The Miracle Moment: How Tough Conversations Can Actually Transform Your Most Important Relationships

by Nicole Unice

There’s a moment in every conversation that can change the whole relationship. A moment when you can either move toward the other person or away from them. Choose to break a negative cycle or continue it. Understand and be understood or remain confused and frustrated.It’s the “miracle moment.” And once you learn how to recognize and respond to it, it holds the power to help transform the relationships you have—at home, in love, and at work—into the ones you really want.In The Miracle Moment, Nicole Unice helps you discover the practical tools toLearn to respect and respond to your emotions without letting them control youSpeak words that help—rather than hurt—the likelihood of your getting what you needIdentify and keep yourself safe from toxic peopleBecome comfortable setting and holding boundariesBe your best self even when you’re tempted to shut up, blow up, or give upStep into the space where miracles happen. Your miracle moments are waiting for moments of honesty; moments of healing; moments of renewal and lasting change.(Don’t miss the companion Miracle Moment DVD Experience and Miracle Moment Participant’s Guide, perfect for small groups or individuals wanting to go deeper!)

Genres: Nonfiction, Spirituality, Self Help, How To

238 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 18, 2021

About the author

Nicole brings 20 years of leadership and counseling experience to her work as a coach and communicator. Nicole’s passion is facilitating environments of safety and vulnerability so that individuals and communities can courageously identify obstacles keeping them from maximum potential.

In her books and videos, Nicole is passionate about making transformation attainable and accessible to people in all stages of life. As a coach, Nicole brings clarity and courage for individuals and teams as they pursue a preferred future.

As a speaker, Nicole brings both wit and wisdom to the platform, with an honest and vulnerable approach that appeals to both faith and leadership environments alike.

Nicole works internationally but loves her home in Richmond, VA, which she shares with her husband and three teenagers. Nicole holds degrees from the College of William and Mary and Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary, and serves on the boards of East Mountain, an international leadership organization and CHAT, a local nonprofit focused on restorative work with young people in poverty.

Connect with Nicole online at her website (nicoleunice.com) or on any of these social media platforms:

Facebook.com/nicole.unice
Twitter.com/nicoleunice
Instagram.com/nicoleunice

See more at: http://www.nicoleunice.com/about
Her heart belongs to Hope Church in Richmond, Virginia, where she serves as ministry director and leads Praxis, a full-time ministry residency program for young leaders. Nicole holds degrees from the College of William and Mary and from Gordon-Conwell Theological Seminary.

Reviews

[Jaime Allen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Our culture is so good at sweeping conflict under the rug, so much so that it wasn’t until I was over the age of 25 that I realized how terrible I was at handling conflict. This book gives such tangible help to look inside and action steps to enter into healthy conflict. It uncovers blind spots, a ton of “ouch” moments that will help with my self awareness

[Katie Axelson · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a game-changer. If you interact with other people (let’s be real: we all do) this book is full of wisdom and tools you’re going to want in your back pocket. It’s a book I’m probably going to continue referencing for the rest of my life. Highly recommend!

[Tabatha · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book should come with a warning label. I meant that with deep respect and love. If you read and practice what Nicole writes about, you WILL experience a change in your relationships and in YOU! One of my favorite quotes from The Miracle Moment is, “Miracle moments happen when we fight for the heart, not fight for position”. This book brought about so much self-reflection and really changed my outlook and response to those special people in my life. Nicole’s writing makes you really dig deep, but it is so worth it. Taking the time read this book will take those cherished relationships to the next level.

[Sarah · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book/guide is right on time! This season of pandemic isolation and hotly debated political division presents two options : withdraw, disengage and sink deep into cynicism and bitterness or lean in, get curious about ourselves and others, and in seeking to understand, develop the kind of relationships that can endure every season. Nicole offers the practical tools and troubleshooting tips needed to move towards the latter with authenticity and HOPE that in that place of intentionality—relational miracles can happen.

[Megan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Had to take my time with this one. A lot of grace in these pages balanced with hope of growth for us emotionally immature peeps. Easy to swing from one extreme to another in our attempts at learning healthy boundaries. Appreciated the writer’s transparency. Important to celebrate the wins and not get stuck in rumination of our failures. Learn and move forward. Easier said than done. Thanks goodness for grace!

[Jenna · Rating 5 out of 5]

No matter who you are, relationships are part of your life, and as such you need this book. Nicole’s practical approach to walking through difficult interactions with the people in our lives is something everyone should read. I’ve already put to practice several of the tactics and can already see the benefits in how I process and respond to tough moments with friends, colleagues, and my spouse.

[Kristin · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nicole has written a thoughtful book on the dynamics of communication in a relationship. She honest, encouraging, and entertaining as she coaches you in techniques for approaching difficult conversations. The best part is that her advice is applicable in a variety of relationships from spousal interactions to conversations with work colleagues or dear friends.

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a must read if you’d like to take your relationships to the next level - I’ve been working to implement the tools Nicole provides and it is already paying off! Lots of information with - and this is important - resources/worksheets/questions/diagrams etc to move you from theoretical to practical.

[Roxane Thomas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nicole Unice has done it again! This book is a must read for anyone dealing with difficult relationships or has a hard time speaking up. Nicole’s practical approach is a game changer. I have been incorporating her tools (especially the Feeling Wheel) and it’s making a difference!

[Tim Peterson · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book has good advice on how to form strong relationships and how to do conflict resolution within those relationships. The author mentions things like explaining what your needs and wants are from the relationship and how to figure out what those are yourself.

[leisha C. Adkins · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so insightful! Full of wisdom to help you improve your relationships!

[Karen Young · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a must read. The book is thought provokinghh and full of tools to create alignment in your life through the response and interactions in the relationships you encounter.

[Katy]

I received my copy free through Goodreads Giveaways

[Jaemie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Google concepts. Long winded with too many anecdotal stories, but overall a good book on communication.👍

[Chandra · Rating 5 out of 5]

Super valuable book for me. I took away so much to put into practice. The only thing I don’t like is the way it’s marketed—title, etc. Def recommend this book!

[Renee R. · Rating 5 out of 5]

Truly an awesome book on relationships!

[Margaret D Walker · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good stuff here! Helpful tools for any relationship/interaction.