I Do Boundaries: A Bible Study to Discover your Power, Protect what Matters, and Stop Feeling Bad about It

by Havilah Cunnington

Are you living with the stress of an overwhelmed life because you’re carrying someone else’s load? Do you feel trapped by the responsibility and fear you’ll lose the relationship if you try to give it back? God doesn’t have to abuse you to use you.In this 15-day study, Bible teacher Havilah Cunnington shows us how to embrace our power through the influence of ownership. Through the study of Jesus’ life, we’ll see how He implemented personal boundaries, which enabled His success. And how we can do the same! In I Do Boundaries, with stories, scriptures, and everyday tools, we’ll learn how boundaries operate and who is responsible for the “what” in our life.In this study, we’ll answer these questions + How do I gain control of my life, schedule, and emotions? + How do I confidently set boundaries and let others know them?+ How do I communicate my boundaries without fear of rejection or loss of friendship? + How do I remove people who are behaving poorly from my life?+ How do I protect what matters most to me without regret?Discover how to return that heavy backpack to its rightful owner with kindness, honesty, and conviction. Let’s Do Boundaries!

Genres: Christian Non Fiction, Self Help, Faith

216 pages, Paperback

Published November 25, 2020

Reviews

[Victoria Lynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

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[Hannah · Rating 4 out of 5]

'Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should.'

I found this book so helpful. I especially loved the stories Havilah shares from her own life, all very relatable and I found myself sharing some of them with others.

There's also a free 15 day Bible study you can sign up for on her website truthtotable, where you get 10min video teaching from Havilah emailed to you each day, where she goes into a bit more depth on Boundaries. I'm currently going through it with a friend and we're both finding it so helpful.

[Amanda · Rating 5 out of 5]

Why I picked up the book: I was gifted this book by a friend before I had seen Havilah speak at an event and I can tell you that I immediately bough two of her other books even before reading this one!

Key Take Aways: So many take aways that I plan to re-do the workbook in a few months as I'm sure I will get even more out of it! I did really appreciate the visuals and short stories included in with the readings!

Lessons Applied: Definitely am working on identifying the differences between backpacks and boulders!

Who I would recommend to read this book: Everyone - especially if you are currently feeling overwhelmed.

Rating: 5/5*

Theme Song: Break Every Chain by Tasha Cobbs

[Leah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was so emotionally freeing and goes beyond what I've seen in several counseling sessions. It talks about owning your own feelings and thoughts-your inner world. It also approaches topics such as making decisions that are the best and healthiest for yourself, while communicating those to others decisively/in a crystal clear fashion. This book is also helpful in freeing yourself to not be responsible for decisions other people make when you don't ultimately have the control to monitor their decisions anyway.

[Chelsey Coleman · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was amazing! This is the second book I’ve read from this author and she is wonderful, I thank my bible group club for selecting this book to read. The author talks about how we all have our own yard and that it is alright to have boundaries but making sure it’s clear to others what our boundaries are. It’s alright to say no and she talks about how to say it in a respectful way, you don’t want to overdue yourself. I really enjoyed this book and believe every believer of God should read this, thank you to the author for sharing your stories and making this book.

[Blanche Diane Baggs · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Book

I thank the world for this book. There is so great amount of help. The book is easy to understand and has applications and references to read for extra help. Never to old to read this book. I believe it would help teens as a help for social emotional skills. I highly recommend for people who don't understand boundaries or why we need to use boundaries. A great life saver for me.

[Christy Chance · Rating 5 out of 5]

Where was this book/study 20 years ago?!? This should be required reading for every single person. This study teachers the importance of understanding the value of boundaries, how to establish them, what you are responsible for (and what you aren’t), how to successfully communicate them, and how to function as a spiritual adult. Life changing. Highly recommend.

[Elizabeth Hatch · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think it was done really well. While the first part hit me more in my relationships in how I give. The second part hit me more. If your struggling with purpose or where to fit in. I would give this a read before going around searching. Hard to do things well when the things your doing aren't yours to begin with.

[Sarah Biggerstaff · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this Bible study. I learned a lot about what the Bible says about boundaries, and that they are essential to live a spiritually healthy life. Jesus had boundaries, and so should I. I’m so thankful a friend pointed me in the direction of this book. I highly recommend!

[Jessica Gruber · Rating 5 out of 5]

Havilah is an amazing author all around. This study is great for the seasoned Christian but for the new Christian as well. Learn how to truly implement boundaries with everyone in your life and rest in what God has to say about it.

[Moira · Rating 4 out of 5]

Bible study on understanding where we end and others begin. If you struggle with feeling burned out and overwhelmed it course be a boundary issue.
This book helps you to see you have to set boundaries and cleared our inner stuff, before you can step up and lead.

[Shalandria · Rating 5 out of 5]

Five stars is NOT enough!

This was a phenomenal study and I learned so much! I can easily do this study again and learn something new because it was so meaty and had lots to digest.

[Leola · Rating 5 out of 5]

Our church ladies' group has done several of Havilah Cunnington's Bible studies. This one was excellent, as usual. We need to set healthy boundaries in our lives and prioritize what is really important from what we do just to please others.

[Serena S. · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book came at such an important time in my life. Definitely a God send. Havilah presents important practices with practical ways to apply them. If you're even considering the read, then you need it. I hope it is as much of a blessing to your life as it was for mine 💜

[Emily · Rating 5 out of 5]

LIFE CHANGING!! Especially as a people pleaser this book taught me how to put healthy boundaries in place and how it positively impacts your life!! This is a MUST READ!

[Ebony Washington · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly blessed by this book! Wasn’t sure I’d like it but I loved it!❤️

[Elizabeth · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent introductory-level study of boundaries.

[Chante · Rating 5 out of 5]

So good.

It feels so simple after reading this book and watching the videos as the same time. Simple doesn’t mean easy…but definitely doable.

[Jennifer L Lambert · Rating 5 out of 5]

Thought I Understood Boundaries

I love how she explains boundaries. I’ve always had hard and fast boundaries which made it hard to grow. Now I’m working on boundaries that flow.

[Kelsey Goodson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent

An Excellent, empowering, life skill s for all people book! Highly recommended this book to grow and develop healthy expectations and boundaries.

[Noella Broekhuizen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I found this book to have very helpful metaphors and helpful tips. I highly recommend for anyone who often finds their calendar too full and doesn’t have time to tend to themselves. This book definitely helps with the understanding of how you to care for yourselves which is always a good lesson plus I’m always a fan of a book like this with a faith pov!