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relatable: How to Connect with Anyone, Anywhere
From media personality and communication expert Rachel DeAlto, learn how to connect with anyone, anywhere with this helpful guide for improving your social skills in every setting, including networking events, interviews, dates, and more.
We all have the desire to belong, to connect. And in the age of social media, making personal connections has been more challenging than ever.
Millennials and Zoomers tend to have high anxiety at the thought of meeting new people and often fumble during in-person relationships. They struggle to connect, don’t know how to make friends, and subsequently flounder in workplace relationships. Sound familiar? But relationship expert and media personality Rachel DeAlto knows that it doesn’t have to be that way. Everyone can be likable. Everyone can be confident. And anyone can achieve this authentically.
With a fresh, fun, and humorous tone, relat able provides a step-by-step guide that will take you from socially awkward to awesome. You will finally feel more comfortable in social and professional settings so you can let your true character shine as you form lasting, authentic, and meaningful connections with everyone in the room.
We all have the desire to belong, to connect. And in the age of social media, making personal connections has been more challenging than ever.
Millennials and Zoomers tend to have high anxiety at the thought of meeting new people and often fumble during in-person relationships. They struggle to connect, don’t know how to make friends, and subsequently flounder in workplace relationships. Sound familiar? But relationship expert and media personality Rachel DeAlto knows that it doesn’t have to be that way. Everyone can be likable. Everyone can be confident. And anyone can achieve this authentically.
With a fresh, fun, and humorous tone, relat able provides a step-by-step guide that will take you from socially awkward to awesome. You will finally feel more comfortable in social and professional settings so you can let your true character shine as you form lasting, authentic, and meaningful connections with everyone in the room.
176 pages, Hardcover
Published September 7, 2021
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Rachel DeAlto
4 books33 followersRachel DeAlto is a communication and relatability expert, media personality, motivational speaker, and the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You).”
Rachel maintains a law degree, a master’s in psychology, and believes in the power of people.
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February 23, 2023Well… mam mocno mieszane uczucia, ale moja przyjaciółka się mocniej z tą ksiazką zgodziła - może się czepiam i jestem matoł
June 9, 2021
Fabulous book! Many of us feel we can benefit by increasing our relatability in person or on Zoom but we’re unsure just how we can accomplish this. Rachel DeAlto’s practical suggestions cover a wide range of topics that are useful in various situations. The personal stories shared help the reader connect with her advice. If you’ve caught Rachel on one of her many television appearances, you know first and how relatable, confident, relaxed, and likable she is. Her perspectives are useful and on the mark.
February 14, 2023
Powiem tak, jestem zaskoczona tym, jak ta książka przypadła mi do gustu.
Polskie wydanie jest naprawdę miłe dla oka i przejrzyste.
Co do treści...
Pierwsze rozdziały mnie rozczarowały. To przez to, że autorka po prostu leje wodę, wiecie, może kogoś interesują opowieści wprowadzające, nie do końca na temat, może pomagają się wczuć, no cóż, mnie nie, mnie jedynie drażniły i nie brałam tej pozycji na poważnie.
Ale.
W końcu autorka zaczęła dawać konkrety i to już naprawdę mi się podobało.
Bierze pod uwagę to co zazwyczaj w takich przypadkach - jak świat się zmienił i jak nowa technologia wpłynęła na nasze relacje z innymi.
Lubisz, gdy rozmówca co chwilę sięga po telefon? A może Tobie się to zdarza? Hm?
Autorka pozwala nam się zatrzymać i pomaga zdać sobie sprawę, że często nie jesteśmy fair wobec samych siebie i innych, ale i na to jak duży wpływ na na nas nasze otoczenie. W tej książce można się postawić ciągle z obu stron i to jest fajne.
Najbardziej podobał mi się rozdział dotyczący czterech sposobów mówienia - sens zawsze jest ten sam, a powiedziany w różny sposób, każdy z nich prowadzi do do innego odbioru przez rozmówcę.
Zauważyłam, że sama stosuje złą formę mówienia czasem, i wiecie co? Pracuję nad tym, staram się pilnować i kurde, widzę różnicę 😅
Będę szczera, naprawdę mi się spodobało, mogłoby być znacznie mniej tekstu, bo samego sedna jest tu o połowę mniej, ale ono samo w sobie jest fajne, więc warto przeboleć to lanie wody i niepotrzebne opowieści z życia wzięte.
Ode mnie 6.75/10. Polecam.
A ze względu na współpracę barterową dostałam też kod rabatowy dla obserwatorów, więc jeżeli macie ochotę kupić, to na stronie wydawnictwa macie na to szansę!
BLISKOSC70WL, obowiązuje do końca lutego 2023.
Polskie wydanie jest naprawdę miłe dla oka i przejrzyste.
Co do treści...
Pierwsze rozdziały mnie rozczarowały. To przez to, że autorka po prostu leje wodę, wiecie, może kogoś interesują opowieści wprowadzające, nie do końca na temat, może pomagają się wczuć, no cóż, mnie nie, mnie jedynie drażniły i nie brałam tej pozycji na poważnie.
Ale.
W końcu autorka zaczęła dawać konkrety i to już naprawdę mi się podobało.
Bierze pod uwagę to co zazwyczaj w takich przypadkach - jak świat się zmienił i jak nowa technologia wpłynęła na nasze relacje z innymi.
Lubisz, gdy rozmówca co chwilę sięga po telefon? A może Tobie się to zdarza? Hm?
Autorka pozwala nam się zatrzymać i pomaga zdać sobie sprawę, że często nie jesteśmy fair wobec samych siebie i innych, ale i na to jak duży wpływ na na nas nasze otoczenie. W tej książce można się postawić ciągle z obu stron i to jest fajne.
Najbardziej podobał mi się rozdział dotyczący czterech sposobów mówienia - sens zawsze jest ten sam, a powiedziany w różny sposób, każdy z nich prowadzi do do innego odbioru przez rozmówcę.
Zauważyłam, że sama stosuje złą formę mówienia czasem, i wiecie co? Pracuję nad tym, staram się pilnować i kurde, widzę różnicę 😅
Będę szczera, naprawdę mi się spodobało, mogłoby być znacznie mniej tekstu, bo samego sedna jest tu o połowę mniej, ale ono samo w sobie jest fajne, więc warto przeboleć to lanie wody i niepotrzebne opowieści z życia wzięte.
Ode mnie 6.75/10. Polecam.
A ze względu na współpracę barterową dostałam też kod rabatowy dla obserwatorów, więc jeżeli macie ochotę kupić, to na stronie wydawnictwa macie na to szansę!
BLISKOSC70WL, obowiązuje do końca lutego 2023.
September 5, 2021
This book provides guidance on how to boost your self-confidence and connect and communicate with others. Although anyone who feels socially awkward can probably find some useful tips here, the book seems to be aimed mostly at Millenials and Gen Z. I don’t use my phone much for anything other than phone calls, and I don’t use social media, so some of the content wasn’t relevant to me. I also didn’t relate to many of the client stories the author shared, but your mileage may vary.
Ms. DeAlto writes in a gentle, encouraging tone. Having already studied interpersonal communication, I didn’t learn many new techniques for overcoming my shyness and social discomfort, but I did find her content reassuring. I highlighted a few passages to remind myself that I already have many of the traits that make people most relatable. I will also be practicing the affirmations she provides at the end of each chapter.
To really benefit from this book, you have to spend a lot of time in self-reflection, trying the exercises at the end of each chapter; you also need to journal about your negative thoughts and learn how to reframe them. I’ve done some of that work in therapy, so I know that it can be helpful, but I didn’t have the energy to do all of these exercises right now.
For me, this book was just ok and I am rating it 3 stars. To be fair to the author, I’m sure your results from this book will depend on your willingness to do the exercises.
I was provided an ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review.
Ms. DeAlto writes in a gentle, encouraging tone. Having already studied interpersonal communication, I didn’t learn many new techniques for overcoming my shyness and social discomfort, but I did find her content reassuring. I highlighted a few passages to remind myself that I already have many of the traits that make people most relatable. I will also be practicing the affirmations she provides at the end of each chapter.
To really benefit from this book, you have to spend a lot of time in self-reflection, trying the exercises at the end of each chapter; you also need to journal about your negative thoughts and learn how to reframe them. I’ve done some of that work in therapy, so I know that it can be helpful, but I didn’t have the energy to do all of these exercises right now.
For me, this book was just ok and I am rating it 3 stars. To be fair to the author, I’m sure your results from this book will depend on your willingness to do the exercises.
I was provided an ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review.
July 22, 2021
This book wasn't extraordinary, but it did stand out from the standard self-help style book. She provides some good and useful advice, but you have to work through a good amount of filler and fluff to get to the book's meat. Worth a read if you enjoy self-help and similar books, but not number one on the list IMO.
July 22, 2021
This book was received as an ARC from Tiller Press in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.
I needed to read this book for being a librarian and gradually transitioning from virtual to in-person events and programs. Rachel DeAlto has a friendly, welcoming persona throughout the book and the language use was brilliant in creating this imagery like she was having a conversation with you and in the right mindset, coaching you throughout the book in overcoming your fear of social anxiety and become more confident in who you are. Online, people have the most confidence in the world because they literally can't be seen or heard or through some mediums seen from the face-up such as Zoom. I also love how often Rachel reminds the reader that they are awesome because loving yourself and building that self-confidence is key to socially interacting with others face to face and that will lead to making new friends which will lead to a lifetime of happiness. It is also nice to be reminded that no matter what happens , you are awesome and you deserve the very best in life.
We will consider adding this title to our Self-Help collection at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.
I needed to read this book for being a librarian and gradually transitioning from virtual to in-person events and programs. Rachel DeAlto has a friendly, welcoming persona throughout the book and the language use was brilliant in creating this imagery like she was having a conversation with you and in the right mindset, coaching you throughout the book in overcoming your fear of social anxiety and become more confident in who you are. Online, people have the most confidence in the world because they literally can't be seen or heard or through some mediums seen from the face-up such as Zoom. I also love how often Rachel reminds the reader that they are awesome because loving yourself and building that self-confidence is key to socially interacting with others face to face and that will lead to making new friends which will lead to a lifetime of happiness. It is also nice to be reminded that no matter what happens , you are awesome and you deserve the very best in life.
We will consider adding this title to our Self-Help collection at our library. That is why we give this book 5 stars.
May 31, 2021
As someone who is extremely shy and introverted, I have always struggled to know what to say in social situations. Over the years I feel like I have done my best to try and overcome my shyness and be more social but during the pandemic this past year I have found myself becoming more isolated.
This book offered some great advice. I had never heard of Rachel DeAlto before but she does have quite a history of helping others in relationships and coaching them. I enjoyed the personal stories she shared and it helped me appreciate her advice more. She gave some great activities and shared stories of clients she had worked with in the past. I found this very valuable. I also loved that there was a chapter on making connections in our Zoom world that we are currently living in. I know I am guilty of focusing on my self too much and being on my phone instead of concentrating on making connections. I recommend this book for anyone looking for some ideas to help them connect and become more relatable to other people.
Thank you to NetGalley and Tiller Press for this advanced copy.
This book offered some great advice. I had never heard of Rachel DeAlto before but she does have quite a history of helping others in relationships and coaching them. I enjoyed the personal stories she shared and it helped me appreciate her advice more. She gave some great activities and shared stories of clients she had worked with in the past. I found this very valuable. I also loved that there was a chapter on making connections in our Zoom world that we are currently living in. I know I am guilty of focusing on my self too much and being on my phone instead of concentrating on making connections. I recommend this book for anyone looking for some ideas to help them connect and become more relatable to other people.
Thank you to NetGalley and Tiller Press for this advanced copy.
July 26, 2021
4.5-5 Stars! Are you anxious? Lonely? Feeling less than? Want to connect but scared? Well then, this book is for you! Ha! Seriously though, I’m glad I read this book. I was thinking I’m the only one anxious to go out and connect with others and like I’m the only person my age not living a fabulous life and sharing it on social media! In reality, I know that’s not true but sometimes it’s easier to believe the negative and compare my life to my “friends” on Instagram. The author walks you through life stories that had me smiling and ways for me to get out of my social anxiety web. It’s not going to be comfortable but what’s the alternative, continue to be friendless, sad and lonely? I’d definitely recommend this book to anyone that gets anxious and uncertain in social situations. You have to put the work and effort in but this book gives you tips and tricks to help you help yourself!!
*I received this book at no charge & I voluntarily left this review.*
*I received this book at no charge & I voluntarily left this review.*
September 16, 2021
I didn't feel I'm in this book's targeted demographic, Millennials and others addicted to cellphone technology. But even so I found the author's bubbly exuberance engaging, and pretty much nodded my way through this quick and entertaining self-help read. There's plenty of interesting information and advice to glean here, did you know that Americans lie eleven times a week on average(?!)
-Large networks of shallow depth feed ego. Deep authentic connections feed your soul.
-Word choices should be empathetic, straightforward and positive.
Someone I used to talk to online was always looking at themselves while we chatted, fixing their hair and whatnot, their distraction with themselves was quite distracting to me. DeAlto's suggestion is to "turn off self-view when you can. If the program you are using doesn't include that option, use a sticky note to block your own face. It... will result in a drastic improvement in your online interactions."
-Large networks of shallow depth feed ego. Deep authentic connections feed your soul.
-Word choices should be empathetic, straightforward and positive.
Someone I used to talk to online was always looking at themselves while we chatted, fixing their hair and whatnot, their distraction with themselves was quite distracting to me. DeAlto's suggestion is to "turn off self-view when you can. If the program you are using doesn't include that option, use a sticky note to block your own face. It... will result in a drastic improvement in your online interactions."
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August 23, 2021Rachel DeAlto has written a lovely conversational book about the difficult topics of fear and social anxiety. Throughout the book she offers coaching to overcome your fears and to be able to relate to others and to have meaningful conversations. Although this book is certainly no substitute for seeking in person help for true social anxiety (which I realize is something a person with social anxiety may find very difficult), it does contain many helpful ideas and was easy to read.
This book was received as an ARC from Tiller Press in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.
This book was received as an ARC from Tiller Press in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.
April 5, 2024
Osobiście książka nie przypadła mi do gustu - historie w niej opisane brzmiały sztucznie, zbyt lekko, a czasem po prostu śmiesznie. Oczywiście nie odbieram ich właścicielom prawa do nich, ale myślę, że można było je opisać w inny sposób, być może z większą dozą szacunku do nich. A może to problem tłumaczenia? Czułam też chaos - niby książką podzielona jest na części, ale ja ich nie odczułam, historie lały się jedna za drugą. Podobały mi się różowe strony z małymi zadaniami, i koniec-końców zamieniłam tę książkę w dziennik. Z innych porad nic mi w głowie nie zostało, ale podpowiedzi i pomocnicze pytania akurat fajnie prowadziły do refleksji.
July 18, 2021
As someone who never realized that I too have social anxiety until a few years ago. I always hated to strike up a conversation with just anyone and I have always been the shy type of person. Instead I have learned through reading this book a few tips and tricks on how to overcome that anxiety. I have learned that I am not the only person who does this and avoids major social media contact too. I felt like this book was written just for me and I highly recommend it to anyone who just doesn't feel like you always fit in.
August 17, 2021
"I wish I had this book when I first started networking. Rachel DeAlto has written the heart-centered business book business people everywhere need right now. People are yearning for connection more than ever, but aren’t sure how to reach out in a likeable, authentic way. Her stories are both deeply moving and laugh-out-loud hilarious. With clear examples and step-by-step instructions, she shows you just how to influence others and make friends in the Social Media age. Fantastic!"--Chellie Campbell, author of "The Wealthy Spirit" and "Zero to Zillionaire"
October 17, 2021
I don't consider myself to be socially awkward but I do find myself often dreading being social events as I'm shy and introverted. This book intrigued me because I feel like I'll take all the advice I can get - especially since I've become complacent within the last year and a half of COVID..
Overall, I'm glad I read this book as it did offer some great advice. The conversational tone of this book made it a very easy read, even with all the information it contained. It never felt too bogged down. Highly recommend if you're socially anxious and looking for advice!
Overall, I'm glad I read this book as it did offer some great advice. The conversational tone of this book made it a very easy read, even with all the information it contained. It never felt too bogged down. Highly recommend if you're socially anxious and looking for advice!
February 27, 2022
4.5 stars
Relatable. That's the title of hte book in big letters. And Rachel is super-relatable. She has appeared as a dating expert in Married at First Sight and Kate + Date. I didn't watch either show. Just read the book with Rachel's amazingly relatable personality permeating through the words. It's easy to cheer for her.
Rachel brings up stories and successes of her clients. My favorite story was of Mr. Rogers on Oprah. Note to self ... be more like Mr. (Fred) Rogers and less Mr. (Aaron0 Rodgers) when it comes to dealing with people.
Relatable. That's the title of hte book in big letters. And Rachel is super-relatable. She has appeared as a dating expert in Married at First Sight and Kate + Date. I didn't watch either show. Just read the book with Rachel's amazingly relatable personality permeating through the words. It's easy to cheer for her.
Rachel brings up stories and successes of her clients. My favorite story was of Mr. Rogers on Oprah. Note to self ... be more like Mr. (Fred) Rogers and less Mr. (Aaron0 Rodgers) when it comes to dealing with people.
July 25, 2021
I really enjoyed this book! Rachel's conversational tone made this book easy to quickly read and I thought it was really informative. As an introvert who is completely exhausted by being around people and never knowing what to say, I thought this book had a lot of helpful tips. There is a lot of work and effort that is required on the reader's part to actually make progress, but she really lays the groundwork for how to do so.
August 30, 2021
As far as personal development/self-help books go, this one is pretty good (and I’ve read my fair share of this genre)!
relatable felt like it was written like a friend giving you the advice you need to hear. It was super easy to read & there were a lot of great takeaways!
Whether you’re a social butterfly with the relationship department on lock or socially awkward, you’ll find something useful in this book.
I’m definitely glad I was able to read this ARC.
relatable felt like it was written like a friend giving you the advice you need to hear. It was super easy to read & there were a lot of great takeaways!
Whether you’re a social butterfly with the relationship department on lock or socially awkward, you’ll find something useful in this book.
I’m definitely glad I was able to read this ARC.
August 27, 2021
Engaging motivational book with useful ideas to develop people skills to enhance relationship building. Rachel engages with humorous stories, providing tips and action steps. This is a must read for anyone wanting to improve their connections and build stronger relationships.
Thank you NetGalley, for the advanced copy.
Thank you NetGalley, for the advanced copy.
November 19, 2023
It was alright, not a life changing book and quite frankly nothing the writer said in the book you as a reader don’t already know. I mean, if you want to refresh your memory on how to act socially, go ahead and read the book. Otherwise you can likely find a Coles notes overview of this and move on with your life and go practice socializing in the real world.
September 30, 2021
Rachel does an excellent down to earth take on reconnecting with others in this tech savvy world.
Easy to read and easy to devour. Great author and very down to earth in her writing skills.
Easy to read and easy to devour. Great author and very down to earth in her writing skills.
November 27, 2021
Great tips and case stories.
December 22, 2021
3.5 stars, rounded down.
February 27, 2022
"In compliance with FTC guidelines, I received this book for free through Goodreads First Reads. "
March 24, 2022
It was a decent read. I didn't find it too helpful. I will, however implement one idea from here, which is journaling my all my negative thoughts about myself. I think that's a really great idea.
May 17, 2023
I like how this book and lots of examples of scenarios. At the end of every chapter, there are action items which are short and helpful.
Thanks to netgalley for the review copy!
Thanks to netgalley for the review copy!
November 24, 2025
Some good ideas, but probably won’t be enough to cure my chronic social awkwardness
August 10, 2021
Relateable comes to us in a time of extreme need to be reminded how to have one-on-one conversations that are sometimes uncomfortable. Rachel DeAlto gives examples through personal experience and training to teach us, the reader, how to be relatable to the people we interact with on a daily basis. Sometimes, as a person wanting to improve and grow, we forget that not everyone is pushing a limiting belief on us as much as we are presenting a difficult persona for others to react to... therefore, if we are more relatable, we can get more traction on our own goals.
August 30, 2023
I think this book has a lot of helpful advice, but I think it lacked the depth that I was expecting coming into this book. I was expecting a guide that was jam packed with the nitty gritty on how to make true, authentic connections, however I felt like I had to read quite a bit of filler to get to one of her points.
Overall I think this book reinforced and reminded me of what I already know while also showing me a few new strategies I can apply to my life. I just wished it contained more comprehensive information to really understand the root of why we struggle to connect to each other, and thus, how to fix it.
Overall I think this book reinforced and reminded me of what I already know while also showing me a few new strategies I can apply to my life. I just wished it contained more comprehensive information to really understand the root of why we struggle to connect to each other, and thus, how to fix it.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
July 3, 2023
Interesting but I'm still socially anxious
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