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Not Enough You: A People-Pleaser's Journal for Recapturing Your Value and Worth
From the author of the award-winning book "When It's Never About You", Dr. Ilene S. Cohen gives the gift of recapturing your value and worth, while FINALLY creating a happy life for yourself. Constantly People-pleasing and seeing the approval of others takes a lot of energy. Silently enduring the ongoing and relentless invalidation of who you are and what you want will reliably wreak havoc on your health and the health of your relationships. "Not Enough You" is a guided journal filled with research-based ideas designed to help you manage anxiety, nurture your values and goals, and start making real changes in your life and relationships. By finally taking the time to focus on yourslef, you can open the door to a healthier and more fulfilling lifestyle. a lifestyle that includes YOU in it. This reflective journal is filled with thought-provoking quotes, questions, and ideas to think about and activities that inspire a new perspective. Through the process of completing the journal exercises, you can identify unhelpful patterns and make life-changing adjustments. It's time to commit to happiness by committing to bring out the best in YOU.
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Kindle Edition
Published January 7, 2021
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About the author
Ilene S. Cohen
11 books69 followersDr. Ilene S. Cohen, PhD, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and mother of two young girls. She is one of the most respected voices in the psychology of people-pleasing and navigating the difficulty of living an intentional life while trying to maintain fulfilling relationships. She is the author of 5 books, all of which have received awards and 5-star ratings from her readers. These include her most famous book, When It's Never About You, and her latest book, Anxious for Answers.
She's a regular contributor to Psychology Today, with dedicated readers in the millions. Her books and therapy practice are fueled by a passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self, and lead fulfilling and meaningful lives. As president of her family's foundation, Dr. Ilene oversees various initiatives geared toward creating better opportunities for those in need.
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She's a regular contributor to Psychology Today, with dedicated readers in the millions. Her books and therapy practice are fueled by a passion for helping people achieve their goals, build a strong sense of self, and lead fulfilling and meaningful lives. As president of her family's foundation, Dr. Ilene oversees various initiatives geared toward creating better opportunities for those in need.
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May 18, 2021
Dr. Illene S. Cohen’s friendly and modern workbook provides readers guidance as they reflect on their people-pleasing mentalities. The workbook is filled with a mix of inspirational quotes and thoughtful prompts.
Prompts allow readers to reflect on areas they struggle with, including boundary setting, value setting, confrontation, and understanding why they make the choices they do. Most are writing prompts, as well as a few yes/no quizzes. Prompts include questions like “list four ways people-pleasing has negatively affected your life” and “how can I remember my value even when others put me down.”
Each prompt ends with either a quote or a line of encouragement.
Floral illustrations in muted colors by designer Chris Molé accompany quotes and tidbits of inspiration to break up the prompts.
I enjoyed the workbook, and I’m sure people will find it helpful. However, I do think it could be improved with more psychological knowledge or advice interspersed throughout or additional resources included at the end.
Prompts allow readers to reflect on areas they struggle with, including boundary setting, value setting, confrontation, and understanding why they make the choices they do. Most are writing prompts, as well as a few yes/no quizzes. Prompts include questions like “list four ways people-pleasing has negatively affected your life” and “how can I remember my value even when others put me down.”
Each prompt ends with either a quote or a line of encouragement.
Floral illustrations in muted colors by designer Chris Molé accompany quotes and tidbits of inspiration to break up the prompts.
I enjoyed the workbook, and I’m sure people will find it helpful. However, I do think it could be improved with more psychological knowledge or advice interspersed throughout or additional resources included at the end.
March 31, 2021
A reflective journal for combatting your people pleasing ways
I won a free copy of this book in a Goodreads Giveaway.
I enjoyed this journal, but I think it would go better next to her book When It’s Never About You so that you’re able to fully immerse yourself in the prompts. I’ll probably purchase it at some point and sit down and fill out the journal. I’m also a bit disappointed that it’s a kindle copy and not print, but it’s easy enough to write your responses in a separate journal.
I won a free copy of this book in a Goodreads Giveaway.
I enjoyed this journal, but I think it would go better next to her book When It’s Never About You so that you’re able to fully immerse yourself in the prompts. I’ll probably purchase it at some point and sit down and fill out the journal. I’m also a bit disappointed that it’s a kindle copy and not print, but it’s easy enough to write your responses in a separate journal.
March 29, 2021
This was more of a workbook than a journal, which I actually enjoyed more than I thought I would. Even if being a people-pleaser isn't necessarily something you struggle with, this workbook will provide any reader with opportunities for reflection and growth. Each activity is broken up with poignant quotes laid on a colorful, floral backdrop allowing the reader more time for reflection.
This book ended up being so helpful in gaining more insight into who I am and how I cope and relate with others. Ilene S. Cohen clearly knows what she's doing and has once again committed herself to the work of helping others be their best selves and really see and learn to utilize their full potential. This workbook works as a companion piece to Cohen's previous book "When It's Never About You" and the two combined will give readers a sense of being seen and held, helped and heard for exactly who they are.
This book ended up being so helpful in gaining more insight into who I am and how I cope and relate with others. Ilene S. Cohen clearly knows what she's doing and has once again committed herself to the work of helping others be their best selves and really see and learn to utilize their full potential. This workbook works as a companion piece to Cohen's previous book "When It's Never About You" and the two combined will give readers a sense of being seen and held, helped and heard for exactly who they are.
April 4, 2021
Reflective and empowering
This journal is supremely beneficial for anyone who struggles with confrontation and setting boundaries, people who may have anxiety because they do not know how to say no or consider their needs first. Cohen lays out many prompts for the reader to reflect on areas where they struggle and how they can work to improve them. The quotes continously mixed in add inspiration and deeper reflection for readers as well. The only thing that could have improved this journal would perhaps be the inclusion of stories or situations to better aid and inspire readers in their responses. Readers can work through this journal at their own pace, over days or weeks, and can easily return to it later, making it an ideal journal for people-pleasers to constructively work through their reservations and anxiety on their own and work towards setting boundaries and putting themselves first.
This journal is supremely beneficial for anyone who struggles with confrontation and setting boundaries, people who may have anxiety because they do not know how to say no or consider their needs first. Cohen lays out many prompts for the reader to reflect on areas where they struggle and how they can work to improve them. The quotes continously mixed in add inspiration and deeper reflection for readers as well. The only thing that could have improved this journal would perhaps be the inclusion of stories or situations to better aid and inspire readers in their responses. Readers can work through this journal at their own pace, over days or weeks, and can easily return to it later, making it an ideal journal for people-pleasers to constructively work through their reservations and anxiety on their own and work towards setting boundaries and putting themselves first.
January 31, 2023
As the title says, this isn't a book, but a journal or a workbook with various prompts that encourage reflection on topics that might represent a struggle. It's nicely crafted and for those that appreciate the art of journaling and who also like having a beautiful journal at hand, this might be a good option.
March 24, 2021
This wasn't what I thought it was going to be. It's more like a workbook that asks questions, I'm not sure everyone will be able to answer. I realise the word journal is in the title, but I hoped there would be a little more guidance and information too. The images are nice though.
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