Cracking the Boy Code: How to Understand and Talk with Boys

by Adam J Cox

A clinical psychologist specializing in children and adolescents shares the secret language of boys and how to reconnect with them.

All too quickly, talkative, affectionate young boys seem to slip away. Adolescents may be transformed overnight into reclusive, seemingly impenetrable young people who open up only to their friends and spend more time on devices than with family. How do you penetrate this shell before they are lost to you?

Drawing on decades of experience garnered through thousands of hours of therapy with boys, Cracking the Boy Code explains how the key to communicating with boys is understanding their universal psychological needs and using specific, straightforward communication techniques. Coverage includes:
Why it's important to understand the psychological needs of boys
How to talk to be heard, and listen to understand
The crucial role of non-verbal cues
Learning the universal tone that helps boys listen
Motivating boys to become their authentic selves
Using purposeful work to teach boys self-respect and confidence
Reducing stress and creating greater closeness between boys and caregivers


Cracking the Boy Code is essential reading for parents, caregivers, teachers, youth workers, coaches, and others who want to make a real connection with the boys in their lives.

Praise for Cracking the Boy Code

"Cox unpacks in simple language the intricacies of communicating with boys . . . . The book is an educational revelation resulting from remarkable face to face research, and provides an exceptional tool to help parents and teachers understand what makes boys tick." --David Anderson B.A, Dip TG, B.Ed, Cert. of Care, Sydney Australia IBSC Jarvis/Hawley Award Baltimore USA 2017

"A thoughtful, accessible guide to developing meaningful communication with the boys in our lives. Adam Cox's insights, grounded in practical wisdom cultivated over decades of clinical work with boys, provide readers with compelling possibilities for using non-verbal cues, tone of voice, hands-on activity, and empathetic listening to connect with boys in a manner both deep and enduring . . . . Dr. Cox's latest work is both inspiring and instructive." --Dr. John M. Botti, Head of School, The Browning School

Genres: Parenting

163 pages, ebook

Published May 8, 2018

Reviews

[Meg · Rating 2 out of 5]

I am so disappointed with this book! I read the previous one, and I really liked it, and in fact it had much more good practical advices then "Cracking the boy code", which I found just empty.
Okay, the author shared his knowledge about boys' communication, but mostly presenting facts. And there's so little (and too vague) practical advices I can use myself to improve this communication.

[Toni Page · Rating 4 out of 5]

Adam Cox provides practical information on how to communicate and build relationships with boys based on his years of experience as a therapist. And he details how to move from basic communication and building relationships to how to provide opportunities for boys to develop their authentic selves. This portion of the book is obviously much more complex in terms of implementation than the communication aspect of the book.

[Anita · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very interesting

[Ietrio · Rating 1 out of 5]

The young male of the specie are a different specie altogether. And this guy knows, he has a PhD. Says so on the cover.

[Jennifer · Rating 3 out of 5]

Practical ideas for communicating with boys, but the book could have used a more thorough edit...very repetitive in parts.

[Mkittysamom · Rating 4 out of 5]

Very helpful in explaining how boys grow and what to expect, and I came into this book knowing almost nothing. Helps immensely with my 2 growing sons!

[Deb G · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some helpful communication ideas.