Woman who has always said she doesn’t want to be a mother meets a single dad with two kids who changes her mind. I enjoyed the writing, but this story has got some problems.
1. She’s said she doesn’t want kids.
She loves her career and doesn’t want to give it up. She had a mom who chose her career over her and her sister and doesn’t want to be that kind of mom. She loves kids and sacrifices for her sister and her nephew. BUT SHE DOESN’T WANT TO BE A MOM. And yet, by the end of the book, she’s agreed to marry a man and be a mom to his children.
2. This hero is manipulative and persistent.
He sees her and pursues her until she gives in. And doesn’t listen when she says that she can’t date him because he has kids. He introduces her to his kids while saying “we don’t have to date… you can just hang out with us” but kisses her in front of his kids and holds her hand. She keeps on trying to set boundaries and he keeps blowing past them.
3. This is a single dad romance where the dad is supposedly amazing... but I have concerns.
He says they can keep it casual... but doesn't. He is constantly leaving his kids with a sitter so he can pursue the heroine. He brings his "casual" date around his kids way too often and way too early. I can see the author trying to make this guy look good... but it doesn't hold up. You would NEVER see a (good) single mom romance where she leaves her kids to date around.
4. The heroine is self-sacrificing and a doormat.
She's sacrificed her whole life for her sister so she's used to bending over backwards and letting people step all over her. In this book, we see her borrow $60k to help her sister and nephew out and never tell anyone, we see her take a job that she doesn't want to help her sister and nephew, we see her boss and boss-boss screw her over in that job offer by promising her a $100k bonus to take the job and then taking that bonus away, and we see the hero manipulate her into dating him and falling in love with his kids. And at no time, do we see the heroine standing up for herself in a meaningful way. She sets boundaries... and then lets people walk right past them.
She shouldn’t be worried that she will miss her kid’s games because of work. She should be worried that she won’t have a career once she has a husband and kids because they’ll be demanding and she won’t be able to say no. And NOTHING that happens in this book convinces me that the hero will protect her dreams. It looks like he “helps” because he cleans around her house, says nice things, and pays for some things she cares about. But even in the epilogue, he’s in her office during her busy season pressuring her to plan their wedding.
I was waiting throughout this book for there to be a healthy ending that grows the heroine and maybe the hero too… but nope. It had a happy ending but it was shallow. He’s wealthy and can buy her dreamhouse at the end… but she NEVER learns how to set a boundary that sticks, she’s now in a job she never wanted and will be a mother to children which she also never wanted, and there was no mention of how the hero alleviated any of her stress related to her sister/nephew. Or helped her find someone to run the charity she loves so much now that she has a job that won’t give her the time to run it herself. Like, he provides NO solutions for her life and just creates the problems that she’s been afraid of for the longest time.
5. I would also like to complain about how much money the heroine seems to be able to sacrifice to everyone and still have more to sacrifice. She's 30 years old. She owns a three-bedroom house. She has more than $60,000 in her retirement account. She also gave her entire savings to the charity that she runs last year so they could stay in business. And, she makes about $80-100k. Yes, this is a respectable amount but the amount she gives away does not make sense.
And my final complaint is that the hero is 40 years old. We learn this at the very end and it just makes me feel like him being older and manipulative and combined with her being younger puts her at a disadvantage.
Safety Deets
- No OW. Sort of. Except the hero is a widower and at one time in the book, he’s fighting with the heroine and says this absolute shit: “Do you have any idea what it feels like to have an epic love, to meet your perfect match and then to watch her die doing the one thing you both wanted, trying to grow your family?” Uh. What was that!? In that one sentence, he basically says his dead wife was his epic love and perfect match AND he says that growing his family is what he wants (AND HE KNOWS SHE DOESN’T WANT TO BE A MOM). And does he EVER apologize to the heroine for this absolutely AWFUL thing to say to her? Does he EVER tell her that SHE’s his perfect match or epic love (or ANYTHING that makes her at least be as important as his dead wife)? No. He does not. So, ya, this guy hasn’t dated around. The heroine is the first woman he brings around his children or friends. But, that sentence!? I could happily see him forever single for saying that.
- No OM. The heroine broke up with her boyfriend when he wanted children and she didn’t. She still works around him and sees him and has to interact, etc. but there’s no relationship or hint of one with him.
- Consent is dubious at best. There’s no sexy times… but a man who doesn’t listen to what the heroine wants and just keeps pushing until she changes her mind to what he wants? Not going to care about her consent in anything.
- No HEA (this ends with them engaged and planning their wedding). Maybe they won’t actually get married. And she can escape. But somehow, I doubt that. Sounds like the next story is about the woman who will be her wedding planner (even though she never plans weddings, the hero knows he can manipulate her into planning theirs). Is it weird that I kinda want to read the next book to see how she gets manipulated into going against everything she’s ever said?
And the hero gives the heroine a mom bag and slips a ring on her finger. He never asks her to marry him. He just tells her that he bought a house for them and give her these things and then asks "what's my answer?"
I even had to back up and re-read this section to see if he actually said "would you marry me?" And he doesn't. But she says "yes" anyway.