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Why is it so difficult to pray without getting distracted? Why don’t I have this figured out by now?
Pray Confidently and Consistently is for all of us who ask these questions and yearn for more. Join author and prayer journal creator Valerie Woerner in learning to pray boldly to the God of the universe who is beckoning us to come sit with him, share our hearts and needs, and simply know him.
Living in close communication with our Father has the power to transform even the most difficult moments of our lives. What weights do we need to throw off so they don’t hold us back from a deeper connection with God? What distractions are keeping us from running freely with him?
When we release the burdens suffocating our prayer lives and leaving us gasping for Jesus, we can finally experience the truth that prayer changes everything.
What’s causing you to neglect prayer? Pause to think about your answer, and then dig into this book to find in Val Woerner a trusty companion who will walk you through the process of overcoming that obstacle to nurture a thriving prayer life.
I found myself pausing to underline phrases, write notes in the margins, and frequently jot questions or thoughts I wanted to further discuss with God. That’s right: I began praying in the middle of reading a book on prayer! I think that’s the highest compliment for a spiritual formation book like this: does it cause me to want to spend more time with my Creator God? The answer for this book was a resounding “yes!”
Prayer has always been a struggle for me. There have been a few seasons where I felt like, "maybe I'm making progress!", only to take five steps back. Then something happened this year and now I feel like I can't pray for certain things anymore. God will just do what He will do and nothing I say will change that. This is the mindset I have right now towards prayer. I'm mad at God.
But I also know that nothing will get better if I don't fight for it. So I'm wrestling. Some days I wrestle harder than others. Some days I want to give up. But I wanted to read this book in my pursuit of finding my way back to conversation with God.
Valerie writes in a simple, approachable, yet powerful way. She shares personal triumphs and trials, but also shows us examples of prayer from Biblical times to our more "modern" faith heroes. I highlighted so many passages.
One of the best things about this book is that you can go back and read a section based on what you might be struggling with in a season. We'll deal with different weights at different times, but if you can identify your weight, the thing that is currently holding you back the most, you can go find encouragement in that particular chapter. I also love the prayers she includes at the end of the book.
Thanks to NetGalley for a copy of this book. All opinions are my own and a favorable review was not required.
Each chapter focuses on one of what Woerner identifies as the weights that encumber us and hinder our prayer lives (Hebrews 12:1-2). She is simultaneously encouraging, convicting and challenging. I think this is my third time to read this and each time I come away changed.
I was honestly sort of reluctant to read this book because I’ve read too many that make prayer seem complicated and hard, and I don’t like feeling guilty for not praying more. But this book wasn’t that way at all, at least in the first 2/3. I really appreciated how the author didn’t shy away from the things that really make prayer challenging - like not trusting that God will answer or will answer in a way I want, or how we should respond to situations when prayers seem to go completely unanswered. Hard stuff! I was especially challenged by her thoughts on surrendering to God and learning to truly rest in Him. Grateful I read this when I did! I came away feeling inspired to pray more, but not fighting guilt.
* Our intimacy with God is dependent on our prayer lives. We cannot have a close relationship with him—we cannot experience his power, his wisdom, his peace, his joy—if we aren’t going to him.
* Prayer invites action into our lives by the God who is more powerful than we could ever be on our own.
* What we subconsciously believe to be true about God determines whether we will view prayer as essential and fulfilling or worthless and dull.
* prayer warriors are confident in what they’re praying because they know God’s words and promises.
* “For each prayer request, we should mentally or vocally ask, ‘What possible reason do I have to think that God will answer this prayer?’ We should be able to answer that question from His Word.”
* When we’re not being fed by Scripture, our prayer lives will tend to center on our own immediate needs and feelings.
* You want to see God move in your life? Who will get the glory if he does?…great acts of God are tied to God getting glory.
* We completely forget the big picture when we’re consumed by what we don’t have instead of seeing the full story of the gospel we get to be a part of.
* Psalm 43:3-4: “Send out your light and your truth; let them lead me; let them bring me to your holy hill and to your dwelling! Then I will go to the altar of God, to God my exceeding joy, and I will praise you with the lyre, O God, my God.” He essentially promised praise. He didn’t know what God would do, but he knew that the results, whatever they were, would be by God’s hand, and he was already prepared to praise God for them. Such confidence.
* As we cover everything in our lives in prayer, we gain confidence from knowing that whatever is to come has been brought to the Lord.
* if what we prayed would occur doesn’t, we can rest in knowing that we do not have because God has something better in mind, not because we didn’t ask.
* When you’re in the midst of suffering, what truth do you need to recall about eternity that would expand the praise you offer?
* The weight of control looks like spending our precious prayer time asking for things that don’t align with God’s will at all—and then, when they don’t happen, suddenly blaming him for not loving us or not being powerful enough to handle our problems.
* We miss out on God’s comfort in the hard times when we move away from him because we hoped for something different.
* Can you imagine if we punctuated the hard moments of life with “and the Lord was with me”? Let’s not just imagine. Let’s do it right now. Identify what you are currently waiting for and sprinkle “and the Lord is with me” throughout your description.
* A day of fasting is a day spent fighting my own desires and trading them in for something better…Your sacrifice isn’t just a symbolic act. You are telling God with your whole being that you trust his plan more than your own.
* A year from now, will we be able to say we spent more time with God than we did in the previous year?
* Through prayer, we can be involved in Kingdom work that we’d never be able to do in person.
I didn’t imagine this book would change how I pray in the first day of reading it. But as I first began to read, I wrote down a hope for how my prayers would change: in order to pray confidently, I want to learn how to pray in accordance with God’s will.
In just the first 4 chapters, I saw my prayer changing to use more Scripture and reflect God’s Word back to himself. I felt more confident asking things of the Lord. The Holy Spirit used the rest of the book to continue speaking to me.
Some of my biggest takeaways include praying for the glory of God (and why God answered some of my prayers with a “no”), setting boundaries on things that keep me from prayer (like social media), and the value of fasting (which I don’t often do outside of Lent).
I appreciate how Valerie organized the book by weights that keep us back, based on Hebrews 12:1-2 passage that talks about the weights that entangle us and trip us up as we run the race God has set before us, and how she includes a written prayer for each chapter at the back of the book. Each chapter is full of Scripture, moments to pause, and reflection questions. I can’t wait to walk through this with a group! The Holy Spirit has used this book to help my cast of weights and turn to him, and I can’t help but rave about it! I’ve got so many sentences and whole paragraphs highlighted since Valerie beautifully and concisely shares a feast of truth about prayer! This book is so much more than little nuggets of truth! May the Holy Spirit use it to bless you and lead you into confident and consistent conversations with Him.
This book has truly been a gift to me, Val has such a way with acknowledging the ways that many of us struggle in prayer. Sometimes you can feel like you are the only one that struggles with your mind wandering, or not wanting to admit something seemingly small and insignificant to God in prayer (as if He doesn't already know) because you don't think it is important enough. Val reminds us that God desires deep relationship with us, that means coming to Him and sharing what we are struggling with and then stopping the monologue and listening to what God has to say to us.
She goes through many weights that we struggle with in prayer and how we can let go of those weights and lean into God in prayer. Here are just a few that stood out to me.
Let go of the weight of control...and learn to trust God's timing. Let go of the weight of emotions...and learn to walk in obedience. Let go of the weight of facades...and learn to bring it all to God. Let go of the weight of independence...and learn to be intentional and focused in prayer. Let go of the weight of monologuing....and learn to listen expectantly. Let go of the weight of comforts... and learn to step out in faith. Let go of the weight of the journey... and learn to keep praying and not give up!
Pick up this book if you want to be encouraged, to be challenged and to grow in the discipline of prayer.
I have read a lot of books on prayer. This one had some good reminders and even some moments that made me pause and rethink some things. It was very similar to many other books about prayer.
I first discovered Valerie Woerner (@valmariepaper) in 2020 with her book “Grumpy Mom Takes A Holiday” and was blown away by how *seen* I felt. It was probably providential that I finished that book on March 17, literally days into COVID shutdowns and quarantines with 3 small children. 🤪 Since then, I’ve recommended it to several people, and all the ones who have read it have loved it too.
Anyways, fast forward to now, and I’ve just finished her newest book on prayer. “Pray Confidently and Consistently.” Y’all. I am not sure I can say a book has ever changed me like this one has. (And y’all know I read a LOT of books.) Prayer is something I’ve struggled with for my entire life, so I’m always looking for help and solutions but have rarely found anything that stuck. Valerie (great name, btw 😉) graciously acknowledges how difficult it can be, beautifully dissects several reasons WHY it can be so hard, and then masterfully says here are some practical, real-life, 1-2-3 steps to overcoming those things that are weighing you down. I took a ridiculous amount of notes (25 pages, to be exact), at times copying down entire paragraphs that I want to go back to. I got this copy from the library but will 100% be buying my own copy so that I can keep it on hand for whenever I need the reminders again. I see this being a book I return to over and over and over.
All the stars. All the recommendations. This will easily be in my top 5 books for 2023.
Pray Confidently and Consistently by Valerie Woerner
We all know prayer is a vital part of having a relationship with God, but for some reason it's one of the hardest and most confusing for many of us.
This book breaks down what prayer is, who we are praying to, how to pray, and what gets in the way. It's a very practical guide to prayer and Valerie is very open about her own prayer life. You can tell prayer is a passion of hers.
If you struggle with prayer, want to have a stronger prayer life, or even if you don't know where to start or what to say, this book will guide you and encourage you. It will challenge you to look inward at things like surrender, obedience, and complaining. Ultimately, Valerie encourages you to know God and communicate with him.
Each chapter tackles a different "weight" that we carry into prayer. These weights that hinder us from praying or make us believe we aren't doing it right. At the end of the chapter there are questions and Scripture for you to dig in deeper, study and think about your own life. Through out the book there are tips on how to have a richer more intimate conversation with The Lord.
I love this book and learned so many things about prayer. It made me want to know my God better and talk to him about everything I can think of. I feel I understand prayer better.
I loved this book! I have been using Val's Prayer Journals for the past few years and they have helped me grow my prayer life so I was excited to read her book. It was a great blend of encouragement and motivation. I could relate to so many of the weights that hold us back that she discusses in each chapter. I appreciated the practical ideas she offers and loved the suggested prayer starters for each topic. As part of her launch team I also had the opportunity to preview the audiobook as well. I loved hearing Val's soothing voice and could hear her heart behind the message as well. I loved being able to listen to her praying the prayers to help throw off the weights that I decided to buy a copy of the audiobook despite owning the book already. I know I will be re-reading this one!
A more consistent, thriving prayer life is something I desire, but I often find it a struggle to maintain. I found Val Woerner’s new book, ‘Pray Confidently and Consistently’ an encouraging read, providing scripture references and personal anecdotes to help identify and throw off the weights that can hold us back from a more vibrant prayer life. This book is easy to read, but challenging in the truths of what often holds us back.
I’m already keen to read through it again more slowly and will be a book I can see myself revisiting as my prayer life grows and changes. I also really like that at the back of the book there is a written out prayer for each weight, let’s not just talk about prayer, but actually do it!
I was so excited to finally receive this book in the mail! I’ve been using Val’s prayer journals for a few years now and they are life changing, so I couldn’t wait to read her book on prayer! “Pray Consistently and Confidently” didn’t disappoint! If you feel stuck in your prayer life – hindered by distractions, wondering if you’re doing it right, praying the right way, for the right things, or struggling to quiet your own voice to hear God’s – this is the book for you. Val is such a relatable writer, and the book is laid out so well with scripture references, deliberate moments to pause, and reflection questions at the end of each chapter to help you apply what you’re reading and more scripture references to delve further into a study on prayer. My copy is already highlighted and marked up. You need this book!
An accessible book on prayer that explores why we pray and offers practical ways to cultivate your prayer life.
Quick thoughts! I appreciated the… •Reminder to draw near to God through prayer •Encouragement to pray in alignment with what brings God glory •Reassurance that God is never late •Insight on the difference between complaining and lamenting •Emphasis on pairing fasting with prayer
This book on prayer is very inspiring and encouraging. It looks at so many different angles of why prayer is a challenge and how we can overcome those challenges. The author has a beautiful way with words. She is clear, yet she makes you think deeper, and she keeps the content intriguing. This book is an excellent resource if you want to deepen your prayer life.
Prayer is something I have always struggled to be consistent with, so this book grabbed my attention. Valerie Woerner has based her latest book on Hebrews 12:1-2: "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God."
Valerie structured this book around the weights in our lives that hold us back from a consistent, vibrant prayer life. She gives practical advice on how to throw off these weights - including the weight of perfectionism, hesitation, control, emotion, and more - and fix our eyes on Jesus instead. I loved the format of the book and Valerie's relatable, conversational writing style. She has walked this journey herself, and her story will be encouraging to anyone who wants to rededicate themselves to prayer. I found myself highlighting passages from almost every page, and I know this is a book I will want to return to. It has helped re-orient my understanding of the purpose and practicalities of prayer. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to grow in their relationship with the Lord!
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley. Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own.
this book sat on my shelf for a little while, but it's been SUCH a blessing just reading it during my quiet time and dreaming of how the Lord can and will use my prayer life if i give it to Him. recommending this for anyone who wants to grow in their prayer life!
Val's words are full of power and meaning! This book is a must-read in our loud generation. Who is the one we should be having daily communication with and rarely do, our Heavenly Father. She dives into the weights holding each of us back and how to overcome. My favorite part throughout is the heavy emphasis on scripture and the supporting supplication on where to find exactly what he says. Make sure you grab a copy for yourself and your best gal pal, you won't regret it.
Very well-written, biblically based, accessible and simple yet at times containing profound truths about prayer, and how and why we can pray consistently and confidently.
I found myself highlighting a lot of passages. I also loved that she shares honestly about her own experiences and also some wonderful snippets of wisdom from long established Christian writers.
Highly recommended, and I plan on buying a copy for the church library.
Go get this book (you can even download it for free on Hoopla)! It was so chock full of practical tips, scripture, and wisdom for how to have a more vibrant prayer life. I plan on buying a copy to come back to, especially because the back includes some simple prayers for different seasons.
Woohoo! Val’s book is finally here! I’ve been using her prayer journals for years so I was super excited that she finally wrote a book on prayer too! If you’re like me, you struggle with prayer. Your mind runs wild, you ramble along, you wonder if the prayers are even being heard some days.. Val addresses all of the roadblocks in this book and talks about getting through them while growing a praying relationship with the Father. Chapter 4 spoke to me so much. Anyone else a control freak and a “I’ll just do it myself” kinda gal? Just me?.. “The weight of control looks like spending our precious prayer time asking for things that don’t align with God’s will at all—and then, when they don’t happen, suddenly blaming him for not loving us or not being powerful enough to handle our problems” - from Val’s book Pray Confidently & Consistently in chapter 4. Highly recommend whether you just started praying or you’ve been praying for years. This would make such a wonderful gift along with her prayer journal too!
This is the best study on prayer that I have read. It is practical, thought-provoking and most importantly FULL of Scripture. Every chapter ends with three questions to get you thinking how to practically implement the teachings and then there are five or six verses to read to reinforce the truths shared.
“Did you ever wonder why prayer is so hard? After all, it’s just talking and listening to God. Why is it so much easier to reach for my to-do list, remote, phone, or even a really good book? The short answer is that our enemy knows prayer is powerful. He knows what will happen if we pray, and he’s scared. He’s attempting to sabotage our races (see Hebrews 12:1-2) because he knows that once the weights come off, he doesn’t have a prayer” (xv). Pray Confidently & Consistently by Valerie Woerner is filled with powerful and practical wisdom about how to fight off the distractions and let go of the weights that hold us back from praying consistently and with confidence. This book will walk you through “the weights” (expectations, perfectionism, emotions, etc.) that hinder our walks with Christ and then provides encouragement and practical techniques to throw off these weights in order to thrive in our prayer lives. I love that this book is split up into different barriers, so it will continue to be a great book to reference for different seasons of struggle. I also love that Woerner provides specific prayers and scripture that speak to each hinderance. Prayer is foundational to our walk with Christ, but it is often the most neglected. We want to change that, but so often we don’t know how! If you feel stuck and want to have a vibrant prayer life, this books is sure to encourage you and ignite a desire to “strip off every weight” that hinders the “life of faith” (Hebrews 12:1-2).
Val has a talent for helping others break through what is holding them back from a deeper relationship with God. In this book, I am learning how to draw closer and be more confident in my prayers. She shares about how we all get weight down with “weights” that are holding us back and how we can ‘throw those weights off’ for a more fulfilling prayer life. Val shares personal accounts and Scriptures that made me feel like we were chatting over tea. Her life jacket story totally had me laughing and comparing myself to how much trouble I have giving up control too. I loved being able to dive deeper in to scripture in the chapters that resonated most with ME !! We all need this book, whether YOU are new to praying, or a long time prayer warrior 💪🏻💪🏻. I trust that this book will bring great conversation for you & your friends and a deeper prayer life. I am going to gather some friends together and host a small group study.
Prayer is the most important tool to have when going through life. People often say they will pray, but do they actually follow through? We get busy and forget. We pray that God will answer in a specific way. We forget what we prayed. That’s not what prayer is all about. In Val Woerner’s new book, Pray Confidently and Consistently, we are encouraged to deepen our prayer life. Blending Scripture and personal anecdotes, this book reminds us that in order to change our prayer life, we need to remember who we are praying to and to release control. Readers are given tools and tips to reflect and enliven their conversations with God.
If you are looking for new ways to deepen your talks with God, please consider this book. As Val encourages, “I want to encourage you to take action. Decide right now what you want to change about your prayer life. I pray it refreshes you when you feel weary and encourages you to keep pressing forward on the journey of prayer ahead.”
Pray Confidently and Consistently is a timely, essential, and transformative resource which will breathe life into your prayer life. I have read many books on prayer—all have been good—but they haven’t addressed a huge facet of prayer that I have been working through for many years. Throughout my prayer journey I’ve noticed patterns of hindrances that either affect the way I pray or prevent me from praying altogether. I have been so encouraged while reading Pray Confidently and Consistently as Val addresses the very hindrances I’ve been fighting through. I’m finally seeing breakthrough in my prayer life, and I am so grateful for this book! If you are seeking clarity in your prayer life, desiring to remove weights that are hindering you’re prayer life, and want to dive deeper into prayer, this book is for you.
Pray is one of the best books on prayer that I've read. There are some reats out there but Val makes it so easy. She references many great books throughout to study further. This is a practical and biblically rich resource. I listened to the audio book and decided that I needed to have a hard copy, so I ordered one. It is very encouraging and something I will continue to use, definitely not a one and done read.
This is such a fantastic book on prayer. There were several parts throughout the book that challenged me and I found it such an encouragement in my walk with God. I received an early digital copy however I can’t wait for my hard copy to arrive, as I want to reread it and highlight all through it. The book focuses on prayer throughout different circumstances and feelings, and includes topics like surrender and spiritual warfare. The author Valerie explains things in an easy to understand, Biblically based way - I throughly recommend this book.
I love Val and her heart for prayer, but I also really appreciate her passion to take scripture and apply it at the most practical level. Most books would tell you why it’s good to pray, but Val has a gift for the “how.”
What a solid, encouraging book on prayer! It’s like Val is your best friend cheering you on to know and talk with God more and in a better way! Many practical methods and processes for tackling the excuses and things that hinder our prayer lives. Thank you for this book Val!