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The wall speaks
Sick of humiliation? Tired of getting your heart broken? Do you see society falling apart and want to know how you can help? This book will give a detailed breakdown of masculine frame. It will help men who were abandoned or neglected by their fathers to pick up frame. It will help these men shatter the feminine frame of authority that was given them by their dominant mother and help them to pick up the rational frame of masculinity.
295 pages, Paperback
Published February 2, 2021
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December 27, 2021
I expected it to be another red pill book, but it definitely marks a new paradigm and a new path for men. I do not know anyone (myself included) who has read it and has not generated a great impact. If you read it, it is impossible for it to go unnoticed in your life. Because this talks about Masculinity Frame as no other book did, how to face your life and responsibilities.
Mandatory read for all men.
Red pill shows you the reality. The Wall Speaks shows you the way.
Mandatory read for all men.
Red pill shows you the reality. The Wall Speaks shows you the way.
August 24, 2022
I stumbled across this book on Amazon a couple months after it was published. At the time it had little to no reviews, and the author had not published any other works. I ordered a copy on the off chance that it was a hidden gem. It proved to be just that.
The idea of ‘frame’ as masculine awareness passed down through generations is crucial. Fathers not only used to be around for their sons, but they (and society) used to understand, respect and encourage this necessary task, so ridiculed today, of passing frame to their male progeny. Dignity and masculine pride are to be cherished and defended with one’s life, if so required. They are nothing less than society’s protection. At it’s core, genuine desire from women is earned through self-respect and gravitas. Some readers might fall into the idea that this means one must be a cold and non-expressive statue all the time. You can (and should) be expressive and eccentric with your personality, just always within those aforementioned parameters.
Although this is a fascinating and important parallel to red-pill thought, it’s perhaps a little too optimistic in what it believes it can accomplish on its own through sheer will. Nevertheless, it’s a vital contribution in resurrecting the necessity of masculine authority. Jerr’s vision is of a world in which women are comfortable and flourishing in their femininity under this masculine authority. It’s a beautiful vision, as women in that state are an ethereal and even life-affirming sight for men, especially in contrast to the feminine experience of ever-present existential crises and general depression that women en masse are saddled with today. Frame might not prove to be a panacea, but it’s a necessary ingredient in correcting this.
“To be a man is to bear the responsibility of all things.”
The idea of ‘frame’ as masculine awareness passed down through generations is crucial. Fathers not only used to be around for their sons, but they (and society) used to understand, respect and encourage this necessary task, so ridiculed today, of passing frame to their male progeny. Dignity and masculine pride are to be cherished and defended with one’s life, if so required. They are nothing less than society’s protection. At it’s core, genuine desire from women is earned through self-respect and gravitas. Some readers might fall into the idea that this means one must be a cold and non-expressive statue all the time. You can (and should) be expressive and eccentric with your personality, just always within those aforementioned parameters.
Although this is a fascinating and important parallel to red-pill thought, it’s perhaps a little too optimistic in what it believes it can accomplish on its own through sheer will. Nevertheless, it’s a vital contribution in resurrecting the necessity of masculine authority. Jerr’s vision is of a world in which women are comfortable and flourishing in their femininity under this masculine authority. It’s a beautiful vision, as women in that state are an ethereal and even life-affirming sight for men, especially in contrast to the feminine experience of ever-present existential crises and general depression that women en masse are saddled with today. Frame might not prove to be a panacea, but it’s a necessary ingredient in correcting this.
“To be a man is to bear the responsibility of all things.”
January 6, 2022
required reading
I am stunned how this book resonated with me. I understand now the reason for the failure of my relationships. I know from other readings that I was ultimately at fault. The concepts in this book articulated how my weakness lead to my abandonment and betrayal. If you understand the message of the book, you have the tools to fix the problem. And how truly dire the need for men to get themselves repaired and rebuilt. For the sake of our relationships, our families, particularly our sons, and our communities. No one is coming to save you, you must save yourself, and then, everyone around you.
I am stunned how this book resonated with me. I understand now the reason for the failure of my relationships. I know from other readings that I was ultimately at fault. The concepts in this book articulated how my weakness lead to my abandonment and betrayal. If you understand the message of the book, you have the tools to fix the problem. And how truly dire the need for men to get themselves repaired and rebuilt. For the sake of our relationships, our families, particularly our sons, and our communities. No one is coming to save you, you must save yourself, and then, everyone around you.
July 26, 2023
This book is dumb.
August 8, 2021
This book is a must read for all men.
This book needs to be read by all men on the planet.
Feminism is on its way out. 5 stars.
This book needs to be read by all men on the planet.
Feminism is on its way out. 5 stars.
September 8, 2021
A must read for every man!!
January 5, 2022
A must read. That I believe will only grow in popularity as the months and years pass.
September 29, 2023
Confirmed by experience
Most of my life I've lost women because of simping. I'd drop everything to be with the woman I cherish because that's what society taught me I should do, because that's what I thought woman wanted. Huge huge mistakes. I embarked on a personal journey, researching and investigating the actual truth about women, because I want a family and I want to be a father. For years I was brainwashed into the lefty propaganda of equality and female empowerment. This gave me more dissatisfaction than anything and I lost every woman I had around because of that, major heartbreaks and pain. This book taught me better, and since picking up masculine frame I've encountered way better relationships with woman and also the people around me. You will never know how much our society needs a masculine man, until you become one. People will thank you, explicitly and implicitly, for being a leader and being a man. I'm planning to read this book more than once. There are certain things I still disagree with, but the benefits outweigh the drawbacks by far.
Most of my life I've lost women because of simping. I'd drop everything to be with the woman I cherish because that's what society taught me I should do, because that's what I thought woman wanted. Huge huge mistakes. I embarked on a personal journey, researching and investigating the actual truth about women, because I want a family and I want to be a father. For years I was brainwashed into the lefty propaganda of equality and female empowerment. This gave me more dissatisfaction than anything and I lost every woman I had around because of that, major heartbreaks and pain. This book taught me better, and since picking up masculine frame I've encountered way better relationships with woman and also the people around me. You will never know how much our society needs a masculine man, until you become one. People will thank you, explicitly and implicitly, for being a leader and being a man. I'm planning to read this book more than once. There are certain things I still disagree with, but the benefits outweigh the drawbacks by far.
January 17, 2022
The great dilemma of west and mass manufacturing of Exclusivist and Supremacist ideologies
I came across this dude on twitter who keeps on publishing these elongated threads on re-discovering masculinity & setting up a frame etc. etc. Though I agree with this dude that there is a dire need for men to rediscover their masculinity, stop being weak , woke soy man child. Stop the civilizational collapse that is taking place at a rapid pace in the western society followed by other civilizations as well.
Much like The Parasitic Mind: How Infectious Ideas Are Killing Common Sense which refuted the west's wokeness with a clearly articulated and data backed rational view. I was expecting the same from his overly promoted book The wall speaks. I was expecting this book to have same level of rationality & practicality in approaching things between genders , gender roles, gender polarity & most importantly in rediscovering the masculinity of men.
To my utter surprise this dude just put forward an another supremacist ideology just like feminism but this time the victim complex is attributed to males. I wonder if this book is a product of a man suffering in a woke society and decided to just climb up the woke pyramid and be relevant to his times & society. Though he picks up the biological roles of genders like hunters & gatherers but only uses it to create a supremacist method by calling it "The Frame".
Feminism is a post modern answer to the problem created by a non-cohesive & theologically backed western civilization. In the same way this book is a answer to the same society just on the other end of spectrum. I do agree that we Indians import this western culture and try and force fit it into our civilizational beliefs. Maybe this works for those ladies , gentleman and other "n" number of genders that they believe in.
As far as I am concerned. This bears no relevance to my civilization, its functionalities & the men that live and adhere by it. The west should stop universalizing their problems.
I came across this dude on twitter who keeps on publishing these elongated threads on re-discovering masculinity & setting up a frame etc. etc. Though I agree with this dude that there is a dire need for men to rediscover their masculinity, stop being weak , woke soy man child. Stop the civilizational collapse that is taking place at a rapid pace in the western society followed by other civilizations as well.
Much like The Parasitic Mind: How Infectious Ideas Are Killing Common Sense which refuted the west's wokeness with a clearly articulated and data backed rational view. I was expecting the same from his overly promoted book The wall speaks. I was expecting this book to have same level of rationality & practicality in approaching things between genders , gender roles, gender polarity & most importantly in rediscovering the masculinity of men.
To my utter surprise this dude just put forward an another supremacist ideology just like feminism but this time the victim complex is attributed to males. I wonder if this book is a product of a man suffering in a woke society and decided to just climb up the woke pyramid and be relevant to his times & society. Though he picks up the biological roles of genders like hunters & gatherers but only uses it to create a supremacist method by calling it "The Frame".
Feminism is a post modern answer to the problem created by a non-cohesive & theologically backed western civilization. In the same way this book is a answer to the same society just on the other end of spectrum. I do agree that we Indians import this western culture and try and force fit it into our civilizational beliefs. Maybe this works for those ladies , gentleman and other "n" number of genders that they believe in.
As far as I am concerned. This bears no relevance to my civilization, its functionalities & the men that live and adhere by it. The west should stop universalizing their problems.
December 15, 2021
I read this for research - noticing this man does so much damage on Twitter to young men. He is a very toxic person. Sometimes he is spot on but maybe about 5-10% of the time. This man needs to study yoga or some sort of mindfulness to deal with his anger towards women. Poor thing. Will add more details on book content. Trying to still slog through the boring autobiographical part.
August 6, 2022
The best so for
March 4, 2023
کتابی راجع به رواقی بودن، سنگ بودن و این حرفا، همممم، ولی خب برا مردا. یا همونطور که نویسنده کتاب میگه، اگه مردا اینطور نباشن تو روابط شکست میخورن و این حرفا و نمیتونن مدیر و رهبر خوبی باشن. در کل میگه تو دنیای امروزی که همه مردا دارن لطیف میشن و به راه اشتباه کشیده میشن، درست اینه که به مسیر خودشون، یعنی مردونگی برگردن.
نمیدونم دیدگاههای رو تو دسته دیدگاههای افراطی طبقهبندی کنم یا نه...
راجع به خیلی از حرفهاش شک دارم و نمیدونم راجع به همه صدق کنه یا نه، شاید زیاد دید سیاه و سفید داره و برا همین یه ستاره ازش کم میکنم، اما اکثرا خیلی منطقیه.
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جالبترین چیز راجع به کتاب از نظرم، تشابه حرفهاش به نظریات آلفرد آدلر و سببشناسی روانشناسی فردیه:
"That is the allure of the Peter Pan syndrome. We have less mentally ill people in the world than we think. We have people running from problems and hiding under blankets. They know that the mentally ill are not expected to bear responsibility and so they celebrate their own psychologically impaired condition."
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شاید تو ذهن برخی افراد که برداشت اشتباهی از برابری تو ذهنشون شکل گرفته، این توهین محسوب بشه که بگیم زن و مردها از نظر روانی تفاوتهای زیادی دارن. حالا این حرف رو هرچقدر هر جا بزنیم، شاید باعث کلی بحث و مناقشه بیپایان بشه و کار رو بکشونه به کتابهای فرانسوی نیمه دوم قرن بیست و این حرفا، اما خب بههر حال چه به دلایل بیولوژیکی، چه جامعهشناختی، تفاوت هایی هست، حالا شاید خیلیها نظرشون متفاوت باشه، شاید رسانهها چیز دیگه بگن.
در کل کتاب راجع به روابط طولانیمدته و اینکه چطور مرد بهتری باشیم، همین. در کل میگه چطور یار رو راضی نگه داریم. یارهایی که راضی نباشن میرن 💀.
شیوه رفتار مردونه یاد میده دیگه، خلاصه.... آره.
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این هم اتو رانک گفته و تو کتاب اومده بود، جالب بود:
"The adult may have fear of death or fear of sex, the child has a fear of life itself."
نمیدونم دیدگاههای رو تو دسته دیدگاههای افراطی طبقهبندی کنم یا نه...
راجع به خیلی از حرفهاش شک دارم و نمیدونم راجع به همه صدق کنه یا نه، شاید زیاد دید سیاه و سفید داره و برا همین یه ستاره ازش کم میکنم، اما اکثرا خیلی منطقیه.
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جالبترین چیز راجع به کتاب از نظرم، تشابه حرفهاش به نظریات آلفرد آدلر و سببشناسی روانشناسی فردیه:
"That is the allure of the Peter Pan syndrome. We have less mentally ill people in the world than we think. We have people running from problems and hiding under blankets. They know that the mentally ill are not expected to bear responsibility and so they celebrate their own psychologically impaired condition."
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شاید تو ذهن برخی افراد که برداشت اشتباهی از برابری تو ذهنشون شکل گرفته، این توهین محسوب بشه که بگیم زن و مردها از نظر روانی تفاوتهای زیادی دارن. حالا این حرف رو هرچقدر هر جا بزنیم، شاید باعث کلی بحث و مناقشه بیپایان بشه و کار رو بکشونه به کتابهای فرانسوی نیمه دوم قرن بیست و این حرفا، اما خب بههر حال چه به دلایل بیولوژیکی، چه جامعهشناختی، تفاوت هایی هست، حالا شاید خیلیها نظرشون متفاوت باشه، شاید رسانهها چیز دیگه بگن.
در کل کتاب راجع به روابط طولانیمدته و اینکه چطور مرد بهتری باشیم، همین. در کل میگه چطور یار رو راضی نگه داریم. یارهایی که راضی نباشن میرن 💀.
شیوه رفتار مردونه یاد میده دیگه، خلاصه.... آره.
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این هم اتو رانک گفته و تو کتاب اومده بود، جالب بود:
"The adult may have fear of death or fear of sex, the child has a fear of life itself."
December 16, 2022
Maverick and necessary discussions on the dynamics of masculinity, which seem to often be ostracized in the rejection of a healthy Yin and Yang balance in today's society. Unfortunately, much of what I believe were the author's key arguments are lost to the self-destruction of bashful and unapologetic hedonism that is ironically criticized in the same book.
I ask that the apprehensive yet empathetic reader of this book frames the content from the perspective of the author, if only to understand the author's pursuit of rationalizing his childhood and life experience. This granted me the fortitude to look past the lack of succinct phrasing, grammar conventions, and an ability to extrapolate beyond modern narcissism.
The reader that approaches this book with disdain is reasonable, but not because the author is inherently wrong in his attempt to highlight the importance of masculinity. There are moments between pages where the fog of ego momentarily clears. I have included some of the quotations that were of value below.
"A man should never rob a woman of her imagination and deprive her of using her intuition."
"A mother cannot pass down a man’s tradition[,] and too many men are absent from their children."
"Words are like currency[,] and the more words a man uses the less currency each word has."
"There is nothing more arrogant than a man thinking he is alone and original."
"When something becomes everything, it becomes nothing."
I would only recommend this book to men who have the levels of self-discipline and rational analysis that come only with labour, but no younger - lest they fall victim to playing the victim. I hope that the author of this book one day escapes from the confines of his own archetypal 'paralyzed deer'.
I ask that the apprehensive yet empathetic reader of this book frames the content from the perspective of the author, if only to understand the author's pursuit of rationalizing his childhood and life experience. This granted me the fortitude to look past the lack of succinct phrasing, grammar conventions, and an ability to extrapolate beyond modern narcissism.
The reader that approaches this book with disdain is reasonable, but not because the author is inherently wrong in his attempt to highlight the importance of masculinity. There are moments between pages where the fog of ego momentarily clears. I have included some of the quotations that were of value below.
"A man should never rob a woman of her imagination and deprive her of using her intuition."
"A mother cannot pass down a man’s tradition[,] and too many men are absent from their children."
"Words are like currency[,] and the more words a man uses the less currency each word has."
"There is nothing more arrogant than a man thinking he is alone and original."
"When something becomes everything, it becomes nothing."
I would only recommend this book to men who have the levels of self-discipline and rational analysis that come only with labour, but no younger - lest they fall victim to playing the victim. I hope that the author of this book one day escapes from the confines of his own archetypal 'paralyzed deer'.
December 8, 2023
I have listened to it twice through audio. It is a book that raises your Testosterone and gives a genuine essence of what it is like to be a masculine man. This book for me is very dear as it teaches me what's wrong with me.
I am unframed man. I get swayed by others' aura and charisma which means I fall into others' frame. So this book gives me an insight to build my FRAME so that my worth is valuable and my boundary is respected.
In terms of relationships, it offers a great resource. First and foremost, it is the feminine who needs to be submissive and not the other way around. As a man, we have to be in control every time with our words, nature and expression.
Another thing that hit me is in relationship dynamics the more masculine you become the more feminine your partner will be and vice versa.
After reading this book I want to change my pathetic and loathsome condition where I can build and work on myself. As masculine men, our world lies outside the home building our values and keep evolving it.
I have seen somewhere on Instagram that women's pleasure and world are all internal. And man's pleasure and the world are all external. We construct our world outside by building a network of people, acquiring a source of income and working and improving the conditions.
Jerr helps me to realise that being Man is an honour and to honour it we must inculcate all the attributes of a framed masculine man who exudes masculinity in all parts of his life.
Jerr, Thank you. 🫂👑
I am unframed man. I get swayed by others' aura and charisma which means I fall into others' frame. So this book gives me an insight to build my FRAME so that my worth is valuable and my boundary is respected.
In terms of relationships, it offers a great resource. First and foremost, it is the feminine who needs to be submissive and not the other way around. As a man, we have to be in control every time with our words, nature and expression.
Another thing that hit me is in relationship dynamics the more masculine you become the more feminine your partner will be and vice versa.
After reading this book I want to change my pathetic and loathsome condition where I can build and work on myself. As masculine men, our world lies outside the home building our values and keep evolving it.
I have seen somewhere on Instagram that women's pleasure and world are all internal. And man's pleasure and the world are all external. We construct our world outside by building a network of people, acquiring a source of income and working and improving the conditions.
Jerr helps me to realise that being Man is an honour and to honour it we must inculcate all the attributes of a framed masculine man who exudes masculinity in all parts of his life.
Jerr, Thank you. 🫂👑
June 15, 2023
The Wall Speaks provides an in-depth exploration of masculinity, critically examining contemporary society's fem-centric bias. It challenges both feminism and postmodernism in a thought-provoking way. Specifically designed for men, it is a book that merits a place on every man's bookshelf and is poised to only increase in popularity over time.
Drawing parallels to Matt Walsh's documentary, 'What is a Woman?', Jerrs 'The Wall Speaks' pushes us to question the essence of true masculinity. It makes us ponder, what does it mean to be a man? How do we define our roles in the workplace, relationships, and society as a whole? Jerrs offers an unfiltered look into his personal journey, his mistakes, and how gynocentrism warped his perception of masculinity in his younger unframed years. Through his experiences, readers are compelled to reflect on their own lives, interactions with women, and moments of weakness. Many 'aha' moments and reflections of 'if only I had known this earlier' are to be found throughout the book. The chapter on The Wall holding back Chaos is worth the price of the book alone.
What sets The Wall Speaks apart is its straightforwardness; concise, potent chapters are delivered to readers without any false pretense or unnecessarily complex jargon. It's accessible to everyone - you don't need to be an avid reader or a scholar to appreciate it. This book speaks to everyone - university professors, bus drivers, plumbers, and the unframed.
Drawing parallels to Matt Walsh's documentary, 'What is a Woman?', Jerrs 'The Wall Speaks' pushes us to question the essence of true masculinity. It makes us ponder, what does it mean to be a man? How do we define our roles in the workplace, relationships, and society as a whole? Jerrs offers an unfiltered look into his personal journey, his mistakes, and how gynocentrism warped his perception of masculinity in his younger unframed years. Through his experiences, readers are compelled to reflect on their own lives, interactions with women, and moments of weakness. Many 'aha' moments and reflections of 'if only I had known this earlier' are to be found throughout the book. The chapter on The Wall holding back Chaos is worth the price of the book alone.
What sets The Wall Speaks apart is its straightforwardness; concise, potent chapters are delivered to readers without any false pretense or unnecessarily complex jargon. It's accessible to everyone - you don't need to be an avid reader or a scholar to appreciate it. This book speaks to everyone - university professors, bus drivers, plumbers, and the unframed.
March 28, 2022
a lot of harsh truths, an apt diagnosis of certain ails present in individuals that extend into society
but as a manual to actually fix any of it, it is too bleak of an outlook for me to want to believe in it, surely there has to be a less extreme way of going about it. for one, I have seen masculinity expressed without it needing an entirely muted personality.
many things I agree with, and I'm taking the advice to remedy it with me for the rest of my life
as a book it is really bad, just about every page has a spelling or grammatical mistake which often makes it bothersome to read, a little embarrassing for someone who talks about how much he's read. one proofreader/editor could have fixed 95% of these issues
but as a manual to actually fix any of it, it is too bleak of an outlook for me to want to believe in it, surely there has to be a less extreme way of going about it. for one, I have seen masculinity expressed without it needing an entirely muted personality.
many things I agree with, and I'm taking the advice to remedy it with me for the rest of my life
as a book it is really bad, just about every page has a spelling or grammatical mistake which often makes it bothersome to read, a little embarrassing for someone who talks about how much he's read. one proofreader/editor could have fixed 95% of these issues
January 6, 2023
EVERY MAN NEEDS THIS BOOK
The Wall Speaks by Jerr is pure wisdom.
By reading and understanding the words articulated therein, no man will remain the same or enslaved by his own emotions and the societal constructs around him.
Every man needs to have started reading this book yesterday.
Every man needs to gift this amazing work of literature to his fellow man and, unfailingly, to his sons.
The Wall Speaks by Jerr is pure wisdom.
By reading and understanding the words articulated therein, no man will remain the same or enslaved by his own emotions and the societal constructs around him.
Every man needs to have started reading this book yesterday.
Every man needs to gift this amazing work of literature to his fellow man and, unfailingly, to his sons.
February 14, 2023
thought provoking
A very interesting book. It was thought-provoking and I read it in a day. It was recommended to me by one of my practitioners. I can see how it could help in many different relationships
A very interesting book. It was thought-provoking and I read it in a day. It was recommended to me by one of my practitioners. I can see how it could help in many different relationships
August 15, 2023
It makes the list
I have read thousands of books in my life. I can count the number of books that truly changed my life and world outlook on the fingers of one hand. 5 actually. It now looks like I'll have to start using my second hand.
I have read thousands of books in my life. I can count the number of books that truly changed my life and world outlook on the fingers of one hand. 5 actually. It now looks like I'll have to start using my second hand.
January 1, 2023
Clear and brilliant: to be a man is to bear the responsibilty of all things.
March 3, 2023
Enjoyed it. Make sure to read It's Good To Be A Man by Michael Foster and Bnnon Tennant so that you are also exhorted to godliness.
March 13, 2023
Good book
September 17, 2023
One of the most important, eye opening and revolutionary books I've ever read
October 29, 2023
"The Wall Speaks"—and Jerr's writing in general— is a gift to men of incomparable value. A magnificent gift from Gods.
November 7, 2023
frame
Great book on how to carry frame. For any mind trying to develop a masculine mindset. It has impacted my life in real ways compared to other books
Great book on how to carry frame. For any mind trying to develop a masculine mindset. It has impacted my life in real ways compared to other books
February 3, 2025
I'd advise any reader who picks up this book to regard everything written in it with a pinch of salt.
This isn't a good book. And I should have realised that immediately upon seeing that the author only has one name. I understand that he might have had a difficult upbringing but that's not an excuse to spew out horrible advice to men.
First off, for a man who purports to exude so much power over women, the kind of makeover that he recommends every man should do is absolutely absurd. And that's the biggest problem with the red pilled, misogynistic new wave out there. A woman is flawless; only a victim to her emotional imbalances that occur due to her hormonal cycles which is not her fault. But a man, oh you've gotta unlearn everything. You've gotta become 'a wall' or she'll dump you. So essentially, everything he recommends isn't for you, it's for your woman. Which begs the question, who actually has the ultimate power over the other?
Being walled, according to Jerr, means that you have to 'be emotionless like a stone,' and learn to bottle up your emotions because being expressive apparently attracts 'disrespect' from a woman. And to hone the skill of being emotionless, he recommends watching sad movies and holding back tears or stand-up comedies and laughing at 1/10th of what you would typically react to until 'it becomes second nature.' Does he realise how ridiculous this sounds? And all this for two things, respect and sex. Because that's all a man needs. Duh.
Oh and not to mention submissive therapy that involves instructing your woman to kneel down and repeating the words, 'Disrespecting a man is hating a man,' among others.
There's no talk of seeking a community of other men to learn from each other, seeking a mentor, or looking for your father, all of which would be beneficial to fatherless men. There's also no mention of seeking one's purpose because that's what every man needs to do. Oh no. Become a wall, an emotionless turd and women will defer to you and never leave you.
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Being a man is already difficult as it is. There's absolutely no need to follow terrible advice for someone else's sake, not yours.
Granted, there's some good stuff in the book, but that's not enough to save it. A better, practical book on masculinity is Deida's 'The way of the Superior Man.'
1.5/5. Not recommended.
This isn't a good book. And I should have realised that immediately upon seeing that the author only has one name. I understand that he might have had a difficult upbringing but that's not an excuse to spew out horrible advice to men.
First off, for a man who purports to exude so much power over women, the kind of makeover that he recommends every man should do is absolutely absurd. And that's the biggest problem with the red pilled, misogynistic new wave out there. A woman is flawless; only a victim to her emotional imbalances that occur due to her hormonal cycles which is not her fault. But a man, oh you've gotta unlearn everything. You've gotta become 'a wall' or she'll dump you. So essentially, everything he recommends isn't for you, it's for your woman. Which begs the question, who actually has the ultimate power over the other?
Being walled, according to Jerr, means that you have to 'be emotionless like a stone,' and learn to bottle up your emotions because being expressive apparently attracts 'disrespect' from a woman. And to hone the skill of being emotionless, he recommends watching sad movies and holding back tears or stand-up comedies and laughing at 1/10th of what you would typically react to until 'it becomes second nature.' Does he realise how ridiculous this sounds? And all this for two things, respect and sex. Because that's all a man needs. Duh.
Oh and not to mention submissive therapy that involves instructing your woman to kneel down and repeating the words, 'Disrespecting a man is hating a man,' among others.
There's no talk of seeking a community of other men to learn from each other, seeking a mentor, or looking for your father, all of which would be beneficial to fatherless men. There's also no mention of seeking one's purpose because that's what every man needs to do. Oh no. Become a wall, an emotionless turd and women will defer to you and never leave you.
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Being a man is already difficult as it is. There's absolutely no need to follow terrible advice for someone else's sake, not yours.
Granted, there's some good stuff in the book, but that's not enough to save it. A better, practical book on masculinity is Deida's 'The way of the Superior Man.'
1.5/5. Not recommended.
October 1, 2023
I'l start with my biggest problem about the book. In the beginning as he does not really describe what the wall really is, you are left to guess. Although later in the book it get's more and more clear what the author really mean. And although I agree in the dircetion he is going and would sincerly like to thank him for outlining that, I think the methods of which he wants the reader to "build a wall" a bit childish - and from my understanding of human behavior and working with men - highly dangerous. He describes the way forward to build a strong frame is to basically detach yourself from your emotions. Which I guess makes sense for many men that do not really understand how the human experience really work, but the danger of doing this is creating a dissociated state within the individual. A dissociation to his feelings is not self-mastery nor effecient towards building a strong frame as a man and at worst, can lead men straight into mental illness. It is important for men to master their emotion through integrating them and not abandon them. It seems to me that in some ways the author has been able to do this in his own life, but lack the understanding of the difference between detachment of emotions and mastery of integration of emotions. If you as a man want to build certainty, inspirtion, purpose and gratitude - which is what builds strong frame, then you will not find the solution in this book.
April 1, 2025
The author of this book makes good points about the roles of masculine and feminine although through the perception of male superiority. The book is blunt, politically incorrect, and honest on purpose. He makes the point that women will not like this book 1) because of the takes of male superiority, but additionally because of women are more delicate with their words. I think this book could have used it better editor for some of the content was difficult to decipher grammatically, but ultimately, I think the approach to the book was part of the purpose to get across to men who would better understand it in this format. It would be interesting to read the content of this book from a feminist author to see how to communicate some of these ideas in a more digestible form for women. I think there were actually some feminist (or pro-woman) takes in the the book, although the author would disagree - noting that “feminism is the downfall of our society.” Don’t get me wrong. Some of the takes in this book were unhinged and incomplete. For a book that cannot be published by any major publishers due to the level of misogyny written in the book I would have loved for the author to elaborate further on his claim that male superiority is not sexist. But this author communicates that explaining yourself is feminine and therefore nobody is worthy of his explanation. Ultimately an interesting read with some golden nuggets sprinkled amongst a lot of unhinged misogyny.
January 11, 2024
Like others, I was very skeptical of this book for the macho language and extreme advocacy for a man's dominance. But if you replace "man" with "someone who wants to get their life together," and "woman" with "everyone around you" (optional: that also has problems), you realize the book is teaching you how to become the bigger person, be more mature, and have qualified confidence in yourself. You can say it's a very masculine way of thinking about things, the whole do what you say, but there are many virtues the book preaches, including honesty, shouldering the burdens, keeping others in check, self-respect, etc.
In addition, if you have ever been in a relationship and have been in a fight, there are so many cases mentioned that shed another light on why you might have felt wronged or frustrated, and maybe what you can do next time.
Also would like to say that there are so many great excerpts in the book that you could hang on a wall. I highlighted my book a lot and reference these for advice.
Great read and recommend for everyone, not just men.
In addition, if you have ever been in a relationship and have been in a fight, there are so many cases mentioned that shed another light on why you might have felt wronged or frustrated, and maybe what you can do next time.
Also would like to say that there are so many great excerpts in the book that you could hang on a wall. I highlighted my book a lot and reference these for advice.
Great read and recommend for everyone, not just men.
August 27, 2023
The concept of "The Wall" conveys a set of principles about male-female dynamics. It emphasizes that men are responsible for containing feminine chaos with their authority, never surrendering their control. A strong man possesses his own mind and willingly obeys, showing authority and eagerness. The wall represents an anti-feminine stance, focusing on emotional control and pure expression restraint. Women's trust in men is rooted in this emotional stability.
The mystery of love lies in the wall, not the individual. Women fall for pre-written fantasies, and love is portrayed as an illusion. The wall advocates self-belief and emphasizes that men should set the tone, using words sparingly. Silence, or the "wall of silence," can be powerful. It's stressed that self-belief is key to maintaining the wall's strength.
Masculine frame involves emotional control and restraint, as emotions and expression are considered enemies of masculinity. It's suggested that women find it sweet when men express their feelings. The wall's attitude relies on charisma, and passing "shit tests" requires calmness and controlled reactions.
Framed men are urged not to abandon their stance, as women pick up the frame when it's dropped. Emotional restraint is advised, and expressions should be rare and special. The importance of maintaining the frame before intimacy is highlighted. Leadership involves rationality and strength, while projecting strength and control remains essential.
The text underscores that women need stability and appreciate men who are independent and self-reliant. Framed men prioritize sexual loyalty and understand that women struggle with emotional faithfulness. The wall is seen as a protection against women's emotional chaos. It's emphasized that women desire respect over love and respond to a man's protection of his dignity. The focus is on leading with dominance and charisma while maintaining emotional control.
Ultimately, the wall concept emphasizes self-belief, emotional restraint, and maintaining a strong, dominant frame in male-female relationships.
The mystery of love lies in the wall, not the individual. Women fall for pre-written fantasies, and love is portrayed as an illusion. The wall advocates self-belief and emphasizes that men should set the tone, using words sparingly. Silence, or the "wall of silence," can be powerful. It's stressed that self-belief is key to maintaining the wall's strength.
Masculine frame involves emotional control and restraint, as emotions and expression are considered enemies of masculinity. It's suggested that women find it sweet when men express their feelings. The wall's attitude relies on charisma, and passing "shit tests" requires calmness and controlled reactions.
Framed men are urged not to abandon their stance, as women pick up the frame when it's dropped. Emotional restraint is advised, and expressions should be rare and special. The importance of maintaining the frame before intimacy is highlighted. Leadership involves rationality and strength, while projecting strength and control remains essential.
The text underscores that women need stability and appreciate men who are independent and self-reliant. Framed men prioritize sexual loyalty and understand that women struggle with emotional faithfulness. The wall is seen as a protection against women's emotional chaos. It's emphasized that women desire respect over love and respond to a man's protection of his dignity. The focus is on leading with dominance and charisma while maintaining emotional control.
Ultimately, the wall concept emphasizes self-belief, emotional restraint, and maintaining a strong, dominant frame in male-female relationships.
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