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Love, In Theory
When 24-year-old lawyer Romy learns that she is at her 'optimal stopping point' (the mathematically designated point at which one should select the next 'best person' who comes along in order to have the best chance at happily ever after), she knows it's time to get serious about her love life.
Ruthlessly rational, with a belief in data over destiny, Romy knows that reliability and consistency are dependable options, while passion and lust are transitory and only bring pain and disillusionment.
That's why sensible Hans the engineer is the right choice, as opposed to graphic designer James who exhibits the kind of behaviour that has got her into trouble before. Isn't he?
The twenty-first century may have brought technological advances in how we communicate, but this warm and funny novel shows us that the search for love is as fraught as ever
Ruthlessly rational, with a belief in data over destiny, Romy knows that reliability and consistency are dependable options, while passion and lust are transitory and only bring pain and disillusionment.
That's why sensible Hans the engineer is the right choice, as opposed to graphic designer James who exhibits the kind of behaviour that has got her into trouble before. Isn't he?
The twenty-first century may have brought technological advances in how we communicate, but this warm and funny novel shows us that the search for love is as fraught as ever
352 pages, Paperback
First published May 25, 2021
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Elodie Cheesman
2 books9 followersElodie Cheesman grew up in Canberra. She studied law at the University of Sydney and the University of Oxford, and was an Associate to the Honourable Chief Justice Susan Kiefel AC at the High Court of Australia. She works as a lawyer in Sydney. Love, in Theory is her first novel.
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September 1, 2021
Love, in Theory follows 24 year old law student Romy as she struggles to find 'the one'.
I enjoyed the snippets of the employment law cases that Romy worked on and how Cheesman put a humorous spin on them.
Romy's mother tells her about a dating theory she had read about based on algorithms, called the optimal stopping theory. Romy goes on Tinder date after Tinder date until she meets Hans who is somewhat staid and very unlike the fun, spontaneous James, but Romy isn't after fireworks, she's after stability. It's clearly a matter of head over heart.
I loved all the mentions of sights and bars around Sydney and being my hometown it was easy to imagine Romy and her friends there. Love, in Theory is a light read, a fun rom-com and I read it at a time when I needed something light, cheery and with a happy ending. In this way it certainly delivered. I will have to say though I think the story would be better appreciated by the under thirties.
Elodie Cheesman has written a delightful debut about the conundrum of dating in the modern era and the old adage of whether to follow your heart or your head.
* I received a copy from the publisher
I enjoyed the snippets of the employment law cases that Romy worked on and how Cheesman put a humorous spin on them.
Romy's mother tells her about a dating theory she had read about based on algorithms, called the optimal stopping theory. Romy goes on Tinder date after Tinder date until she meets Hans who is somewhat staid and very unlike the fun, spontaneous James, but Romy isn't after fireworks, she's after stability. It's clearly a matter of head over heart.
I loved all the mentions of sights and bars around Sydney and being my hometown it was easy to imagine Romy and her friends there. Love, in Theory is a light read, a fun rom-com and I read it at a time when I needed something light, cheery and with a happy ending. In this way it certainly delivered. I will have to say though I think the story would be better appreciated by the under thirties.
Elodie Cheesman has written a delightful debut about the conundrum of dating in the modern era and the old adage of whether to follow your heart or your head.
* I received a copy from the publisher
May 25, 2021
I have to say, I am glad I am married and no longer looking for the one.. what a nightmare Rome has trying to find love. This was a fun and sweet story and I loved that it was set in Sydney so I could imagine the story happening. The main character was a little frustrating l but that maybe me showing my age. Her family and friends her support but also her downfall it’s their advice and help. I guessed how it was going to end but still enjoyed the journey.
Love in Theory is out in Australia this week. Check out the blurb below. If you are looking for a fun rom com read then this debut is for you.
From Goodreads.
When 24-year-old lawyer Romy learns that she is at her 'optimal stopping point' (the mathematically designated point at which one should select the next 'best person' who comes along in order to have the best chance at happily ever after), she knows it's time to get serious about her love life.
Ruthlessly rational, with a belief in data over destiny, Romy knows that reliability and consistency are dependable options, while passion and lust are transitory and only bring pain and disillusionment.
That's why sensible Hans the engineer is the right choice, as opposed to graphic designer James who exhibits the kind of behaviour that has got her into trouble before. Isn't he?
The twenty-first century may have brought technological advances in how we communicate, but this warm and funny novel shows us that the search for love is as fraught as ever
Love in Theory is out in Australia this week. Check out the blurb below. If you are looking for a fun rom com read then this debut is for you.
From Goodreads.
When 24-year-old lawyer Romy learns that she is at her 'optimal stopping point' (the mathematically designated point at which one should select the next 'best person' who comes along in order to have the best chance at happily ever after), she knows it's time to get serious about her love life.
Ruthlessly rational, with a belief in data over destiny, Romy knows that reliability and consistency are dependable options, while passion and lust are transitory and only bring pain and disillusionment.
That's why sensible Hans the engineer is the right choice, as opposed to graphic designer James who exhibits the kind of behaviour that has got her into trouble before. Isn't he?
The twenty-first century may have brought technological advances in how we communicate, but this warm and funny novel shows us that the search for love is as fraught as ever
May 8, 2021
Rom-com readers rejoice! This is completely delightful. I knew I was in safe hands after the early mentions of Nora Ephron and Nancy Meyers and this just went from strength to strength. It’s warm and funny and sweet and the dialogue is killer. But it’s also a probing look at being a junior lawyer and flailing a bit career wise which felt so real and true. I love a rom-com with a back bone! Anyone who has followed my love of Guillory, McFarlane, Jenkins Reid and O’Leary (you know who you are) will be very happy reading this. Very happy. Squealing with happiness happy. And it’s Australian!
June 14, 2021
Love, In Theory by debut author Elodie Cheesman is a sweet, if rather predictable, romcom that explores the age old debate of whether to place more trust in your heart or your head when it comes to love.
Cheesman introduces Romy, a single, twenty four year old junior lawyer who works and lives in Sydney. When Romy learns that, according to the theory of the 'optimal stopping point', she has only a few months to find her best chance at ‘happy ever after’ she decides it’s time to make a concerted effort to find ‘the one’. Unwilling to trust her own instincts, which have led her into previous disastrous relationships, Romy decides to eschew passion and rely on science to find a match.
Drawing on advice from family, friends, a book or three, and a workshop on Intelligent Dating, Romy starts her search for her perfect partner on Tinder. There are the expected bad dates - a bore, and a sleaze; before she meets Hans, who embodies her three most desirable traits - risk averse, emotionally stable, and agreeable,- even if he doesn’t make her heart flutter in quite the way that James, a graphic designer who doesn’t seem to be any of those things, does.
Life would probably be simpler if the question of love could be reduced to a neat algorithm, but a solution seems determined to remain elusive. Though the outcome is inevitable, I enjoyed Romy’s journey well enough. I did find her a little frustrating at times, particularly given she’s probably a bit young these days to be so worried about being alone for the rest of her life.
I did like the subplot related to Romy’s ambivalence towards her job working in employment law, including issues around #metoo, bad bosses, and work/life balance which provides more depth to the story.
Love, In Theory is a wholesome contemporary romance that will likely appeal to a twenty-something readership looking to be reassured ‘the one’ is still out there.
Cheesman introduces Romy, a single, twenty four year old junior lawyer who works and lives in Sydney. When Romy learns that, according to the theory of the 'optimal stopping point', she has only a few months to find her best chance at ‘happy ever after’ she decides it’s time to make a concerted effort to find ‘the one’. Unwilling to trust her own instincts, which have led her into previous disastrous relationships, Romy decides to eschew passion and rely on science to find a match.
Drawing on advice from family, friends, a book or three, and a workshop on Intelligent Dating, Romy starts her search for her perfect partner on Tinder. There are the expected bad dates - a bore, and a sleaze; before she meets Hans, who embodies her three most desirable traits - risk averse, emotionally stable, and agreeable,- even if he doesn’t make her heart flutter in quite the way that James, a graphic designer who doesn’t seem to be any of those things, does.
Life would probably be simpler if the question of love could be reduced to a neat algorithm, but a solution seems determined to remain elusive. Though the outcome is inevitable, I enjoyed Romy’s journey well enough. I did find her a little frustrating at times, particularly given she’s probably a bit young these days to be so worried about being alone for the rest of her life.
I did like the subplot related to Romy’s ambivalence towards her job working in employment law, including issues around #metoo, bad bosses, and work/life balance which provides more depth to the story.
Love, In Theory is a wholesome contemporary romance that will likely appeal to a twenty-something readership looking to be reassured ‘the one’ is still out there.
October 14, 2021
I have mixed feelings about this book. This had so much potential. It has such a strong start and I would have given this 4 stars but the ending has left me unsatisfied and to be honest a bit annoyed. If you're planning on reading Love, In Theory I recommend listening to the audiobook because that’s how I read this and the voice actor was great! It made the story more entertaining. I love that this is set in Australia and talks about places I’m familiar with and have actually been to, so that was fun. Romy was a very realistic and relatable character. I appreciated that we got to see her job as a lawyer. The plot was good, the pacing was fantastic and the writing was simple and enjoyable.
HOWEVER, for the majority of the book she’s in a relationship with a guy (Hans) who is clearly not the one she was going to end up with so I didn’t enjoy reading about them together. Plus, I was rooting for the other guy (James). I get that sometimes in books the two people meant to be are in different relationships before ending up with each other but 98% into the book and she was still not with James. He even felt like a side character. In saying this, the only reason she decides to be with James is because of other characters who have to make her realise that she’s an “idiot” (Romy’s words, not mine). I understand she has doubts but she was literally starting to get on my nerves towards the end. Speaking of which, the ending actually made me angry because the whole book was building up on Romy getting together with the right guy but we don’t even get to see them together (in a relationship I mean). Isn’t that the point of romance books? To see their feelings for each other grow and then eventually read about them happy together. Then maybe even read about another complication when they are together. The ending wasn’t satisfying and so underwhelming. It’s making me think that the ending alone is not worth reading the whole book. I read a lot of romance but I think this just wasn’t for me. Moreover, a lot of the book’s focus was on Romy being miserable, or to put it lightly unhappy, with her job. So when she finally decides to do something about it, it was at the very end and kind of brushed over. I thought it would have been more of a cathartic experience where she stands up for herself but at least she did something about it. Overall, this book was interesting, and very impressive for a debut, but the last part of the book knocked my rating down to 3 stars.
HOWEVER, for the majority of the book she’s in a relationship with a guy (Hans) who is clearly not the one she was going to end up with so I didn’t enjoy reading about them together. Plus, I was rooting for the other guy (James). I get that sometimes in books the two people meant to be are in different relationships before ending up with each other but 98% into the book and she was still not with James. He even felt like a side character. In saying this, the only reason she decides to be with James is because of other characters who have to make her realise that she’s an “idiot” (Romy’s words, not mine). I understand she has doubts but she was literally starting to get on my nerves towards the end. Speaking of which, the ending actually made me angry because the whole book was building up on Romy getting together with the right guy but we don’t even get to see them together (in a relationship I mean). Isn’t that the point of romance books? To see their feelings for each other grow and then eventually read about them happy together. Then maybe even read about another complication when they are together. The ending wasn’t satisfying and so underwhelming. It’s making me think that the ending alone is not worth reading the whole book. I read a lot of romance but I think this just wasn’t for me. Moreover, a lot of the book’s focus was on Romy being miserable, or to put it lightly unhappy, with her job. So when she finally decides to do something about it, it was at the very end and kind of brushed over. I thought it would have been more of a cathartic experience where she stands up for herself but at least she did something about it. Overall, this book was interesting, and very impressive for a debut, but the last part of the book knocked my rating down to 3 stars.
February 23, 2022
it’s a very VERY just below average book! :)
June 13, 2021
This book is an unsolicited review copy and honestly, it isn't a book that I'd pick up on my own steam. The cover is pretty cute but not particularly eye-grabbing so I reckon I'd walk by without noticing much. However, the premise of an algorithm for finding love rather tickled. It's not particularly unique as I'm sure I've seen other books with similar premise but I was happy enough to give this book a chance.
It seems to me that pretending to be the person everyone wants you to be is easier than grappling with the messiness underneath.
Romy is an easy protagonist to sympathise with... She's young, single but a tad lonely, has pretty good friends and loving parents. She seems like she's pretty much got it all but when you dig deeper, she's got issues as we all do. Her workplace (despite the prestige etc) isn't all it claims to be. Her love life is practically non-existent and with 2 awful relationships behind her, she's very unsure on how to find Mr Right. And she especially is very unsure on how to find whether Mr Right is right inside as well as outside.
"...,there's a big gap between our private thoughts and intentions and public words and actions. I think that's what intimacy is -- learning the landscape of that divide. It's not insuperable, and sometimes it's worth putting in the effort to understand another person."
As Romy looks to her friends and family for advices, she had to make her own decision on what exactly is the right thing for her. And as she stumbles through a relationship, a break-up, work conflicts, she continues to have blinders on when readers are shouting from the very first chapter who Mr Right is. It was really quite a frustrating read but...
"...As we get older and have more experiences, we learn which label to use for which experience, even though the physical response is the same. But humans aren't always great at distinguishing between feelings."
I can totally relate to this last bit. Romy was slow but she got there, ladies & gentlemen. Overall, Love, In Theory was a very relaxing read even if it nearly crossed the line of my pet peeve (love triangle). Luckily, it didn't quite get there so I managed to finish without too much angst. The algorithm theory went way over my head but that doesn't really worry me because you & I know, love doesn't work that way anyway ;p
My thanks to Pan Macmillan Australia for this paperback copy of book in exchange of my honest thoughts
It seems to me that pretending to be the person everyone wants you to be is easier than grappling with the messiness underneath.
Romy is an easy protagonist to sympathise with... She's young, single but a tad lonely, has pretty good friends and loving parents. She seems like she's pretty much got it all but when you dig deeper, she's got issues as we all do. Her workplace (despite the prestige etc) isn't all it claims to be. Her love life is practically non-existent and with 2 awful relationships behind her, she's very unsure on how to find Mr Right. And she especially is very unsure on how to find whether Mr Right is right inside as well as outside.
"...,there's a big gap between our private thoughts and intentions and public words and actions. I think that's what intimacy is -- learning the landscape of that divide. It's not insuperable, and sometimes it's worth putting in the effort to understand another person."
As Romy looks to her friends and family for advices, she had to make her own decision on what exactly is the right thing for her. And as she stumbles through a relationship, a break-up, work conflicts, she continues to have blinders on when readers are shouting from the very first chapter who Mr Right is. It was really quite a frustrating read but...
"...As we get older and have more experiences, we learn which label to use for which experience, even though the physical response is the same. But humans aren't always great at distinguishing between feelings."
I can totally relate to this last bit. Romy was slow but she got there, ladies & gentlemen. Overall, Love, In Theory was a very relaxing read even if it nearly crossed the line of my pet peeve (love triangle). Luckily, it didn't quite get there so I managed to finish without too much angst. The algorithm theory went way over my head but that doesn't really worry me because you & I know, love doesn't work that way anyway ;p
My thanks to Pan Macmillan Australia for this paperback copy of book in exchange of my honest thoughts
April 9, 2023
Writing this review a week late and I've already forgotten everything that happened, but I think I enjoyed it for the most part!
August 16, 2021
Love, in Theory is a Rom-Com set in Sydney with Romy, a 25 year old Law Graduate, as the looking-for-love protagonist (the author is a young lawyer at Clayton Utz Sydney IRL).
With a formula that Rom-Coms have used for centuries, the premise of this book is whether you will find true love by following the science of love and dating, or not. Head v Heart. Or can you have both?
Romy follows the dating science to the letter and finds she is interested in two very different men. Who is right for her?
I liked: the Sydney setting, and the side trip to my favourite ski-field Thredbo; the insight into law graduate life and the use of dating science throughout the book.
I didn't like:
the Americanisation - oatmeal, flip-flops, rehearsal dinner - editors, this is annoying in an obviously Australian book.
the assumption that happiness = finding a partner. Aaargh. I get that the book needed a starting point but I feel that it could've started with more of a balanced perception. Almost stopped reading 20 pages in.
the predictability (although, I get that this is the Rom Com Schtick)
Rom-Coms aren't really my thing. Having said that, the Sydney location and the side-trip to Thredbo elevated it. I love that this is written by a smart young lawyer. The writing is pretty good. Good for reading when you need something light.
With a formula that Rom-Coms have used for centuries, the premise of this book is whether you will find true love by following the science of love and dating, or not. Head v Heart. Or can you have both?
Romy follows the dating science to the letter and finds she is interested in two very different men. Who is right for her?
I liked: the Sydney setting, and the side trip to my favourite ski-field Thredbo; the insight into law graduate life and the use of dating science throughout the book.
I didn't like:
the Americanisation - oatmeal, flip-flops, rehearsal dinner - editors, this is annoying in an obviously Australian book.
the assumption that happiness = finding a partner. Aaargh. I get that the book needed a starting point but I feel that it could've started with more of a balanced perception. Almost stopped reading 20 pages in.
the predictability (although, I get that this is the Rom Com Schtick)
Rom-Coms aren't really my thing. Having said that, the Sydney location and the side-trip to Thredbo elevated it. I love that this is written by a smart young lawyer. The writing is pretty good. Good for reading when you need something light.
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June 9, 2021Great to see debut author, Elodie Cheesman using her law background as inspiration in this light, easy-to-read and enjoyable rom-com. Main character Romy is surrounded by a supportive family and strong friendship circle, but finds herself unlucky in love and ambivalent about the career she's worked so hard for. I enjoyed the family dynamics, chuckled at Romy's attempts to apply a scientific and mathematical approach to her dating game-plan, and found myself feeling extremely grateful that I'm not dating in today's swipe-right culture! Perfect for fans of The Rosie Project. Thanks to Pan Macmillan for sending me a review copy.
January 30, 2022
I wanted to love this book, I really did. I loved the premise of choosing a partner logically vs choosing one for passion, and I had anticipated a cute rom com book that sets out to prove that you can’t help when and who you fall in love with.
Instead, I spent the majority of the book infuriated by this awful, snobby, main character who it felt like was being purposefully obtuse. There was no proper development of tension to make us think that ‘risk-taking’ James is in any way a potential romantic interest.
The pacing was also way off - we spent 90% of the book with boring Hans who you KNOW she won’t end up with but we kept trying to make the same ‘logical’ arguments for being with him every second page, and it genuinely had me worried that the author truly believed in them.
There was so much potential to have James be a dream guy who we’re rooting for the whole way but the whole book was just off and I’m really sad about it.
Instead, I spent the majority of the book infuriated by this awful, snobby, main character who it felt like was being purposefully obtuse. There was no proper development of tension to make us think that ‘risk-taking’ James is in any way a potential romantic interest.
The pacing was also way off - we spent 90% of the book with boring Hans who you KNOW she won’t end up with but we kept trying to make the same ‘logical’ arguments for being with him every second page, and it genuinely had me worried that the author truly believed in them.
There was so much potential to have James be a dream guy who we’re rooting for the whole way but the whole book was just off and I’m really sad about it.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
January 31, 2024
I think I'm too old to read chick lit where the character is barely out of her teens and crying about being single and having to "find the one".
This was predictible, cringe-worthy, and I spent most of the book telling all of the characters to grow up. They simply have no life experience, no understanding of people or relationships, and it shows.
Still, I can see that fans of chick lit like shopaholic might like it.
This was predictible, cringe-worthy, and I spent most of the book telling all of the characters to grow up. They simply have no life experience, no understanding of people or relationships, and it shows.
Still, I can see that fans of chick lit like shopaholic might like it.
September 8, 2022
3.5
A fun and extremely relatable read (woman in mid-20s from Sydney struggling to find the one, hello??). But while Romy's musings on love and life were accurate, I found the main love trianlge between James/Hans/Romy underdeveloped and flat. James didn't feature much throughout and his sudden omission of love for Romy seemed almost out of the blue. All in all, a fun read.
A fun and extremely relatable read (woman in mid-20s from Sydney struggling to find the one, hello??). But while Romy's musings on love and life were accurate, I found the main love trianlge between James/Hans/Romy underdeveloped and flat. James didn't feature much throughout and his sudden omission of love for Romy seemed almost out of the blue. All in all, a fun read.
May 20, 2021
LOVE IN THEORY poses questions through 24 year old lawyer Romy in relation to the scientific merits of a couple of theories on finding love.
Romy hasn’t exactly been unlucky in love, her relationships have just petered out after the initial attraction wore off. She’s a little jaded and unsettled and wanting to be more intentional with her quest to find the right person. She figures it’s not about the tall, dark and handsome - so cliched and those don’t really narrow down the characteristics that might lead to a successful match.
We see Romy ponder whether she’s a good match for her job as well amongst the legal and moral nuances of her position.
This thoroughly delightful book is a debut. It’s set in Sydney so there are glimpses in Romy’s every day that I found so easy to immerse myself in. It’s a fun modern take on dating. I loved Roma’s internal wrangling, her friendships and the dialogue with her parents. This ones got some substance that readers are bound to enjoy.
Thanks to MacMillan Australia for the complimentary copy of this book to read and review.
Romy hasn’t exactly been unlucky in love, her relationships have just petered out after the initial attraction wore off. She’s a little jaded and unsettled and wanting to be more intentional with her quest to find the right person. She figures it’s not about the tall, dark and handsome - so cliched and those don’t really narrow down the characteristics that might lead to a successful match.
We see Romy ponder whether she’s a good match for her job as well amongst the legal and moral nuances of her position.
This thoroughly delightful book is a debut. It’s set in Sydney so there are glimpses in Romy’s every day that I found so easy to immerse myself in. It’s a fun modern take on dating. I loved Roma’s internal wrangling, her friendships and the dialogue with her parents. This ones got some substance that readers are bound to enjoy.
Thanks to MacMillan Australia for the complimentary copy of this book to read and review.
August 17, 2021
This story was one of a twenty something year old woman looking for her ultimate love in life and the process she followed to try to find it. It was also a story of a group of friends navigating their lives post university in their first real jobs. Interestingly it was set in Sydney, which was refreshing. Although I enjoyed the story, it was at times a bit slow paced.
January 19, 2022
Beautifully articulate and descriptive, it felt like I was walking through Sydney again. A cute and satisfying story-and the reading of the audiobook by Anthea Greco was probably the best audio reading of a book I’ve ever heard. By no means complex or unpredictable, but still a worthwhile guilty pleasure read.
June 27, 2022
a different storyline than most romance novels as the main character wasn’t really into all things romance, which I quite liked. Although I did see the ending coming I was happy with the ending.
October 12, 2021
This was a very light hearted read that follows Romy through her quest to find her one true connection. She is basing her selection on a science as she is getting older and concerned she will never find that special someone to settle down with. But rather than following her heart she tries to force her feelings to what relationship would ideally look better on paper.
I did enjoy this one, especially being set in Sydney so many familiar places and suburbs being mentioned made me feel more connected to the book. I enjoyed the storyline but also wanted to shake Romy many a times throughout this book. She became frustrating to read and I wanted more of the storyline to focus on her and James. It did wrap up a little fast towards the end where I feel the new relationships could have been explored a little further.
Overall a fun and easy rom com to keep me entertained.
I did enjoy this one, especially being set in Sydney so many familiar places and suburbs being mentioned made me feel more connected to the book. I enjoyed the storyline but also wanted to shake Romy many a times throughout this book. She became frustrating to read and I wanted more of the storyline to focus on her and James. It did wrap up a little fast towards the end where I feel the new relationships could have been explored a little further.
Overall a fun and easy rom com to keep me entertained.
May 4, 2025
Good, in theory. Okay, in practice
July 25, 2021
3.5
This review first appeared here: http://bookgirl.beautyandlace.net/boo...
This debut novel by Elodie Cheesman is a fun romance novel looking at the mathematical probabilities and theories around love.
Romy a single 24-year-old lawyer living in Sydney has decided that it’s time to get serious about love. She learns that she is at her 'optimal stopping point' - the mathematically designated point at which one should select the next 'best person' who comes along in order to have the best chance at happily ever after.
After meeting a few men, Hans the engineer appears – he seems to be the sensible choice – but why does graphic designer James keep popping into her head. Who will be her ultimate match?
A nice easy romance read which at times was fairly predictable (not a criticism). I liked the concept of the story and the main characters were all likeable. If you’re after a nice easy weekend love story then this one is for you.
Thanks to Beauty and Lace and Pan MacMillan Australia for the opportunity to read and review this book.
This review first appeared here: http://bookgirl.beautyandlace.net/boo...
This debut novel by Elodie Cheesman is a fun romance novel looking at the mathematical probabilities and theories around love.
Romy a single 24-year-old lawyer living in Sydney has decided that it’s time to get serious about love. She learns that she is at her 'optimal stopping point' - the mathematically designated point at which one should select the next 'best person' who comes along in order to have the best chance at happily ever after.
After meeting a few men, Hans the engineer appears – he seems to be the sensible choice – but why does graphic designer James keep popping into her head. Who will be her ultimate match?
A nice easy romance read which at times was fairly predictable (not a criticism). I liked the concept of the story and the main characters were all likeable. If you’re after a nice easy weekend love story then this one is for you.
Thanks to Beauty and Lace and Pan MacMillan Australia for the opportunity to read and review this book.
October 14, 2025
This novel is for anyone who loves Sydney and loves love!
This writer has found her voice and what a joy it is to read a book with a host of strong female characters. I couldn't put this book down, a page turner until the end.
I can't wait to see what this author does next. And for this book to be turned into a TV series or movie!
This writer has found her voice and what a joy it is to read a book with a host of strong female characters. I couldn't put this book down, a page turner until the end.
I can't wait to see what this author does next. And for this book to be turned into a TV series or movie!
November 3, 2021
A giddy lil love story that brought me intense warmth
I don't entertain the "single and at home on a Saturday night" narrative, nor do I know any 24 year old in Sydney so determined to find "the one", but it was a lovely read overall
I don't entertain the "single and at home on a Saturday night" narrative, nor do I know any 24 year old in Sydney so determined to find "the one", but it was a lovely read overall
August 20, 2021
Couldn’t finish it - and that never happens
Not funny, smart or witty
Not interesting in any way.
The characters are boring and unlikeable and the plot so elementary that there was really nothing left to look forward to.
Not funny, smart or witty
Not interesting in any way.
The characters are boring and unlikeable and the plot so elementary that there was really nothing left to look forward to.
July 18, 2021
Love in Theory by debut author Elodie Cheesman is a truly lovely, heart-warming and joyful romance novel.
Romy, a single, twenty-four-year-old living in Sydney, works as a junior lawyer. She has a great life; supportive parents and close friends but is missing a special someone in her life. She has not been unlucky in love but when she meets someone and has a good time it always comes to a standstill. When she hears about the optimal stopping theory, she seeks out to find “the one”. There are lots of ways to know things about someone just by looking at them or watching their behaviour but that’s where science comes in. She attends a workshop on intelligent dating, reads several dating help books and gets advice from her parents and friends before she begins her quest. As her Tinder search begins, she is looking for a reliable, solid man with values rather than feelings of attraction when she first sees them. She recognises the tell-tale signs of falling in love, like butterflies in the stomach and not being able to get them off your brain but she wants love to develop with an intention to be with a significant other.
As Romy ventures out on dates there are ones that are disastrous, boring and a waste of her time but when she meets sensible Hans the engineer and total opposite charismatic James the graphic designer, she must put the theory in practice.
I loved exploring Sydney through Romy’s eyes and going from suburb to suburb and events. Her character grew as a person becoming more confident in what she wanted. The supporting characters from her work, friends and parents were fun, irritating and interfering but all very likeable.
I felt the cover of the book to be considerably basic and it could very well go unnoticed on the shelves. Something more brighter and eye catching would catch my attention to make me pick it up and read the back.
As a debut novel Elodie has made the book relatable for all single women going through the stages of dating and finding Mr Right, especially this day and age and no matter how, old you are! There is a great deal of storytelling done through dialogues, which shines in her writing skill. Of course, the key to any good book is that it speaks directly to the reader, which is perhaps one of the hardest feats for a writer, because it is so often the aspect most beyond the writer’s control. As a single person I know all too well!
Love in Theory has plenty of emotional sensitivity, realism, and sweet moments to offer readers. I recommend to those wanting a nice, sweet easy read.
Thank you, Beauty and Lace, and to Pan MacMillan Australia for the opportunity to read and review
Romy, a single, twenty-four-year-old living in Sydney, works as a junior lawyer. She has a great life; supportive parents and close friends but is missing a special someone in her life. She has not been unlucky in love but when she meets someone and has a good time it always comes to a standstill. When she hears about the optimal stopping theory, she seeks out to find “the one”. There are lots of ways to know things about someone just by looking at them or watching their behaviour but that’s where science comes in. She attends a workshop on intelligent dating, reads several dating help books and gets advice from her parents and friends before she begins her quest. As her Tinder search begins, she is looking for a reliable, solid man with values rather than feelings of attraction when she first sees them. She recognises the tell-tale signs of falling in love, like butterflies in the stomach and not being able to get them off your brain but she wants love to develop with an intention to be with a significant other.
As Romy ventures out on dates there are ones that are disastrous, boring and a waste of her time but when she meets sensible Hans the engineer and total opposite charismatic James the graphic designer, she must put the theory in practice.
I loved exploring Sydney through Romy’s eyes and going from suburb to suburb and events. Her character grew as a person becoming more confident in what she wanted. The supporting characters from her work, friends and parents were fun, irritating and interfering but all very likeable.
I felt the cover of the book to be considerably basic and it could very well go unnoticed on the shelves. Something more brighter and eye catching would catch my attention to make me pick it up and read the back.
As a debut novel Elodie has made the book relatable for all single women going through the stages of dating and finding Mr Right, especially this day and age and no matter how, old you are! There is a great deal of storytelling done through dialogues, which shines in her writing skill. Of course, the key to any good book is that it speaks directly to the reader, which is perhaps one of the hardest feats for a writer, because it is so often the aspect most beyond the writer’s control. As a single person I know all too well!
Love in Theory has plenty of emotional sensitivity, realism, and sweet moments to offer readers. I recommend to those wanting a nice, sweet easy read.
Thank you, Beauty and Lace, and to Pan MacMillan Australia for the opportunity to read and review
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December 11, 2021This review was first published on the Underground Writers website: http://underground-writers.org/review...
Love, in Theory combines romance with mathematics to tell the story of Romy; chronically single and feeling mounting pressure from her mother to settle down. Author Elodie Cheesman poses the question: is there such thing as an ‘ultimate stopping point’ when it comes to finding a life partner?
I really enjoyed how easy it was to settle in to Love, in Theory and its relatable cast of characters. Much like Bridget Jones’ Diary, the reader slots themselves into Romy’s friend group and observes the lives of the characters without feeling out of the loop. We witness the trials and tribulations of various romances with Romy’s dating life being the main focus of the narrative. The quick-witted dialogue and social observations were spot-on for twenty-somethings, and I found it to be a relatable read.
In the beginning we witness Romy navigate the world of dating apps and the disastrous dates that follow, until she meets Hans—the dreamy German who ticks all the boxes. On paper, at least. The sage words of her mother echo in her mind when she finds the chemistry lacking between them, relying instead on slowly falling in love with all aspects of Hans’ personality rather than diving straight into pure infatuation. As Carrie Bradshaw would say: I couldn’t help but wonder … is there such thing as love at first sight?
The target audience is very clear for this book. The pop culture references and general plot are something straight out of a 20-something’s vocabulary, and it’s clear who the author was aiming for in writing this book.
That being said, steeping the book in modernity results in it being quite niche content. I don’t feel as though this book will be as readable in a few years’ time. Romy’s inner dialogue is full of endless references and social commentary, which I found enjoyable at first. It is reminiscent of the conversations I have with my friends, however it felt disarming and took me out of the story when I had to stop and use intertextual knowledge to fully understand what was being said.
Overall, I found this to be an enjoyable Australian romance book. If you’re a fan of Dolly Alderton I think you’d enjoy this local take on modern-day dating. This is the perfect millennial book club read and judging by how I have seen this cover all over Instagram, it is already beloved by its target demographic!
Love, in Theory combines romance with mathematics to tell the story of Romy; chronically single and feeling mounting pressure from her mother to settle down. Author Elodie Cheesman poses the question: is there such thing as an ‘ultimate stopping point’ when it comes to finding a life partner?
I really enjoyed how easy it was to settle in to Love, in Theory and its relatable cast of characters. Much like Bridget Jones’ Diary, the reader slots themselves into Romy’s friend group and observes the lives of the characters without feeling out of the loop. We witness the trials and tribulations of various romances with Romy’s dating life being the main focus of the narrative. The quick-witted dialogue and social observations were spot-on for twenty-somethings, and I found it to be a relatable read.
In the beginning we witness Romy navigate the world of dating apps and the disastrous dates that follow, until she meets Hans—the dreamy German who ticks all the boxes. On paper, at least. The sage words of her mother echo in her mind when she finds the chemistry lacking between them, relying instead on slowly falling in love with all aspects of Hans’ personality rather than diving straight into pure infatuation. As Carrie Bradshaw would say: I couldn’t help but wonder … is there such thing as love at first sight?
The target audience is very clear for this book. The pop culture references and general plot are something straight out of a 20-something’s vocabulary, and it’s clear who the author was aiming for in writing this book.
That being said, steeping the book in modernity results in it being quite niche content. I don’t feel as though this book will be as readable in a few years’ time. Romy’s inner dialogue is full of endless references and social commentary, which I found enjoyable at first. It is reminiscent of the conversations I have with my friends, however it felt disarming and took me out of the story when I had to stop and use intertextual knowledge to fully understand what was being said.
Overall, I found this to be an enjoyable Australian romance book. If you’re a fan of Dolly Alderton I think you’d enjoy this local take on modern-day dating. This is the perfect millennial book club read and judging by how I have seen this cover all over Instagram, it is already beloved by its target demographic!
July 3, 2021
A good rom-com is hard to find, particularly in the Australian setting. But with Elodie Cheesman’s debut novel, Love in Theory, it proves that it can be done. It’s an inventive twist on the looking for love trope, adding some statistics and a definitive plan for the heroine to follow (that goes completely wrong, of course).
Romy is a young lawyer in Sydney, and despite her workplace treating her as a cog, she lives a pretty sweet life. She doesn’t want for money; she lives in a cool area of town and she’s got some great friends. But at the big 24 (and I say that with sarcasm), Romy is worried that she will never find The One. So when her mother admits that it wasn’t love at first sight with Romy’s father (more like a work in progress) and a newspaper article tells Romy her best chance at love is right now, Romy is worried. She needs a plan and she needs it now. Dating apps are uploaded on to her phone, and her friends help her choose suitable dates. She’s methodically ploughing her way through them when she meets Hans. He’s sensible, driven and definitely has long term plans. Friend of a friend James, who is definitely not on a Stable Career Track, is firmly placed in the Do Not Go There part of Romy’s mind. But it’s OK to be friends with James, right?
You know how it’s going to end, but Elodie Cheesman takes the reader on a fun path through dating app duds, cheesy romantic montages and a ski trip that changes everything. In these close to home times, Romy’s freedom to attend parties, bars and the ski fields was just the balm to a wintry winter week at home. In between, there are some heavier issues tackled on the work front regarding unacceptable workplace behaviour and Romy tackling whether corporate law is her lifelong path. I appreciated these subplots, as they gave more weight to the story and fleshed out the characters of Romy and her friends. Romy’s voice was authentic, honest and full of the uncertainty of life in your mid-twenties, yet it was never grating. Her friends are quirky characters with memorable quirks, and the male love interests are like chalk and cheese (yet both mainly endearing until the big reveal).
Love, in Theory is a sound rom-com which would make for a fantastic movie (hint, hint).
Thank you to Pan Macmillan for the copy of this book. My review is honest.
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Romy is a young lawyer in Sydney, and despite her workplace treating her as a cog, she lives a pretty sweet life. She doesn’t want for money; she lives in a cool area of town and she’s got some great friends. But at the big 24 (and I say that with sarcasm), Romy is worried that she will never find The One. So when her mother admits that it wasn’t love at first sight with Romy’s father (more like a work in progress) and a newspaper article tells Romy her best chance at love is right now, Romy is worried. She needs a plan and she needs it now. Dating apps are uploaded on to her phone, and her friends help her choose suitable dates. She’s methodically ploughing her way through them when she meets Hans. He’s sensible, driven and definitely has long term plans. Friend of a friend James, who is definitely not on a Stable Career Track, is firmly placed in the Do Not Go There part of Romy’s mind. But it’s OK to be friends with James, right?
You know how it’s going to end, but Elodie Cheesman takes the reader on a fun path through dating app duds, cheesy romantic montages and a ski trip that changes everything. In these close to home times, Romy’s freedom to attend parties, bars and the ski fields was just the balm to a wintry winter week at home. In between, there are some heavier issues tackled on the work front regarding unacceptable workplace behaviour and Romy tackling whether corporate law is her lifelong path. I appreciated these subplots, as they gave more weight to the story and fleshed out the characters of Romy and her friends. Romy’s voice was authentic, honest and full of the uncertainty of life in your mid-twenties, yet it was never grating. Her friends are quirky characters with memorable quirks, and the male love interests are like chalk and cheese (yet both mainly endearing until the big reveal).
Love, in Theory is a sound rom-com which would make for a fantastic movie (hint, hint).
Thank you to Pan Macmillan for the copy of this book. My review is honest.
http://samstillreading.wordpress.com
January 6, 2024
3.5 stars
This was a cute story which has all the makings of a great Rom-com for the big screen. I loved the Sydney setting, and how very Australian parts of this book were (mention of the old McCain corn commercial - 'Marge, the rains are here' - made me smile).
Romy, a 24-year-old early career lawyer, learns about "optimal stopping theory", the point in time at which she needs to settle for the next best guy that comes along, in order to have her happily ever after. Unfortunately, she's already at her optimal stopping point, so she decides to make a serious effort to find "the one" to settle down with. The book explores the age-old debate - when it comes to love, should you follow your head or your heart?
We meet James in chapter 1, and though Romy thinks he's all kinds of wrong for a long-term relationship, it's fairly obvious he's the one she's going to end up with. But of course, nothing is that easy, and we see Romy luck out with a couple of failed Tinder dates, before settling into a relationship with Hans, who is everything Romy thinks she wants - reliable, agreeable, safe. According to all the theories she's using, Romy can look forward to a long and happy life with Hans, if only she could grow to love him.
My biggest problem with this book was that we spent so much of it on Romy's relationship with Hans, when it was obvious it wasn't going to work out. Here I am, rooting for James who we've known since the very beginning was the right guy, but it's not until four pages from the end that he and Romy finally get together. I wanted to see so much more of their relationship!
I really had to agree with Romy's friend Paloma...
This was a cute story which has all the makings of a great Rom-com for the big screen. I loved the Sydney setting, and how very Australian parts of this book were (mention of the old McCain corn commercial - 'Marge, the rains are here' - made me smile).
Romy, a 24-year-old early career lawyer, learns about "optimal stopping theory", the point in time at which she needs to settle for the next best guy that comes along, in order to have her happily ever after. Unfortunately, she's already at her optimal stopping point, so she decides to make a serious effort to find "the one" to settle down with. The book explores the age-old debate - when it comes to love, should you follow your head or your heart?
We meet James in chapter 1, and though Romy thinks he's all kinds of wrong for a long-term relationship, it's fairly obvious he's the one she's going to end up with. But of course, nothing is that easy, and we see Romy luck out with a couple of failed Tinder dates, before settling into a relationship with Hans, who is everything Romy thinks she wants - reliable, agreeable, safe. According to all the theories she's using, Romy can look forward to a long and happy life with Hans, if only she could grow to love him.
My biggest problem with this book was that we spent so much of it on Romy's relationship with Hans, when it was obvious it wasn't going to work out. Here I am, rooting for James who we've known since the very beginning was the right guy, but it's not until four pages from the end that he and Romy finally get together. I wanted to see so much more of their relationship!
I really had to agree with Romy's friend Paloma...
'You think you're taking charge of your life, shrouding yourself in all your theories and ideals, but you've completely lost the plot. Sometimes I think you're the smartest person I know, and sometimes you're absolutely the dumbest.'Overall, this was a quick and fun, albeit somewhat frustrating, read. Perfect if you're looking for something light and fluffy.
June 13, 2021
3.5
Has this author gone back in time and stalked me in my mid-20s while I was working at my old law firm and looking for love on Tinder? This book was scarily close to my life… except I did end up meeting my hubby on Tinder hah
24 year old Romy is doing the tough grad-life at a Sydney law firm. She learns about optimal stopping theory and realises she needs to put herself into the dating scene before it’s too late. She looks for set qualities in a man (stability, consistency) based on psychological theories of love and happiness, choosing to not focus on sparks/love.
Things I liked:
- I think the richer story line in this whole book is the messed up life of young lawyers, particularly in big Sydney firms. I wanted more of this - more of the moral conundrums lawyers face when dealing with crappy clients, and more exposure of toxic senior partners
- The exploration of psychology and life theories was really cool. I wanted more of this too - perhaps a few more first dates!
- The way this story depicted modern dating felt real. It can be so shitty and tedious - I felt for Romy!
- The writing was smart. I could feel the author’s intelligence coming through the pages!
Things I didn’t like:
- It was fairly predictable
- I needed to see more interactions with James. The interactions in the book were good, and I think I would have been more invested in the story if I had more swoony/banter-y content to sink my teeth into!
- I wasn’t 100% hooked, I think because Hans was boring (I know that was the point - but see comment above about needing more of James)
In short: I enjoyed this debut novel, and probably got into it because of my experiences in my 20s - looking for love while lawyering. Lovely to see a new Australian romance author.
Has this author gone back in time and stalked me in my mid-20s while I was working at my old law firm and looking for love on Tinder? This book was scarily close to my life… except I did end up meeting my hubby on Tinder hah
24 year old Romy is doing the tough grad-life at a Sydney law firm. She learns about optimal stopping theory and realises she needs to put herself into the dating scene before it’s too late. She looks for set qualities in a man (stability, consistency) based on psychological theories of love and happiness, choosing to not focus on sparks/love.
Things I liked:
- I think the richer story line in this whole book is the messed up life of young lawyers, particularly in big Sydney firms. I wanted more of this - more of the moral conundrums lawyers face when dealing with crappy clients, and more exposure of toxic senior partners
- The exploration of psychology and life theories was really cool. I wanted more of this too - perhaps a few more first dates!
- The way this story depicted modern dating felt real. It can be so shitty and tedious - I felt for Romy!
- The writing was smart. I could feel the author’s intelligence coming through the pages!
Things I didn’t like:
- It was fairly predictable
- I needed to see more interactions with James. The interactions in the book were good, and I think I would have been more invested in the story if I had more swoony/banter-y content to sink my teeth into!
- I wasn’t 100% hooked, I think because Hans was boring (I know that was the point - but see comment above about needing more of James)
In short: I enjoyed this debut novel, and probably got into it because of my experiences in my 20s - looking for love while lawyering. Lovely to see a new Australian romance author.
June 26, 2021
Romy is a young lawyer working in employment law in Sydney with two failed relationships under her belt. She's nearing her mid-twenties and feels it's time she takes the scientific way to find her true love. She gets advice from family and friends and checks a few books that have a bit to say about the science of finding love. Then she tries to put it into practice.
She meets Hans, an engineer from Germany and he truly meets her criteria. They hit it off from the start and soon end up in a relationship. But there's also James, who she meets through mutual friends and who meets none of her criteria. Still, a friendship develops where they meet occasionally and enjoy each others' company. And so the story is about how it all plays out between logic and the heart.
I really enjoyed this book even if I thought Romy was a bit of an idiot at times. I guess, though, that we all fall into this category some of the time. I thought the character was quite realistic, especially as regards the way we feel pressured by society and, to some extent, ourselves, to fall in line with our peers. Romy seems to want to avoid the heartache of another failed relationship by using the "science" of love to fast forward to the happily ever after. I think it's fair to say she learns life doesn't quite work quite so efficiently. Although this book is essentially about love, it also is about evaluating other aspects of our lives, like work. Romy has to figure out what she really wants out of life in order to get the one she really wants.
This was a well-written read and I give it a solid four stars. I want to thank Netgalley and Pan MacMillan Australia for sharing an advanced reader copy. This review has been provided voluntarily and under no obligation.
She meets Hans, an engineer from Germany and he truly meets her criteria. They hit it off from the start and soon end up in a relationship. But there's also James, who she meets through mutual friends and who meets none of her criteria. Still, a friendship develops where they meet occasionally and enjoy each others' company. And so the story is about how it all plays out between logic and the heart.
I really enjoyed this book even if I thought Romy was a bit of an idiot at times. I guess, though, that we all fall into this category some of the time. I thought the character was quite realistic, especially as regards the way we feel pressured by society and, to some extent, ourselves, to fall in line with our peers. Romy seems to want to avoid the heartache of another failed relationship by using the "science" of love to fast forward to the happily ever after. I think it's fair to say she learns life doesn't quite work quite so efficiently. Although this book is essentially about love, it also is about evaluating other aspects of our lives, like work. Romy has to figure out what she really wants out of life in order to get the one she really wants.
This was a well-written read and I give it a solid four stars. I want to thank Netgalley and Pan MacMillan Australia for sharing an advanced reader copy. This review has been provided voluntarily and under no obligation.
September 9, 2021
The insight into Romy’s flailing career while working through the intricate life of tinder was a fun and relatable novel by Elodie Cheesman. Having been Single for 10years I really enjoyed the take on theories in practice to help Romy find love and take away a few tips for myself. I like the concept of using three traits rule where using three traits important to me or what I what I want to find but will it necessarily help me find love the way Romy had.
I found myself intwined with the character of Romy and completely related to comments like “Two Tinder dates down and im already jaded” I felt these moments with Romy, enduring every date followed Naaaw moments when Romy’s dating looked to be successful, the pulling of the heart strings when he said “I'm just …........Completely undone by you”. And most definitely felt the goosebump moment when Romy realised who she truly wanted to explore relationship possibilities with.
This modern take on true to the core dating is a great read for any one single. This novel will provide any one a true insight on what its like to date, the effects dating apps have and how natural it is to be questioning your career and where you fit in life. The main thing I take away from this novel is ‘support networks’ Ive never really been open about dating, from Romy’s experiences I feel I could benefit from being open with friends and family about dating, life partners and love in general.
I recommend this book to any one single or who want to understand what its like to delve into the world of modern love and dating apps.
I found myself intwined with the character of Romy and completely related to comments like “Two Tinder dates down and im already jaded” I felt these moments with Romy, enduring every date followed Naaaw moments when Romy’s dating looked to be successful, the pulling of the heart strings when he said “I'm just …........Completely undone by you”. And most definitely felt the goosebump moment when Romy realised who she truly wanted to explore relationship possibilities with.
This modern take on true to the core dating is a great read for any one single. This novel will provide any one a true insight on what its like to date, the effects dating apps have and how natural it is to be questioning your career and where you fit in life. The main thing I take away from this novel is ‘support networks’ Ive never really been open about dating, from Romy’s experiences I feel I could benefit from being open with friends and family about dating, life partners and love in general.
I recommend this book to any one single or who want to understand what its like to delve into the world of modern love and dating apps.
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