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Overcome Your Villains: Mastering Your Beliefs, Actions, and Knowledge to Conquer Any Adversity
Whether you’re facing the glass ceiling, a toxic work environment, or anything in between, limit-breaking female founder Heather Monahan’s 3-Step BAK process will help you evaluate and eliminate any outside or self-defeating blockers between where you are now and where you deserve to be. If you’ve ever felt alone, down, defeated, or discouraged—this book’s for you. If you’ve ever been unsure of your next move or felt your confidence slip just when you needed it the most—this book is definitely for you. Author and entrepreneur Heather Monahan will help you learn the easy but remarkable steps you can take to overcome the negative people and other challenges we all encounter at work and at home, find real and lasting happiness, and achieve the success you deserve in your career and in your personal life. Growing up in poverty, Heather leapfrogged the tremendous obstacles in her life to reach the pinnacle of success in business—only to lose it all when she was fired by the villain who was her new boss. She has seen the worst of the worst when it comes to the destruction a toxic workplace can have on someone’s perception of themselves and their outlook for the future. In these pages, she lights the beacon on your path towards stepping into and then stomping out your fear to reach your full potential—regardless of the level of trauma you’ve experienced or are currently experiencing in your workplace. Overcome Your Villains will help you All the options you have to reach your full potential, and how to immediately start pursuing them.
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240 pages, Hardcover
Published November 16, 2021
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Heather Monahan
33 books83 followersHeather Monahan is a former C-suite executive who made the leap into entrepreneurship after an unexpected termination. Through personal stories, she writes about what happens when low self esteem and nasty work environments collide. Heather's story has been featured on CNN, USA Today, and the James Altucher podcast while her new book Confidence Creator debuted on the Amazon Best Seller list. If you want to catch her now tune in to her #1 show on PodcastOne Creating Confidence with Heather on @Applepodcast.
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October 30, 2021
Overcome Your Villains: Mastering your Beliefs, Actions, and Knowledge to Conquer Any Adversity is now one of my favorites about creating what the best is for oneself. This translates into helping others be successful when applied to our personal and professional lives.
Heather Monahan, the author, asked me to read and review before release on November 9th. Sent the NetGallery pre-release version was able to convert to audio in ‘text to speak’ on iPhone.
This book is super useful for anyone feeling stuck personally and professionally.
Whether living on someone else's limiting beliefs about us transformed to reimagining what's possible for yourself. This book is fantastic from my POV to converting old thoughts that force feeling stuck that hinder confidence. Lots of personal examples and simple-to-follow ideas that work to shift mindset and strategy toward living our best life.
As a pre-launch reviewer am making sure to read all the content without bouncing to what’s just for personal use as recommended by the author.
What is different about this book is being directed to which area the reader is struggling. There is no one size fits all how-to in life. The reader is guided to begin where they believe the biggest difficulty is. What works for one person may be another’s dilemma. The author encourages the reader to identify and discovering their own strengths and challenges to customizing desired and needed results.
In Overcome Your Villains, the reader decides what process they need guidance from. We can skip to the section to target an approach. Be guided in the area following examples from the author's life. With questions and facilitation of self-guided practices with the process.
This book can be your ticket to finding what truly works for yourself. You can try therapy and a life or business coach for a lot more money, too. A mix of each as is needed. The point, you decide what you need when discovering the undercurrent to self-doubt, and roadblocks.
Ms. Monahan encourages personalization with beginning to identify areas for awareness. Then, what you can do to move forward.
Overcome Your Villains has practical examples of leveling up. The three sections with questions will help any reader identify areas we could engage toward improvement.
Another book that this reminds me of is Judy Carter’s The Message of You: Turn Your Life Story into a Money-Making Speaking Career. Both books have steps that help identify storytelling ideas to include in business and personal messaging. Connect with people both professionally and personally that move the needle on being more for self and others in one’s industry.
Authenticity is a big deal and these two books make finding the tread of what makes us unique in our world for others helps build relationships that last a lifetime in both personal and professional circles. Though, Ms. Monahan’s book isn’t as focused on the tutorial as Ms. Carter’s guide within the storytelling is at the core of building the business.
Ms. Monahan’s book does similar as it helps the individual identify stories we tell ourselves limiting self-beliefs. Once we figure this out can leverage our newfound understanding when we open up to others either as speakers, on podcasts, as an author, or even within our daily life.
Action would have been my section (2) where I’d begin of three: Belief, Action, Knowledge or as the author notes, BAK on a flow chart included. Though, I still would read the entire book for a frame of reference to encourage others who may be struggling in these areas to try it for themselves.
Even if you believe you’re on the perfect path, from my view, this book will open doors. Whether in how to engage the professional world to make more income through relationships personally. Finding deeper peace within that even though you don’t feel ‘perfect’ can connect with the imperfection of self-reflection while feeling comfortable with the world’s view being reflected. Including the people who misjudge or do things to hurt us becoming lessons that drive our train to a new path.
Rather than stay the course of what we thought is our best life. We take risks to growth, development, and finding a whole new world where we live on the greener side of the grassy knoll we never dreamed possible.
Not knowing what to think when I agreed to read this book. Am walking away with more confidence. Enthusiasm for goals at my doorstep and those long term. I’m especially excited Ms. Monahan asked me and I said yes to be of service to her need. As she repeatedly says, doors to new relationships sometimes begin with acts of service to help others.
We have very different goals in some ways. But, a unifying thread in a desire to succeed for others and ourselves.
I think what surprised me the most about this book is how much Ms. Monahan and myself have in common. From our views about our intelligence growing up somehow not being adequate to raising a son. I suffered literacy issues and Ms. Monahan's feelings compared to her sister as less intelligent. This is part of my story, too. To being treated poorly at work in a similar fashion. Hearing her story about this hit home deeply. Both resulted in us striving to create a new way of exploring entrepreneurism and making vital connections to help more people, as well as ourselves.
This book is for everyone and anyone who’s ever grown up seeking their best life in both business and personal growth.
Some areas that may appear similar to other authors in regards to helping people succeed is the formula from sharing a personal experience to how the author overcomes and finds their success than passing the ideas that work for them to the reader to try.
What’s very different about this book is Ms. Monahan has workbook-type sections following the three core sections: Belief, Knowledge, Action. The book isn’t just telling stories and mentioning ideas.
Similar to James Clear’s Atomic Habits where he supplies ample downloadable actionable steps. All of these are within the book already. Like, Stephen Covey’s many books from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People to First Things First all guide with examples. Overcome Your Villains leads similarly. Though Ms. Monahan’s questions and answers section is a writing activity at the end of each of three sections. Not separated into a workbook (yet).
Kinda like an all-inclusive resort stay. Everything is in one place from the stories to the actionable activities.
The book is in different sections making locating content simple. The first is an introduction. What qualifies the author on the idea to overcome the things blocking aspirations, then there are three sections. Each with specific examples Ms. Monahan endured and then it’s the readers turn to convert their own life story and struggles into new ideas for implementation.
One of my favorite parts at the end of every chapter is “key takeaway”. This helps sum the section and apply to self more deeply.
What was super cool is anyone I would have recommended to Ms. Monahan to connect with, like David Meltzer, she already mentions via example during my research.
I haven’t seen the official book. The release is on November 9th, 2021. Excited to receive a copy shortly thereafter.
Before saying yes to Ms. Monahan’s prelaunch team review request did research. Read anything I could besides what her LinkedIn profile noted. I wanted to see what others thought on both one and five-star reviews and Goodreads. Considering a story she tells about a one-star review found my assessment helpful, as well, in perception.
One notation I’d like to make is in regards to what I read in review from Ms. Monahan’s first book. The reviewer made comments they struggle with believability because the author is so attractive (their words) and how could someone who looks like this who presents success (in their opinion) from such a level ever lacks confidence.
Don’t judge a book by its cover.
Heather went to great lengths to share her story. I admit upfront thought similarly to the other reviewer. Wondering what would we have in common. How could this translate into me finding strength for myself?
The beauty of this is while reading the perspective was peeled away. Finding similarities to me was very easy. Confidence sometimes dresses in fear and failure. Notions of personal inadequacy.
When people do this judgment toward me. Believing I’m someone based on my resume alone or how I’m dressed are saying, ‘this is the story I’m telling myself about you’. They don’t want to know me. Just see their version. These people weed themselves out for connection or what gifts I have based on the truth of my own journey. Reflecting on how they view their own.
Your opinion of me is none of my business. This shines through to me during the read.
Finding the people who see past the confidence and unwrap their perceptions are the type of people this book is for. Yes, Ms. Monahan wraps herself well in a red dress (read more about this story in the book) which helps her feel confident. But, more importantly, gives a view of how we all can armor up confidence even when we are feeling less adequate, nervous, ashamed, or whatever until we get to our next place of growth out of these sensations.
People from Brene’ Brown to Stephen King all claim introversion and disliking large crowds. Yet, rock the stage during appearances. Inside all the while wishing, “there’s no place like home.” These examples among others come to mind when I consider the reviewers judgment of Ms. Monahan.
Personally for my own goals, what I like most about this book is how relatable the author is to my own story. The book helped me feel more confident about not wanting to do like other entrepreneurs in areas like such high achieving speaking gigs, but if I want to know there’s a way. Lots of great tips.
As I’m learning what needs to get done or do for my own goals feel Ms. Monahan gave me some ideas to focus on what works for me and how to get to my check points toward the end game goal. Similar to what David Meltzer teaches in Game Time Decision Making.
The book gives me practical ideas to finding grace within and ways to connect in route to my introversion success. Having practiced for years since college speaking to amateur comedy, and even storying telling events plus being a teacher. But, even with decades of experience still feel freaked out infront of parents, not students and children when presenting a story or playing guitar for the kids.
Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or striving ambivert in a world of perceptions and judgment this book can help anyone find more for themselves. Others, and how to do it with style.
Once I get a copy of the hardcover following release if there are any differences will return to note such and add further.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💯
Heather Monahan, the author, asked me to read and review before release on November 9th. Sent the NetGallery pre-release version was able to convert to audio in ‘text to speak’ on iPhone.
This book is super useful for anyone feeling stuck personally and professionally.
Whether living on someone else's limiting beliefs about us transformed to reimagining what's possible for yourself. This book is fantastic from my POV to converting old thoughts that force feeling stuck that hinder confidence. Lots of personal examples and simple-to-follow ideas that work to shift mindset and strategy toward living our best life.
As a pre-launch reviewer am making sure to read all the content without bouncing to what’s just for personal use as recommended by the author.
What is different about this book is being directed to which area the reader is struggling. There is no one size fits all how-to in life. The reader is guided to begin where they believe the biggest difficulty is. What works for one person may be another’s dilemma. The author encourages the reader to identify and discovering their own strengths and challenges to customizing desired and needed results.
In Overcome Your Villains, the reader decides what process they need guidance from. We can skip to the section to target an approach. Be guided in the area following examples from the author's life. With questions and facilitation of self-guided practices with the process.
This book can be your ticket to finding what truly works for yourself. You can try therapy and a life or business coach for a lot more money, too. A mix of each as is needed. The point, you decide what you need when discovering the undercurrent to self-doubt, and roadblocks.
Ms. Monahan encourages personalization with beginning to identify areas for awareness. Then, what you can do to move forward.
Overcome Your Villains has practical examples of leveling up. The three sections with questions will help any reader identify areas we could engage toward improvement.
Another book that this reminds me of is Judy Carter’s The Message of You: Turn Your Life Story into a Money-Making Speaking Career. Both books have steps that help identify storytelling ideas to include in business and personal messaging. Connect with people both professionally and personally that move the needle on being more for self and others in one’s industry.
Authenticity is a big deal and these two books make finding the tread of what makes us unique in our world for others helps build relationships that last a lifetime in both personal and professional circles. Though, Ms. Monahan’s book isn’t as focused on the tutorial as Ms. Carter’s guide within the storytelling is at the core of building the business.
Ms. Monahan’s book does similar as it helps the individual identify stories we tell ourselves limiting self-beliefs. Once we figure this out can leverage our newfound understanding when we open up to others either as speakers, on podcasts, as an author, or even within our daily life.
Action would have been my section (2) where I’d begin of three: Belief, Action, Knowledge or as the author notes, BAK on a flow chart included. Though, I still would read the entire book for a frame of reference to encourage others who may be struggling in these areas to try it for themselves.
Even if you believe you’re on the perfect path, from my view, this book will open doors. Whether in how to engage the professional world to make more income through relationships personally. Finding deeper peace within that even though you don’t feel ‘perfect’ can connect with the imperfection of self-reflection while feeling comfortable with the world’s view being reflected. Including the people who misjudge or do things to hurt us becoming lessons that drive our train to a new path.
Rather than stay the course of what we thought is our best life. We take risks to growth, development, and finding a whole new world where we live on the greener side of the grassy knoll we never dreamed possible.
Not knowing what to think when I agreed to read this book. Am walking away with more confidence. Enthusiasm for goals at my doorstep and those long term. I’m especially excited Ms. Monahan asked me and I said yes to be of service to her need. As she repeatedly says, doors to new relationships sometimes begin with acts of service to help others.
We have very different goals in some ways. But, a unifying thread in a desire to succeed for others and ourselves.
I think what surprised me the most about this book is how much Ms. Monahan and myself have in common. From our views about our intelligence growing up somehow not being adequate to raising a son. I suffered literacy issues and Ms. Monahan's feelings compared to her sister as less intelligent. This is part of my story, too. To being treated poorly at work in a similar fashion. Hearing her story about this hit home deeply. Both resulted in us striving to create a new way of exploring entrepreneurism and making vital connections to help more people, as well as ourselves.
This book is for everyone and anyone who’s ever grown up seeking their best life in both business and personal growth.
Some areas that may appear similar to other authors in regards to helping people succeed is the formula from sharing a personal experience to how the author overcomes and finds their success than passing the ideas that work for them to the reader to try.
What’s very different about this book is Ms. Monahan has workbook-type sections following the three core sections: Belief, Knowledge, Action. The book isn’t just telling stories and mentioning ideas.
Similar to James Clear’s Atomic Habits where he supplies ample downloadable actionable steps. All of these are within the book already. Like, Stephen Covey’s many books from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People to First Things First all guide with examples. Overcome Your Villains leads similarly. Though Ms. Monahan’s questions and answers section is a writing activity at the end of each of three sections. Not separated into a workbook (yet).
Kinda like an all-inclusive resort stay. Everything is in one place from the stories to the actionable activities.
The book is in different sections making locating content simple. The first is an introduction. What qualifies the author on the idea to overcome the things blocking aspirations, then there are three sections. Each with specific examples Ms. Monahan endured and then it’s the readers turn to convert their own life story and struggles into new ideas for implementation.
One of my favorite parts at the end of every chapter is “key takeaway”. This helps sum the section and apply to self more deeply.
What was super cool is anyone I would have recommended to Ms. Monahan to connect with, like David Meltzer, she already mentions via example during my research.
I haven’t seen the official book. The release is on November 9th, 2021. Excited to receive a copy shortly thereafter.
Before saying yes to Ms. Monahan’s prelaunch team review request did research. Read anything I could besides what her LinkedIn profile noted. I wanted to see what others thought on both one and five-star reviews and Goodreads. Considering a story she tells about a one-star review found my assessment helpful, as well, in perception.
One notation I’d like to make is in regards to what I read in review from Ms. Monahan’s first book. The reviewer made comments they struggle with believability because the author is so attractive (their words) and how could someone who looks like this who presents success (in their opinion) from such a level ever lacks confidence.
Don’t judge a book by its cover.
Heather went to great lengths to share her story. I admit upfront thought similarly to the other reviewer. Wondering what would we have in common. How could this translate into me finding strength for myself?
The beauty of this is while reading the perspective was peeled away. Finding similarities to me was very easy. Confidence sometimes dresses in fear and failure. Notions of personal inadequacy.
When people do this judgment toward me. Believing I’m someone based on my resume alone or how I’m dressed are saying, ‘this is the story I’m telling myself about you’. They don’t want to know me. Just see their version. These people weed themselves out for connection or what gifts I have based on the truth of my own journey. Reflecting on how they view their own.
Your opinion of me is none of my business. This shines through to me during the read.
Finding the people who see past the confidence and unwrap their perceptions are the type of people this book is for. Yes, Ms. Monahan wraps herself well in a red dress (read more about this story in the book) which helps her feel confident. But, more importantly, gives a view of how we all can armor up confidence even when we are feeling less adequate, nervous, ashamed, or whatever until we get to our next place of growth out of these sensations.
People from Brene’ Brown to Stephen King all claim introversion and disliking large crowds. Yet, rock the stage during appearances. Inside all the while wishing, “there’s no place like home.” These examples among others come to mind when I consider the reviewers judgment of Ms. Monahan.
Personally for my own goals, what I like most about this book is how relatable the author is to my own story. The book helped me feel more confident about not wanting to do like other entrepreneurs in areas like such high achieving speaking gigs, but if I want to know there’s a way. Lots of great tips.
As I’m learning what needs to get done or do for my own goals feel Ms. Monahan gave me some ideas to focus on what works for me and how to get to my check points toward the end game goal. Similar to what David Meltzer teaches in Game Time Decision Making.
The book gives me practical ideas to finding grace within and ways to connect in route to my introversion success. Having practiced for years since college speaking to amateur comedy, and even storying telling events plus being a teacher. But, even with decades of experience still feel freaked out infront of parents, not students and children when presenting a story or playing guitar for the kids.
Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or striving ambivert in a world of perceptions and judgment this book can help anyone find more for themselves. Others, and how to do it with style.
Once I get a copy of the hardcover following release if there are any differences will return to note such and add further.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️💯
September 4, 2021
"How did she know?" I am asking myself after finishing this book. How did she know everything I needed to hear?
In the description of Overcome Your Villains on NetGalley it says, "If you’ve ever felt alone, down, defeated, or discouraged—this book’s for you." Heather, I do not know if you realize how true that statement is!
I am in my first year of full-time entrepreneurship and solely working for myself, and this book feels like the road map I needed. Heather covers the highs and the lows from both a corporate stand-point, to life after. Heather (I feel like I know her, and that referring to her as Monahan just feels impersonal after this read!) details the real, gritty and not always pretty path to achieving some of her most notable accomplishments. Those accomplishments include keynote speaking, having incredible podcasts guests, BEING a podcast guest on incredible shows, giving a TedX talk and basically everything else I have on my vision board right now.
I feel as though Heather was holding my hand throughout this book, personally invested in my future, like the female role model I never had. Except...now, I do.
If you are looking to take the leap into being your own boss, read this book. If your friend is taking that leap, give them this book! If you, or a loved one just got fired from a job...you guessed it, read this book. It shows you that there is always something better awaiting, and that anyone can achieve it.
In the description of Overcome Your Villains on NetGalley it says, "If you’ve ever felt alone, down, defeated, or discouraged—this book’s for you." Heather, I do not know if you realize how true that statement is!
I am in my first year of full-time entrepreneurship and solely working for myself, and this book feels like the road map I needed. Heather covers the highs and the lows from both a corporate stand-point, to life after. Heather (I feel like I know her, and that referring to her as Monahan just feels impersonal after this read!) details the real, gritty and not always pretty path to achieving some of her most notable accomplishments. Those accomplishments include keynote speaking, having incredible podcasts guests, BEING a podcast guest on incredible shows, giving a TedX talk and basically everything else I have on my vision board right now.
I feel as though Heather was holding my hand throughout this book, personally invested in my future, like the female role model I never had. Except...now, I do.
If you are looking to take the leap into being your own boss, read this book. If your friend is taking that leap, give them this book! If you, or a loved one just got fired from a job...you guessed it, read this book. It shows you that there is always something better awaiting, and that anyone can achieve it.
October 13, 2021
When I hear the word villain, I think about the cartoon burglar character, sneaking around and creating problems or taking things away from me.
Heather has experience dealing with villains. She gives a great example that highlights the fact that villains do not fit a stereotype or wear a label. They might show up as a colleague or a manager. They might even show up as someone that we think should be on our side.
She also helps us see that our villains may do things that hurt us, but we can take what results and make something better. Like the saying goes, "when [your villain] gives you lemons, make lemonade."
One of the great parts of this book are the exercises. I like to read a lot, but I like to learn and apply the things I read as often as I can. The exercises in this book are powerful or can be if you do them. Don't take this book and aim to read it as quickly as possible. Take some time and work on the exercises so you can get the most out of them.
I love how Heather shares how she took the roadblocks that a villain put in her way and overcame them so successfully that she ends her book by saying "Thank you" to her villain
This review is based on a pre-release copy. As an advanced reader, I did get a free copy, but I do have a paid copy coming on release day and I am looking forward to it and will be rereading this one and spending more time reviewing the exercises.
Heather has experience dealing with villains. She gives a great example that highlights the fact that villains do not fit a stereotype or wear a label. They might show up as a colleague or a manager. They might even show up as someone that we think should be on our side.
She also helps us see that our villains may do things that hurt us, but we can take what results and make something better. Like the saying goes, "when [your villain] gives you lemons, make lemonade."
One of the great parts of this book are the exercises. I like to read a lot, but I like to learn and apply the things I read as often as I can. The exercises in this book are powerful or can be if you do them. Don't take this book and aim to read it as quickly as possible. Take some time and work on the exercises so you can get the most out of them.
I love how Heather shares how she took the roadblocks that a villain put in her way and overcame them so successfully that she ends her book by saying "Thank you" to her villain
This review is based on a pre-release copy. As an advanced reader, I did get a free copy, but I do have a paid copy coming on release day and I am looking forward to it and will be rereading this one and spending more time reviewing the exercises.
March 18, 2024
Rating - 7.3
Some real good pearls & platitudes (e.g. fear is the greatest liar) to be beneficial & enjoyable however does not hit that next level for me (although sincerely very happy that it does for many other people)
Kudos to her for laying out the 3-category format & directing people where to read however when you read the whole book it becomes repetitious; Cheers to her work ethic, less cheers to 1st world issues
Notes
When you don't see your own worth, other's won't see it either. People pay you what you believe you are worth
The reality is that in any moment, you are building your confidence or chipping away at it by the actions you take or don't take
You have the ability & opportunity to take your unique skills & attributes anywhere you want. Just because you have been successful in one lane does not mean that you can
While you may be expendable, you are never replaceable
Sometimes we need to be pushed out the window to discover our wings have been there the entire time
What story are you telling yourself that is currently holding you back?
Fear is a liar - the story created in my mind is always worse than any reality
When you reconnect with why you are doing something, it make the decision to move forward much easier
Sometimes the only way to overcome a hard time is to go through it
Write down your list of goals. Put it somewhere visible. Read it everyday.
When you are trying to convince someone to do something, make it about them, not you
Never take direction from someone who has not been where you are going
Confidence does not have to be elusive. Your confidence is a combination of your beliefs, actions & the knowledge you surround yourself with. Pay attention to the beliefs you embrace, actions you take & the knowledge you expose yourself to & you will have everything you need to grow your confidence
We cannot expect things to always go our way. The more we embrace the unexpected, the faster we can pivot
Sandwich Technique - one layer of constructive criticism in between two layers of praise
Never run away from what makes you different
When you put others on a pedestal, you put yourself beneath them. You are holding them to an unrealistic standard & putting yourself down at the same time
When we feel intimidated, we want to hide. That is never the answer
Being taken advantage of is never to be confused with being too nice. Being too nice simply means you are a sweet person who has been taken advantage of
Choose to be your biggest cheerleader. If you don't believe wholeheartedly in yourself, why would anyone else
Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us & we need to show up to to see the real situation
A priority to us may not be a priority to others. They will have their own priorities so we need to move forward to advance our own initiatives yet be ready to circle back when needed. Timing is everything & just because it did not work the first time doesn't mean it won't work the second time around
The most important person for you to be nice to is you
The reality is that people are always more concerned & focussed on themselves & that frees us up to the truth that we are the only ones laser-focused on us
When you feel stuck, take the leap to hold yourself accountable. Successful people don't always know the how. they trust themselves to figure it out along the way
We may look at each other through rose-colored glasses at times. It's important to realize that other's look at us through those same glasses & although we may not know it yet, we can add value or teach someone how to do something. The only way you'll find out is if you show up & ask
Anytime we can find a common thread between ourselves & others, we develop connection & relatability, that is powerful
It is not how many no's you get. The truth is that you only need one yes.
When deciding if I should act on something, I ask what is the effort vs outcome ratio
My entire life I have believed that no communication meant the worst-case scenario. No communication is simply that, no communication. We need to be patient.
Amidst great uncertainty, we can always find uncertainty within
When you're facing a difficult time, focus on something that you look forward to in the near future. Once you reach that, create something new to focus on & look forward to
In any business transaction, both sides have to benefit or it is not sustainable
Holding the belief that tough times are temporary & there will be better days aheadwill carry us through the difficult moments
Done will always be better than perfect
Go all in on you & take the chance, even when it's scary because stepping into fear will always be the right answer
Sometimes putting in the hard work is not the answer. The ones who succeed are the ones who take the biggest risks
The way we remember situations in the past is not the same way others remember them. Our inner beliefs & perspectives at the time greatly influence how we recreate the memory in the future. Going back to a place years later forces you to confront the reality that others have versus the distortion that your memory has created
You can either claim your shame or your shame can claim you
We all have the ability & opportunity to believe something different & tell ourselves a different story - one that helps us achieve our goals instead of holding us back:
- Choose to tell yourself a story about the beliefs that you know you want in your life
- Choose to end negative self-talk & start talking to yourself the way you would a child you love
- Choose to place reminders throughout your life for the moments when you are low
- Choose to focus on gratitude & use past successful moments as proof that you will have more of them
- Choose to believe
Until we realize our value, no one else will either
When a door closes, it is up to you to reopen it or leave it behind. Don't wait around for opportunities to come knocking on your door, you might be waiting a long time
Once we are clear what the problem is, we can find a solution
'Tell me' is a sneaky command that will get you the information you need
It is just as easy to focus on potential solutions as it is to focus on current obstacles. By continuing to focus on different possibilities, we can find solutions
Sometimes you got to do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do
Helping others always pays dividends even if we don't see it immediately. Keep doing the right thing.
You are the key to opening opportunity doors
Thinking will not overcome fear but action will
Having big dreams & huge goals can be scary - you need to find a system that holds you accountable to your action plans
The greatest prison that people live is in the fear of what other people think
I don't lose - I either win or learn
Haters are a sign that you are succeeding. Haters are a sign that you are shining your light
The next time you feel fear, make the decision to say out loud how excited you are instead. Watch the shift happen as there is a fine line bw fear & excitement
Stepping into your fear is always the right answer
If your post about an achievement can inspire just one person, then it is worth it. Make it about that one person & not about you.
Instead of apologizing for everything, which makes it about you, reframe your apology to make it about the other person. Reframe sorry into gratitude
People who don't take action:
1. Perfectionism is a holdback & is just a cover for fear
2. If you are waiting for permission to go for something, just go for it
3. Many people will come up w reasons why they can't do something, find the reasons to take action
4. Many of us suffer from Imposter Syndrome - everyone starts at the beginning at some point
Having a goal without a timeline is just a dream
Leading with 'I am confused' is a great tactic to address a challenging situation
Giving our kids the knowledge they need to handle challenging moments in their lives empowers them to take on & solve these challenges themselves
No matter what something looks like on the outside, we never have any idea what is really going on in the inside
If you don't ask for what you want, you will surely not get it
The most important person you are ever going to get to know is the one staring back at you in the mirror. As you begin to know the real you, you will be able to own who you really are. Doing this will make you the most powerful version of yourself which allow you to achieve goals previously out of your grasp
You don't need to think smaller to keep yourself safe, you need to think bigger to make it work
Focus on what you want not what you don't want - Visualize it, feel what it feels like & stay in that feeling
It is essential to have people in your life who are ahead of you. When you surround yourself w successful people, they will inspire you to push past your current limitations & allow you to see something bigger in yourself than you did prior. Accessing knowledge from those who are light-years ahead of us is priceless
Knowledge is power? No knowledge on its own is nothing however the application of useful knowledge, that is powerful
Reframe your why not doubt into why
Unique value proposition email concept
Capture three things you are grateful for & remember them often
It may not be easy, but it is simple. Get moving
When we neglect to set expectations for a meeting, task or other event in our life, we are setting ourselves up for failure.
Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance
97% of people will give up & go work for the 3% that don't
To succeed in life, you've got to invest in yourself. You've got to grab every opportunity you can & see where it takes you
Business is a numbers game - you have to have multiple balls in the air to improve your chance of success
Gaining knowledge is the first step to wisdom; Sharing it is the first step to humanity
Comfort zones are what you are used to & what you have lulled yourself into believing are safe
You have to be in charge of your future - the world does not owe you anything & no one will offer you a free pass,
Successful people turn adversities into stepping stones to reach their goals. Setbacks should not stop you from doing what you love.
If you think you can, you can; if you think you can't, you can't
Your beliefs become your thoughts
your thoughts become your words
your words become your actions
your actions become your habits
your habits become your values
your values become your destiny
Bertter remain silent, better not even to think if you are not prepared to act
A true teacher would never tell you what to do; he would give you the knowledge with which you decide what is best for you to do
Some real good pearls & platitudes (e.g. fear is the greatest liar) to be beneficial & enjoyable however does not hit that next level for me (although sincerely very happy that it does for many other people)
Kudos to her for laying out the 3-category format & directing people where to read however when you read the whole book it becomes repetitious; Cheers to her work ethic, less cheers to 1st world issues
Notes
When you don't see your own worth, other's won't see it either. People pay you what you believe you are worth
The reality is that in any moment, you are building your confidence or chipping away at it by the actions you take or don't take
You have the ability & opportunity to take your unique skills & attributes anywhere you want. Just because you have been successful in one lane does not mean that you can
While you may be expendable, you are never replaceable
Sometimes we need to be pushed out the window to discover our wings have been there the entire time
What story are you telling yourself that is currently holding you back?
Fear is a liar - the story created in my mind is always worse than any reality
When you reconnect with why you are doing something, it make the decision to move forward much easier
Sometimes the only way to overcome a hard time is to go through it
Write down your list of goals. Put it somewhere visible. Read it everyday.
When you are trying to convince someone to do something, make it about them, not you
Never take direction from someone who has not been where you are going
Confidence does not have to be elusive. Your confidence is a combination of your beliefs, actions & the knowledge you surround yourself with. Pay attention to the beliefs you embrace, actions you take & the knowledge you expose yourself to & you will have everything you need to grow your confidence
We cannot expect things to always go our way. The more we embrace the unexpected, the faster we can pivot
Sandwich Technique - one layer of constructive criticism in between two layers of praise
Never run away from what makes you different
When you put others on a pedestal, you put yourself beneath them. You are holding them to an unrealistic standard & putting yourself down at the same time
When we feel intimidated, we want to hide. That is never the answer
Being taken advantage of is never to be confused with being too nice. Being too nice simply means you are a sweet person who has been taken advantage of
Choose to be your biggest cheerleader. If you don't believe wholeheartedly in yourself, why would anyone else
Sometimes our mind plays tricks on us & we need to show up to to see the real situation
A priority to us may not be a priority to others. They will have their own priorities so we need to move forward to advance our own initiatives yet be ready to circle back when needed. Timing is everything & just because it did not work the first time doesn't mean it won't work the second time around
The most important person for you to be nice to is you
The reality is that people are always more concerned & focussed on themselves & that frees us up to the truth that we are the only ones laser-focused on us
When you feel stuck, take the leap to hold yourself accountable. Successful people don't always know the how. they trust themselves to figure it out along the way
We may look at each other through rose-colored glasses at times. It's important to realize that other's look at us through those same glasses & although we may not know it yet, we can add value or teach someone how to do something. The only way you'll find out is if you show up & ask
Anytime we can find a common thread between ourselves & others, we develop connection & relatability, that is powerful
It is not how many no's you get. The truth is that you only need one yes.
When deciding if I should act on something, I ask what is the effort vs outcome ratio
My entire life I have believed that no communication meant the worst-case scenario. No communication is simply that, no communication. We need to be patient.
Amidst great uncertainty, we can always find uncertainty within
When you're facing a difficult time, focus on something that you look forward to in the near future. Once you reach that, create something new to focus on & look forward to
In any business transaction, both sides have to benefit or it is not sustainable
Holding the belief that tough times are temporary & there will be better days aheadwill carry us through the difficult moments
Done will always be better than perfect
Go all in on you & take the chance, even when it's scary because stepping into fear will always be the right answer
Sometimes putting in the hard work is not the answer. The ones who succeed are the ones who take the biggest risks
The way we remember situations in the past is not the same way others remember them. Our inner beliefs & perspectives at the time greatly influence how we recreate the memory in the future. Going back to a place years later forces you to confront the reality that others have versus the distortion that your memory has created
You can either claim your shame or your shame can claim you
We all have the ability & opportunity to believe something different & tell ourselves a different story - one that helps us achieve our goals instead of holding us back:
- Choose to tell yourself a story about the beliefs that you know you want in your life
- Choose to end negative self-talk & start talking to yourself the way you would a child you love
- Choose to place reminders throughout your life for the moments when you are low
- Choose to focus on gratitude & use past successful moments as proof that you will have more of them
- Choose to believe
Until we realize our value, no one else will either
When a door closes, it is up to you to reopen it or leave it behind. Don't wait around for opportunities to come knocking on your door, you might be waiting a long time
Once we are clear what the problem is, we can find a solution
'Tell me' is a sneaky command that will get you the information you need
It is just as easy to focus on potential solutions as it is to focus on current obstacles. By continuing to focus on different possibilities, we can find solutions
Sometimes you got to do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do
Helping others always pays dividends even if we don't see it immediately. Keep doing the right thing.
You are the key to opening opportunity doors
Thinking will not overcome fear but action will
Having big dreams & huge goals can be scary - you need to find a system that holds you accountable to your action plans
The greatest prison that people live is in the fear of what other people think
I don't lose - I either win or learn
Haters are a sign that you are succeeding. Haters are a sign that you are shining your light
The next time you feel fear, make the decision to say out loud how excited you are instead. Watch the shift happen as there is a fine line bw fear & excitement
Stepping into your fear is always the right answer
If your post about an achievement can inspire just one person, then it is worth it. Make it about that one person & not about you.
Instead of apologizing for everything, which makes it about you, reframe your apology to make it about the other person. Reframe sorry into gratitude
People who don't take action:
1. Perfectionism is a holdback & is just a cover for fear
2. If you are waiting for permission to go for something, just go for it
3. Many people will come up w reasons why they can't do something, find the reasons to take action
4. Many of us suffer from Imposter Syndrome - everyone starts at the beginning at some point
Having a goal without a timeline is just a dream
Leading with 'I am confused' is a great tactic to address a challenging situation
Giving our kids the knowledge they need to handle challenging moments in their lives empowers them to take on & solve these challenges themselves
No matter what something looks like on the outside, we never have any idea what is really going on in the inside
If you don't ask for what you want, you will surely not get it
The most important person you are ever going to get to know is the one staring back at you in the mirror. As you begin to know the real you, you will be able to own who you really are. Doing this will make you the most powerful version of yourself which allow you to achieve goals previously out of your grasp
You don't need to think smaller to keep yourself safe, you need to think bigger to make it work
Focus on what you want not what you don't want - Visualize it, feel what it feels like & stay in that feeling
It is essential to have people in your life who are ahead of you. When you surround yourself w successful people, they will inspire you to push past your current limitations & allow you to see something bigger in yourself than you did prior. Accessing knowledge from those who are light-years ahead of us is priceless
Knowledge is power? No knowledge on its own is nothing however the application of useful knowledge, that is powerful
Reframe your why not doubt into why
Unique value proposition email concept
Capture three things you are grateful for & remember them often
It may not be easy, but it is simple. Get moving
When we neglect to set expectations for a meeting, task or other event in our life, we are setting ourselves up for failure.
Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance
97% of people will give up & go work for the 3% that don't
To succeed in life, you've got to invest in yourself. You've got to grab every opportunity you can & see where it takes you
Business is a numbers game - you have to have multiple balls in the air to improve your chance of success
Gaining knowledge is the first step to wisdom; Sharing it is the first step to humanity
Comfort zones are what you are used to & what you have lulled yourself into believing are safe
You have to be in charge of your future - the world does not owe you anything & no one will offer you a free pass,
Successful people turn adversities into stepping stones to reach their goals. Setbacks should not stop you from doing what you love.
If you think you can, you can; if you think you can't, you can't
Your beliefs become your thoughts
your thoughts become your words
your words become your actions
your actions become your habits
your habits become your values
your values become your destiny
Bertter remain silent, better not even to think if you are not prepared to act
A true teacher would never tell you what to do; he would give you the knowledge with which you decide what is best for you to do
January 2, 2022
Overcome your villains really gave me motivation and energy. I am just completing my first year with my own business and reading about Heather's path the last few years and how she questioned herself or maybe listened to the wrong people but was able to face her fears and achieve success. I feel more energized and confident that I can do this in my life. It takes hard work and perseverance but it can be done.
October 19, 2023
Really enjoyed Heather’s book. Makes you think. Makes you reevaluate everything you think you know about yourself.
Very motivational. Lots of great quotes.
Very motivational. Lots of great quotes.
December 28, 2021
WOW. The first sentence “I got fired.” The last words, “…always fire your villains to set yourself up for takeoff.”
This book is incredible. I related to the lowest parts of this book way too well. The stories, exercises, motivation have helped a million times over.
Complimented with a few of Heather’s networking events, I’m consistently impressed by Heather’s strength, fortitude and desire to overcome adversity.
Heather, you’re amazing. Thank you for bringing your voice and honest experience to those also trying to grow
This book is incredible. I related to the lowest parts of this book way too well. The stories, exercises, motivation have helped a million times over.
Complimented with a few of Heather’s networking events, I’m consistently impressed by Heather’s strength, fortitude and desire to overcome adversity.
Heather, you’re amazing. Thank you for bringing your voice and honest experience to those also trying to grow
November 30, 2021
One of the keys to success is in letting go of the obstacles that we have allowed ourselves to hold onto.
What story are you telling yourself that is holding you back?
In Heather’s new book you’ll learn how to grow your confidence through beliefs, actions, and knowledge.
Heather’s 3-step process will help you reach your full potential.
This book is full of stories every reader can relate to and Heather’s process will challenge you to be your best self!
If you are looking to make some changes in your life but are not sure where to start… This is the book for you!
Highly recommend !
What story are you telling yourself that is holding you back?
In Heather’s new book you’ll learn how to grow your confidence through beliefs, actions, and knowledge.
Heather’s 3-step process will help you reach your full potential.
This book is full of stories every reader can relate to and Heather’s process will challenge you to be your best self!
If you are looking to make some changes in your life but are not sure where to start… This is the book for you!
Highly recommend !
November 17, 2021
Let me tell you, if you want encouragement, this book is it. 🙌🙌. If you want a 3-step process to #overcomeyourvillains, this is the book.
Heather is an absolutely amazing person inside and out, and has poured countless hours into writing a book that will give you the tools necessary to face any obstacle, any challenge and reach your full potential.
This book is filled will countless nuggets of wisdom and encouragement. A ton of stories that are so relatable whether you are young, old, male or female. This book will make an immediate impact!! Highly recommend to anyone and everyone!!
Heather is an absolutely amazing person inside and out, and has poured countless hours into writing a book that will give you the tools necessary to face any obstacle, any challenge and reach your full potential.
This book is filled will countless nuggets of wisdom and encouragement. A ton of stories that are so relatable whether you are young, old, male or female. This book will make an immediate impact!! Highly recommend to anyone and everyone!!
November 29, 2021
This was a great read!!! I really recommend this book to anybody who’s wanting to be an entrepreneur or for people who want to remove their villains! As we know the targeted audience is women for this book, however I believe the beliefs, concepts and principles in this book can apply to men as well. Now that I am finished with this book, I will be purchasing her 1st book “Confidence Creator.”
August 10, 2022
This (audio)book left me virtually out of breath with all the good nuggets in it. Monahan (also the reader) had me engaged from the get-go, nodding and furiously writing down little notes to myself. Her behind-the-scenes additions are high value, not to mention the PDF worksheet. In any event, if you're looking for a dynamic picker-upper, this is a must read / listen.
March 6, 2022
Heather Monahan's book Overcome Your Villains came to me at the exact time I needed it.
It was almost my 15th wedding anniversary and we were heading off to a cabin in Gatlinburg so I knew I'd have time to finish it there with a beautiful wooded view on the back deck.
There are so many powerful takeaways in the book, but my favorite things about the book were her open and honest stories and how she applied her life lessons.
There are a lot of books available for people to read—I get that—but this is a book you shouldn't pass up.
One of the things I underlined early in the book was "jumping out the window and realizing you've got wings and that they will open when you need them most."
There are many many more but you need to check out her book to underline your own favorite parts.
It was almost my 15th wedding anniversary and we were heading off to a cabin in Gatlinburg so I knew I'd have time to finish it there with a beautiful wooded view on the back deck.
There are so many powerful takeaways in the book, but my favorite things about the book were her open and honest stories and how she applied her life lessons.
There are a lot of books available for people to read—I get that—but this is a book you shouldn't pass up.
One of the things I underlined early in the book was "jumping out the window and realizing you've got wings and that they will open when you need them most."
There are many many more but you need to check out her book to underline your own favorite parts.
August 20, 2022
I appreciated and enjoyed the use of storytelling to illustrate points. The stories were interesting and well told. However, as a self-help book, it didn’t resonate with me at all. I do admire Heather’s ambition, and I am sure she will make it to where she wants to go in life because of this tremendous ambition and determination to do so. If you want to be successful like Heather, have a tremendous ambition and determination. There I saved you having to read this book. Unless you want to read the entertaining stories, then of course go for it.
January 26, 2022
Overcome Your Villains is a fantastic book for anyone facing adversity whether it is external or internal. Heathers conversational tone takes you through her own experiences from a young child do an executive at the height of her career. Her storytelling invites you to see yourself in areas of her journey and look at your own beliefs, actions and knowledge both in reflection and to equip yourself for future situations.
This book speaks to imposter syndrome, self belief and replaying the same narrative that doesn't move us forward. The beauty is Heather provides a roadmap to overcome these in a very achievable and sustainable way.
This book speaks to imposter syndrome, self belief and replaying the same narrative that doesn't move us forward. The beauty is Heather provides a roadmap to overcome these in a very achievable and sustainable way.
December 2, 2022
This is a great book on being true to yourself and refusing to shine your light because others might be intimidated, uncomfortable, or jealous. I could have used this a few years ago! A fun, entertaining, informative, and inspirational read. This book has a lot of wisdom mixed in with the author's experience. I think anyone could benefit from this book, and I highly recommend.
May 27, 2023
I loved this book! So relatable and inspiring. I was going through a difficult time when I came across this book, so I read it right when I needed it. This really helped me feel more confident and realize that everyone has ups and downs, but it’s how you bounce back from the “downs” that really matters!
November 24, 2021
Incredible confidence tools and actionable takeaways I learned to stop getting in my own way!!
October 11, 2022
Absolutely loved this book. It was exactly what I needed right now.
December 24, 2022
Inspiring. Timeless. Must read.
Filled with applicable advice and motivates forward thinking!
Filled with applicable advice and motivates forward thinking!
March 12, 2023
Heather is so inspiring! Both of her books are empowering and motivating. Can’t wait to see what else she has in store! 💕 Thank you!
August 30, 2023
An excellent book for dealing with the naysayers in your life, whether that’s other people or your own mind.
March 7, 2024
Good book that took a little getting into. Some of the writing was dry to me. Overall an okay read but not my cup of tea.
April 7, 2024
Every woman should read it !
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