As a Christian writer who deals with topics relating to gender, I get to read a lot of books on biblical womanhood. Most of them are, to be honest, not great. I often hear people say, “Okay, I can see there’s a lot of theologically (and practically) dangerous content out there for women. But what should I read instead? What should I give my daughters? What should I give my discipleship mentee? Aren’t there any good books on biblical womanhood?” It’s not an easy question to answer. The biblical womanhood genre tends to be governed by agenda rather than gospel; “women’s work” is more in focus, than Christ’s work. But, I’m happy to say that next time I’m asked this question, I’ll have a recommendation waiting in the wings.
What makes Elizabeth Garn’s "Freedom to Flourish: the Rest God Offers and the Purpose He Gives You" different? The answer is in the title. Garn offers women two things that are rare to find in Christian books on female identity: freedom, and rest. In the introduction, the author describes her own experience in the performance treadmill of “good Christian womanhood.”
"I grew up in the church; I’d heard all about biblical femininity or womanhood or whatever you want to call it. I’d been to the retreats, Bible studies, conferences, and Sunday school classes. I studied Ruth and Hannah and Mary and, of course, that infamous woman at the end of Proverbs. I thought I knew what it meant to be a woman of God, but the truth was, so much of what I had internalized for all those years was confusing and conflicting. I had come to believe that the Christian life was about what I did. Holiness amounted to doing more and trying harder and running myself ragged in between." (p11)
As her efforts at picture-perfect Christian womanhood began to unravel, Freedom to Flourish became Garn’s way of trying to piece together what God really has to say about women, and our purpose in His created world.
"Freedom to Flourish" begins at the beginning, with the self-sufficiency of God. “God didn’t create you because he needed you to do something for him,” Garn reminds us. “He doesn’t have a to-do list of errands he needs someone to run or a bunch of tasks to be accomplished.” (p28) God created all humans - men and women - out of His own abundance, not because He had a need or a lack. And so, the first place where we can find rest is in God’s motivation for the creation act itself. At creation, God acted out of sheer love - and as we see in the rest of the book, He has never stopped acting out of sheer love.
But even though God did not create us because He needed our work, He did create us to be working beings. What about the purpose God gives us? While many books on biblical womanhood offer a negative framework for female purpose - i.e. women are created to be not like men - Garn shows that we are called to the positive good of being like God: bearers of His image in the created universe. The only identity big enough for humans to be free in, is to know ourselves as reflections of God, and the only work big enough for us to be contented with, is imitating Him with everything we do. Garn shows how God made women to create, to restore and to rescue, just as He creates, restores and rescues. Wherever we are, and whatever vocation we are blessed with, we can imitate God’s good work.
In the second part of the book, Garn shows how sin disrupts our created purpose by planting the seed of doubt about God’s love and goodness. We are all taken in the same way that Eve was taken in by the serpent, so long ago. We are created to make choices, but sin lures us into choosing “not God” instead of God. And once sin entraps us, our relationship to the God we are made to image, changes. Garn writes that our purpose is poisoned by two influences: comparison, and shame. It’s easy to get so hung up on comparing our hemlines, homes and potluck dishes with the woman in the next pew over. It’s easy to let shame keep us grinding away at our attempts to be good, instead of approaching God for grace. Comparison and shame can feel pious, but they both lead us back to that original sin: doubting God’s grace and love. They keep us trapped in the vicious cycle of sin and self-made righteousness.
"Freedom to Flourish" concludes on more than a note of hope: it’s a whole symphony. Despite our complete failure to image and imitate God as we should, God still offers us rest and purpose, in the gospel of Jesus Christ. In redemption, God paves a way for us to create, restore and rescue as we were intended to in the first place.
"We have been created with a purpose, a purpose that flowed out of God’s abundant love. And where sin damaged the image we bear, God promised to restore it. Where shame and comparison bound us, he has set us free. We were created in love, are called with a purpose, and have been freed to live as images of God." (p166)