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Successful Relationships: More Than a Guessing Game
Relationship Strategies is the most important relationship book you will ever read. Relationship Strategies reveals at last why we chose the partners we chose in relationships, why the honeymoon stage ends, why one partner starts to want sex more than the other and why we repeat the same patterns in relationships over and over. Relationship Strategies explains the subconscious forces that dictate our behavior in relationships and how to get those powerful forces working for us instead of against us.
336 pages, Paperback
First published February 1, 1999
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March 24, 2023
Relationships are a form of dance and we do feel often that its a very complex dance :). For once I am reading a book that makes it seem simple. The book states that we are predominantly one of the two types (on a percent scale) - E or P - in any relationship we have. And the impact of this is more pronounced in our romantic partnership or marriage.
The book of-course does not answer all the specifics of our life. But it does give a broad framework to better understand our & our partner's behavior in those specifics. Through the pages I have read so far, I already felt in several places that I am reading my own autobiography ! What I though as my and my partner's unique behaviors, seems so common & predictable at a pattern level and is even written as a book 25 years back :) In some sense takes the fun out of it - as well as the seriousness out of it - and we all can lean back and have a laugh at ourselves.
Why people nag. Why they argue. Why one is more silent and one is more talkative. Why one is an introvert and one an extrovert in the relation. Why do we repeat our patterns and get into the same kind of situations in marriage.... Do read it if you are in a relation or not.
Maybe there are more enlightened people out there who already see this. But for me this was one of those eye openers.
The book of-course does not answer all the specifics of our life. But it does give a broad framework to better understand our & our partner's behavior in those specifics. Through the pages I have read so far, I already felt in several places that I am reading my own autobiography ! What I though as my and my partner's unique behaviors, seems so common & predictable at a pattern level and is even written as a book 25 years back :) In some sense takes the fun out of it - as well as the seriousness out of it - and we all can lean back and have a laugh at ourselves.
Why people nag. Why they argue. Why one is more silent and one is more talkative. Why one is an introvert and one an extrovert in the relation. Why do we repeat our patterns and get into the same kind of situations in marriage.... Do read it if you are in a relation or not.
Maybe there are more enlightened people out there who already see this. But for me this was one of those eye openers.
March 5, 2011
A practical book about the dichotomy of relationships.Shows you the difference in Left & Right brain thinking.You will understand all of your past & future relationships and you will never see people the same way after reading.
February 17, 2014
Everybody should read this book.
October 11, 2025
Just because a Ph.D. wrote this, doesn't mean it's not bullshit.
I made it to page 40. An important premise is something Oedipus-complex-like: as a child, you compete with your father for your mother's attention. "If you successfully copy his behavior, mother will want to be with you, just as she wants to be with him.". This didn't sit well with me; my parents loved each other and loved me. There was no jealousy. I missed my father because he worked long hours.
I tried to find any empirical support of the author's claim that a child thinks like this, but other than Freud's fever dreams, possibly regurgitated by others, there's no basis for this. A child can grow attached to one or both parents. In fact, secure attachment is the majority case, not this contrived Oedipus/Electra jealousy.
I made it to page 40. An important premise is something Oedipus-complex-like: as a child, you compete with your father for your mother's attention. "If you successfully copy his behavior, mother will want to be with you, just as she wants to be with him.". This didn't sit well with me; my parents loved each other and loved me. There was no jealousy. I missed my father because he worked long hours.
I tried to find any empirical support of the author's claim that a child thinks like this, but other than Freud's fever dreams, possibly regurgitated by others, there's no basis for this. A child can grow attached to one or both parents. In fact, secure attachment is the majority case, not this contrived Oedipus/Electra jealousy.
April 30, 2016
i think about that very nice .
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March 8, 2018
Everyone should read this book regardless of being in a relationship or not.
It was my hypnotherapist that first told me about the two sexual personality types and it was a life-changing revelation for me. However, reading the book gave me a deeper insight on how it all links together. Plus, maybe even the answer to why opposites do, in fact, attract.
Personally, being a high 'emotional' engaged to a high 'physical' has had its challenges, but now, after learning about our sexual personality types, we can laugh about it and accept our differences instead of despising them.
In short:
The two sexual personality types are 'emotional' and 'physical'. Not only do they come with different priorities in life, it is scientifically proven that they affect which side of the brain we're using on a daily basis.
The emotional is the reserved one, prioritising work and hobbies above relationships and sex, whereas the physical is the highly social, outgoing person who puts the relationship first, living for the connection he/she gets with the partner during sex or any kind of intimacy.
We all have a bit of the two personality types, however, one more than the other.
Ever wondered why one partner suddenly takes less interest in sex while the other is still enthusiastically interested? Or maybe one partner wants to talk about the relationship, discussing the ups and downs when the other doesn't even want to listen?
This book will give you the answers and you will never look at relationships the same again -- be it your own or others'.
It was my hypnotherapist that first told me about the two sexual personality types and it was a life-changing revelation for me. However, reading the book gave me a deeper insight on how it all links together. Plus, maybe even the answer to why opposites do, in fact, attract.
Personally, being a high 'emotional' engaged to a high 'physical' has had its challenges, but now, after learning about our sexual personality types, we can laugh about it and accept our differences instead of despising them.
In short:
The two sexual personality types are 'emotional' and 'physical'. Not only do they come with different priorities in life, it is scientifically proven that they affect which side of the brain we're using on a daily basis.
The emotional is the reserved one, prioritising work and hobbies above relationships and sex, whereas the physical is the highly social, outgoing person who puts the relationship first, living for the connection he/she gets with the partner during sex or any kind of intimacy.
We all have a bit of the two personality types, however, one more than the other.
Ever wondered why one partner suddenly takes less interest in sex while the other is still enthusiastically interested? Or maybe one partner wants to talk about the relationship, discussing the ups and downs when the other doesn't even want to listen?
This book will give you the answers and you will never look at relationships the same again -- be it your own or others'.
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