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Obie Is Man Enough
A coming-of-age story about transgender tween Obie, who didn't think being himself would cause such a splash. For fans of Alex Gino's
George and Lisa Bunker's Felix Yz.
Obie knew his transition would have ripple effects. He has to leave his swim coach, his pool, and his best friends. But it's time for Obie to find where he truly belongs.
As Obie dives into a new team, though, things are strange. Obie always felt at home in the water, but now he can't get his old coach out of his head. Even worse are the bullies that wait in the locker room and on the pool deck. Luckily, Obie has family behind him. And maybe some new friends too, including Charlie, his first crush. Obie is ready to prove he can be one of the fastest boys in the water--to his coach, his critics, and his biggest competition: himself.
Obie knew his transition would have ripple effects. He has to leave his swim coach, his pool, and his best friends. But it's time for Obie to find where he truly belongs.
As Obie dives into a new team, though, things are strange. Obie always felt at home in the water, but now he can't get his old coach out of his head. Even worse are the bullies that wait in the locker room and on the pool deck. Luckily, Obie has family behind him. And maybe some new friends too, including Charlie, his first crush. Obie is ready to prove he can be one of the fastest boys in the water--to his coach, his critics, and his biggest competition: himself.
338 pages, Hardcover
First published September 7, 2021
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About the author
Schuyler Bailar
6 books175 followersSchuyler is the first trans athlete to compete in any sport on an NCAA D1 men’s team, and the only to have competed for all four years. He is an internationally-celebrated inspirational speaker and a respected advocate for inclusion, body acceptance, and mental health awareness.
Schuyler graduated from Harvard College in May 2019 with a degree in Cognitive Neuroscience and Evolutionary Psychology. His studies focused on social emotional learning, emotional intelligence, and education. He is a tireless advocate for inclusion through speaking engagements and social media. Schuyler also holds on-going advisory roles with Monte Nido & Affiliates (the leading eating disorder treatment provider), USA Swimming, the Harvard Medical School Primary Care Review – among others – and is a research assistant at Harvard University.
Schuyler graduated from Harvard College in May 2019 with a degree in Cognitive Neuroscience and Evolutionary Psychology. His studies focused on social emotional learning, emotional intelligence, and education. He is a tireless advocate for inclusion through speaking engagements and social media. Schuyler also holds on-going advisory roles with Monte Nido & Affiliates (the leading eating disorder treatment provider), USA Swimming, the Harvard Medical School Primary Care Review – among others – and is a research assistant at Harvard University.
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June 18, 2021
This was a fairly hard book to read as a trans person and I would urge you to look up the trigger warnings and make sure you're in the right mindset before you go in. But because the book is so full of support - Obie deals with transphobic bullying, but he's surrounded from all sides by supportive family and teachers - I found it a really well-balanced book regardless.
I feel like this book achieves a commendably good balance between being empowering for trans readers and being educational for cis readers. Cis kids reading this will learn a lot from Obie's experiences and his feelings about them, but the book never prioritizes that over the well being and empowerment of trans readers (like books with trans main characters from cis authors tend to do).
CWs: transphobia, bullying, outing (bully outs the MC to someone), transphobic and homophobic slurs, deadnaming, misgendering, death of a grandparent, discussions of traumatic war experiences from a Korean grandparent, slutshaming.
I feel like this book achieves a commendably good balance between being empowering for trans readers and being educational for cis readers. Cis kids reading this will learn a lot from Obie's experiences and his feelings about them, but the book never prioritizes that over the well being and empowerment of trans readers (like books with trans main characters from cis authors tend to do).
CWs: transphobia, bullying, outing (bully outs the MC to someone), transphobic and homophobic slurs, deadnaming, misgendering, death of a grandparent, discussions of traumatic war experiences from a Korean grandparent, slutshaming.
August 29, 2021
4.5 Stars
CWs: Bullying and physical assault; transphobia, deadnaming, and misgendering; transphobic, homophobic, and sexual slurs; some internalized transphobia and ableism; grief and death of a grandparent.
How do I even begin to describe my love for Obie is Man Enough? This middle grade debut is one that I know is going to change and save so many lives. I can say that with absolute certainty and with all the confidence in the world, because Schuyler's work as a trans activist has changed *my* life for the better, and that same work is not only celebrated but furthered in this incredible story.
I should start by saying that Obie is Man Enough is a challenging story at times. But what's important is that Obie's transness is never positioned as the challenging part. The story definitely explores transphobia and bullying, specifically, in unequivocal and realistic ways. While those scenes can be hard to read, especially as a trans person myself, I think the inclusion of that reality is necessary, not only because transphobia is often logistically and sometimes legally sanctioned (or even encouraged) in public spaces, but because "representation" doesn't just mean depicting the good things or the easy things.
Sometimes people think that the most "interesting" or most "important" part of being trans is realizing your transness or coming out as trans. But Obie is Man Enough addresses the far more pressing and compelling question: how do you *live* and *thrive* as a trans person?
In order to truly honor trans joy and trans triumph—which this story certainly does—you also need to honor the systemic and personal hardships and adversity our community continues to face by acknowledging them. To be a trans kid, especially, is to constantly face down people wanting to quantify or police your transness, or wanting to aggressively reassert your assigned gender over you as a means of "dissuading" you, and this story intimately understands that challenge. I also think the inclusion of those challenging scenes—and by extension, the discussions that stem from them—is necessary because they show young readers how to respond to those types of situations, whether it's seeking help from an adult or an authority figure or familiarizing yourself with other resources and forms of support.
On that same note, Obie is surrounded by an incredible support system, which is so important. Some people might say that having a story where a young trans boy is accepted, loved, and supported by every important important person in his life is quote-unquote "unrealistic." But my challenge to those people is: Why should it be? Why is supporting trans people, especially trans youth, so often outside of the scope of our collective imagination and how can we remedy that? The author speaks more on why he made that particular choice in his author's note at the end of the book, but even aside from that, it's imperative that we have working examples and models of genuine support, allyship, and acceptance.
These supporting characters who care about Obie, who see him for exactly who he is and actively want to see him succeed and be safe, can also provide a helpful model for trans allies. As important as it is to have good and nuanced trans representation—which again, this book definitely has front and center—it's also important for allies to see what healthy, practical, and supportive responses actually look like. It's important to see examples of how the people in Obie's life levy their privilege in order to help him stay safe when it's in their power to act.
Especially considering the bullying and gatekeeping that Obie is experiencing, those safe spaces—whether they be people or actual spaces—become all the more sacred as the story progresses. Though Obie is facing so many obstacles, he is never alone in facing them down, and that's what's most important. The story empowers young readers to know their rights, to establish healthy boundaries, and to familiarize themselves with their resources. Friends and family can be allies, teachers can be allies, coaches can be allies, administrators can be allies, doctors can be allies, mentors can be allies. Learning to recognize all the different places where that much-needed support can come from can make a huge difference in a trans kid's life.
I also really appreciate how the story challenges toxic masculinity, specifically in binary-gendered sports. The book begins with Obie's old coach verbally shaming him for being "weak" and proclaiming that he'll never be "a real man" unless he can beat all the other male swimmers in his age bracket—something this coach has deemed to be "biologically impossible." Obie definitely internalizes this message and pushes himself in training with the singular goal of "proving everyone wrong" and showing everyone that he "deserves" to swim with the other boys because of his skill. But as the story goes on, he realizes that being a good swimmer—and being a guy—can't be quantified by the amount of people you beat, but rather the diligence it takes to keep on going and to commit yourself to continuously learning and growing.
The story is also a powerful testimony to the fact that change is a natural part of life, whether you're trans or not. Obie is struggling to navigate fluctuating relationships in his life. He wants to give priority to his current friends and teammates, who are supportive and nurturing, but he's also dealing with his bully, Clyde, who used to be his best friend when they were kids, and also his friend Lucy, who has distanced herself since Obie came out as trans. There's a powerful opposite-moving parallel between these three characters, because as Obie transitions and becomes more and more himself, Clyde and Lucy are also "transitioning" in their own way as they go from being Obie's friends to being estranged and disconnected. All of these characters are changing as they grow up, but the changes Obie is going through as a trans person are hyper-visual and politicized in a way that most change is not. But that's the reality of growing up: some people grow towards the light, and some people grow away from it.
Obie's biracial Korean-American identity is also an integral part of the story that is so beautifully written. A big part of Obie's masculinity—which he gets to define for himself over the course of the book—is knowing and honoring his culture on both sides of his family. There's a tenderness and honesty to the way his family dynamic is written, and I think it's so incredibly important for trans youth of color to see examples of how their gender can be valued, honored, and respected within their culture and not in spite of it. Obie's family being supportive and open shows the possibility of acceptance (and not just tolerance) to trans youth who need it the most.
Overall, this book is just an absolute triumph! It covers so many topics—transphobia, toxic masculinity, family, friendship, culture, dating, social and medical transition, allyship, forgiveness etc.—while still weaving a cohesive and dynamic plot that will keep you rooting for Obie until the very last page. My one note is that sometimes the dialogue (from the adults, especially) can come off as a little too "educational," meaning that sometimes responses are set up a little *too* transparently as a "learning moment." While I think the content of those conversations is very much necessary, I think there are one or two places where those teachable moments could have been integrated a little bit more organically. But that definitely did not take anything away from the impact this book had on me.
Obie is Man Enough is a sensational, fully realized, deeply emotional middle grade story that is full of heart and sincerity. It shows trans kids, especially, that they are loved, they are valued, they are worthy, they are powerful, and they are needed. Whether you know a young reader or have a young reader in your heart who needs this story, it is not one to be missed.
CWs: Bullying and physical assault; transphobia, deadnaming, and misgendering; transphobic, homophobic, and sexual slurs; some internalized transphobia and ableism; grief and death of a grandparent.
How do I even begin to describe my love for Obie is Man Enough? This middle grade debut is one that I know is going to change and save so many lives. I can say that with absolute certainty and with all the confidence in the world, because Schuyler's work as a trans activist has changed *my* life for the better, and that same work is not only celebrated but furthered in this incredible story.
I should start by saying that Obie is Man Enough is a challenging story at times. But what's important is that Obie's transness is never positioned as the challenging part. The story definitely explores transphobia and bullying, specifically, in unequivocal and realistic ways. While those scenes can be hard to read, especially as a trans person myself, I think the inclusion of that reality is necessary, not only because transphobia is often logistically and sometimes legally sanctioned (or even encouraged) in public spaces, but because "representation" doesn't just mean depicting the good things or the easy things.
Sometimes people think that the most "interesting" or most "important" part of being trans is realizing your transness or coming out as trans. But Obie is Man Enough addresses the far more pressing and compelling question: how do you *live* and *thrive* as a trans person?
In order to truly honor trans joy and trans triumph—which this story certainly does—you also need to honor the systemic and personal hardships and adversity our community continues to face by acknowledging them. To be a trans kid, especially, is to constantly face down people wanting to quantify or police your transness, or wanting to aggressively reassert your assigned gender over you as a means of "dissuading" you, and this story intimately understands that challenge. I also think the inclusion of those challenging scenes—and by extension, the discussions that stem from them—is necessary because they show young readers how to respond to those types of situations, whether it's seeking help from an adult or an authority figure or familiarizing yourself with other resources and forms of support.
On that same note, Obie is surrounded by an incredible support system, which is so important. Some people might say that having a story where a young trans boy is accepted, loved, and supported by every important important person in his life is quote-unquote "unrealistic." But my challenge to those people is: Why should it be? Why is supporting trans people, especially trans youth, so often outside of the scope of our collective imagination and how can we remedy that? The author speaks more on why he made that particular choice in his author's note at the end of the book, but even aside from that, it's imperative that we have working examples and models of genuine support, allyship, and acceptance.
These supporting characters who care about Obie, who see him for exactly who he is and actively want to see him succeed and be safe, can also provide a helpful model for trans allies. As important as it is to have good and nuanced trans representation—which again, this book definitely has front and center—it's also important for allies to see what healthy, practical, and supportive responses actually look like. It's important to see examples of how the people in Obie's life levy their privilege in order to help him stay safe when it's in their power to act.
Especially considering the bullying and gatekeeping that Obie is experiencing, those safe spaces—whether they be people or actual spaces—become all the more sacred as the story progresses. Though Obie is facing so many obstacles, he is never alone in facing them down, and that's what's most important. The story empowers young readers to know their rights, to establish healthy boundaries, and to familiarize themselves with their resources. Friends and family can be allies, teachers can be allies, coaches can be allies, administrators can be allies, doctors can be allies, mentors can be allies. Learning to recognize all the different places where that much-needed support can come from can make a huge difference in a trans kid's life.
I also really appreciate how the story challenges toxic masculinity, specifically in binary-gendered sports. The book begins with Obie's old coach verbally shaming him for being "weak" and proclaiming that he'll never be "a real man" unless he can beat all the other male swimmers in his age bracket—something this coach has deemed to be "biologically impossible." Obie definitely internalizes this message and pushes himself in training with the singular goal of "proving everyone wrong" and showing everyone that he "deserves" to swim with the other boys because of his skill. But as the story goes on, he realizes that being a good swimmer—and being a guy—can't be quantified by the amount of people you beat, but rather the diligence it takes to keep on going and to commit yourself to continuously learning and growing.
The story is also a powerful testimony to the fact that change is a natural part of life, whether you're trans or not. Obie is struggling to navigate fluctuating relationships in his life. He wants to give priority to his current friends and teammates, who are supportive and nurturing, but he's also dealing with his bully, Clyde, who used to be his best friend when they were kids, and also his friend Lucy, who has distanced herself since Obie came out as trans. There's a powerful opposite-moving parallel between these three characters, because as Obie transitions and becomes more and more himself, Clyde and Lucy are also "transitioning" in their own way as they go from being Obie's friends to being estranged and disconnected. All of these characters are changing as they grow up, but the changes Obie is going through as a trans person are hyper-visual and politicized in a way that most change is not. But that's the reality of growing up: some people grow towards the light, and some people grow away from it.
Obie's biracial Korean-American identity is also an integral part of the story that is so beautifully written. A big part of Obie's masculinity—which he gets to define for himself over the course of the book—is knowing and honoring his culture on both sides of his family. There's a tenderness and honesty to the way his family dynamic is written, and I think it's so incredibly important for trans youth of color to see examples of how their gender can be valued, honored, and respected within their culture and not in spite of it. Obie's family being supportive and open shows the possibility of acceptance (and not just tolerance) to trans youth who need it the most.
Overall, this book is just an absolute triumph! It covers so many topics—transphobia, toxic masculinity, family, friendship, culture, dating, social and medical transition, allyship, forgiveness etc.—while still weaving a cohesive and dynamic plot that will keep you rooting for Obie until the very last page. My one note is that sometimes the dialogue (from the adults, especially) can come off as a little too "educational," meaning that sometimes responses are set up a little *too* transparently as a "learning moment." While I think the content of those conversations is very much necessary, I think there are one or two places where those teachable moments could have been integrated a little bit more organically. But that definitely did not take anything away from the impact this book had on me.
Obie is Man Enough is a sensational, fully realized, deeply emotional middle grade story that is full of heart and sincerity. It shows trans kids, especially, that they are loved, they are valued, they are worthy, they are powerful, and they are needed. Whether you know a young reader or have a young reader in your heart who needs this story, it is not one to be missed.
March 25, 2023
I've had my eye on this book for while, but never got the chance to pick it up. With the #transrightsreadathon currently happening, I thought I would take the time to circle back around and pick it up. It didn't disappoint. CW: misgendering, bullying, use of the f-word as a slur, mentioning of racism, death of a loved one, dead naming, homophobia, ableism, bullying from students and an adult, physical assault on MC at school
Obie Is Man Enough is far from an easy read. Sometimes I forget how amazing middle grade novels are at capturing the experience of that age group whether it's positive or negative. Readers will follow Obie as he faces a plethora of external challenges, but will also get to share in the joy of his amazing support system and his love and passion for swimming.
What Worked: Schuyler Bailar's writing is captivating. In just 350 pages, I was able to get to know Obie as a person, empathize with his experience of those not accepting of his existence, but also share in the joy and confidence that he had as a person, especially those moments where he knows that he is and has always been man enough. This was not an easy read for me and as a cis-gender woman, I can't begin to imagine the experiences of those who are trans and live through the bullying and harassment that Obie constantly faces at school. While some may say that this is "too much" for younger readers, I think it's important that these moments are portrayed realistically as so many trans youth experience this on a daily basis. I don't mean this in a "trauma porn" way, but including these moments in a way that creates visibility. Never does Obie question being trans even when those around him do. That was such an important and vital aspect of this story because it reiterates to people that the issue isn't with Obie and his identity, but it's an external issue of those around him. I also loved that Bailar addresses the intersections of Obie's identities. Not only is Obie a trans boy, but he's biracial and his experience in being trans doesn't necessarily translate to his Korean family. It added another layer to story that reminds people that a lot of us have intersecting identities that often impact each other. I also loved that readers gained so much insight about what it's like to be a swimmer which stems from Bailar's experience as a NCAA division I swimmer. Bailar doesn't shy away from the issues that come from gendered sports and readily applies them to Obie's experience as a swimmer. Readers also get to see Obie dabble into his first romantic relationship which was absolutely adorable. Like any other boy, Obie is nervous about making a great first impression and getting his first girlfriend. It was nice to see Bailar include this element as some middle schoolers may be experiencing their first crushes while reading this book.
Overall, this was a hard, but beautiful book. I highly recommend reading to Bailar's note at the end about recognizing the experiences of all trans individuals as well as the experience of BIPOC communities here in the United States. This is definitely one to pick up for your 10+ middle grade readers.
Obie Is Man Enough is far from an easy read. Sometimes I forget how amazing middle grade novels are at capturing the experience of that age group whether it's positive or negative. Readers will follow Obie as he faces a plethora of external challenges, but will also get to share in the joy of his amazing support system and his love and passion for swimming.
What Worked: Schuyler Bailar's writing is captivating. In just 350 pages, I was able to get to know Obie as a person, empathize with his experience of those not accepting of his existence, but also share in the joy and confidence that he had as a person, especially those moments where he knows that he is and has always been man enough. This was not an easy read for me and as a cis-gender woman, I can't begin to imagine the experiences of those who are trans and live through the bullying and harassment that Obie constantly faces at school. While some may say that this is "too much" for younger readers, I think it's important that these moments are portrayed realistically as so many trans youth experience this on a daily basis. I don't mean this in a "trauma porn" way, but including these moments in a way that creates visibility. Never does Obie question being trans even when those around him do. That was such an important and vital aspect of this story because it reiterates to people that the issue isn't with Obie and his identity, but it's an external issue of those around him. I also loved that Bailar addresses the intersections of Obie's identities. Not only is Obie a trans boy, but he's biracial and his experience in being trans doesn't necessarily translate to his Korean family. It added another layer to story that reminds people that a lot of us have intersecting identities that often impact each other. I also loved that readers gained so much insight about what it's like to be a swimmer which stems from Bailar's experience as a NCAA division I swimmer. Bailar doesn't shy away from the issues that come from gendered sports and readily applies them to Obie's experience as a swimmer. Readers also get to see Obie dabble into his first romantic relationship which was absolutely adorable. Like any other boy, Obie is nervous about making a great first impression and getting his first girlfriend. It was nice to see Bailar include this element as some middle schoolers may be experiencing their first crushes while reading this book.
Overall, this was a hard, but beautiful book. I highly recommend reading to Bailar's note at the end about recognizing the experiences of all trans individuals as well as the experience of BIPOC communities here in the United States. This is definitely one to pick up for your 10+ middle grade readers.
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March 15, 2021As a trans male who is actually on their swim team, I cannot wait to read this book. I’ve been waiting for something like this for ages and I’m praying that I can relate to it
December 15, 2025
dnf @ 21%
CWs: deadnaming, transphobia, transphobic slurs, transphobic assault (ch. 3), homophobia, homophobic slurs
ymmv, but personally i don't see much value in graphic transphobia (& it is graphic) in a middle grade book. i understand it's supposed to be showing some of what trans kids go through, but there have to be ways to do that without on-page assault, slurs, deadnaming, and so on. i wasn't comfortable reading it & since it apparently only gets worse, i'm quitting now while i'm ahead.
also to head anyone off at the pass, i'd like you to reread the first line (specifically "ymmv" and "personally")
second also, please note cws are only up to chapter 5!
CWs: deadnaming, transphobia, transphobic slurs, transphobic assault (ch. 3), homophobia, homophobic slurs
ymmv, but personally i don't see much value in graphic transphobia (& it is graphic) in a middle grade book. i understand it's supposed to be showing some of what trans kids go through, but there have to be ways to do that without on-page assault, slurs, deadnaming, and so on. i wasn't comfortable reading it & since it apparently only gets worse, i'm quitting now while i'm ahead.
also to head anyone off at the pass, i'd like you to reread the first line (specifically "ymmv" and "personally")
second also, please note cws are only up to chapter 5!
May 31, 2023
i know i say this a lot but this is the book i wish i had growing up. as a (now) non-binary, (previously) competitive swimmer this book spoke to my inner soul. i truly wonder where i would've landed with my gender identity journey if i had this as a tween/young teen. would it have taken me less time to figure things out? would i have been more open to speaking about my personal issues surrounding being a "girl" in swimming hating my body? maybe. unfortunately, we'll never know. but what i do know is that this book can and will help many young athletes work through those exact worries.
now, this book is by no means a light read, but it sure is an important one. obie deals with bullies who physically and emotionally hurt obie, hurling slurs and pushes. obie has to deal with transphobic adults influencing teens down that same path. we see people try to change their bigoted ways. and we see those who might take a bit longer. but, we see those in his life support him through it and i love that.
now, as for the swimming side of things. genuinely, i'm obsessed. i feel like i don't often read books about swimmers by swimmers and having this made my little retired heart happy. hearing obie so passionate about the sport, explaining the practices and the meets, it reminded me a lot of myself. and i especially laughed when he mentioned his coach loving drills, because that was me to the core. i coached for many years and always loved doing drills and finding new ones to try. anyways. i could talk about swimming for hours, but that'll probably bore most people...
tldr, i know this book will hold close to my heart.
now, this book is by no means a light read, but it sure is an important one. obie deals with bullies who physically and emotionally hurt obie, hurling slurs and pushes. obie has to deal with transphobic adults influencing teens down that same path. we see people try to change their bigoted ways. and we see those who might take a bit longer. but, we see those in his life support him through it and i love that.
now, as for the swimming side of things. genuinely, i'm obsessed. i feel like i don't often read books about swimmers by swimmers and having this made my little retired heart happy. hearing obie so passionate about the sport, explaining the practices and the meets, it reminded me a lot of myself. and i especially laughed when he mentioned his coach loving drills, because that was me to the core. i coached for many years and always loved doing drills and finding new ones to try. anyways. i could talk about swimming for hours, but that'll probably bore most people...
tldr, i know this book will hold close to my heart.
July 3, 2021
Obie is a trans boy in the seventh grade and is having to get used to swimming on a new team after his old coach kicked him off because he didn’t accept him as a boy. He’s also dealing with some very intense bullying from a former friend at school. The story isn’t all grim, he has the support of friends and family, a new crush, and a goal to become one of the fastest boys on the swim team.
I think this might be one of the most intense Middle Grade books I’ve ever read. I knew going in that Obie was going to encounter transphobia, but I had no idea of how explicit it would be. Transphobic and homophobic slurs are used against him multiple times throughout the book. He is supported by his family, friends, and the administration at school but it was still tough to read at times.
It was really rewarding to watch Obie excel in swimming, stand up to his bullies and friends who haven’t been there for him, and start a relationship. Also, I enjoyed seeing how Obie’s Korean heritage played into the story and how he thought of the intersections of his identity. I do think that the writing felt a bit stilted at times or like these young kids were making references that didn’t totally seem relevant for modern kids. But overall this was a great, hard-hitting Middle Grade story.
Thank you to the publisher for providing an advance copy via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
I think this might be one of the most intense Middle Grade books I’ve ever read. I knew going in that Obie was going to encounter transphobia, but I had no idea of how explicit it would be. Transphobic and homophobic slurs are used against him multiple times throughout the book. He is supported by his family, friends, and the administration at school but it was still tough to read at times.
It was really rewarding to watch Obie excel in swimming, stand up to his bullies and friends who haven’t been there for him, and start a relationship. Also, I enjoyed seeing how Obie’s Korean heritage played into the story and how he thought of the intersections of his identity. I do think that the writing felt a bit stilted at times or like these young kids were making references that didn’t totally seem relevant for modern kids. But overall this was a great, hard-hitting Middle Grade story.
Thank you to the publisher for providing an advance copy via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
August 20, 2025
Trans stories are so, SO important and this is another wonderful addition to my list of favorites. This book does not shy away from the bad, ugly, and hurtful, but the hope, positivity, and joy is so loud—well balanced for such a triumphant book.
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January 8, 2022I really liked this one! I have been following Schuyler for ages on Instagram and was thrilled when he announced his book. I loved that he narrated the audiobook and it was done really well. I do feel like there's a little bit of a disconnect in the age range of this book. It's technically a middle grade but it reads like YA at some points and like middle grade at others.
I definitely think this is a book that cis readers should pick up and that trans readers could enjoy but definitely should be checking out content warnings first and reading reviews by other trans people. There are separate author's notes at the beginning and the end dedicated to both cis and trans readers where Schuyler kind of explains why he wrote the book the way he did and would be helpful to read beforehand.
This one is about Obie who is a swimmer in middle school and he has just been kicked off his swim team by his super transphobic coach. The coach's son, Clyde, is also a huge bully of Obie's and does some horrific things in this book. Content warning for bullying, transphobic and homophobic slurs including the f slur and t slur, physical assault, and outing Obie.
I really loved how supportive Obie's family was and his new swim coach and swim team were so amazing and I really loved all of their connections. I loved the Korean traditions thrown in as well and how intersexuality was discussed. I'm also here for books with trans characters in heteronormative relationships. To be fair, this is middle grade and so the dating element is small but it was cute nonetheless, especially Obie's brothers advice.
Additional CWs: death of a grandparent, loss of friendships, toxic masculinity, blood, hospital visit, stitches
Korean American trans boy MC
I definitely think this is a book that cis readers should pick up and that trans readers could enjoy but definitely should be checking out content warnings first and reading reviews by other trans people. There are separate author's notes at the beginning and the end dedicated to both cis and trans readers where Schuyler kind of explains why he wrote the book the way he did and would be helpful to read beforehand.
This one is about Obie who is a swimmer in middle school and he has just been kicked off his swim team by his super transphobic coach. The coach's son, Clyde, is also a huge bully of Obie's and does some horrific things in this book. Content warning for bullying, transphobic and homophobic slurs including the f slur and t slur, physical assault, and outing Obie.
I really loved how supportive Obie's family was and his new swim coach and swim team were so amazing and I really loved all of their connections. I loved the Korean traditions thrown in as well and how intersexuality was discussed. I'm also here for books with trans characters in heteronormative relationships. To be fair, this is middle grade and so the dating element is small but it was cute nonetheless, especially Obie's brothers advice.
Additional CWs: death of a grandparent, loss of friendships, toxic masculinity, blood, hospital visit, stitches
Korean American trans boy MC
April 10, 2025
4 stars 🌟
This was a hard read, but I'm glad I read it. Unfortunately I don't remember much of it now but I would highly recommend it.
Read #25 for Pride Month 2022.
I liked this quite a bit. It has been a few years since I read it so don't remember much but it was an interesting story with good representation.
Reviewed on 11th April, 2025.
DISCLAIMER-All opinions on books I’ve read and reviewed are my own, and are with no intention to offend anyone. If you feel offended by my reviews, let me know how I can fix it.
How I Rate-
1 star- Hardly liked anything/ was disappointed
2 star- Had potential but did not deliver/ was disappointed
3 stars- Was ok but could have been better/ was average / Enjoyed a lot but something was missing
4 stars- Loved a lot but something was missing
5 stars- Loved it/ new favourite
This was a hard read, but I'm glad I read it. Unfortunately I don't remember much of it now but I would highly recommend it.
Read #25 for Pride Month 2022.
I liked this quite a bit. It has been a few years since I read it so don't remember much but it was an interesting story with good representation.
Reviewed on 11th April, 2025.
DISCLAIMER-All opinions on books I’ve read and reviewed are my own, and are with no intention to offend anyone. If you feel offended by my reviews, let me know how I can fix it.
How I Rate-
1 star- Hardly liked anything/ was disappointed
2 star- Had potential but did not deliver/ was disappointed
3 stars- Was ok but could have been better/ was average / Enjoyed a lot but something was missing
4 stars- Loved a lot but something was missing
5 stars- Loved it/ new favourite
February 8, 2022
The author reads the audiobook and Schuyler did an amazing job! I loved his narrator and this book so much. The author notes at the end really got me too.
I want more middle grade books like this one. I want more books with trans athletes competing with the gender they are. Books like these are so incredibly important and they'll help fight the waves of transphobia/transmisia we see in the media over trans athletes.
Obie is man enough is a MG contemporary that centers on young Obie. He has recently come out as trans and after his coach kicks him off his swim team, he moves to another team. While the new team is amazing and supportive, Obie is still being bullied at school by Clyde, his once best friend and the son of his old swim coach. But he's determined to prove to everyone he belongs in the pool and with the boys.
This book was so good. There is a lot of transphobia/transmisia that Obie deals with, but it's true to the world. However, this book never felt truly hopeless. Obie is finding support everywhere around him, from his parents to his new friends and teammates.
I really enjoyed this book and I'm so happy with how it ended. It was so hopeful and happy and I need more of that.
Rep: Half Korean, half white trans male MC, cishet Latine female love interest, white trans male side character, cishet Korean male side character.
CWs: Transphobia/transmisia, bullying, deadnaming, misgendering, homophobia/homomisia, f-slur, violence, outing. Moderate: past mentions of suicidal thoughts, death, death of grandparent, mentions of war, toxic friendship, injury/injury detail, medical content (stitches), racism, dysphoria, grief. Minor: lesbophobia/lesbomisia, ableism, panic attacks.
I want more middle grade books like this one. I want more books with trans athletes competing with the gender they are. Books like these are so incredibly important and they'll help fight the waves of transphobia/transmisia we see in the media over trans athletes.
Obie is man enough is a MG contemporary that centers on young Obie. He has recently come out as trans and after his coach kicks him off his swim team, he moves to another team. While the new team is amazing and supportive, Obie is still being bullied at school by Clyde, his once best friend and the son of his old swim coach. But he's determined to prove to everyone he belongs in the pool and with the boys.
This book was so good. There is a lot of transphobia/transmisia that Obie deals with, but it's true to the world. However, this book never felt truly hopeless. Obie is finding support everywhere around him, from his parents to his new friends and teammates.
I really enjoyed this book and I'm so happy with how it ended. It was so hopeful and happy and I need more of that.
Rep: Half Korean, half white trans male MC, cishet Latine female love interest, white trans male side character, cishet Korean male side character.
CWs: Transphobia/transmisia, bullying, deadnaming, misgendering, homophobia/homomisia, f-slur, violence, outing. Moderate: past mentions of suicidal thoughts, death, death of grandparent, mentions of war, toxic friendship, injury/injury detail, medical content (stitches), racism, dysphoria, grief. Minor: lesbophobia/lesbomisia, ableism, panic attacks.
May 23, 2021
I enjoyed this book, it really is a great ownvoices representation especially for a middle-grade book.
I had an issue with the large amounts of transphobia and hatred that Obie had to face. At points, it was so upsetting that I had to put the book down. This may just be my own thing, I don't love books that center around violence and hardships that queer people go through. The author did give adequate warnings before the beginning of the story but it was very intense.
I loved all of the characters, and it felt very realistic of the age group. None of the characters behaved perfectly, even the good characters made little mistakes here and there because they're human. I loved that Obie's parents and the rest of his family were supportive of his transition, that's something that I adore in queer books.
Obie's romance with his gf and their dates are so cute to read through. I was rooting for them the whole time, I wish there had been a couple more scenes of them together because I just couldn't get enough of them.
Overall, it's a pretty cute book but there are a lot of dark and dreary moments that made me want to quit reading. I just kept waiting for things to get better for Obie, and it was upsetting that it took so long.
I had an issue with the large amounts of transphobia and hatred that Obie had to face. At points, it was so upsetting that I had to put the book down. This may just be my own thing, I don't love books that center around violence and hardships that queer people go through. The author did give adequate warnings before the beginning of the story but it was very intense.
I loved all of the characters, and it felt very realistic of the age group. None of the characters behaved perfectly, even the good characters made little mistakes here and there because they're human. I loved that Obie's parents and the rest of his family were supportive of his transition, that's something that I adore in queer books.
Obie's romance with his gf and their dates are so cute to read through. I was rooting for them the whole time, I wish there had been a couple more scenes of them together because I just couldn't get enough of them.
Overall, it's a pretty cute book but there are a lot of dark and dreary moments that made me want to quit reading. I just kept waiting for things to get better for Obie, and it was upsetting that it took so long.
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February 12, 2022
Really good, and while I was a bit surprised (and a little shocked) by the deadnaming in the first sentence, I actually thought Bailar toned down quite a lot (and not just for a middle grade audience, either).
Anywho, it's about a boy who exists in a lot of intersections. Swimmer. Korean. Whyte. Trans. Alive.
Full RTC...maybe.
Anywho, it's about a boy who exists in a lot of intersections. Swimmer. Korean. Whyte. Trans. Alive.
Full RTC...maybe.
August 12, 2021
Trigger Warnings: Transphobia, deadnaming, bullying, police brutality/systemic racism, violence, toxic masculinity, trauma, blood, needles, testosterone, Catholicism, death, negative self-talk, assisted living facility, racism, death of a parent, outing someone, homophobia, cursing
Representation: Transgender, Korean, Gay, Salvadorian, Cuban
Obie is Man Enough is a middle grade novel about a boy named Obie who has to change swim teams due to ignorance and bullying. Obie struggles with his intersectional identities and learns more about himself through the support of his circle and the different challenges he faces. Obie is ready to prove to everyone that he can swim with the boys and even beat them!
Aww I loved this story! This was an easy read despite it being geared toward middle grade. Obie felt fully developed and flawed. His inner dialogue was completely relatable, even to an adult. I felt like Obie was very mature for 13 and struggled with relationships like we all do. I loved the texts and lists along the way. The story comes to a complete and satisfying close, resolving the issues that occurred and allowing Obie to continue to grow and develop into the man he is. I also really enjoyed learning more about swimming!
Obie’s family is very supportive of him, which is often not the case for Transgender kids. I loved how Obie could recognize this and the author’s note at the end as well. I also felt Obie’s relationship with different adults was so realistic and relatable, coming from a similar situation myself.
Overall, this was a fantastic read and I could not put it down!
This eARC was provided by the publisher, Random House Children’s via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
Representation: Transgender, Korean, Gay, Salvadorian, Cuban
Obie is Man Enough is a middle grade novel about a boy named Obie who has to change swim teams due to ignorance and bullying. Obie struggles with his intersectional identities and learns more about himself through the support of his circle and the different challenges he faces. Obie is ready to prove to everyone that he can swim with the boys and even beat them!
Aww I loved this story! This was an easy read despite it being geared toward middle grade. Obie felt fully developed and flawed. His inner dialogue was completely relatable, even to an adult. I felt like Obie was very mature for 13 and struggled with relationships like we all do. I loved the texts and lists along the way. The story comes to a complete and satisfying close, resolving the issues that occurred and allowing Obie to continue to grow and develop into the man he is. I also really enjoyed learning more about swimming!
Obie’s family is very supportive of him, which is often not the case for Transgender kids. I loved how Obie could recognize this and the author’s note at the end as well. I also felt Obie’s relationship with different adults was so realistic and relatable, coming from a similar situation myself.
Overall, this was a fantastic read and I could not put it down!
This eARC was provided by the publisher, Random House Children’s via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
October 23, 2021
TW: F-Slur, Homophobia, transphobia, Bullying
One of the reasons why I love MGLit so much is because of the power some of these books hold. The emotion behind them and the stories being told are sometimes so much more powerful, since it’s written from the perspective of someone who we, as a society, think should be safeguarded from certain negative experiences like discrimination and bullying.
This book is one of those books that will linger with me for a long time. I’ll internally struggle with who to recommend it to because of some of the situations and the slurs that are thrown at the MC because he is Trans, but I’ll know it’s there waiting for the right reader. BUT with that thought written out, I know that this is the kind of book that NEEDS to be read because of its content. It is in these jarring experiences that most of us can begin to hopefully understand the pain so many kids experiences
Obie is one strong teenager and if he were real, I’d want to hug him and tell him that he is loved. I love that characters like his exist in literature, and I really hope to see more of them.
I’d highly recommend this book to everyone, just know that there are certain triggers.
Also, props to the author for making the love interest Cuban!!
Happy reading!
One of the reasons why I love MGLit so much is because of the power some of these books hold. The emotion behind them and the stories being told are sometimes so much more powerful, since it’s written from the perspective of someone who we, as a society, think should be safeguarded from certain negative experiences like discrimination and bullying.
This book is one of those books that will linger with me for a long time. I’ll internally struggle with who to recommend it to because of some of the situations and the slurs that are thrown at the MC because he is Trans, but I’ll know it’s there waiting for the right reader. BUT with that thought written out, I know that this is the kind of book that NEEDS to be read because of its content. It is in these jarring experiences that most of us can begin to hopefully understand the pain so many kids experiences
Obie is one strong teenager and if he were real, I’d want to hug him and tell him that he is loved. I love that characters like his exist in literature, and I really hope to see more of them.
I’d highly recommend this book to everyone, just know that there are certain triggers.
Also, props to the author for making the love interest Cuban!!
Happy reading!
May 14, 2023
Mooi boek dat vooral ook laat zien dat je niet alleen maar trans bent, maar dat het toevallig een deel van je identiteit kan zijn.
February 12, 2023
It’s a very well written book and it addresses some very important issues when it comes to coming out, bullying and homophobia.
However, I just couldn’t help feeling bored at around 40 percent even though everything about the book is good.
The characters seem too sweet at times and the adults rather either too understanding or too not so understanding. Like there’s no in between.
This is the story of a teen transgender who is struggling with how different people in their life are reacting after they come out.
Well, it’s a good book. Guess I have read better books on this topic. And I don’t want to compare so not going to list the other two titles on my mind.
However, I just couldn’t help feeling bored at around 40 percent even though everything about the book is good.
The characters seem too sweet at times and the adults rather either too understanding or too not so understanding. Like there’s no in between.
This is the story of a teen transgender who is struggling with how different people in their life are reacting after they come out.
Well, it’s a good book. Guess I have read better books on this topic. And I don’t want to compare so not going to list the other two titles on my mind.
November 8, 2021
I was only able to get through this text because I downloaded it as an audiobook.
"Obie..." reads like a stereotypical tumblr post of an unhinged teenage girl who imagines the whole world is against her just because not everybody agrees to participate in her mentally ill interpretation of the world.
The language is simplistic - as simplistic as the author, who specializes in revoltingly sweet, yet logically empty Instagram posts (I follow her there so I have a bit of a comparison).
The story is a cliche - if you ever read any progressive propaganda, you know it already.
In the end I would actually recommend this book though - but only as a study of an individual suffering from gender identity disorders. If you look at the book this way, it might be worth reading.
"Obie..." reads like a stereotypical tumblr post of an unhinged teenage girl who imagines the whole world is against her just because not everybody agrees to participate in her mentally ill interpretation of the world.
The language is simplistic - as simplistic as the author, who specializes in revoltingly sweet, yet logically empty Instagram posts (I follow her there so I have a bit of a comparison).
The story is a cliche - if you ever read any progressive propaganda, you know it already.
In the end I would actually recommend this book though - but only as a study of an individual suffering from gender identity disorders. If you look at the book this way, it might be worth reading.
December 8, 2021
Trans MG always hits a particular soft spot for me. This one had some really heavy themes, but they were handled well, and it had a good balance between being educating cis kids and speaking to trans kids. My only complain is that it has a LOT of subplots/story threads and it could feel a little chaotic at times. It also means a lot of side characters that didn't all get the development/page time I hoped for. Overall I had a great time though and I flew through this despite being extremely busy lately.
September 2, 2021
ARC provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review
I'm impressed by the fact that this just became one of my favorites books of the year, I didn't think I was going to enjoy it this much.
Well then, this book is about Obie who is trans boy trying to prove himself that he is "man enough" to belong everywhere. After his coach kicked him out of the swimming team, just because being himself, he also loses his best friend because they don't wanna be around him anymore.
But this is just the beginning of the story, I found this book marvelously real, even though this is no my experience, the relationship between Obie an his brother is something I can relate to, the relationship with his parents and the bond with his teammates is really cool.
I was really touch by the fact of how the author talks about experiences through his book and all the speech about we don't need to prove anything to anyone but ourselves and how in the end we only need to be surrounded by the people who love us the way we are.
I would highly recommend this book to people who enjoyed books like All Boys Aren't Blue or (one of my favorites of this year too) Felix Ever After or just to everyone who enjoys queer stories.
I'm impressed by the fact that this just became one of my favorites books of the year, I didn't think I was going to enjoy it this much.
Well then, this book is about Obie who is trans boy trying to prove himself that he is "man enough" to belong everywhere. After his coach kicked him out of the swimming team, just because being himself, he also loses his best friend because they don't wanna be around him anymore.
But this is just the beginning of the story, I found this book marvelously real, even though this is no my experience, the relationship between Obie an his brother is something I can relate to, the relationship with his parents and the bond with his teammates is really cool.
I was really touch by the fact of how the author talks about experiences through his book and all the speech about we don't need to prove anything to anyone but ourselves and how in the end we only need to be surrounded by the people who love us the way we are.
I would highly recommend this book to people who enjoyed books like All Boys Aren't Blue or (one of my favorites of this year too) Felix Ever After or just to everyone who enjoys queer stories.
June 25, 2021
Obie is Korean-American, in seventh grade, and a competitive swimmer working hard to qualify for the Junior Olympics. He’s also transgender. A perfect classroom read, Obie Is Man Enough follows Obie as he faces transphobia at school and from his old swim team and learns to stand up for himself with the support of his community.
The transphobia in this book is very present and violent - deadnaming happens, the t and f slurs are used, and it gets kinda dark, although Obie is very well supported by most of the adults in his life and the violence is handled promptly and fully when called to adult attention. I'm not sure I would give this book to a young trans kid, but I do think it's an important book for cis kids (and adults) to read, and may be an important book for trans kids to read but with adult guidance. It may be triggering and upsetting.
Thank you to NetGalley and Crown Books for Young Readers for the ARC!
The transphobia in this book is very present and violent - deadnaming happens, the t and f slurs are used, and it gets kinda dark, although Obie is very well supported by most of the adults in his life and the violence is handled promptly and fully when called to adult attention. I'm not sure I would give this book to a young trans kid, but I do think it's an important book for cis kids (and adults) to read, and may be an important book for trans kids to read but with adult guidance. It may be triggering and upsetting.
Thank you to NetGalley and Crown Books for Young Readers for the ARC!
April 17, 2021
Representation matters, and Schuyler has done an #ownvoices in the strongest possible way. He too was assigned female at birth, as Obie is in this story, and He too was on the swim team. So, he knows by where he speaks, or writes in this case.
From the get-go, we see Obie being assaulted by his former friend, and unlike so many novels, Obie does go and report it, and we do get to see the bully kicked out of school.
This doesn't mean the rest of the book is just butterflies and roses, though.
Good voice for Obie. You feel the struggles he is going through, and it is so nice that his parents are right there helping him and loving him, every step of the way. Good book for middle graders to read if they are cis gendered or transgender, they will get things out of this either way.
Thanks to Netgalley for making this book available for an honest review.
From the get-go, we see Obie being assaulted by his former friend, and unlike so many novels, Obie does go and report it, and we do get to see the bully kicked out of school.
This doesn't mean the rest of the book is just butterflies and roses, though.
Good voice for Obie. You feel the struggles he is going through, and it is so nice that his parents are right there helping him and loving him, every step of the way. Good book for middle graders to read if they are cis gendered or transgender, they will get things out of this either way.
Thanks to Netgalley for making this book available for an honest review.
December 10, 2021
I wish we could give all trans kids the support system Obie has. His life is still challenging as it is for all middle school kids, made even more challenging by facing bullying and discrimination for being trans. I'm happy this book was full of encouragement and positivity and not just focusing on the bad parts created by others. Hugs to all the trans folks out there! May your Clyde's vanish from your life and be replaced by people like Charlie, Obie's swim mates, and his supportive family.
BootieMashup on Twitch is owned by a very talented DJ Adriana A who is also trans. Every Friday night at 7pm PST on their channel there is a zoom party called the Dance Commander Disco, a radically inclusive bunch who love to dance, chat, and even play D&D. If you want a space you'll be accepted as you are (as long as you aren't a jerk) please join us!
BootieMashup on Twitch is owned by a very talented DJ Adriana A who is also trans. Every Friday night at 7pm PST on their channel there is a zoom party called the Dance Commander Disco, a radically inclusive bunch who love to dance, chat, and even play D&D. If you want a space you'll be accepted as you are (as long as you aren't a jerk) please join us!
August 13, 2021
Equally heart-breaking and uplifting, this middle grade novel follows Obie, a biracial (Korean/white) transgender boy who is grappling with swimming for the first time against boys, his ex-best friend becoming his bully, and his first crush. Author and swimmer Schuyler Bailar, the first transgender athlete to compete in any sport on an NCAA Division I men's team, provides a truly authentic voice for Obie. Glossary and resources in the back make this a wonderful read for anyone wanting to explore the experiences of transgender individuals, regardless of their gender identity. But the heart and authenticity infusing every moment is what makes this book essential reading for everyone.
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NetGalley provided a free digital review copy in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.
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NetGalley provided a free digital review copy in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.
August 1, 2021
CAWPILE: 8.71
I received an advanced copy of this book for review and let me say that it was so good. This is the kind of book I think everyone should read (if the content won't trigger them) because it allows for better understanding of being a kid not comfortable with being in the body they were born in. Obie was a great kid and I am so glad that he was able to do what he needed to do. There were definitely things that I wish were handled or executed differently, in general and in resolution, but this book was still a great one.
I received an advanced copy of this book for review and let me say that it was so good. This is the kind of book I think everyone should read (if the content won't trigger them) because it allows for better understanding of being a kid not comfortable with being in the body they were born in. Obie was a great kid and I am so glad that he was able to do what he needed to do. There were definitely things that I wish were handled or executed differently, in general and in resolution, but this book was still a great one.
March 18, 2024
4.0 stars! Third middle grade I’ve read, but unlike the other two, I wouldn’t exactly call this one “cute”. While it’s not my only experience with transphobia in middle grade, it feels especially graphic here. Eesh. Topical, though, considering the politicization (and demonization) of trans kids in today’s climate—especially youth. I was very glad that Obie had a great support system to even that out. (Even with that though, I felt so protective of him!!)
This also did a really great job at capturing the life and viewpoint of a middle schooler! It made me remember what it was like to go through friend group triumphs and troubles, and the usual academic stress lol. I thought the emotional reactions were all realistic and in-character for Obie, I appreciated how both his proudness in his identity and his complicated feelings surrounding living as a trans person were written about, Tommy unfortunately wasn’t on-page for very long but it was nice to have an older trans character for guidance and his kinship with Obie was super cute!!, and I overall liked the family dynamics!: Obie is biracial, with both his Korean and white sides of his family appearing in the story, and on his Korean side we got to see how his culture intersected with his identity which I thought was pretty cool! (And yay for supportive grandparents, of course.) (But a side note, it caught me off-guard to see brief explanations for some of the Korean terminology, I’m so used to looking different cultural terms up for myself because there’s the expectation that people *within* that background will be picking up a book and reading it.)
Also, someone’s got to confirm whether Charlie is neurodivergent or not lol. Her Rubik’s Cube obsession seems like a hyperfixation!! And when gets hyper, she fidgets with them to concentrate!! ADHD vibes to me.
One nitpick I have though is I wished the swimming felt more immersive in its descriptions, instead of it being a rundown of different actions for the most part. I say nitpick because I started reading this right after a (drastically different) *very* detailed book on swimming and my expectations might’ve been a little skewed. But in the latter half, we got some great gender feelings about swimming which I made sure to highlight! (If I delete this part pretend it was never there because it’s such a strange issue to have I’m laughing editing this review)
Although the author wrote this in a way to provide more humanizing narratives of transgender kids to cis people, you can also tell he wrote this just as much for trans readers looking for representation. Which I feel is most obvious in both of his author’s notes, and the resources provided at the end of the book!
There’s a couple other smaller issues I had, which was that the pacing felt off for different parts, but overall I’d recommend this for middle grade readers. Not a light read, but it’s worthwhile.
This also did a really great job at capturing the life and viewpoint of a middle schooler! It made me remember what it was like to go through friend group triumphs and troubles, and the usual academic stress lol. I thought the emotional reactions were all realistic and in-character for Obie, I appreciated how both his proudness in his identity and his complicated feelings surrounding living as a trans person were written about, Tommy unfortunately wasn’t on-page for very long but it was nice to have an older trans character for guidance and his kinship with Obie was super cute!!, and I overall liked the family dynamics!: Obie is biracial, with both his Korean and white sides of his family appearing in the story, and on his Korean side we got to see how his culture intersected with his identity which I thought was pretty cool! (And yay for supportive grandparents, of course.) (But a side note, it caught me off-guard to see brief explanations for some of the Korean terminology, I’m so used to looking different cultural terms up for myself because there’s the expectation that people *within* that background will be picking up a book and reading it.)
Also, someone’s got to confirm whether Charlie is neurodivergent or not lol. Her Rubik’s Cube obsession seems like a hyperfixation!! And when gets hyper, she fidgets with them to concentrate!! ADHD vibes to me.
One nitpick I have though is I wished the swimming felt more immersive in its descriptions, instead of it being a rundown of different actions for the most part. I say nitpick because I started reading this right after a (drastically different) *very* detailed book on swimming and my expectations might’ve been a little skewed. But in the latter half, we got some great gender feelings about swimming which I made sure to highlight! (If I delete this part pretend it was never there because it’s such a strange issue to have I’m laughing editing this review)
Although the author wrote this in a way to provide more humanizing narratives of transgender kids to cis people, you can also tell he wrote this just as much for trans readers looking for representation. Which I feel is most obvious in both of his author’s notes, and the resources provided at the end of the book!
There’s a couple other smaller issues I had, which was that the pacing felt off for different parts, but overall I’d recommend this for middle grade readers. Not a light read, but it’s worthwhile.
June 3, 2024
"There is no man enough. There is just being a man. And winning has nothing to do with my manhood."
In Obie is Man Enough we follow Obie who recently got kicked off of his old swim team for coming into who he is. Obie is trans and once he proclaims that, his once best friend Clyde (who happens to be the coach's son) and his coach bully him, deadname him, and let him know he is not welcome on that team. So, Obie's parents set out to find him a team where he is welcome, and they sure do find it!
Obie is the luckiest kid when it comes to a support system. He has the greatest parents that are nothing but loving, supportive, and patient, his grandparents are all just the sweetest, and even his brother - though pretty typical older brother - is one of the biggest cheerleaders in Obie's corner! When Obie joins his new swim team he is quickly embraced by two new friends and a wonderful coach. They have his back and reassure him time and time again that he is exactly who he is meant to be and there is nothing wrong with that.
Overall, this is one big feel-good story. There are moments that will tug at your heart for sure and there are a few tough bullying scenes to read, but in the end it's a triumphant story about becoming who you were meant to be and owning it. Standing up for yourself, standing up for your friends, and showing compassion to those who may not necessarily "deserve" it.
"I get it. I do. You just wanted to be liked. Included."
Schuyler acknowledges this is somewhat a picture-perfect example of what a support system could look like and also acknowledges that many trans kids will not have this same experience. I'm so glad this book exists, and I hope more people learn to be more compassionate and accepting of others. If there's one thing to take away from this book- it's that.
November 10, 2021
Seventh grader Obie Chang has to leave his swim team, the Barracudas, because his coach isn't supportive and refuses to honor his transition from Sarah to Obie. While he continues to face extreme bullying from one of his childhood friends and former teammate, Clyde, Obie is much more comfortable with his new coach and his new teammates. He has a supportive family and friends and even the possibility of a romance with Charlie, who works at the sandwich shop Obie and his father frequent. While this book focuses on Obie's experiences, there is much more to the story, including his passion for swimming and improving so that he can make the Junior Olympics and excel there, his love for food and his various cultures, and his growing interest in writing and honoring the different parts of his identity. There are also questions about being good enough or man enough that he explores throughout the storyline and a resounding response to those who would tear him down rather than support him. Also, Obie struggles with how honest to be with Charlie. Many young teen readers will appreciate the subplot concerning his friend Lucy who fears being seen as different and standing out from the crowd so much that she deserts Obie when he most needs her. For many adolescents and even adults, it's hard to be true to oneself when that means facing ridicule or being alone. This book is filled with much heart and humor and will surely offer a path forward for those who fear being themselves and not being accepted. That said, this book may prompt important conversations about gender and competitive sports. Hooray for Obie Chang! He's clearly man enough to do whatever needs to be done.
February 13, 2024
Actual Rating: 4.5 / 5
This book is gravely underhyped because it's so good! With acceptance or having a sense of belongingness being the main theme of the story, Obie is a lovable and relatable character. I'd like to also emphasize how wonderful the family dynamics are in Obie's family. This story is close to my heart hugely because of the swimming and writing. The pressures of doing well in both activities are intense and I've undergone them, luckily, at separate points in my life. Still, Obie remains resilient and positive with the help of his strong support system. This book honestly made me tear up with how honest and empowering Obie and his loved ones are. A big shout out to Pooch because everyone deserves a Pooch in their lives. My only wish for this is to have some remorse or character development from the antagonist but let's face it, not many people are willing to accept the changes in the world.
This book is gravely underhyped because it's so good! With acceptance or having a sense of belongingness being the main theme of the story, Obie is a lovable and relatable character. I'd like to also emphasize how wonderful the family dynamics are in Obie's family. This story is close to my heart hugely because of the swimming and writing. The pressures of doing well in both activities are intense and I've undergone them, luckily, at separate points in my life. Still, Obie remains resilient and positive with the help of his strong support system. This book honestly made me tear up with how honest and empowering Obie and his loved ones are. A big shout out to Pooch because everyone deserves a Pooch in their lives. My only wish for this is to have some remorse or character development from the antagonist but let's face it, not many people are willing to accept the changes in the world.
July 19, 2022
To say that I loved this book is an understatement.
Aimed at a middle grade audience, Schuyler Bailar, the first openly transgender male athlete to compete at the NCAA D1 level, tells the story of Obie, a trans Korean-American thirteen-year-old, who navigates both the sport of swimming and relationships with his friends and family.
Although Obie experiences bullying and harrassment, he has a strong support basis. Despite the novel being aimed at a younger audience, I treasured getting to hear Obie’s perspective—the perspective of someone who must not only surpass an added obstacle in an already tough sport of competing against boys after racing girls for most of his life, but also that of a human being fighting for acceptance, something that should never be conditional.
This is a story that needs to be told more often. I’ll say it, and then I’ll say it three times over. It needs to be told in books, movies, and on the news. If more people were familiar with this kind of story, I can write with certainty that trans athletes would not have to battle so much discrimination.
To Schuyler Bailar: thank you for telling this story. You rock.
Aimed at a middle grade audience, Schuyler Bailar, the first openly transgender male athlete to compete at the NCAA D1 level, tells the story of Obie, a trans Korean-American thirteen-year-old, who navigates both the sport of swimming and relationships with his friends and family.
Although Obie experiences bullying and harrassment, he has a strong support basis. Despite the novel being aimed at a younger audience, I treasured getting to hear Obie’s perspective—the perspective of someone who must not only surpass an added obstacle in an already tough sport of competing against boys after racing girls for most of his life, but also that of a human being fighting for acceptance, something that should never be conditional.
This is a story that needs to be told more often. I’ll say it, and then I’ll say it three times over. It needs to be told in books, movies, and on the news. If more people were familiar with this kind of story, I can write with certainty that trans athletes would not have to battle so much discrimination.
To Schuyler Bailar: thank you for telling this story. You rock.
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