Divorcing a Narcissist and Co-Parenting: How to Get Out of an Emotionally Destructive Marriage and Defend your Kids. Top Advice for Splitting Up and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse in a Toxic Divorce

by Jessica Allen

Are you looking for a guide that will help you overcome a divorce from a narcissist? 

Are you divorcing a narcissist and getting ready to do mediation with him or her?

Are you trying to co-parent with a toxic ex or narcissist?

If this sounds familiar with you, then keep reading!      

Divorcing a narcissist can be the ultimate challenge because they fight dirty. Narcissists are sneaky and play tricks during a divorce. A normal divorce is complicated, but when divorcing a narcissist when you have children is a thousand percent more complicated.

If you are raising kids with a narcissist or other manipulator, surely you have had some exasperating experiences with them where they used your kids as pawns to hurt or control you. In fact, when you are divorcing a covert narcissist they will utilize passive-aggressive techniques to manipulate your children against you. They are so subtle in their manipulation that the majority of the time your children will not even realize what is happening. 

Co-parenting with a narcissist is practically impossible, but there are things you can do and consider as a result of having to divorce and then co-parent with a narcissist.

But no panic! I am here to help you!

Thanks to this guide, you are knowing what kinds of tricks narcissists play in divorce and what to do to be prepared for it. 

This book has divided into two

1- Divorcing a Narcissist

2- Co-Parenting with a Narcissist or other toxic ex

In the first part, I am going to help you to understand what narcissism is, how to recognize a toxic relationship, how to manage a divorce from narcissist and how to overcome and heal from a divorce.

Here you will find

- What narcissism is

- The origins of narcissism

- The causes and how to recognize them in a marriage

- How to save yourself from narcissist relationships by not losing yourself

- 8 tips on how to manage a divorce from a narcissist

- How to choose the right lawyer when divorcing a narcissist

- How to escape from a narcissist

- How to find a new real love

And much more…

In the second part, we are going to discuss successful co-parenting strategies with a narcissist or someone who is just toxic and unhealthy emotionally abusive to work together with. The first thing is you have to stop thinking that you are a team. You are not really co-parenting. What you are doing now is parallel-parenting which means each of you is parenting by yourself and you come together on major decisions for your children.

The Topics in Co-Parenting 

- The journey through separation

- How to make the decision on divorce

- The impact of separation for children

- How to protect yourself and your kids from parental conflicts

- Settling into a Two-home family

- How to recognize you are co-parenting with a narcissist

- Kids and communication

- Finance decisions

- Legal options and strategies open to your divorce or in an abusive situation

And much more!

So, keep your cool, keep your emotion in check and do not let them get the best of you.

293 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 13, 2021

Reviews

[Bernd Schiffer · Rating 3 out of 5]

The first half explains narcissism and how that plays out in relationships. The second half gives relatively common advice about how to deal with separations in general.

I found the first half okay. The language used in this section of the book is pretty full-on and cuts straight to the point; sometimes cuts too deep for my taste.

I didn't like the second half, because that advice is dealt with in other books more specifically. Also, I often didn't get why this advice was chosen, because I couldn't see the connection to narcissism at all. For example, the chapter about how to get your finances in order could've been a reference to other (way better) books about this topic. It looked to me like this half of the book was a filler to create an overall thicker book.

What rubbed me the wrong way was an unnecessarily misogynistic use of language in the book. Gender roles were very often chosen freely (he/she, instead of they), and it was (almost?) always the man who was the narcissist and the woman who was the victim. I get that's the case statistically, and I still would have preferred to see a more inclusive language here.