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Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her): A Guide For Your Journey Through The Transformational Fires Of Love & Intimacy
Most men are clueless around how to do intimate relationships well. Most women don’t know much better.
That was Bryan’s story for decades. At 36, in the midst of yet another agonizing breakup, Bryan had a painful he had no idea what women wanted from him and no idea what he actually wanted from a woman, either. Despite earning a Masters Degree in Human Relations and succeeding professionally as a Captain in the U.S. Air Force, no one had ever taught him the essential skills for creating fulfilling intimacy that endures.
Bryan vowed to stop sucking at love, and thus began his transformative growth journey through the realms of love, sex, and relationship. What started as a personal exploration exploded into a viral blog that sparked a movement, attracting millions of readers worldwide.
Now, Bryan invites both men and women to join him on an empowering adventure through this anthology of teaching stories, revelatory insights, and simple practical tools for creating thriving relationships. Bryan’s wisdom garnered from both personal experience and thousands of hours coaching men, women, and couples for over a decade unveils for you the very secrets (that should never be secrets!) to flourishing in love and connection.
"Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)" is not just a book; it's a universal guide for anyone seeking to enhance their intimate relationship skills and cultivate deeper connection with a partner.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, Bryan's words will resonate deeply.
"Reading your work contributed so, so much to my healing process. My heart is deeply relieved by what you have to say." ~ Deborah T
"You put into words so much of my experience that seems ineffable. You succeed in speaking to the shared humanity in everyone." ~ Jason H
"I was going to send you a nasty email, but I no longer need to do that. In fact, I now feel compelled to send you an email to say I appreciate you and your work deeply." ~ André Z
"Your words continue to inspire me every day. Your wisdom has helped me to experience some of the happiest days of my life, and some of the most love-filled. I am a better human for it!" ~ Joanne W
"Everything you say about relationships make 100% sense and opened my eyes to a deeper, more detailed view of myself and my partner. Your words always pop-up like an omen in my life, exactly when I need them." ~ Anja S.
"When I read 'Choose Her Every Day' I closed my computer and wept - that was written by me, for me, and all about me. You'll never know how grateful I am. You not only bring insight that few others have, you bring hope." ~ Tyson K
"I know this is crazy, but you've touched my soul. Where have you been all this time?! Whoa! Just wow. You've got it figured out." ~ Jenny C
That was Bryan’s story for decades. At 36, in the midst of yet another agonizing breakup, Bryan had a painful he had no idea what women wanted from him and no idea what he actually wanted from a woman, either. Despite earning a Masters Degree in Human Relations and succeeding professionally as a Captain in the U.S. Air Force, no one had ever taught him the essential skills for creating fulfilling intimacy that endures.
Bryan vowed to stop sucking at love, and thus began his transformative growth journey through the realms of love, sex, and relationship. What started as a personal exploration exploded into a viral blog that sparked a movement, attracting millions of readers worldwide.
Now, Bryan invites both men and women to join him on an empowering adventure through this anthology of teaching stories, revelatory insights, and simple practical tools for creating thriving relationships. Bryan’s wisdom garnered from both personal experience and thousands of hours coaching men, women, and couples for over a decade unveils for you the very secrets (that should never be secrets!) to flourishing in love and connection.
"Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)" is not just a book; it's a universal guide for anyone seeking to enhance their intimate relationship skills and cultivate deeper connection with a partner.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, Bryan's words will resonate deeply.
"Reading your work contributed so, so much to my healing process. My heart is deeply relieved by what you have to say." ~ Deborah T
"You put into words so much of my experience that seems ineffable. You succeed in speaking to the shared humanity in everyone." ~ Jason H
"I was going to send you a nasty email, but I no longer need to do that. In fact, I now feel compelled to send you an email to say I appreciate you and your work deeply." ~ André Z
"Your words continue to inspire me every day. Your wisdom has helped me to experience some of the happiest days of my life, and some of the most love-filled. I am a better human for it!" ~ Joanne W
"Everything you say about relationships make 100% sense and opened my eyes to a deeper, more detailed view of myself and my partner. Your words always pop-up like an omen in my life, exactly when I need them." ~ Anja S.
"When I read 'Choose Her Every Day' I closed my computer and wept - that was written by me, for me, and all about me. You'll never know how grateful I am. You not only bring insight that few others have, you bring hope." ~ Tyson K
"I know this is crazy, but you've touched my soul. Where have you been all this time?! Whoa! Just wow. You've got it figured out." ~ Jenny C
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308 pages, Kindle Edition
Published January 19, 2021
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July 29, 2023
The book changed my life. I’ve been going in and out of some incredibly challenging partnerships. This book helped me see inside of myself and the ways repeated patterns take shape in my relationships. Hearing from a male perspective — helped me try softer with males in my life, knowing I personally have limited experience and opportunity “trying soft” with males in my early years. This will be a read I’ll return to. And long to one day be courageous enough to write a chapter — acknowledging the kindness of a former partner and living the chapter of moving into my maturity and being with a majority masculine partner that can match my wild, feminine energy. Thank you, Bryan!
Too many words here to hold. And to form.
Too many words here to hold. And to form.
May 4, 2024
A solid exploration of the thought and behavior patterns associated with feminine and masculine energies. Primarily aimed at helping men better understand women, yet I found it provided valuable insights in the opposite direction as well. Rated 4 out of 5 because I wished for a deeper dive instead of repetitive exploration with new vocabulary. Nevertheless, it remains a worthwhile read for both men and women.
February 23, 2025
I read this book after being impressed by Reeves on ‘The Meaningful Life’ Podcast. I found a poor book, that was a memoir of Reeves dating experiences aimed at relieving his unconscious guilt. He wrote in a mythopoetic style that can be embraced or rejected. I found some of the writing useful to reflect upon and mostly a waste of my time. Reeves writes about two forms of women. 1/ An idealised mythical archetype who is perfect in every way that is never meet by Reeves and encompasses all women he has not yet meet. 2/ Flawed women from his past that he is no longer with and Reeves did not commit too, of whom he describes interactions which reflect these flaws. He loves women as a group, whilst treating women poorly as individuals.
Reeves seems an immature person for his age, which I suspect stems from a lack of fatherhood (his own children). He may be what he claims not to be, a male misandrist. Reeves spends a lot of time protecting his ego of being a ‘nice guy’. Reading between the lines I suspect he is a philanderer who engages in infidelity, and has a long history of not committing to anything beyond his own hedonism. I suspect he idealises women as a group, because he behaves poorly with individual women. I would love to read response book of women from his past. He writes in a tone of special insight and enlightenment of the feelings of women and is patronising at times.
Reeves tends to idealise women as superior to men (Psychoanalysis – superior to him, which may be true). Men in his writing are represented by him and this is a low bar for standards of masculinity. I believe Reeves is not a superior man and holds a lot of guilt as a man. Shawn T. Smith’s: The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage is a better book regarding the subject matter of understanding women (people) warts and all. Reeves work is more anecdotal, personal, and phenomenological. At best is could be read to complement Smith, and I would read Smith first and take Smith more seriously. Maybe read this book as a study in male ‘nice guy’ narcissism. Whilst he held it together in Andrew G Marshall’s – The Meaningful Life and was quite charming. This image could not be sustained over a book.
Reeves seems an immature person for his age, which I suspect stems from a lack of fatherhood (his own children). He may be what he claims not to be, a male misandrist. Reeves spends a lot of time protecting his ego of being a ‘nice guy’. Reading between the lines I suspect he is a philanderer who engages in infidelity, and has a long history of not committing to anything beyond his own hedonism. I suspect he idealises women as a group, because he behaves poorly with individual women. I would love to read response book of women from his past. He writes in a tone of special insight and enlightenment of the feelings of women and is patronising at times.
Reeves tends to idealise women as superior to men (Psychoanalysis – superior to him, which may be true). Men in his writing are represented by him and this is a low bar for standards of masculinity. I believe Reeves is not a superior man and holds a lot of guilt as a man. Shawn T. Smith’s: The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage is a better book regarding the subject matter of understanding women (people) warts and all. Reeves work is more anecdotal, personal, and phenomenological. At best is could be read to complement Smith, and I would read Smith first and take Smith more seriously. Maybe read this book as a study in male ‘nice guy’ narcissism. Whilst he held it together in Andrew G Marshall’s – The Meaningful Life and was quite charming. This image could not be sustained over a book.
March 27, 2024
My Five Star Review:
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Reeves has a no-nonsense style of writing that appeals to my sense of recognition and acknowledgement, that we are all in similar relationship struggles, even the experts.
He has an upfront approach to revealing all the nuances of what it's like being a male from an intimacy point of view - nothing crude, just direct. However, he is clear to differentiate between the masculine and feminine sides we each have.
The author takes us through his failed relationships from youth to maturity. He outlines what went wrong and what worked, with his recent knowledge of being a relationship coach.
Through many coaching sessions, Reeves has an in-depth insight into the needs and desires of women in relationships, though I hasten to add that we are all different. However, Reeves speaks to the basic relationship breakdowns that occur with most couples.
Why I Would Recommend the Book:
Whether you are single, in a new relationship or navigating the changes of a long-term relationship, this book gives clear guidance in the context of partnership. It asks the big questions of what you're looking for in yourself, in a partner and in relationship.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Reeves has a no-nonsense style of writing that appeals to my sense of recognition and acknowledgement, that we are all in similar relationship struggles, even the experts.
He has an upfront approach to revealing all the nuances of what it's like being a male from an intimacy point of view - nothing crude, just direct. However, he is clear to differentiate between the masculine and feminine sides we each have.
The author takes us through his failed relationships from youth to maturity. He outlines what went wrong and what worked, with his recent knowledge of being a relationship coach.
Through many coaching sessions, Reeves has an in-depth insight into the needs and desires of women in relationships, though I hasten to add that we are all different. However, Reeves speaks to the basic relationship breakdowns that occur with most couples.
Why I Would Recommend the Book:
Whether you are single, in a new relationship or navigating the changes of a long-term relationship, this book gives clear guidance in the context of partnership. It asks the big questions of what you're looking for in yourself, in a partner and in relationship.
August 18, 2021
Just what I needed.
Truly remarkable. At a point in my life when I was out of answers and had given up, reeves words and direct connection helped make sense of all the errors I had been making. His straightforward writing is easy to understand and the short “chapters” make this an easy book to read, process and read some more. An absolute must for any man who wants to know his heart and stand in Love.
Truly remarkable. At a point in my life when I was out of answers and had given up, reeves words and direct connection helped make sense of all the errors I had been making. His straightforward writing is easy to understand and the short “chapters” make this an easy book to read, process and read some more. An absolute must for any man who wants to know his heart and stand in Love.
September 11, 2024
The author invites the reader to skip around in the book since each chapter stands alone. I liked the opening, but in the first two essays I didn't learn anything. I was using the audiobook and didn't want to skip around and have to keep track of which chapters I'd heard or not. I have hopes that the book got better, but it was too much work to find out if it did. Plus, a novel that had been on my wait list for months came available, and this book just couldn't keep my interest by comparison.
March 18, 2022
A must read. Mum and I couldn’t put this book down.
Honest. Affirming. Heart warming. Heart cracking.
Bryan delivers a beautiful level of truth, wrapped in intimacy and humanness. I highly recommend.
Honest. Affirming. Heart warming. Heart cracking.
Bryan delivers a beautiful level of truth, wrapped in intimacy and humanness. I highly recommend.
April 29, 2022
A book mostly writing for the common men to help understand woman and their own feminine-core better. Gives a good introduction to feminine/masculine energies that reside in everyone, but doesn't go too much into depth in general. Some concepts repeat annoyingly a lot. Still a recommendation!
April 22, 2025
My life story in a book…
If you find yourself in an endless rut, doing the same thing over and over in a relationship and thinking that you're the one that's normal. Think again and read this book, this book changed my life.
Christian
If you find yourself in an endless rut, doing the same thing over and over in a relationship and thinking that you're the one that's normal. Think again and read this book, this book changed my life.
Christian
November 27, 2021
Super collection
Even though this is a collection of essays that the author says you don’t have to read in order, I found it felt like a full book going start to finish.
Even though this is a collection of essays that the author says you don’t have to read in order, I found it felt like a full book going start to finish.
January 2, 2024
insightful anthology of essays on masculinity, love, and living
September 11, 2021
Beautiful work that fosters understanding and compassion in intimate relationship
A deep dive into how the masculine and feminine energies play out in relationships. I’ve read on this topic before but Bryan brings to it a tender depth (that I find I need at this point in my journey) - which is rare. With these teachings, even whilst you navigate hard times, you do so with compassion for yourself, your significant other and the sometimes (often!) challenging dance of intimate relationship. Bryan writes with clarity, kindness and non-judgment. Thank you, Bryan ✨
A deep dive into how the masculine and feminine energies play out in relationships. I’ve read on this topic before but Bryan brings to it a tender depth (that I find I need at this point in my journey) - which is rare. With these teachings, even whilst you navigate hard times, you do so with compassion for yourself, your significant other and the sometimes (often!) challenging dance of intimate relationship. Bryan writes with clarity, kindness and non-judgment. Thank you, Bryan ✨
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