How to define yourself is a self-help book & memoir written from the pages of the author’s personal life. This book is the author’s first book and this book references aspects of personal growth. The author has been driven to write this book based on her personal life experiences. The lessons learnt are shared to help one to understand the importance of self-belief, understanding your own uniqueness’s and understanding your worth, and your dreams, even when you are going through extreme life challenges.In this book, she passionately scripts support for those going through numerous emotional turmoil in defining oneself. The author refers to multiple life events that have shaped her growth, courage and understanding of herself and the world around her.Several chapters of the book offers hope to those suffering from trauma and crisis. The writer shares her own intimate story to provide insight into the different stages someone could experience when facing the devastation and challenge of losing a loved one.The author shares her heart-rendering pain of dealing with the aftermath of grief as a mother, also offering the reader some practical support, along with some tips on how to cope in these circumstances. The writer has worn many ‘tea shirts’ she refers to several life events which have personally impacted on her. She uses this to establish a written premise for helping those to discover the beauty and power of self-discovery and self-belief. In the author’s own words ............“I have always dreamt of writing a book, not realising that this would be my first book, I would be sharing my struggles in a written script with the world,” She further adds “I aim to be personable to the reader, to offer a glimpse of hope and inspiration to those experiencing major struggles, needing direction and those getting to understand themselves.”The author documents her struggles in her own words and offers the reader the opportunity to review their journey of self-discovery. This book demonstrates to the reader that anything can be achieved when you put your mind to it.