Relationships are supposed to be amazing. Every day should be filled with passion, love, connection, humor, and conflict-free enjoyment of each other. Imagine a relationship where you are always attracted to your woman, and she is always attracted to you. You both love spending time with each other. You never have conflicts or arguments and everything works smoothly. Your woman never burdens you, and everything you do for her feels like a joy. You are free to do whatever you want, but what you want is to become the best man you can for her and make her as happy as possible. I am not talking about the first few months of a relationship. This is a dynamic that is not only sustainable, but it actually gets better the longer you stay together. I'm experiencing such a relationship right now, and many of my male clients are seeing the same results as they do their own work. And it is possible for you to experience this with your woman too. But only if you don't let her lead.
I was very surprised how open-hearted this book was. I've had the impression that Zak teaches people to go back to traditional gender scripts but this book actually emphasized giving, caring and understanding your woman from a devoted masculine standpoint, which felt so safe.
I wish more men and women would learn to polarize their relationship b/c this is the most deeply healing experience anyone could have and deserve to finally experience in this crazy, chaotic and broken world.
It was extremely interesting and useful to read this book mainly "aimed at men". It complements beautifully with Zak's other two books "for women"; you'll get the whole picture. Even though similar, I really enjoyed how the contents are seen from a and for a man's perspective, and even the slightly different 'tone' and wording Zak uses. The more I invest time in Zak's books, FB page and program, the more I see positive results in my marriage and the more I appreciate "the masculine" in men. I hope more men and women find this book!
Strictly for the information about leading your woman in a relationship I’d give this 5/5 stars. But I became conflicted around the part when it mentioned something along the lines of not letting your woman bake cookies for you on her own accord and you should instead ask for them (paraphrased). I think at this level of submission of a woman in a relationship is unnecessary and very likely harmful, how would a woman in that position help take care of a home, children, her husband and maybe also go to work if her husband needs to tell her to do nice things for him.
If you don’t want your woman to surprise you out of the goodness of her heart because you should lead her, then I start to disagree.
I believe this book is good for men to read to become more masculine in a society that is purposely emasculating them. That being said, if a woman is coming from abuse, this is very scary. Then again, everything is really based on trust.