When Dr. Robinson asked her freshman psychology students what today's parents need to know about teens and sex, they said parents do not have a realistic view of the world their children live in. A healthy sexual identity requires more than just a list of what not to do. In today's culture of sexual identity confusion, ubiquitous pornography, and #MeToo, teenagers need to know how to protect themselves as well as how to treat others.
Talking with Teens about Sexuality will help you understand your teen's world and give you effective strategies in the midst of cultural pressures. Drs. Robinson and Scott provide scientifically reliable and biblically based information about gender fluidity, types of intimacy, online dangers, setting boundaries, and much more. Along the way, the book provides useful conversation starters and insightful guidance.
Don't let fear keep you from engaging in vital conversations. Learn how to talk to your teen with knowledge and confidence, guiding them toward a sexually healthy future.
Beth Robinson, EdD, is a licensed professional counselor and approved supervisor for licensed professional counselors. She is also a certified school counselor with a teaching certificate and is a frequent expert witness in legal proceedings involving sexual abuse. Dr. Robinson and her family live in Lubbock, Texas.
This book is absolutely incredible. It came into my life at the exact moments I needed it. Hadn’t heard of the authors before, but came from a trustworthy publisher so I tried it out. It follows Biblical teaching and breaks down each portion with scripture and how to have conversations around each topic. Best I’ve read on the topic! I’ve already recommended it to pastors and friends with teens. I know I will be revisiting these pages for years to come.
[Note: This book was provided free charge by Bethany House Publishing in exchange for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.]
In general, I think it can be said that talking with teenagers about sexuality is awkward. A great deal about adolescence in general is awkward for teenagers and everyone who has to deal with teenagers, and sexuality is something that also tends to be awkward for everyone. And if this has always been true, and there is no reason to think otherwise, talking about sexuality from a godly perspective in the contemporary age is certainly awkward. To the authors' credit, they do their best at making this a feasible task, but the book seems pretty awkward despite its efforts. This cannot be blamed entirely on the writers or on others who engage in the task of trying to communicate matters of truth about sexuality to young people who have a lot of what they suppose to be knowledge from all kinds of corrupt and unreliable sources, but has to do with the subject and the nature of talking about it in the first place. Insisting on a conversation creates awkwardness, especially because it is not something that comes about naturally, in the moment, where the context and the desire of people to listen and hear is at its highest.
This book is about 200 pages long. The authors begin with a discussion on getting real about the subject of sexuality (1). This is followed by a look at God's view for sex (2), which is faithful to the biblical intent. Then the authors turn to a discussion of the developmental state of teenagers (3) as well as how teens relate to others (4). After that the authors discuss how it is that one is to talk about the subject of sex (5) as well as the issue of intimacy and boundaries (6). After that comes a discussion about understanding relationships (7) as well as the issue of sexual abuse and violence (8) as well as social media and technology (9) and how these issues affect the way that sexuality is understood and practiced by contemporary youth. After that there is a look at the dangerous effects of pornography on the mind of teen boys and girls (10), the disorienting nature of contemporary sexuality (11), and the understanding of gender issues in the contemporary world (12). The book then ends with unplanned and unexpected matters (13), the balancing act that people have to undertake when they talk about these matters (14), as well as some recommended resources and notes.
What is awkward about talking about sexuality in this book and most cases? Most of the time it is awkward because the conversation is forced on someone by someone else. Any time one wants to talk when one of the other parties does not want to participate, one is setting up awkwardness into the dynamic as a whole. Many young people think that they know things that they in fact do not know, and the fact that they think they know makes them less willing to take the counsel of those people who do know because those people are older, not very cool, and have old-fashioned ideals that are supposedly obsolete in contemporary culture. These are powerful issues, and the authors do address these issues as part of the content of the book. Yet at the same time the authors fail to understand fully how it is that these matters shape how it is that one can indeed have conversations about awkward and uncomfortable matters. How is it that one can set the proper moments as well as demonstrate oneself as an authority on subjects of importance, as well as knowing the way that people may seek knowledge.
If you have or will soon will have a teen in your household, minister or work with teens, then this is a book to add to your list to read, Talking with Teens About Sexuality by Beth Robinson and Latayne Scott. This book covers some of the hard topics with a biblical lens. The authors are very knowledge and have done a wonderful job putting together this book. I for one will be keeping this as a resource to go back to for help. The topics in this book are topics we need to understand and be able to communicate with our teenagers about. Many of these I never had to deal with when I grew up, but our culture/world is changing!
The book shares how to talk to your child about sex, development, relationships, intimacy, boundaries, abuse, violence, social media, technology, porn, disorienting sexuality, gender issues, the unplanned issues, and so much more! You will find current information and statics, and some of those were shocking to me, though I am aware.
We homeschool and have had to deal with some of these subjects as my children have come across children when doing some of the extracurricular’s with other children, such as a boy not sure if he feels like a boy or girl today, girls kissing one another, and boy craziness. So if you think that you don’t need to worry about this, you do, it is everywhere.
At the end of every chapter there are discussion questions and suggestions of ways to talk about these subjects with your teenager. You will find that the answer is to turn to your Bible and the book provides suggestions scriptures to read together. One point in the book worth mentioning and remembering as parents, is we are called to help our teenagers achieve holiness, that is, a relationship with God who designed every human being’s body by knitting it together in their mother’s womb. He designed our bodies a certain way. The opposite of homosexuality is holiness.
In today's culture of sexuality and preference, many teens are struggling to get a grasp on who they are and how best to approach the world. And to be perfectly honest, today's parents are struggling to keep up as well. It's a very different world than it was even 10 years ago. And to further complicate the issue, parents and teens often cringe at even the thought of discussing sex. But it's time we take a deep breath and get comfortable. Authors Beth Robinson, EdD and Latayne C Scott, PhD approach this difficult subject in a straight forward manner that left me cringing at times. Right off the bat, I wanted to close my ears to many of the topics they were discussing. Today's teens are being confronted with issues that I didn't have to deal with until I was in my 30's. But they're crying out for guidance. In a sex saturated culture, they're looking to us for help and it's time we get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
The common argument is to not bring up many of these topics for fear of our teens being exposed too early or encouraging sexual promiscuity. But the truth is that much of this is already permeating our culture, whether we're aware of it or not. Talking with Teens about Sexuality provides a solid Biblical base from which to have these conversations and challenges both the parent and teen to deeply understand the issues.
This book approaches many intimate topics from sexual identity to social media, pornography to unplanned pregnancy. I found it to be filled with wisdom and encouragement. But most of all, I found it challenging... Talking with Teens about Sexuality challenged my own ideas on many of these issues and rekindled my fire as a parent to prayerfully guide my children in health and knowledge. This is one of the best books I've read on this topic and I'd highly recommend it to parents of today's teens.
*Disclaimer: I receive a free copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
I read this book to get perspective on being the best parent I can to protect and guide my children in a way that reflects my values as a Christian. I feel like I had been doing a great job explaining sexuality, purity, and protecting from potential dangerous exposures. Also, from a medical perspective I feel like I explained things in such a way that many of my non medical friends can’t even talk about due to the awkwardness, but it was eye opening.
I am blown away by this book and feel like every parent and youth pastor should have a copy. It’s well researched, honest, and a very realistic outlook on what life is like for kids now. I have already ordered a copy to share.
I received a free copy via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
In Talking with Teens about Sexuality, Beth Robinson and Latayne Scott has written a book to guide parents in discussing all aspects of sexuality. They shared how parents often have the notation of one and done on having the talk with their children. They don’t typical keep the conversation on going so our kids are choosing to learn about sex from their friends or online. They also revealed how in 2015, Centers for Disease Control discovered that teens are having less sex before they graduated from high school. In the book, the discussed God’s plan for sex and how it binds us to the other person and what physical effect that happens in our bodies. They looked at the different scriptures concerning sex and marriage. They looked at all types of sexual activities and the views of the world and what we can do as parents to guide our children. They also looked at social media, technology, porn, sexual abuse and violence, same sex attraction, gender issues, unplanned pregnancy, and abortion. They looked in details about what scriptures dealt with these topics and how we can have open conversations with our teens.
I would recommend this awesome book to anyone is needing guidance on how to have an open conversation about sex and sexuality with their teens. I liked how these two authors wasn’t afraid to discuss the difficult topics and discussions. Most Christian books are afraid to address same sex attraction, gender identity, all different types of sexual activities, and much more. I do believe that this book would make a great guide to parents on parenting in today’s times when there are many challenges our teens face. I appreciated how the included scriptures on what the Bible says about some of these topics and will keep the conversation going. I also enjoyed the exploration section with your teens and how this book enclosed questions to learn about how your children are viewing sexuality. I also liked how they included personal stories from real life examples to convey the topic and how it might help us to relate to them.
"I received this book free from the publisher, Bethany House/ Chosen for my honest review.”
First off, the normal disclaimer that I give whenever I'm talking about a parenting book: I'm not a parent. Therefore, all of my thoughts proceed from the viewpoint of a single person. I think it's sometimes interesting to read a review from the perspective of someone the book wasn't exactly intended for. So here we go.
I requested this book for review because sexuality is a topic that seems to be everywhere nowadays. It's something that is being talked about by people politically, spiritually, socially, academically, and in entertainment. It's super important to have God's perspective on the matter, as well as studying it scientifically. I was hoping this book would go into both realms, and it did.
The book certainly wasn't fun to read, and it wasn't easy, but it was very non-awkward, and that's a huge plus. The authors cover a wide range of topics, as well as giving examples of different situations, and generally including practical ways you can bring up the topics with your teens.
Since I don't have teens I can't vouch for the usefulness of the tips, but overall the advice they gave out seemed sound. There were one or two parts I didn't agree with, but for the most part, I thought the book gave solid answers and would be very helpful for parents in today's world.
Conclusion
If you currently have teens, then this would be a good book for you to check out.
Rating I’m giving Talking with Teens about Sexuality 5 out of 5 stars. Thank you to Bethany House Publishers for sending me a copy of the book so I could post this review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
After reading that subtitle, do I need to say more? This is something that is critically needed today. Teens are growing up in a culture that is sexually saturated and their parents can be worthless in helping them know how to navigate it because it is so different from the world they knew when they were teenagers.
I don't have teenagers yet, but I am passionate about wanting to equip my children to be able to handle the issues that they will face as they grow up. I want to teach my children the sanctity of marriage and sex within marriage. I want to teach them that God created sex and He created male and female and done right, it is all a beautiful thing. But I also feel like there is a need to be aware of the messages and lies that are being forced on our kids whether they want it or not, to teach them how to have healthy relationships, how to have good boundaries, and how to navigate this world they are living in.
I'm also aware that by the time my children are teenagers, the world will likely have shifted yet again and it will be new and different issues, but I picked up the book to learn skills in communicating, in talking about the hard things in life.
Beth and Latayne do that in this book and I feel they do it well. Beth is a counselor and works with teens and their families. She understands what is going on in today's world and this book helps equip parents to help their teens navigate this world.
At the end of each chapter, she has a section called "Exploration with your Teen". It's part questions, part Bible study, part talking points to help have those difficult conversations with your teens.
"Teens want us to use the real words and have real information for them...."
I really appreciated this book and think that the information they shared could prove very helpful in learning to hold meaningful conversations with teens. I think being honest and open even now with my own children will help me as we get closer and closer to the teen years.
I received this book from Bethany House and was not required to write a positive review. All opinions expressed are my own.
It's a good book, but not great. It's probably one of the better one volume books to read, but there are other books on more specific topics that are better. If you only want to read one book, read this, but if you are willing to read multiple books, go with those.
I really appreciated the authors less rigid take on gender norms. We need less gender norms in both secular and church culture. It's great to see more conservative Christians seeing that rigid gender expectations help no one.
I think some of the suggestions in the book can be a little extreme and alarmist. Some are just more like platitudes that I can't imagine will work. I don't think you will be able to convince your teen to take up the practice of Bible memorization in order to fight a porn addiction.
Seems the assumed M.O. for the bespoke parents is almost complete non-involvement, living under a rock and absolutely unaware of the rampage of sexual information and activity, combined with total permissiveness. I do not imply that involved and communicative and careful parenting protects completely or prevents sexual sins and abuses; nothing is that simple. But that parenting scenario is not my own, nor is counseling those types of parents. I think this book has too many trigger spots and not enough help.
I heartily recommend instead “Everyday Conversations about Sex and Marriage” (Younts). Or “Making All Things New: restoring joy to the sexually broken” (Powlison). Both books fully address the spiritual side, with solid Scripture and practical help. The problem was the same, and it was not ignored; but in these books, true hope was given.
Note: I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in return for my honest opinion.
I found Talking with Teens about Sexuality to be a very well-organized and well-written book that will prove to be valuable in starting and continuing conversations with teens about many of the hot topics of the day as they relate to sexuality.
The authors write from a Biblical and scientific viewpoint which I thoroughly appreciate. There are Scripture references to help both the parent and the teen look towards what God wants for our lives.
If you are a Christian parent who is struggling with having talks about sexuality with your teen, I would recommend this book. I am very glad that I had the opportunity to read and review it.
TALKING WITH TEENSThis book was wonderful writing and compelling to read with that also giving great advice This book was wonderful writing and compelling to read with that also giving great advice and a guideline to helping either you are the parents, grandparents, teacher or pastors because this day it's not easy at all when it comes to raising your teenage and how to talk to your teens about the sexuality with the right direction from the most popular toping today. I highly recommend to everyone must to read this book. “ I received complimentary a copy of this book from Bethany House for this review”.
Talking with Teens about Sexualit by Beth Robinson and Latayne C. Scott is a new Christian parenting book. As a parent, I was very interested in this book and I learned a lot about what is happening in our culture today especially through technology and social media. The information in this book is relevant with what teenagers are faced with today in our society. The authors share from their professional experience what they have learned from counseling teenagers. Parenting is hard and I am grateful to have this book as a resource in my parenting journey. Thank you to Bethany House publishers for this review copy.
This is a REALLY good book to help you understand teens and everything they’re having to face today when everything seems to be about sex. It can be so confusing for them and parents. It’s biblical and Christian based, so it will help parents to try to be on the same page as their teens.....hopefully. Lol We seem to always fall short of that. It’s a very helpful book. There was one thing I disagreed with the book on, but will let others read for themselves. I want to thank #NetGalley and the publishers of #TalkingWithTeensAboutSexuality for the opportunity to read and review with my honest opinion.
This was a really good book! I found it so helpful! It can be such an uncomfortable topic to broach, with so many connecting issues. This book shared a lot of wise handles that are grounded in scripture. Good for Christian teachers, leaders and disciples! Not something I can share at work, but maybe with the young people I meet out of work context, and possibly my own kids in the future! Recommended read for Christian parents with teenage children. Pls prepare. If you have preparation, chances are you'll have better strategies when the situations for such conversations do arise!
This summer, I’ll become a mom of three teens. This book will better prepare me for some of the tough questions they’ve already asked me. It will also spark calmer, more balanced discussions in the few years remaining before they move out on their own. I want my children to be prepared and informed about the many issues surrounding sexuality in their generation, and I appreciate the frank, helpful tone these authors offer.
I received a preview copy of this book from the publisher.
Such a great read for anyone directly dealing with teens — every topic around sex & sexuality is discussed with a biblical foundation but not ignoring all of the issues prevalent in the culture. Appreciated the “talking to your teen” guides in the back of each chapter too — such a great tool to have conversations with my kids.
This book was hard to read, simply because it pointed to so many conversations I need to have with my kids. And I pray I can do it well. Lord help me! This book provides good information (granted things happen so fast in our culture now I think some of the pop culture references are dated and statistics are wrong) and it can still be useful. I recommend this for parents
A wise person told me the best time to prepare for talking to your teen about sexuality is before they are a teen. (If your child is already a teen, then now’s the next best time.) This book is for Christians and is a comprehensive resource full of Biblical truths about how to navigate today’s culture and the tough topics that are now upon us. The tough talks go beyond premarital sex and teen pregnancy. This book details the dangers in social media, sexual assault, gender identity and fluidity, same-sex attraction, and pornography. It also shares Biblical guidelines for purity and dating. There are many questions to discuss with your teen throughout the topics.
This is a tough topic to address and I’m thankful that Beth Robinson did the hard work and research to provide this resource.