Marriage, Scripture, and the Church: Theological Discernment on the Question of Same-Sex Union

by Darrin W. Snyder Belousek, Wesley Hill (Afterword)

This book takes a distinctive approach to the same-sex-union debate by framing the issue as a matter of marriage. Darrin Snyder Belousek demonstrates that the interpretation of Scripture affects whether the church should revise its doctrine of marriage for the sake of sanctioning same-sex union. Engaging charitably yet critically with opposing viewpoints, he delves deeply into what marriage is, what it is for, and what it means as presented in the biblical narrative and the theological tradition, articulating a biblical-traditional theology of marriage for the contemporary church. Afterword by Wesley Hill.

Genres: Theology, Faith

335 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 16, 2021

About the author

Darrin W. Snyder Belousek is Assistant Professor of Philosophy at Ohio Northern University. He has taught previously at various church-related colleges: Bluffton University, Louisburg College, Bethel College (IN), Lithuania Christian College, Goshen College, and St. Mary's College. He received his Ph.D. from the University of Notre Dame and a certificate of theological studies from Anabaptist Mennonite Biblical Seminary. He has published many articles, both scholarly and popular, in diverse areas: systematic theology, atonement theology, marriage theology, consistent ethic of life, war and peace, social justice, ethics and economics, science and religion, and philosophy of science. His writing on the ethical dimension of the financial crisis was honored with the Templeton Enterprise Award in Humane Economics in 2011. He has also served the church for seven years in voluntary service and international teaching assignments, through the Mennonite Mission Network, and is active in ecumenical relations, including having served six years as executive director of Bridgefolk. He lives in Lima, OH with wife Paula and son Liam.

Reviews

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

Belousek offers a unique and comprehensive exploration of the debate over same-sex union within the church by extrapolating a biblical definition of marriage with the aim of helping believers think critically, carefully, and faithfully about the issue. His approach is handled with a sense of pastoral sensitivity and theological reflection that walks the reader through the historical, ethical, and biblical dimensions of marriage. His introduction outlines the reasons why this book comes at such a pivotal moment in the theological history of the church. Recent years have found various church leaders and congregations adopting policies and positions affirming same-sex relationships which seem to be at odds with the traditional understanding of marriage and sexuality that has been held within the church for centuries. He frames the differing theological camps as those of traditionalists, believers who fall in line with the church’s traditional teaching and doctrines of marriage, and that of the innovationists, those who argue for a revision to include the sanction of same-sex unions. Belousek establishes early on the divisiveness this issue has caused within the contemporary church and encourages his audience to be aware of their biases and verbiage if the integrity and witness of the church, and is essence the argument of this book, if to be fruitful. The underlying goal of the book, then, is to study the theology of marriage and come to the conclusion of whether the church ought to revise its doctrine to affirm and bless same-sex unions.
The book sets the stage in Part 1 by providing an overview of the current cultural and ecclesial landscape. Belousek observes that numerous churches are experiencing profound divisions regarding same-sex unions. While some denominations affirm them as expressions of love and justice, others adhere to traditional teachings that reserve marriage for a man and a woman. He acknowledges that in the midst of these divisions, real harm has been done to those who identify with the LGBTQ community over the history of the church and notes that this is the animus for believers to adopt a more affirming position out of compassion and empathy. Belousek emphasizes the need for discernment rooted in Scripture, that this is the filter through which believers should understand God’s will in all things, in this case God’s will for marriage and sexuality. Traditionally, believers have relied on such levels of discernment along with the historic witness of the church rather than cultural trends or ideological positions.
Belousek devotes considerable attention to the biblical foundations of marriage in Part 2. He delves into Genesis 1–2, emphasizing the creation of humanity as male and female and the establishment of marriage as a covenantal union designed for procreation, companionship, and reflecting God’s image. Additionally, in perhaps the best explanation of the traditional view of marriage the book offers, Belousek describes the nuptial figure in Scripture, both positively and negatively, as well as the nuptial figure within Christian tradition which sees marriage as a symbol of salvation and a representation of Christ’s relationship to the church. Belousek argues that Scripture consistently frames sexual relations within the covenant of male-female marriage. He meticulously distinguishes between cultural context and enduring theological principles, demonstrating that biblical teachings on marriage are rooted in creation itself, not merely in ancient customs. It is also important to note that unlike some other contemporary arguments against same-sex unions, Belousek is careful to address problems such as heterosexual divorce and open marriage in his argument for traditional, biblically based position, an issue frequently mentioned by affirming arguments. His concluding chapter in Part 2 of the book offers readers a robust examination of a variety issues that come into conflict with the traditional view of Christian marriage, not only same-sex unions, and the implications therein.
Belousek delves into Scriptural and historically based arguments for affirming same-sex unions within the church in Part 3 of the book. He acknowledges the church’s historical shifts in certain matters, but he draws clear distinctions from those instances, such as its views on slavery, and the traditional concept of marriage. Nevertheless, innovationists use such historical precedence as justification for the church’s revision of its doctrine on marriage. He argues that any support those arguments may draw is weak at best. Belousek summarizes the reasoning of progressive theologians who interpret biblical texts differently, their appeals to themes of love and inclusion, and their examples of the early church’s openness to Gentiles as the innovationist’s argument for accepting and affirming LGBTQ individuals and same-sex unions into the church. He contends that biblical love never separates inclusion from holiness, and that the church’s calling is to uphold God’s design for human sexuality as revealed in Scripture and embodied in the life of Christ.
Finally, in Part 4, Belousek gives careful consideration to innovationist arguments that the church ought to recognize same-sex unions as a new dispensation through the form new revelation from the Holy Spirit. They argue that this is a correction of traditional apostolic teaching and represents a new period of salvation in the history of the church. Belousek tests these claims against the discernment of Jesus and subsequently casts doubt on the validity of the innovationist’s claims to dispensation. He uses historical references, such as the failed dispensational paths of Tertullian and the Montanists, to support his argument that the position of the innovationists fails to meet the standard of new divine revelation. He does, however, acknowledge the church today stands at a moment of needing Holy Spirit discernment on the issue of same-sex unions, though this is better served from following the example of the apostles and the Jerusalem Council in Acts 15, realigning the contemporary church’s view of marriage with Scripture and tradition. In closing, Marriage, Scripture, and the Church offers both a scholarly and pastoral framework for navigating one of the most divisive issues in the contemporary church by challenging readers to hold truth and love together, remain rooted in Scripture, and engage in patient, prayerful discernment on the issue of same-sex unions in the church.
For the conservative, biblically minded Christian, it will be difficult to find many points of criticism with Belousek. Still, the world today is in a constant battle for defining the truth of terms, and the debate around same-sex unions and homosexuality is no exception. For this reason, Belousek’s repeated usage of the term “gay Christian” or “gay believers” may prove problematic for some as it feeds into a growing trend that confuses one’s identity in Christ with one’s sexual identity. It is likely that Belousek’s verbiage is simply for the purposes of categorization and operates as a literary device, allowing easier comprehension for the reader. Nevertheless, readers would do well to remember that the call of Christ is one of transformation and redemption, where the old is gone and the new has come. To be born again in Christ means that the believer is no longer defined by things like sexual orientation. Instead, their identity is rooted firmly in Jesus Christ. To place monikers such as gay or queer before one’s status as a believer propagates confusion and ultimately continues to tether the individual to their old life that was put to death on the cross.

[Josh Olds · Rating 5 out of 5]

There is probably no bigger or more contentious discussion in the church today than issues surrounding same-sex sexual behavior and same-sex marriage. This is more than a theological issue. For many, it’s a matter of identity, of validation, and of civil rights. This isn’t just an academic discussion. That’s part of what makes reviews like this so difficult to write. Marriage, Scripture, and the Church: Theological Discernment on the Question of Same-Sex Union is unabashedly academic. Darrin Belousek delivers a thorough, comprehensive, and cautious review of Scripture and church tradition, meticulously working his way through the arguments, counter-arguments, objections, and rebuttals in an effort to bring clarity of complexity to an issue often thought to be both muddy and settled.

By clarity of complexity, I mean that Belousek doesn’t hide from good arguments, acknowledges when points are strong or weak, and is even-handed in his approach. Though I had a well-reasoned guess as to his ultimate conclusions, it honestly wasn’t until three-quarters through the book that I had a firm grasp on Belousek’s personal conclusions of his evaluation. That, to me, is the highlight of Marriage, Scripture, and the Church. While Belousek writes toward a conclusion, he writes without an agenda. Even though he maintains a traditional (non-affirming) view, he gives due diligence to affirming perspectives and arguments.

The first part of the book serves as an introduction of sorts, where Belousek frames the discussion and outlines his approach and presuppositions. For Belousek, the first matter is marriage: the question that he is seeking an answer for is whether or not the church should sanction same-sex unions. The presupposition is that all sex is meant to be within a unitive, mutual, exclusive, enduring marriage relationship.

The second part dives into the concept of marriage, discussing the role of marriage in Scripture and tradition, Jesus’s views on marriage, the patriarchal nature of Ancient Near Eastern culture, and more. Belousek’s purpose here is to laboriously ensure that, even if we do not agree with his starting point—that the only potential possible allowance for same-sex sexual activity is within marriage—we understand the position and have a good definition of all his starting points.

The third part is the meat of the book, which evaluates the case for what Belousek calls “marriage innovation.” With the review up to this point, Belousek is convinced—and writes a convincing argument—that the long-held, historical tradition of the church is that marriage is to be heterosexual. However, he acknowledges that tradition (what is normative) need not indicate what is exclusive. He points out times where church tradition was wrong—such as with its repudiation of a heliocentric solar system—and needed to change. He highlights that our modern, Western culture of marriage is completely foreign the marriage culture in the Ancient Near East.

Belousek also points to other areas in which the church—or segments of the church—has changed its minds. Using instances of the allowance of slavery and the prohibition of women in ministry, Belousek argues that some of what we see as biblical tradition was tradition, but tradition in need of change. Does same-sex union fall into this category? While Belousek may be a little overly optimistic about the change in regarding women in ministry, as many traditionalists in same-sex unions are also traditionalists in women in ministry, his overall exploration of the similarities and differences allow the reader to form their own conclusion, even if that ends up disagreeing with his own.

Among Belousek’s greatest points are his cautions toward traditionalist, whom he excoriates for the harm the position has done to sexual minorities by elevating sexual practice to the level of salvific orthodoxy. He writes that “Traditionalists should beware preaching a ‘heterosexual gospel’ that substitutes that misguided goal of orientation change for the good news of God’s grace.”

Marriage, Scripture, and the Church cogently and calmly outlines virtually every argument for and against same-sex marriage that I’ve ever heard, and even a few that I hadn’t. Belousek always comes to a conclusion, but the text is not written so as to guide the reader there. Instead, he presents the information, argues it dispassionately, and presents his conclusion even as he acknowledges the strengths of the opposite position. It was this tone, most of all, that kept me on the journey through the book. I read a digital advance copy on my phone and was convinced the book had to have been at least 700 pages. Google tells me it’s actually just over 300. I didn’t think this because the book was dry, but because Belousek was causing me to slow down and think critically and carefully about every issue.

Marriage, Scripture, and the Church is the most challenging and comprehensive work on same-sex union that I’ve ever read. There were areas that I agreed with Belousek’s conclusion and areas I didn’t. Sometimes, I held on to my disagreement but not as firmly. Other times, he came to a different conclusion, but I felt that the authors and texts he was working with made a better case and I found my disagreement strengthened. Some areas I agreed on, and other areas I found myself agreeing conclusively where I had previously only been moderately convinced. In that sense, Belousek’s work was a refreshing perspective that took time to absorb. Simply as a compendium of collated reference material, this book is a gem.

All of that said, I am not convinced that I agree with Belousek’s final conclusion in favor of the traditionalist (non-affirming) interpretation. But neither do I find myself wholeheartedly convinced of an innovative (affirming) interpretation. My personal conviction has been simply to allow the Spirit to work. To me, there is enough uncertainty to allow the issue to be between the individual and the Holy Spirit. If they’ve come to a conviction through that, I’m willing to let that be their decision. I know that this might come as a disappointment to friends more firmly on either side of the debate, but I know, right now, no other way for me to honestly and ethically handle where I’m at.

And Belousek had a portion of a chapter on that. Should we leave it to discernment? Using the Jerusalem Council, which opened up the church to Gentile believers, as his guide, Belousek asks if we can use such similar discernment to make allowance for same-sex unions. He writes: “Some might propose a seemingly Jerusalem-like decision for the church today: bless same-sex couples while enjoining gay believers to observe monogamy….[this would] affirm a middle position embracing both tradition (monogamy) and innovation (same-sex union).” Belousek eventually concludes that we should not, but I don’t find his argument convincing.

In all, Marriage, Scripture, and the Church is thoughtful, cogent, and comprehensive. It is the best academic work I’ve seen on the subject. If more traditionalists made arguments this way and treated the subject as thoughtfully as Belousek, we would go a long way toward uniting in Christian faith even as we disagree in Christian practice.

[Sunhee Ha · Rating 5 out of 5]

The central argument of this book is that contemporary debates concerning same-sex unions are not merely disagreements about the definition of marriage but contests over the reconstruction of the entire Christian doctrinal framework that spans creation, covenant, and salvation. The author contends that the church’s judgment on marriage and sexuality must always draw upon four interdependent resources-Scripture, doctrinal tradition, rational argument, and communal experience-while discerning “where the good path lies.”
According to Scripture and Christian tradition, marriage is a divinely instituted and multidimensional reality. The author outlines three interwoven dimensions: i) pattern (form): the sexual union of man and woman, marked by mutuality, exclusivity, and lifelong commitment; ii) purpose (function): companionship, procreation, child–rearing, stewardship of creation, and social stability; and iii) symbol (representation): the covenantal union of God and Israel, and of Christ and the Church.
The Biblical narrative itself binds together the “first” marriage of Adam and Eve with the eschatological marriage of the Lamb and His Bride. In this canonical arc, the covenant people are generated through the one-flesh union of man and woman and the gift of childbirth, realities that foreshadow the spiritual union of Christ and the Church and the birth of the new creation. Gender complementarity and covenantal fidelity, therefore, are not incidental elements but structural components of the marriage–salvation symbolism.
Jesus’ teaching reinforces this vision at its highest level. When questioned about divorce, He shifts the debate from the permissibility of divorce to the prior and deeper question: What is marriage? By weaving together Genesis 1:27 (“male and female He created them”) and Genesis 2:24 (“the two shall become one flesh”), Jesus presents sexual difference and male–female unity as the essence of marriage. Because Christians confess Jesus as the incarnate Son of God and the definitive interpreter of Scripture, His teaching on marriage becomes normative for the church across all ages. Consequently, the way the church confesses Jesus directly shapes the way it defines and interprets marriage.
Within this theological frame, practices such as no–fault divorce, the misuse of contraception, intentional childlessness within marriage, and the approval of same-sex unions are seen to alter the structure of marriage itself. No–fault divorce redefines marriage as a dissolvable contract rather than a covenantal union. Marriages that intentionally exclude procreation sever the intrinsic connection between marriage and childbearing, thereby weakening the logical basis for rejecting same-sex unions. Most significantly, the ecclesial blessing of same-sex unions transforms marriage from a sexually unitive union grounded in male–female complementarity into a sex-neutral union. This formal change disrupts the integration of creation order and covenantal fidelity and ultimately destabilizes the symbolic structure that reflects the life-giving union of Christ and the Church. Such a shift inevitably affects doctrines of both creation—how God made humanity—and salvation—how God redeems humanity.
Importantly, the author does not absolve the church of responsibility for its historical hostility and cruelty toward homosexual persons. The book insists that Christians must repent of contempt and discrimination while simultaneously affirming the doctrinal Truth that marriage is the union of one man and one woman. Rejecting interpersonal contempt and upholding traditional teaching are not contradictory commitments. An effective pastoral “no” must arise from a theological vision displaying the beauty of Biblical marriage and celibacy, while a responsible “yes” must be grounded in the church’s unwavering rejection of all sexual activity outside covenantal fidelity.
The author further argues that personal experience and scientific research, while valuable, cannot serve as final arbiters of Christian morality or doctrine. Human experience is prone to distortion by sin, as evidenced in pornography and the broader sexual culture, and science may describe sexual orientation but cannot define the nature or purpose of marriage. For Christians experiencing same-sex attraction, the Biblical goal is not the pursuit of heterosexuality but the pursuit of “holy sexuality”—obedience, chastity, and faithfulness to Christ.
Ultimately, the book asserts that the question of approving same-sex unions is not primarily an ethical issue but a profoundly theological one: What is marriage? Where does it come from? Where is it headed? And how does it function within Scripture’s grand narrative of salvation? Those who advocate doctrinal revision must therefore justify their claims with arguments rooted deeply in Scripture and tradition, while those who uphold the traditional view must display consistency, interpret Scripture with love, and practice genuine charity. The church must bring Scripture, tradition, reason, and experience together under the guidance of the Holy Spirit to discern the “old way, the good way” concerning marriage, sexuality, and same-sex unions.
One of the book’s greatest strengths is its clear demonstration of what it means to “speak the Truth in love.” The author applies Biblical standards consistently—even to traditionalists—arguing that practices such as remarriage after no-fault divorce or contraceptive use designed to avoid childbirth represent deviations from Biblical norms that are no less serious than same-sex unions. In an age in which consistent moral reasoning is rare, such clarity is a genuine gift. If the church were to apply these standards honestly, repent of its internal inconsistencies, and testify to Biblical Truth without compromising love, the charge of hypocrisy might at least be weakened before honest observers.
Although the book’s teaching is invaluable, its tone can at times feel somewhat rigid and intellectually dense, and readers may wish for more narrative examples of individuals embodying its insights. Nevertheless, the work’s message is urgently needed in a polarized cultural moment in which communities are often blind to their own faults. As a whole, the book offers a theologically rigorous, pastorally sensitive, and doctrinally consistent contribution to contemporary Christian discussions on marriage and sexuality.

[Aubree · Rating 5 out of 5]

In Marriage, Scripture and the Church, Darrin W. Snyder Belousek undertakes a thorough exploration of a central question: can the church bless same-sex marriages? I appreciated the clarity of his focus, as it moves the discussion away from the more common questions: Is it permissible? Should the church perform such unions? And instead concentrates on the deeper theological issue: Would such a union be blessed by God?
Belousek frames the conversation by identifying two broad interpretive groups: innovationists and traditionalists. Innovationists represent those who support the blessing of same-sex marriage. Importantly, on occasion this consists of entire denominations, but more commonly this is not an organised movement but rather a way of thinking. Belousek surveys the existing evangelical scholarship on marriage and situates his own work within that broader academic conversation. One of the strengths of his approach is the establishment of a clear working definition of marriage early in the book.
Embedded within this definition is, for me, one of the most thought-provoking insights Belousek offers: the inherently procreative nature of marriage. He invites readers to reflect on how, within the Christian tradition, God draws humanity into His redemptive purposes by enabling married couples to participate in the creation of new life, souls whom God Himself may save. Thus, having both theological and salvific implications.
In defence of a traditionalist position, Belousek provides a compelling account of how Jesus affirms the Genesis marriage narrative. This is crucial as it demonstrates that although Jesus did not explicitly condemn same-sex marriage, the only form of marriage He positively teaches or endorses is that between a man and a woman. By quoting the Genesis passage that explicitly names “male and female,” Jesus situates His understanding of marriage within that creational framework. Belousek’s handling of this connection shows the continuity between Jesus’ teaching and the Genesis design, strengthening the argument that heterosexual marriage is the form assumed and upheld in the New Testament.
Belousek issues a challenge for the church to consider the theological consequences of altering the definition of marriage. He warns that “accommodating immorality corrupts community,” emphasising that shifts in sexual ethics are never merely personal but can reshape the moral fabric of the church itself.
At the same time, Belousek cautions Christians against misapplying traditional teaching in ways that harm those with same-sex attraction. He warns the church not to “distort Christian chastity into a gnostic-like asceticism for gay believers: ‘you are forbidden marriage; you must destroy your flesh to ensure the salvation of your spirit.’” This reminder pushes against the potentially harsh applications of sexual ethics, urging for a more compassionate posture.
In chapter 6, Belousek outlines how various contemporary “innovations” claim not to change the definition of marriage but simply to broaden it in order to celebrate love. This argument is emotionally appealing and widely used, yet Belousek demonstrates that it is ultimately misleading. These innovations do indeed redefine marriage, and he illustrates their implications through examples such as no-fault divorce and open marriage. He emphasises that marriage must be enduring in order to mirror the faithful, covenantal love of Christ. Likewise, open marriage cannot reflect God’s love for the church because it removes the exclusivity that is essential to the symbolic meaning of marriage.
Belousek argues that same-sex unions inevitably alter the unity and symbolism of marriage. He evaluates the proposal of covenant partnerships as an alternative option for same-sex couples, but concludes that such partnerships cannot work because they separate the creational and covenantal meanings of sexual union. This separation would alter the “form, figure, and function” of marriage, and the implications of such a shift would extend far beyond the institution itself, reaching into the church’s understanding of creation, salvation, and discipleship.
Belousek calls the church to be consistent in its application of sexual ethics thus giving encouragement not to isolate same-sex relationships and disregard the many other sexual sins going on in the Church.
He also challenges traditionalists, urging them to reflect on the common practice of “connecting biblical dots,” cautioning against cherry-picking verses to reinforce pre-existing positions. By the time he addresses this in chapter 7, he has already built a compelling positive case for marriage within God’s design, one that is hermeneutically sound and relationally rich, demonstrating how marriage reflects God’s love for His people and expresses His intentions for humanity. I would encourage that this approach from pastors and churches would be much better received than a defensive response consisting of a list of verses.
One of the most significant tensions he identifies is the innovationist claim that same-sex marriage is a disputable matter, often grounded in Romans 14 rather than Romans 1. The challenge with this view, he argues, is that Scripture consistently presents unrepentant engagement in sexual sin as something that jeopardises one’s inheritance in the kingdom of God. With such weighty implications, Belousek maintains that this cannot be considered a disputable matter. His final call to careful, humble, and faithful discernment is a fitting and appreciated conclusion.
One of the key weaknesses of the text is its depth and density. This is not a popular-level resource, and it would be challenging to recommend it to most young adults who may be wrestling with these questions. The academic tone and detail, while a strength for scholarly readers, limits its accessibility for those needing guidance at a more introductory or pastoral level. Nevertheless, I believe it to be an essential resource for pastors, ministry leaders, and theology students. These questions are not disappearing, and the cultural landscape continues to challenge the church’s understanding of family, covenant, and God’s design. It is crucial that Christian leaders are prepared both theologically and pastorally to engage with these issues in a way that leads people toward Christ’s grace, love, and forgiveness.

[Lael Senanayake · Rating 5 out of 5]

Summary
Darrin W. Snyder Belousek's Marriage, Scripture, and the Church addresses one of the most controversial questions facing the church today: Should same-sex unions be sanctioned as true marriage? Unlike many books that focus narrowly on sexual ethics or get caught up in culture war politics, Belousek reframes the entire debate around the doctrine of marriage itself. His central argument is that marriage is not merely a social contract but a theological reality rooted in creation, covenant, and eschatology. The book explores Scripture, church tradition, and contemporary arguments by showing that redefining marriage has profound consequences for how we understand creation, Christology, and ecclesiology. The book moves systematically through biblical, theological, and pastoral dimensions and ultimately calling the church to a vision that moves beyond prohibitive ethics toward a positive vocation of holiness, fidelity, and service.
Strengths
One of the book's greatest strengths is its teleological approach. Belousek insists that any discussion of sexuality must begin with the purpose of marriage as God designed it. He frames marriage as unitive, generative, and symbolic of Christ's union with the church. This theological depth gives readers confidence that the argument is rooted in the biblical narrative and historic church consensus, not reactionary politics. Belousek correctly points out that understanding God's design helps us see why the church's teaching matters—not because the church wants to exclude people, but because God created marriage with specific purposes that align with human flourishing. When we understand the telos of marriage—its orientation toward procreation, covenant faithfulness, and imaging Christ—the biblical boundaries make sense rather than seeming arbitrary.
Another major strength is how Belousek identifies what's actually at stake theologically. Many discussions reduce this to personal autonomy or civil rights. Belousek refuses that reduction and shows how redefining marriage affects three core doctrines. First, regarding Creation, redefining marriage undermines male-female complementarity established in Genesis. Second, concerning Christology, it distorts the biblical metaphor of marriage as an icon of Christ and the church. Third, regarding Ecclesiology, it weakens the church's witness and sacramental life. By situating the debate within these doctrinal frameworks, Belousek elevates the conversation beyond culture wars to fundamental Christian theology. This is probably the book's most valuable contribution—it forces readers to grapple with the fact that marriage debates are ultimately about core Christian convictions.
The book also offers an excellent pastoral vision. Belousek reminds us that all sexuality is disordered post-Fall—there's no "normal" sexuality untouched by sin. The church must move beyond prohibitive ethics to articulate a positive vocation for everyone, regardless of sexual orientation or marital status. His emphasis on honoring celibacy as a credible and dignified calling is refreshing in a culture that idolizes romantic fulfillment. Belousek also engages seriously with revisionist arguments rather than dismissing them, which strengthens the book because it can't be dismissed as ignorant or uncharitable.
Criticisms and Suggestions
Marriage, Scripture, and the Church is a remarkable resource however, it has some significant limitations. First, the book's academic tone and length (over 400 pages) make it challenging for pastors and lay readers who need practical guidance. The prose is dense and assumes familiarity with systematic theology. A condensed version or study guide would make this accessible to church leaders who serve less theologically trained congregations. Second, the book is largely Western-centric with limited engagement from global perspectives. Including voices from the Global South would enrich the discussion and counter the progressive argument that opposition to same-sex marriage is just Western conservative politics. Third, Belousek acknowledges experience and science however, he doesn't deeply integrate current psychological or sociological research on sexuality and identity formation. More engagement with social science would strengthen his arguments against critics who prioritize empirical data. Fourth, the book needs more practical pastoral strategies for walking with same-sex attracted individuals and their families. While Belousek provides theological framework, concrete examples and case studies would help pastors facing these situations in their congregations.
Recommendation
Overall, Marriage, Scripture, and the Church is an essential resource for pastors, theologians, and church leaders seeking faithful discernment on marriage and sexuality. It's rigorous, biblically grounded, and theologically rich. If you want a book that reframes the debate from cultural arguments to doctrinal foundations and equips the church to respond with integrity, this is it. This book will challenge your thinking, deepen your convictions, and inspire renewed commitment to God's design for marriage. But be prepared for serious theological engagement, not quick answers. This isn't a book you read quickly—it's one you study carefully and return to repeatedly. Given its academic nature, it works best for seminary students and thoughtful pastors who need to think through these issues at a deep level. Despite limitations in accessibility and practical application, Marriage, Scripture, and the Church remains one of the most comprehensive and theologically sound treatments of this crucial issue available today.

[Reader · Rating 4 out of 5]

A Theologically Rich, Pastoral, and Necessary Book. Especially in Ministry Today

“Should Christians embrace gay people as brothers and sisters? Should the church bless same-sex couples in marriage?” That’s the opening line of this book and I loved the challenge to reflect on our own personal experiences relating to our conscious or subconscious wrestle with these questions.

As a pastor in the Bay Area, I read this book surrounded by the reality that same-sex union is not a debate, but an assumed moral good in culture. It’s not a wrestle. It’s simply accepted. From affirming churches, to parents of students in my youth ministry, to local elementary schools waving every flag imaginable in the name of “inclusion” often alongside a soft hostility toward Christian belief; this is the environment I pastor in. This book immediately felt relevant.

I have a former roommate who left his Christian faith to pursue a same-sex relationship after feeling the church had no place for him. A lifelong friend walked away from vocational ministry to marry another man and later found a church happy to affirm his marriage. Another close friend is actively involved in a Lutheran church while married to another man. I’ve also watched a small group leader of mine walk a costly road of celibacy for the sake of Christ and ministry. After 10 years in youth ministry, this topic hasn’t been a “hot-button trend,” it’s been deeply personal.

What I deeply appreciated about this book is that it doesn’t begin with what Scripture forbids. Instead, it asks the bigger and frankly better question: What is marriage according to Scripture, and why does it matter? Only when we understand the telos of marriage can we understand why same-sex marriage becomes a theological issue not merely a moral one.

Rather than just citing the six commonly referenced passages condemning homosexual behavior, Belousek shifts the conversation to a biblical-theological foundation of marriage itself. That approach is both wise and necessary. If marriage is a covenantal, creational, sacramental picture of God’s design and Christ’s union with the Church, then the conversation changes. It’s not just about sexual prohibitions; it’s about formation, identity, and the ordering of creation itself.

I loved his critique of traditionalists as well. We cannot protest same-sex unions while quietly accepting habitual contraception, divorce-remarriage, cohabitation, or casual sexual ethics as “lesser” issues. This is where so many Christians and churches lose credibility, often pushing against one sin while ignoring the broader biblical sexual ethic. Belousek is right: same-sex union cannot be separated from the wider conversation about chastity, covenant, and biblical sexuality for all believers. The church must recover a consistent teaching of sexual chastity not with shame or fear, but with beauty and hope.

My personal highlight came in chapter 4 titled, “Jesus, Marriage, and Genesis.” This chapter alone may be worth the price of the book. Rather than rooting the sexual ethic solely in Paul or cultural arguments, Belousek turns to Jesus Himself, particularly His use of Genesis. Jesus doesn’t start with culture or tradition, but rather goes back to creation; to design, order, and God’s intention for marriage from the very beginning.

The argument is simple yet powerful: Jesus roots marital ethics not in Mosaic concession but in pre-fall creation order (Genesis 1–2). Marriage is depicted not just as a social norm, but as a divine covenant between man and woman, one flesh, joined by God. This created order is not merely descriptive, it’s prescriptive for discipleship.

In a time when feelings, experiences, and identity claims often dominate the conversation, Belousek highlights that Jesus did not treat marriage as a fluid construct based on cultural need but as a creational reality embedded into God’s design of humanity itself. This chapter, for me, was the most compelling across the entire book.

My two minor critiques of the books are: 1. Audience Focus: The author says he wrote “for the whole church,” not just the academy; yet at 300+ deeply academic pages, it still reads like a scholarly work. As a pastor and seminary student, I appreciated it, but I don’t see the average layperson picking it up and getting far. 2. Over-charity at Times: While the emphasis on mutual charity is admirable and needed, at times the generosity of wording results in a lack of clarity. Occasionally, it felt more like the author was placating both sides rather than pressing an argument. In an effort not to offend, the author sometimes blurs where he actually stands. I value nuance, but I also value clarity.

This book isn’t merely about same-sex marriage, it’s about biblical marriage, discipleship, and how the whole church must recover a vision of chastity that is both truthful and beautiful. While at times overly academic, this may be one of the most theologically balanced and important books written on this topic.

As someone pastoring in one of the most progressive regions in the country, I found this book both grounding and refreshing. Not easy reading but worth reading.

[Joya Vdmeulen · Rating 2 out of 5]

Really great if you like polite Christian homophobia.

[Reader · Rating 5 out of 5]

In recent decades, many Western nations have begun to recognize the legality of same sex unions. As the laws regarding this topic have shifted, the Christian church has had to grapple with society changing the definition of marriage from an institution between heterosexual monogamous couples to one that includes homosexuals as well. With that transition, the church has had pressure to respond to the sanctity of same sex unions. In particular, the question of whether “the church should sanction same sex unions?” has become the subject of cultural and theological debates. This is the question that the book Marriage Scripture, and the Church: Theological Discernment on the Question of Same-Sex Union, by Darrin W. Snyder Belousek seeks to answer. He answers the question with sound biblical, theological, and historical analysis. His goal in writing the book is to evaluate whether churches can bless same-sex marriages while remaining faithful to Scripture and the Christian definition of marriage.
Belousek recognizes that it is incomplete to address same sex unions without addressing the shifts in culture. Since its inception, the Christian church has taken corrective measures regarding many matters, including reinterpreting Scripture to correct social ills (i.e., slavery). In addition to the need to reinterpret Scripture, marriage practices have changed throughout the centuries. Marriage in the 21st century looks vastly different from marriage practices in previous centuries. Since culture and biblical interpretation have changed over the years, some believe that marriage should also evolve in response to the current climate “to better honor the humanity of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people.” Belousek acknowledges these cultural pressures, but is adamant that any redefinition of marriage must include God’s original intention for sex, gender, and monogamous union.
Belousek believes that in order to answer the question of whether the church should sanction same sex unions, God’s original intention for sex and marriage must be considered. He states that marriage is a three-faceted reality that “God designed... [to be] unitive of the sexes, mutual between spouses, exclusive of all others, and enduring throughout life. God’s purpose [in marriage is for] man and woman to generate, nurture, and instruct children… [and] the union of husband and wife figures or symbolizes God’s covenant with Israel and Christ’s union with the church….” Thus, “sanctioning same-sex union would entail redefining marriage. Such redefinition would require removing, or at least qualifying, any mention of ‘man and woman’ in reference to marriage…” Without sexual difference, the “one flesh” union becomes theologically disjointed, and the creational aspect of marriage is lost within same sex unions.
Accordingly, some churches have already redefined marriage and approve blessings of same sex couples. These churches have strayed away from the Christian idea that marriage is a man-woman monogamous relationship only. For example, the Episcopal Church USA has removed the phrase “a man and a woman” from their definition of marriage, and the Greater Assembly of the Presbyterian Church USA has substituted new language in its definition of marriage and states that marriage “is between two people, traditionally a man and a woman.” Belousek believes that changing the definition of marriage in this way is problematic for a few reasons. He maintains that blessing same sex unions would desexuate marriage and would “effectively disintegrate creational and covenantal in marriage.” So while some churches have adapted these changes, doing so inherently reshapes Christian doctrine.
Undoubtedly, the greatest strength of this book is Belousek’s commitment to Christian doctrine and biblical truths. He provides an in-depth analysis and understanding of Scripture. His tone is diplomatic and respectful to those who might have a differing opinion. He does a good job of making a complex theological issue easy to understand, so the book should find broad success among pastors, ministry leaders, and students alike. I could not find any limitations to the book; it is a practical resource for those who want to understand the church’s position on same-sex marriage and how the Bible supports that position.

[Bridget Golubinski · Rating 5 out of 5]

Marriage, Scripture, and the Church: Theological Discernment on the Question of Same-Sex Union by Darrin W. Snyder Belousek was an incredible book that engaged the question of same-sex union in a scholarly, yet readable way. The author approaches the presentation of the biblical case against same-sex union in a way that is severely lacking from other books that seek to do the same thing, which is the framing of this debate upon the meaning of biblical marriage. By framing the question of whether the bible allows same-sex union around the definition of marriage, the author doesn’t merely show what the Bible doesn’t allow, but he instead shows the beauty of the Christian vision for marriage and the larger meaning of human relationships altogether.
Belousek’s approach in this book is through biblical and theological evaluation, engagement with scholars, and comprehensive analysis of key scriptural texts. While this book is academic, Belousek still writes in a way that is personable and weaves in aspects of his personal life and why this topic interests and impacts him. Belousek successfully argues for the biblical case against same-sex union in a tone and manner that is gentle, caring, thorough, and thoughtful.
Marriage, Scripture, and the Church is broken up into four different parts, with ten chapters total. Belousek starts the book with a charitable and hospitable tone and his personal connection to the subject of same-sex relations and the reason behind writing this book. Additionally, the afterword is written by a Christian who is same-sex attracted and still affirms and follows the traditional biblical sexual ethic.
In the first part of the book, Belousek surveys the situation by noting the crossroads where the Church currently stands and his own starting place. I appreciated how the crossroads we are at pertaining to the question of the biblical allowance of same-sex union is to either allow sex outside of marriage, or allow members of the same sex to be married. This sets up the rest of the book and the specific questions that Belousek will answer when it pertains to these two options. He also makes his approach and assumptions clear that he is writing from a Christian worldview and that Scripture is the standard and authority for the Church.
In the second part of the book, Belousek frames the question of same-sex union in the broader question of what marriage is. He goes over both scripture and tradition in addressing the meaning of marriage. He also beautifully shows God’s design in sex differentiation and how earthly marriage is a powerful symbol of Christ’s union with his bride.
In the third part of the book, Belousek evaluates the case for same-sex union and answers the claim that the church has changed before. He also tackles arguments that try to use scripture as support for same-sex union and shows how these arguments do not show true biblical warrant. One of the biggest strengths of this book is Belousek’s biblical exegesis and the careful scholarly work that he does, especially in chapters 8 and 9 of this book.
In the fourth part of the book, Belousek tackles arguments for innovation that don’t use explicit biblical warrant. He also tackles arguments that this can be an agree-to-disagree issue and shows how important getting the question right on same-sex union is to biblical faithfulness and witness. Belousek ends the book in a very moving way by arguing that we must hold to tradition, Scripture, and the Spirit and that listening to the testimony of gay believers includes those that choose to trust and follow Jesus in the light of their same-sex attractions, which means a denial of their sinful flesh, just as all believers must do.
One downside of the book would be some of the language that Belousek adopts and uses, such as gay believers. I appreciate his sensitivity though, and I think that his aim in using this language might be to show sensitivity. He also acknowledges through footnotes the controversy in using this language that is associated with “Side B,” and his goal in the book is certainly more broad and extensive.
I was also confused at times throughout the book on whether Belousek was in the “accepting, but non-affirming, camp.” It’s clear that he doesn’t think the bible condones same-sex union, but it was unclear whether he would be accepting of others who come to different conclusions as an acceptable position to hold within the Church. It becomes clearer throughout the book that this isn’t the case, but I would’ve appreciated the clarity much sooner and earlier on in the book.
Overall, I would highly recommend reading Marriage, Scripture, and the Church: Theological Discernment on the Question of Same-Sex Union by Darrin W. Snyder Belousek. This book is the most comprehensive book I’ve read on the biblical analysis and argument against same-sex union and one that is definitely a must-read if you are wanting to engage in this topic in a serious way.

[Lisa Rometti]

Dr. Darrin W. Snyder Belousek’s Marriage, Scripture, and the Church: Theological Discernment on the Question of Same-Sex Marriage was published by Baker Academic and is 330 pages. This book is an academic work. This book’s primary purpose is to understand the theology of marriage through Biblical interpretation and consider if the church should revise its doctrine on if same-sex marriage is a true marriage. Unique to other books, the author has framed the same-sex union as a marriage matter which allows church tradition into the discussion guiding the debate from just innovationist versus traditionalists, to include what early Christian church interpretations of the matter are and how they should be applied today. The author seeks “to test everything-every idea, every argument, every interpretation-according to Scripture.” Snyder Belousek teaches philosophy and religion at Ohio State University and a notable author.
The author answers the purpose in four parts. Part one presents a survey of where the church is at including assumptions and approaches for the issue. Part two is where the author delves into framing the question of same-sex union for marriage and what the traditional interpretation of scripture is to traditional doctrine. Part three takes a deep look at the innovationist analogies for their arguments for same sex marriage. Lastly, part four considers the president set by the earl church in which the church today can draw wisdom from.
While I found this book a heavy academic read, I am rateful for the perspective of looking at the issue from the basis of truth. Where does one find their truth? Is it in our own basis or from God? The author points out that one’s sexual activity has to be related to God’s will and not one’s own because sin distorts human sexuality. He says, “because all human beings are susceptible to sin in their sexuality, we cannot read personal experience of sexuality, whether straight or gay, as indicative of God’s design and thus as normative for our discernment.”
Of most value for the current culture, I found part three more like a dictionary for specific arguments that occur with some affirming believers. It is the clarification of the arguments one often hears in conversation or in media such as ‘I was born this way’, slavery, eunuchs and gentiles, and the appeal to hospitality. Snyder Belousek assess the argument and then provides careful biblical exegesis and hermeneutics to help one understand why the claim for the innovationist is unfounded. Of note, he addresses the theological implications and ethical problems for procreation. Such topics include IVF and infertility.
Frequently, in looking at tradition of the church and its interpretation for the church today, the author often draws the reader to consider what Jesus called the believer to: holiness and righteousness. The author looks at the practice of marriage from the beginning of Israel’s practice and its purpose from the beginning: to join male and female as “one flesh” a mirror of salvation through Jesus’s death, burial, and resurrection. The author also points out that the Bible often dealt with issues that arose in culture that had to be delt with but in no way was there implication that by not saying something about an accommodation meant it was sanctioned by God. This book gave helpful suggestions on how to have conversations with others including those with church hurt.
While the academic part of the book appealed to me, I was wishing that there was a companion book that would reach a broader audience. Because of the academic nature, it may prevent many everyday Christians from engaging with its insights. A more accessible edition would serve the broader church well.

[Steve Varughese · Rating 4 out of 5]

In Marriage, Scripture, and the Church, Darrin W. Snyder Belousek addresses the central question of whether the church should sanction same-sex unions as true marriage and extend nuptial blessing to same-sex couples. He begins by identifying the traditional Christian norms: sexual intercourse belongs exclusively within marriage, and marriage is the monogamous union of man and woman. Due to this, the effort to sanction same-sex marriage either requires redefining marriage or eliminating the link between sex and marriage. In the early chapters, Belousek demonstrates that the movement within the church toward approving same-sex union is paralleled by the growing trend of allowing sex outside marriage for sexual minorities, a shift that would constitute not simply an ethical adjustment but a major doctrinal revision, which he says could become normative.
Belousek positions himself as a confessing Christian who begins from the catholic (universal) consensus of the church: that marriage is man-woman monogamy. He argues that any proposed innovation in doctrine carries the burden of justification. He draws on figures such as Luke Timothy Johnson and Dan Via to demonstrate that even those advocating change acknowledge the necessity of giving a biblical basis for such change. He insists that Scripture holds primacy in determining doctrine, and that the biblical witness to marriage must be considered as a whole, not only through the handful of prohibitive passages regarding same-sex intercourse, but through the entire canonical presentation of marriage from Genesis to Revelation. He argues that the traditional doctrine is deeply rooted in Scripture and therefore cannot be revised without strong biblical warrant.
Belousek addresses innovationist arguments. He examines modern thought that attempt to reinterpret marriage by analogy to historical changes in beliefs and practices held by the church. He considers arguments appealing to biblical precedents such as the inclusion of eunuchs or Gentiles, acknowledging that while the early church expanded the boundaries of membership in the people of God, it did not thereby alter the biblical sexual and marital ethic. He demonstrates that the apostolic decree in Acts 15 reinforces sexual morality rather than relaxing it.
By the end of the book, Belousek concludes that sanctioning same-sex unions would require altering foundational Christian doctrines, not only marriage, but the doctrines of creation, covenant, and salvation. At the same time, he admonishes traditionalists to exercise pastoral love and interpretive charity, ensuring that sexual minorities are treated with dignity within the church. Belousek seeks to serve the church by offering a rigorous, Scripture-rooted discernment process that holds together truth and love.
If there is a critique, it is that while reading, I sometimes felt unsure of Belousek’s own stance, because his tone is consistently patient, sympathetic, and deliberately neutral in his presentation of perspectives by innovationists. This rhetorical strategy demonstrates genuine fairness and a pastoral approach, but it also risks leaving the reader uncertain about where Scripture stands authoritatively in the discussion. At times, Belousek’s approach appears to lean toward accommodating modern cultural sensibilities, which may inadvertently soften the clarity and confidence of the traditional biblical teaching. For a reader expecting early doctrinal clarity, this method can produce moments of ambiguity, and I occasionally found myself wishing Belousek would state his position more directly.

[Stephen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Marriage, Scripture, and the Church by Darrin Belousek is an exceptionally good book. Working through the chapters of this book has been one of the most meaningful learning experiences I have had in a long time. I went into it expecting an academic-style theological overview, but what I found was something much deeper and unexpectedly personal. The biggest impact on me was finally understanding the debate around IVF and assisted reproduction. Until now, these conversations felt distant and technical. But as Darrin Belousek explained the moral reasoning step by step, especially the meaning of the marital act, the nature of procreation, and the ethical concerns behind technological intervention, I realized that this was the first time the entire issue made real sense to me. For the first time, I could see why Christians should not approach IVF carelessly but with a seriousness shaped by Scripture, and a respect for the dignity of every human person, even the smallest embryo.
But the book did not teach me only about IVF. Throughout the chapters, I also learned a great deal about God’s design for marriage and why that design matters so much. The author describes marriage not simply as a romantic bond but as a permanent, covenantal union between a man and a woman, one that is meant to unite two lives at every level: emotionally, spiritually, and physically. The explanations in the chapters helped me understand that the male–female complement is not an accident or a cultural tradition. It is a gift built into creation itself. Marriage, in God’s design, is the one place where the full meaning of sexual union can be expressed truthfully, because it naturally holds together love, commitment, and the possibility of new life. Seeing how all these pieces fit together helped me appreciate why the traditional Christian teaching is so insistent on preserving the wholeness of this design.
The chapters also taught me how our desires, even when sincere, must be shaped by God’s wisdom. Whether dealing with sexual temptation, infertility, identity struggles, or modern pressures, the book consistently showed that discipleship involves aligning our longings with what God has revealed to be good. It showed how moral clarity and compassion are not opposites; they actually belong together. I found that especially important in topics like sexual ethics and pornography, where the author held truth firmly but still treated human weakness with gentleness.
While I found the book incredibly helpful, I did have one small criticism. At times, the author moved quickly through emotionally heavy topics like infertility or same-sex attraction. I don’t think the author was being harsh; I just sometimes wished there were a few more sentences that sat with the reader’s emotions before moving into the theological argument. But this did not take away from the clarity or value of the content. If anything, it made me want to explore these topics further with more pastoral sensitivity.
Overall, this book did more than inform me; it shaped how I think about marriage, sexuality, technology, and the wisdom of God’s design. What once felt confusing or overwhelming now feels clearer, richer, and more meaningful. I am genuinely grateful for the understanding I gained, especially on IVF, and for the way these chapters strengthened my trust in God’s good purposes for human life and relationships. I highly recommend reading this book.

[Kevin Branstetter · Rating 5 out of 5]

In this book, one of the most challenging cultural questions of our time is discussed at length. The critical issue in question is the institution of marriage. What is its purpose, meaning, and utility in our modern secular social landscape? Are the norms and spiritual foundations of the institution of marriage of paramount importance or can they be discarded? These are the questions at the heart of this book. The author, Darrin Belousek, seeks to critically evaluate the concept of “same-sex unions” as a legitimate form of marriage from both spiritual and sociocultural perspectives. Though this may seem taboo to many thinkers in our modern cultural climate, it is important to discuss and debate ideas that affect the direction of civilization. The family structure is one of the cornerstones of civilizational development, and so it is of primary importance that it should be open for dialogue. Belousek is also a Christian, and has written this book with a biblically grounded approach in mind. It seems to me that this book will be most impactful for two kinds of people. First, for those who are Christians but do not know how to defend biblical sexual and marital ethics. Second, for those who seek to reinterpret what the scriptures say in order to prescribe their own view. Below I will survey some key ideas that the author addresses so that any potential reader may have a better understanding.

I would like to share one disclaimer for readers. A few of the key issues relating to marriage that are discussed in this book are that of out-of-wedlock sexuality, monogamy, homosexuality, pornography, the potential value of virginity, and more. Given the sensitive nature of these topics, I do not recommend children read this book, though certain concepts could be thoughtfully adapted to help in conversations with young people.

Within this book, biblical perspectives on homosexuality and societal progressive developments of sexuality are evaluated. The author makes a strong case for clear scripturally grounded sexual ethics. There is no vagueness to what the Bible has to say about these topics. The author also emphasizes that the teaching of heterosexually monogamous marriages within the history of the church is uniform. As a result, the modern suggestion that homosexual marriage is actually sanctified through reinterpreting scripture is strongly rejected in this book. The author defends a scriptures position on marriage, which is that it is solely made up of one woman and one man. Each of the two sexes were created distinctly for God’s creative purposes and within the institution of marriage they provide different necessary parts. Modern thinkers can disagree with this perspective, but they cannot simply ignore the precedent set within the Bible. Belousek’s challenge to those who would reinterpret or misinterpret scripture’s prescriptive intentions for marriage and sexuality is not easily overcome.

Ultimately, the author points to the biblical concept of marriage and its origins as the right path forward to resolve the marriage issues in our culture today. Doubtless, this book will not necessarily move any Christians who are passionately on the progressive end of this debate. However, the book is greatly informative and would be of great use for anyone trying to understand what the scriptures have to say about this topic.

[Josh · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was a very strong book, marred by several significant (in my opinion) flaws. Belousek does an excellent job analyzing the question of whether the church should bless same-sex unions, considering all sides to the argument and cumulatively building a very strong case that such a move would be theologically unfaithful. He bases this position off of reading key texts, as well as a theological analysis of the nature of marriage itself. On these points, the book is exceedingly strong.

The main weakness, however, is that Belousek (despite a careful engagement with the question of terminology in an online appendix) still consistently speaks of the categories of modern sexual identity theory as possessing "phenomenological significance" (that term from his appendix). In other words, as describing a phenomenon, "gay believer," "mixed-orientation marriage," etc. have validity and describe a real phenomenon in the modern world. However, I think this overlooks the way in which even "phenomena" come to us already interpreted. In other words, by failing to consider what Trueman calls the revolution in the modern self, I think Belousek ultimately doesn't critique our modern moment deeply enough. To paraphrase Trueman, if sex-as-identity-marker is a category mistake (and I think it is), then Belousek's pastoral application has significant flaws.

Still, overall I found it a helpful and thoughtful work.

[Andrew Silagi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Everyone who is trying to faithfully and rigorously construct a Christian response to the LGBTQ+ question should read this book. Beautifully, Snyder Belousek takes a deeply thoughtful and irenic approach that is rooted in scriptural teaching as well as the history and tradition of the Church. He starts with a robust positive vision of marriage based on the Bible—as opposed to building a theology only on prohibitive passages—and then continues by addressing innovationist proposals based on appeals to everything from the Church’s supposed doctrinal changes in the past to Christian inclusivity to gentile believers to appraise them as warrants to condone and promote same-sex union in the Church. Belousek’s gentle tone and admittance of pastoral concerns on the traditionalist side show his argument a caring and respectful one to believers with tendencies toward same-sex attraction in their past or present. Whatever one’s belief on the issue, this book provides the foundation to have an edifying and complex discussion surrounding an issue too often coupled with oversimplification and harshness from both sides.

[Dan Cook · Rating 5 out of 5]

Outstanding!