Dennis Palumbo, the author of this book, has been both a screenwriter and a therapist, and that seems to be a winning combination for me. There’s definitely an overlap between writing and psychology. This book borrows from tools of therapy, like building self-esteem and forgiving oneself, and applies it to writing. I’ve come away from it with three specific lessons, and I’m grateful for each one.
The first lesson is simple, but is probably the most important of all: writing begets writing. As long as you keep writing, ideas will flow. When people get blocked, it’s usually not a lack of ideas but some form of performance anxiety. I’ve absolutely found that to be true. Palumbo advises to stop thinking about commercial or critical success and write for its own sake. If you love writing, do it for the love of it. Perhaps other rewards will come, but if you write, at least you’re guaranteed the reward of personal accomplishment.
The second lesson had to do with “killing your darlings.” Palumbo takes a therapist’s approach and suggests that whenever you resist letting go of some beloved phrase or image that isn’t working in your story, ask yourself why you’re so attached to it. Generally, it’ll be because it was inspired by some happy memory or even just a true one you don’t want to alter. But once you’ve found the reason, it’s usually easier to let go of. I think of this as the writer’s equivalent to Marie Kondo’s “Tidying Up.” Instead of “killing” your darling, hold it in your mind, consider what it did for you, thank it, and edit it out.
The final lesson is in the expression, “not seeing the forest for the trees.” Writing a novel, says Palumbo, is all about the trees. You can only work on them one by one until you see the forest. In other words, he’s one of the many writers who say you don’t have to work from an outline. As someone who’s been blocked just by the prospect of creating an outline, I found that liberating.
Though not every insight in this book was new to me, it was good to be corroborated in what I did know, and I definitely value the three lessons above. I think most writers, whether professional or not, will find the book true to their experience. So I highly recommend it. It’s a tough business to break into. We need all the self-therapy we can get.