In"Misplaced Persons" by Susan Beale, we revisit the Europe of five years ago through the eyes of a typical middle-class family whose matriarch chooses to host a young Syrian refugee to forget her impending divorce.
General Impressions
In the Europe of "Misplaced Persons" Brexit is unimaginable, Trump is still campaigning, there are terrorist attacks every week and the refugee crisis is permanently on the news. All of these are at times background, at times real problems in the main characters' minds, competing against unrequited crushes, work drama, extramarital affairs and school exams.
I liked the writing, the pacing and the careful and nuanced way most themes were discussed. This book presents us with a very accurate look at the European entitlement and racism coexisting with the beauty of European culture and diversity.
Most of the testimony about the war in Syria and the refugee crisis came from Nizar's comments and presence. Nizar was such a wonderful character, not because he was supposed to show the reader through a sad story that what happened to him could happen to anyone but because he feels real in how flawed and insecure he is, how much pressure there is for him to assimilate in order to become less threatening, less "foreign" to European eyes and how he is permanently seen as "other", no matter what. (There's a section at the end with some spoilers about Nizar and another character).
Divorce and gender
Unexpectedly, my favourite and perhaps the part that affected the most in this book though was how divorces affect not only a family but women in particular, which was something I had never saw discussed anywhere else before.
When out of nowhere, Neil informs Marcy that he is moving out and wants a divorce, after two decades together, Marcy suffers a small breakdown. In a single moment, she becomes unmoored, meaningless, powerless: every choice she had made for the last twenty years was focused around supporting the same husband that informed her he was leaving in a single conversation. Suddenly I realized that feminism hadn't come that far, not when it came to motherhood.
Women are not outright forbidden from doing anything anymore, it's a lot more insidious: when you are a mother, you sacrifice. When a couple decides to have children together, the women are the ones that carry them, sacrifice their bodies and health and have to get time off from work so often sacrifice their careers as well. Eventually, women stop having ambitions of their own and start managing everyone else's and all the while the husbands become their jobs, working all the time and climbing the corporate ladder, unable to waste their precious time being fathers.
Neil didn't act out of maliciousness only of dissatisfaction with his own life: he loves Marcy and he loves his children but when he decides to leave, he is a hero in his own head, pursuing what he wants, laughing in the face of conventions and no one ever blames him. Instead, they focus on how Marcy has "let herself go" so she, in turn, spends much of the book trying to regain control not only of her life but the world around her by couponing, donating her family's belongings, volunteering and offering Nizar a place to stay.
And after all of that, everyone involved in this ugly situation is punished except for Neil. Neil, that at one point tried to take Marcy to court to keep her from having access to the children out of spite and a hero complex, suddenly realizes (after his mistress leaves him) that he had it good all along, and his family takes him back as if nothing happened.
Conclusions
I started this book prepared to DNF it after a couple of chapters and ended up spending a sleepless night, not being able to put it down.
It's not always an easy read but I found it a very realist and interesting portrait not only of Europe but of our time. It felt raw and poignant and you could see the author not only knew the significance of her work but understood the world she was writing about.
I look forward to whatever Susan Beale gifts us with next.
Thank you to John Murrays for sending me this proof.
(TWS with spoilers)
I only have two big problems with this book and both relate to the teen boys in it.
Once Marcy finds out about her husband's affair, she is shocked to discover that both her eldest children already knew. While her daughter is disrespectful and insulting both to her face and back, Marcy has this big inner monologue about the kind of mother she decided to be and makes her case, shaming her daughter by pointing at her cruel and childish behaviour. When she finds out that Alec, her middle child knew of the affair and hid it afraid that she would have another breakdown, she slaps him. Not only she hits her child but that is shown as part of her healing journey, in a way that hitting a girl certainly wouldn't have been and wasn't.
This was also the second book about the refugee crisis where the main character was a young gay man. While a part of me is happy for the representation, particularly when it comes to POC, I can't help but fear a trend where the only way, a Muslim character and Muslim men, in particular, are seen as good and worthy of respect is when they are not a danger or a potential love interest to a white European girl...