Main Anmol / میں انمول

by Nemrah Ahmed

The book is as precious as its name indicates "Main Anmol". This title gives you a sense of self-worth, and makes you think that how much different and unique you're in your own way. This is one of the great self-help book, and the author has done her best to help you in your spiritual as well as psychological journey to your true-self

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

515 pages, Hardcover

First published October 1, 2020

About the author

Nimra Ahmed Khan is a writer. Nemrah ahmed (also known as nimra ahmed or nemrah niazi) is a young pakistani novelist۔ She is the CEO of "Zanjabeel". Her first novel was published in Khwateen Digest.

Reviews

[Mahnoor Asif · Rating 4 out of 5]

Main Anmol By Nemrah Ahmed.

I was astonished when I discover that Nemrah Ahmed is writing a self-help genre. Totally unexpected scenario. I was like how? She is extraordinary when she writes mystery, exclusively a fiction writer. How come is she trying something exactly the opposite? But she took a valiant risk and I believe she is somehow successful.

The book comprises of 33 chapters for which the author has instructed the readers to cover everyday individual chapters. She also advised readers to solve Love Book simultaneously ( though I didn't).

Each chapter begins with Nemrah Ahmed's life real incidents. She starts with her story and then ends up chapter by giving readers lessons from that story. Cool :)

What I love most about this book is the practical approach of the writer. At the end of each chapter, you get something empirical to implement in your life. From low self-esteem to workplace attitude she covers most of the real-life issues.

I guess this is something new in urdu literature and we must appreciate the writer taking such an ample chance to introduce such genre.

This book is ideal for personality development. Also, an excellent treat for Nemrah's fan club as she discloses some stories of her life.

I love Nemrah Ahmed's last chapter where she discusses what compelled her to write mushaf. And as Mushaf is my favorite work of the author I loved to know the story behind my dearest book.💥

[Mohammad Shaheer · Rating 2 out of 5]

I liked this book in the beginning and thought this book would be somehow more special than the other self-help books, but when I reached the end of the book, I felt real disappointment. This is due to two reasons

1. The author only managed to tell us what to do in our life. How to do it is out of her scope. How can a wife set boundaries with her abusive husband? How can children set boundaries with their abusive parents? None was discussed. Piece of cake solutions were presented which are unfortunately not practical in our society. She should have researched a bit more before converting an English self-help lesson into Urdu.

2. The book was a kind of autobiography of the author where she told us how she started writing, and how she became such a "strong and bold" woman. The whole story revolves around her. There was not a single instance where she felt she was wrong and maybe the other person was right. No No No. In every incident of her life, she was right, and all the others were wrong. This book is the best example of a self-righteous and arrogant person.

3. In the chapter, where she told her story she volunteered for an organization and two boys were against it. First of all, it isn't what male culture is. They weren't against you because you are a woman but because you came here with the motive of replacing them. Secondly, that guy Ahmed was a really friendly and hardworking person. She told us that he left the organization because he couldn't sacrifice his mental health so he chose himself. Now, he did exactly what Nimra told us to do in the beginning chapters i.e. preferring oneself to others. But let's see what remarks she made about him. She said, "I am not like him who will leave the organization like a coward". To prove her point that she is a very wise and clever person, she attributes him as a coward. Such an arrogance.

4. In the last chapter, where Nimra tells us how she became a successful businesswoman. She advised all the women to start their businesses and be "strong and bold" women. Very good, I was happy reading it. But then she said why does a woman have to only work for her house. Life like a housewife is similar to life like an "animal". She attributes the housewife as an animal. I have never even read this kind of language by any progressive mindset because obviously respect is intended for people from every sphere of life. Now, that's what the problem with these pseudo-Islamic people. They don't even know what they are saying. Yes, you rightly said that Hazrat Khadija(R.A) was a trader but what about the other Islamic women??

Overall, I felt that although this book has some good points as well. But, the arrogance that Nimra always showed is quite evident in this book. If only she had presented a good analysis of her life and how she applied those self-help techniques in her practical life (not in buying bags and purses), it would have been more helpful.

[nymeria · Rating 3 out of 5]

Dnf @ 35%

I do want to read this book and will probably pick it up again at some point but I think at this point in my life, I'm not getting a lot from it. It feels like a waste of time and I'd rather not force myself to read it.

[Nimra Ahmed · Rating 5 out of 5]

Main anmol is the best self help books for people with low self eesteem.
If you don't love yourself, READ this book. it will change your life.

[Aiman Sabir · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Book of the year 2024"
(Will come back and review later)

[Rafay Saleem · Rating 5 out of 5]

Never read a book like this🥺 ywr esy lagta jesy bilkul mery liye likhi ho Nemrah maam ny❤️

[Gul Neela · Rating 5 out of 5]

A must read selfhelp book

[مومنہ❀]

مجھے لگتا ہے نمرہ نے اس کتاب پہ بہت محنت کی ہے اور شاید اسی لئے یا ویسے ہی میرا دل نہیں چاہتا کہ میں اسے ریٹ کروں۔ کیونکہ نا تو
مجھے یہ اتنی اچھی لگی کہ اسے 5-4 ستارے دے دوں نہ ہی اتنی بری کہ 2-1 اور نہ ہی میڈیوکر کہ اسے 3 ستارے دوں۔

شاید کچھ دنوں میں پروسیس کرکے مجھے سمجھ آجاۓ کہ یہ کتاب )
( کیسی لگی مجھے

شروع کے کچھ باب مجھے بلکل اچھے نہیں لگے میں ان میں سے کسی چیز سے ریلیٹ نہیں کر پا رہی تھی۔
مجھے لگتا ہے ایک چیز جو مجھے اس کتاب میں اچھی بھی لگی اور بیزار بھی کیا وہ تھا نمرہ کا ہر چیز میں خود کی ذات سے مثال دینا۔ وہ چیز کئی جگہوں پہ تو انٹریسٹنگ لگی لیکن زیادہ تر میں اس سے اچھی وائبس نہیں آ رہی تھیں۔

ظاہری طور پر تو اسے پڑھنے کے بعد مجھے اپنے اندر کوئی تبدیلی نظر نہیں آتی کیوں کہ سچ بتاؤں تو میں نے کسی چیز پہ سیرئسلی عمل نہیں کیا لیکن مجھے امید ہے کہ کچھ نہ کچھ تو سیکھا ہے میں نے اس سے۔

بہر حال میں خوش ہوں کہ فائنلی میں نے نمرہ کی یہ کتاب بھی پڑھ لی۔

[Tayyaba · Rating 3 out of 5]

Half of the book is really good the other half I don't enjoyed

[GUL · Rating 1 out of 5]

Dnf-ed after reading 11 days!🤡 NEMRAH Ahmed finally wrote an entire useless book!!!!

[Asifa Nisa · Rating 3 out of 5]

So yeah just finished "میں انمول", this is my just second book from the author, the first one was "جنت کے پتے" which I read long ago, I really liked her writing style. Main Anmol, honestly it's pretty great book for someone who's just been on the journey of self-help. It covered lot of nuances of inter personal relationships, interaction with society, parents and with own. Though it's not for someone who has been taking self-help for years (like myself) but simply cannot act out any action, practical vise I always feel paralyzed ;) and I think it simply corresponds to someone's personality that whether they are high in conscientiousness or not, not that someone has no boundaries or lack value systems, and listening to same-ass advice felt very repitative to me.
I'll first critically analyze the book from my own point of view, it's gonna be lot of criticism but it's only my opinion, it's purely subjective and I am for-giving the disclaimer that it shouldn't be true from your lens or anyone else. (I'm sure many has benefited from this, and that make me really appreciative of the book too) then I'll come again to the point that why I almost stopped reading self-help. Okay so first thing I felt like she has written the book from a very self-centered stance rather than self-help (doesn't apply to all the chapters but applies to many of the chapters). Self-centered (it's different from being selfish) in a sense that she makes us think that the self is the center of how we understand the world, but practically it's not the truth. Secondly, she writes it from a religious perspective, in every other chapter she vaguely tries to give hope of god and Quran, this made me feel I am not the right audience here, as someone who don't strictly practice religion. Thirdly she uses herself as an example everywhere, I mean yes, sure but a mind cannot conceive everything from her perspective which made most of the example totally irrelevant and unrelatable to me, I cannot relate to toxic people (honestly I think the only toxic person is one own self everyone else is the shadow we project ;) but I get her, she has wrote from a practical stance rather than theoretical, in theory there's no rulebook for life. My fourth point is that I felt like the book is indictive of this culture that pushes the rhetoric of "life rewards people who prioritize themselves" or "how people act is totally in their control, how you react us totally in your control", rather than thinking community and structure. it's not demonizing individual for systemic problems and ideas. It just gives self-help-hyper-individualistic vibes which isn't realistic. Politeness must be upheld, we all owe each other basic decency and manners at face value. The amount of people think honesty trumps everything and that me being polite and considering people's feeling is me being "fake" or "trying to people pleasing" and thinks that being honest and give your straightforward opinion is more important, see, being honest doesn't exempt you from being a bad person. Honesty has its time and place and cannot be used as a justification to say hurtful stuff. If we think about ethics as an inherent responsibility to others and as a top priority then it's not "fake" or "hypersensitive" to be nice for the sake of being nice, to want to consider other people's feeling even if they don't benefit us. So when I try to please a person it could be that I genuinely want to make them happy without wanting anything in return. However I really acknowledge that lot of self care sentiments come from people getting hurt and being taken advantage of when they were nice and kind to others. I get it, I had moments like that. I'm no way advocate for us to be people-pleasers or to tolerate unfair treatment. I know how much that sucks from personal experience. I can't ignore the fact that pressure to be nice disproportionately weighs on women, as a result of this, I've seen more women advocates for women "to stop being nice", "speak up for yourself". It's a common thought that assertiveness is outside the concept of womanhood that's why they feel oppressed. I completely support the fight to speak when you're being disrespected and to have feelings of frustration taken seriously. So it's totally relevant in these stances,how can anyone think of anything when they are fighting for themselves. ( That's why this self-help book is very audience specific, not everyone relate to it) and I am also very appreciative of the fact that she has brought up certain topics that are very universal and aren't audience specific one of them is "trauma", "work ethics", "self catharsis (through writing)", "being finance conscious" like I already said it's a great book from a practical stance but not from a narrative stance.
From a general point of view, one must look out to the world with a responsible mindset so that we can cultivate a mindset of care and kindness like "I hope I can be kind to you. I hope I don't hurt you and I want to be responsible for your well being." And this, "being responsible for someone else well being", it is the reason I have stopped consuming main stream self-help material cuz it's doesn't highlight and stress upon this point enough.
When I started reading philosophy, in the beginning I stumbled upon existentialism, those who read it probably know that this school of thought while give so much food for thought eventually unconsciously promotes the ideas such as "free individual", "protecting and maximizing the good use of "self-freedom", "individualistic thoughts" or "self as a starting point that moral choices are relied on individual rationality", "moral people have self-control over instincts" but as I delve deep into philosophy, I get introduced to another school id thought "phenomenology", I personally learn a lot and appreciate this one. basically what it implies is that anytime two conscious subjects come into contact, there's fundamental feeling of opposition to the other consciousness because they threaten your own ability to act totally free hence there always exists a desire to differentiate oneself from other conscious subjects, both subject struggle to impose one's will onto the other, to kind of capture the other under their control, thus the subject is treated to the world with a possessive mindset, the language we use to refer to the other things and other people becomes possessive and this all is instinctive and what's being moral in phenomenological sense is that when we face a human, the raw experience is extreme exposure, defenselessness, and vulnerability and we have free will to hurt the other at any moment. "We have ability to hurt comes first before getting hurt". Being responsible for others doesn't happen only when we owe people something. That responsibility is always there simply because we exist alongside others. Ethics isn't about autonomous individual acting out of obligation to each other, rather it flows out of experiencing the radical vulnerability and dependence of the other. It's "the other" that calls our being into question. People today talk about that you shouldn't become too dependent on others because you should be your own person, self-care and caring about others as seen as distinct acts, individual aren't isolated self-selves. Facing vulnerability, the mortality of the other is what individuates you, we aren't fundamentally free, we are fundamentally responsible (I am glad she actually pointed this out several times in the book, but sadly never made this a dominant narrative), one thing I want to make clear is that caring too much about groups turns us into flock of sheep ;) (so lookout for that one).
Let's also acknowledge that everyone wants and need validation, and recognition as social beings. With no external recognition, we will start to question "who we really are", we shouldn't rely totally on external validation but it's more than okay to deeply care what others think of you. After all we are human, not an unfinished project and we have to stay in the though seemingly meaningless loophole

[Addy Reads · Rating 4 out of 5]

میں نے بہت سے انگریزی کے سیلف ہیلپ کتابیں پڑھی ہیں ، مجھے پتہ ہی نہیں تھا کہ ہمارے رائٹرز بھی اتنی اچھی کتابیں لکھ لیتے ہیں ، کیونکہ ہم کبھی انھیں پڑھنے کی کوشش یا زہمت نکرتے۔ لیکن کچھ دن پہلے میں نے یہ کتاب اٹھا کر پڑھنا شروع کردی ۔ میں حیران ، غصہ اور پھر مطمئین ہو گیا، حیرانی اس بات پر ہوئی کہ ہمارے رائٹرز اتنی اچھی کتابیں لکھ لیتے ہیں، غصہ اسلیئے کہ میں نے یہ پڑھنے میں اتنی دیر کیوں کی، اور مطمئین ہوا کہ شکر ہے دیر سے ہی سہی میں نے آخر کار یہ کتاب پڑھ لیں ۔

"اور سب سے زیادہ خوبصورت لوگ کون ہوتے ہیں؟
وہ جو سب سے زیادہ مسکرانے والے ہوتے ہیں ۔"

یہ کتاب ہمیں یہ سکھاتی ہے کہ ہمیں اپنی زندگی میں کسی بھی طرح تبدیلی سے ڈرنا نہیں چاہئے ۔ ہمیں بچپن سے یہ سکھایا جاتا ہے کہ ہمیں اپنی زندگی میں بڑوں کی عزت کرنی چاہیے لیکن اپنے آپ سے محبت کرنے کا درس نہیں دیا جاتا۔ اس کتاب کو خاص ایک چیز بناتی ہے کہ اس کتاب کے ہیرو وہی سب ہے، جو اس کتاب کو پڑھتے ہیں ۔ انسان زندگی میں اپنے پیٹرن کے مطابق چلتاہے، کوئی بھی اپنے آپ کو بدلنا نہیں چاہتا کیونکہ اس نے ہر چیز پر سمجھوتہ کر لیا یے، یہا تک کہ اپنی عزت نفس پر بھی ۔ لکھتی ہیں کہ کچھ بھی ہو جائے، اپنی عزت نفس پر کبھی سمجھوتہ مت کرو ۔تبدیلی سے مت ڈرو بلکہ اسے قبول کرو۔ خود کو آگے رکھو کیونکہ تم اہم ہو ۔ اپنے آپ سے محبت کرنا سیکھیں اور دوسروں کو خوش رکھتے رکھتے اپنی خوشی برباد نہ کرے۔ اگر آپ خود اپنی عزت نہیں کرینگے تو کوئی بھی آپ کی عزت نہیں کریگا ۔

انسان اپنی زندگی میں کسی نہ کسی مسلے کا شکار ھو جاتا ہے ، اگر آپ اپنی زندگی میں کسی بھی مسلے کا شکار ہے تو پھر یہ کتاب بلکل آپ کیلئے لکھی گئی ہے ۔اگر آپ کے اندر خود کو ایک بہتر انسان بننے کا وہ جذبہ نہ ہو وہ لگن نہ ہو تو مجھے نہیں لگتا کہ کوئی بھی کتاب آپکی مدد کر سکتی ہے، کوئی بھی کتاب آپکی حالت میں بدلاو نہیں لاسکتی۔ یہ کتاب ایک بہترین ذریعہ ہے انسان کو اس کے اصل سے ملانے کا۔
اس میں آپکو ان سارے سوالوں کے جواب مل جائنگے کے آپ کی زندگی کا مقصد کیا ہے ؟ آپ کا اللہ کے ساتھ تعلق کیا ہے؟ یہ کتاب
ایک بہترین سفر ہے کہ ایک انسان اپنے آپ کو تلاش کریں ۔

[Nida · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nemrah aapne apne book mai likha tha k mai jo pehli bar non-fiction likh rahi hoon, k kia isko koi 33 din tak parhega?, kia kisi ko is book se faida hoga?
Aur logon k barey mai mai nahi janti, k jis trah aapne bataya tha, unho ne usi trah issey parha ya nahi. Magar mai apne barey mai keh sakti hoon k mai ne usi trah isko parha aur amal kiya aur mujhe sabse zyada faida huwa.
Mai thankyou kehna chahti hoon aapko k aapne ye book likha, mai jab isko parh rahi thi tau mujhe aesa laga k aik aik lafz jese mere liye likha gaya hai. Aapko andaza bhi shayed na lagey k mai kitni mashkoor hoon aapki k aapne ye book likha aur us dost ki jisne mujhe ye book recommend ki.
Meri zindagi mai is book ki waja se jitni behtari ayi hai, Allah aapko iska ajar dai. Allah apko hamesha khush rakhein aur Aapne hifz-o-amaan mai rakhein. Ameen.
Keep writing :)

[Tayyaba Syed · Rating 5 out of 5]

My favorite 5⭐ read of 2021!!

Review–Main Anmol❤️✨

"Main Anmol" a finest self-help book, depicts the journey and struggle to find one's true self. The writer has summed up the physical, social and psychological aspects of self-care and self-love in 33 chapters of the book. Every chapter allures you to read next.

This book urges you to;
Identify your talent and passion!!
Ponder upon your difficulties and talk to them.
Explore your life positivity!!

I loved the title and cover. Both compliment each other; such aesthetically pleasing and drool worthy.
I don't want to spoil the book by narrating everything.

Give it a read!!📖
Highly recommend 💯
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[Ayesha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Giving my heart ❤

A must read self help book.. I am amazed to know that how we all humans are similar.. facing same issues..

A book for making you value your own self.. giving your self Ikraam and Izzat

Nemrah has done an outstanding job by writing this book, I wish she writes more non-fiction

💛💙💛💙💛

[Anum Ammad · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book has some really amazing lessons shared with relevant anecdotes. I had a great time while reading it and learning from it.

[Baesha AB]

Is this book available online???

[Bushra Ayub Khan · Rating 5 out of 5]

میں انمول
نمرہ احمد

سال کی پہلی کتاب کا آخر کار سات ماہ کے بعد اختتام۔ اس دوران کئی چھوٹے موٹے ناول پڑھے، مگر اس نے اپنے وقت پر مکمل ہونا تھا پس چلتا رہا۔
اس دوران کئی بار سوچا؛ "توبہ مصنفہ نے کتنا "میں میں" کیا ہوا ہے" مگر پھر بھی اسے پڑھ کر ہر بار لگا یہ میری بات ہو رہی ہے۔
ایک ایک جملہ جیسے مجھے کئی باتیں یاد دلا رہا تھا ۔۔
کچھ باتیں superficial سہی مگر بہت سی چیزیں دل سے لکھی ہوئی لگیں ۔۔۔
سب سے بڑھ کے میرا ایک بار پھر اس بات پر یقین پختہ ہوا کہ ہر چیز پڑھنے کا ایک وقت مقرر ہوتا ہے، اس سے پہلے نہ اس کا اثر آ سکتا ہے نہ وہ دل میں سما سکتی ہے ۔۔
میری طرف سے 4۔5/5

[Zoya Noor · Rating 5 out of 5]

"Main Anmol" is an exceptional self-help book, especially for those struggling with low self-esteem. If you find it challenging to love yourself, this book is a must-read. It provides practical advice and inspiring insights that can significantly impact your self-perception and personal growth. The author’s guidance helps readers build confidence and embrace their own worth. If you're looking for a transformative read that can change your life, "Main Anmol" is a powerful resource that can help you start loving yourself and realizing your potential.

[Awais Afzal · Rating 4 out of 5]

The author has delved deep into the basic human behaviour and why they surface and how one can fix them in their own capacity. The author has attempted to provide the reader with a questionnaire that the reader can use to self evaluate with practical and simple advices that will help one to move forward in solving their psychological issues. Though the author clearly advises to seek professional help but does help the reader to identify if they are running with a psychological issue.

[Sibgha]

Main Anmol is self help book and my first ever self help that I actually read and completed
but for me it was more of Autobiography .

But for me THE SELF HELP , didn't helped me as it should helps.I read it ,have lil glimpse of NA's life, get to know some new terms and that's it.Maybe cuz I was not that mature at that time??or I haven't read it as I should whatever the reason is I'm planning to read it again.

[Malja · Rating 5 out of 5]

when this book was published in 2020, I was sceptical about reading it cause I've never been into the self help genre. But this year this book came into my life at the most appropriate time and made me realise about various things that actually matter in life. I love this book with all my heart. I'm grateful to Nemrah Ahmed that she wrote this book..

[Saira Daoud · Rating 4 out of 5]

میں انمول مجھے ان تمام موٹیویشنل کتابوں کا مجموعہ لگی جو میں شروع سے پڑھتی آرہی ہوں ۔۔۔ فرق یہ تھا کہ وہ کسی ایک مسئلے پر بات کرتے ہیں جبکہ نمرہ نے میں انمول میں تقریباً تمام مسائل کو ہائی لائیٹ کیا ہے۔


⭐⭐⭐⭐/5

[Muhammad Usman · Rating 5 out of 5]

The best urdu self help book, I have came across.

[Shafiq Ur]

Good book

[MOH. TOKIR · Rating 5 out of 5]

I want to read also

[Ñikhât Sâbâ · Rating 5 out of 5]

Amazing book.

[Ahmed Raza]

I wanna read it then think about it

[Seher Sadia · Rating 5 out of 5]

I will read this book always. That one book you are really thankful to your luck for!

[Moonlight Wolf · Rating 5 out of 5]

The only self help book i needed