29, 2022
Good information. Great book for young women (and men) especially.
December 18, 2022
amazing advice!
I completely understand my man’s behaviors towards me and how to inspire the Devotion I deserve from him after reading this book. Thank you so much!
I completely understand my man’s behaviors towards me and how to inspire the Devotion I deserve from him after reading this book. Thank you so much!
July 29, 2023
A must read
Both of Zak's books are must-read's if you desire a polarized, well functioning relationship. Transformational! And hard to put down (I read it in a few hours)
Both of Zak's books are must-read's if you desire a polarized, well functioning relationship. Transformational! And hard to put down (I read it in a few hours)
December 29, 2023
Great Book!
I really enjoyed reading your book. It taught me so many things I plan to implement in my future relationships with men. Recommending to others!!
I really enjoyed reading your book. It taught me so many things I plan to implement in my future relationships with men. Recommending to others!!
January 10, 2024
Thought provoking, eye opening but a bit repetitive read. Some parts i agree with some i don't.
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