Trauma Bonding: How to Stop Feeling Stuck, Overcome Heartache, Anxiety and PTSD - Includes Q&A and Case Studies

by Annely Alexander

Still struggling from the effects of an abusive relationship?

- If you're feeling heartbroken over one particular individual and this heartache has been going on for a weirdly long time
- If you are “stuck” on one person in your life, if you feel you are trauma-bonded to an individual and can’t move past feeling heartbroken over them, then …

But first, a
Before we go further, let me make something abundantly
- This book is for you but it's not just an information product.
- This book does not contain a "magic wand" that will bring you instant relief without having to do any work.
- What I’m about to share with you takes both time and effort and has worked wonders for me and my private clients. And I believe it can help you too.
- The exact process I’ll be sharing with you has taken several of my clients from a state of frustration and feeling "stuck", to crystal clarity as to what they should do. But this only works for those who are willing look deep inside themselves and are committed to finding true happiness.
So with that said, let me tell you…

Does any of this sound familiar?
- You continue to be fixated on people who hurt you and who are no longer in your life.
- You crave contact with someone who has hurt you and who you know will cause you more pain.
- You continue to revolve around people who you know are taking advantage of you or exploiting you.
- You are committed to remaining loyal to someone who has betrayed you, even though their actions indicate few signs of change.
- You are desperate to be understood, validated, or needed by those who have indicated they do not care about you.
- You go to great lengths to continue to help, caretake, or consider people who have been destructive to you.

What You Need
-Someone who has the knowledge, training, education and experience working on himself and others to lead you through the emotional sh*tstorm that breaking with a narcissist can create.

Here's a little sneak preview of what you’ll
- 4 Ways to know if you have been trauma bonded
- 10 Healing questions to ask yourself
- The most dangerous effect of trauma bonding on your brain and how to fix it
- The first step you need to know before starting your healing journey
- The brutal truth you don’t want to hear to break the trauma bond
- How to understand if you are in love or you are in trauma
- How to start feeling safe with yourself
- How to resolve Heartache and Obsession and move on
- How to overcome negative emotions ( Anger, hate, fear, anxiety .. )
The list goes on …

What’s Holding You Back?
-“I’m afraid of really hearing the truth.”
My book is designed with YOU in mind, and all of the information is delivered to you in a loving, gentle manner. You will never be put down by me, you will feel confident and supported!
- “I’m not ready to do anything just yet. I’ll get it when I’m ready to take action.”
This book doesn’t force you to do anything you’re not ready to do. You have all the time in the world to complete it, and you do it on your terms and at your speed.

I can’t promise you that reading to this book is going to be a “total cure”, but I can promise that if you APPLY YOURSELF DILIGENTLY, take notes, read and re-read the chapters, you will feel an instant decrease in anxiety within the first couple of days and should see huge improvements within the first week or two.
This is not hype, this is what my audience commonly reports!

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Mental Health, Nonfiction, Relationships

205 pages, Paperback

Published December 19, 2020

Reviews

[Yelena Lubyagina · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was a disappointment. I read several reviews and all of them were so promising but the book turned out to be a poorly written collection of thoughts, often put together without any logic or structure. Some of them did make sense though, but overall it didn’t feel like reading a book rather listening to someone’s chaotic explanations of concepts a person wasn’t 100% sure about. No examples, no reasoning, no substantiation. If you are interested in learning more about trauma bonding, read another book.

[Kimberly · Rating 3 out of 5]

There was some good info here but I felt it took too narrow of a view on whether a trauma bond has any aspect of real love in it at all. Book says it doesn’t but I disagree because if you loved the person before the trauma it wouldn’t be true. I think the trauma bond does get activated though if the negative behavior increases our attachment instead of compelling us to leave. It also focused too much on the other person being a narcissist. Notevery difficult or toxic person fits the many types of narcissist. I’ve just seen other resources that weren’t so hardline on definitions and situations

[Dakota Shortridge · Rating 1 out of 5]

The Worst Book I’ve ever Read

I’ve read some shitty books, but this one is so shitty I stopped halfway. I really tried to give this book a chance but the author is all over the place. The use of exclamation points was off putting and the part where the author wrote about hitting a daughter with a horse whip is when I finally closed this book and hope others never read it. Kindle Unlimited, you have failed me bro.

[Kelly Storc · Rating 5 out of 5]

READ. THIS. BOOK. I read every day, and this book above any other I have read this year, has changed my life. You are going to learn how to heal the parts of you that must be healed to form the healthy relationships you both want and need in your life. I listened on Audible. Incredibly important read for anyone who feels damaged, abandoned, mistreated, abused, or even just heartbroken in any way.

[Megan · Rating 1 out of 5]

Did not even finish this book. Doesn't even sound like it is written by a professional? Very basic literature on complex problems. It was just repeating the same things over and over again. Would not recommend!

[Julie Rodgers · Rating 4 out of 5]

I needed this book

I enjoyed this book and it really helped me open my eyes in certain ways. I found myself taking notes and screen shots.

[Kelly · Rating 3 out of 5]

Helpful

I’m going to comment on the narration in the audible version first. It was difficult to listen to in the beginning but I did get used to it and I’m curious if the calming robotic nature of the narrator helped keep the material from becoming too overwhelming. I Did get a lot out of the beginning of the book but towards the end I didn’t listen to many of the example stories because they were too difficult for me to tolerate. Overall I feel like I’ve benefited by listening to this book.

[Leah Pacala · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some good points in the book but the writing was terrible and so hard to follow. It was very disorganized and felt like someone’s stream of consciousness thrown onto the pages, or like it was translated poorly from another language. Would recommend reading other books on the same subject if you’re looking for one.

[Rocío Jiménez Luna · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's so terrible how we sometimes can't let go of relationships that have severely affected our mental health! Even when we experienced PTSD and developed anxiety disorders, we still think that person will change for the best, will become the wonderful person we have created of themselves in our minds. They can tell you they will change and make a lot of promises, but they will eventually be broken. A promise has no meaning to them. Narcissistic people just don't change, they just lie, lie and lie. Leave any relationships where you are not even getting the bare minimum! Don't bend your expectations lower and lower, there are some things that are absolutely wrong and cannot be tolerated! Trauma bond is not love, is an addiction your brain has developed. The trauma changed the chemistry of your brain. So the first step to start healing is to recognize you are being a victim of narcissistic abuse, so let go of narcissistic people so you can become a survivor and start healing yourself. Recovering from abuse happens when you, the victim, can be totally honest with yourself about what happened and accept that it happened. Truth can heal you, but the lies you tell yourself to protect that person from their terrible actions, tie you into a bond. Remember that loving someone means respecting them. If they don't respect you, they don't love you.
Many narcissistics started life as unhappy abused children. They use people for their own benefit and throw them away when they are not useful for them, when they have set up limits. Some victims of family abuse, turn into abusers themselves. Some victims grow up to be violent themselves, they think violence is the best way to solve disagreements. If the violent parent is narcissistic and manipulative, his or her efforts to crush the victim's independence and initiative usually make that person passive and depressed. Depression is in a way, anger turned inwards. This anger with themselves can make victims sick to numb their disappointment and pain with alcohol abuse, overeacting and sexual escapism. Narcissistic parents are dangerously manipulative. The use of children by a female sociopath is one of the most horrifying types of narcissistic abuse. Children can become severely damaged as they are used as tools to gain control over a father. Sadly, these trauma bonded children grow up to become abusive, violent and manipulative adults.
So, always see what love is not! You will be better than you ever were. Recovery is possible. Think of the fact that they don't understand what they've done, they feel nothing! They only give in public to validate their public image. They are very dangerous because they get away with a lot, unseen, and yet they have a strong ability to influence people around them. They are coldhearted, they like to have the power to punish, to make people afraid of them. They will never admit being out of control.
Free yourself from the stockholm syndrome and cognitive dissonance and stop being addicted to someone who gave you pain. Although this is something very difficult to do, sometimes you will have to hit rock bottom to realize about the truth. Remember, "The monster you saw at the end of the relationship is exactly who they are. Don't make excuses for them".

[Jessica T. · Rating 5 out of 5]

An Excellent Resource for Recovery

This book is an amazing resource for victims of trauma bonds. The fact that the author addresses one in first person is very endearing & helps to feel that you're well understood, & respected. After dealing with what feels like hell and the worst imaginable emotional pain (as well as physical!), it helps to have a gentle and rational voice guiding you through the confusion and mess that comes from a trauma bond. This book continues to remind you of your worth & what good lies ahead in the future after breaking free from a toxic relationship. Would 100% recommend to anyone!

[Rahul Jain · Rating 4 out of 5]

I like that the book has a clear advisory tone sometimes, and then some case studies by the end. It's clear in its intent to be a advisory book and a cautionary tale. it helped me gain more perspective on my own relationships. The book was recommended to me by my therapist, and it did work in multiple ways.

[amber weick · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very informative

The book was easy to read and understand. It was very informative and had good information. Good for anyone to read so that these things never happen to you or help if you know someone with this issue .

[anna woodman · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great message, poorly written!

This book could be great, the content is there but the writing is atrocious. Would benefit from an editor! Shame as it could really help people if it wasn’t so awkward, repetitive and difficult to read and follow.

[Flyingbroom · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good content overall, but needs major improvements in terms of editing (there are lots of typos/non sequiturs/sentences that are grammatically incorrect/weird distribution of text throughout the pages).

[Debra Savage]

Very Helpful

The author thoroughly explained not only what trauma bonding is, but also what can be done to heal from it. The truth about narcs is very enlightening.

[Tom · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book. The Audible version is difficult to listen to because of the narrator. The content of the book is spot-on, though.

[Plarmon · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good explanations of this condition

[Mrs D · Rating 5 out of 5]

very insightful

Well written and straight to the point. Highly recommended. Changed my beliefs and I can work towards healing from unhealthy bonds.

[Jules · Rating 5 out of 5]

Life changing... Found it really helpful

[Ryn · Rating 4 out of 5]

A good refresher.

[Hannah Belcher · Rating 2 out of 5]

This is quite a poorly written book. The author over uses exclamation marks throughout, which is quite irritating by the end. A lot of fluff but no substance. Also no real practical help at all.

[Briana Sheppard · Rating 3 out of 5]

I do NOT recommend listening to this in audio book form. The robotic voice made it so hard to follow. The content matter is great, though.

[Jenne · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great book. Very informative. However, there are a large amount of editing mistakes, which often makes it difficult to follow.

[Joy Hollingsworth · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really insightful about the way your attachment styles in childhood show up in adult relationships, and how to recognize and heal in adulthood.