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Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship
She was frustrated! Feeling second to the department again had begun to breed indifference and contempt in her relationship. As a mental health and couple's counselor, she knew those were bad omens. Despite her training, she could not figure out what was happening with them. Then, a speaker at a professional conference, gave insight that ignited a passion to understand her law enforcement husband and empower them as a couple to protect their relationship. Learn the research, psychology, and personal experiences when combined created an ah-ha moment that led to improved communication, connection, and ultimately resilience as individuals and together.
Impact of law enforcement culture and experience on the officer and spouse
The psychology behind the law enforcement brain and the impact on behavior and beliefs.
Spillover from the field that may impact the spouse and family and techniques counter it.
The conflict between what experts say creates a connected and intimate relationship versus the conditioning that occurs in law enforcement.
Strategies for improved communication and connection based upon researched principles.
Perspective-taking and other core strategies that can recover and protect you individually and as a couple.
Using personal stories, professional expertise, and research couples will be entertained and empowered to Hold the Line.
Impact of law enforcement culture and experience on the officer and spouse
The psychology behind the law enforcement brain and the impact on behavior and beliefs.
Spillover from the field that may impact the spouse and family and techniques counter it.
The conflict between what experts say creates a connected and intimate relationship versus the conditioning that occurs in law enforcement.
Strategies for improved communication and connection based upon researched principles.
Perspective-taking and other core strategies that can recover and protect you individually and as a couple.
Using personal stories, professional expertise, and research couples will be entertained and empowered to Hold the Line.
200 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 14, 2021
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April 21, 2026What a strange book. The raw information is pretty good and will be helpful for me at work. Her spin on the information is a little weird. The editing is terrible, girl fire your editor.
April 15, 2021
When Cyndi shared with me the outline of her book Hold the Line, I knew this book needed to be written.
Throughout the process of writing, I had the privilege of walking alongside Cyndi as she wrestled with herself making sure she created something that is useful, that is applicable, and that people can relate to
She has achieved this hands down.
I wish I had had this book when I was working with Police, Fire and Ambulance officers. This book has helped me develop the cultural competency to understand what life is like for these people who so willingly serve in our communities.
Reading this book now has helped me understand my first responder friends so I can be more mindful of their needs, demands and create opportunities to connect more meaningfully with them.
Throughout the process of writing, I had the privilege of walking alongside Cyndi as she wrestled with herself making sure she created something that is useful, that is applicable, and that people can relate to
She has achieved this hands down.
I wish I had had this book when I was working with Police, Fire and Ambulance officers. This book has helped me develop the cultural competency to understand what life is like for these people who so willingly serve in our communities.
Reading this book now has helped me understand my first responder friends so I can be more mindful of their needs, demands and create opportunities to connect more meaningfully with them.
April 13, 2026
I’m not sure who edited this book but please do better next time.
Moving on.
She emphasizes the relationship between a spouse and police officer, but the content could apply to any relationship with any first responder, not JUST romantic relationships.
I did not like the writing style at all. It felt like reading a rough draft or diary. It was very hard for me to finish this book. That being said, there were some nuggets of wisdom scattered throughout the book.
If you have any type of relationship with a first responder, this is a good intro course to help understand a little bit about why that person is the way that they are as a result of their job.
Moving on.
She emphasizes the relationship between a spouse and police officer, but the content could apply to any relationship with any first responder, not JUST romantic relationships.
I did not like the writing style at all. It felt like reading a rough draft or diary. It was very hard for me to finish this book. That being said, there were some nuggets of wisdom scattered throughout the book.
If you have any type of relationship with a first responder, this is a good intro course to help understand a little bit about why that person is the way that they are as a result of their job.
June 5, 2023
I recommend it to anyone connected to a LEO and even people who are not supportive of law enforcement. Any first responder for that matter. It’s crazy how law enforcement can impact your life on and off the job. Especially when your brain becomes conditioned to always being in a state of “alert”. This book is a walk in their shoes along with their family. The insight this book gives is extremely useful!
June 12, 2021
This is a must read if you’re a law enforcement spouse. A great meat and potatoes book from the spouse’s perceptive with the added bonus of a Licensed Professional Counselor.
September 5, 2022
A must read for any law enforcement couple! This book is fairly short but holds so much useful information.
December 20, 2022
This is a pretty good book. The author wrote a lot about her experience and it did lose my attention quite a few times, but I think the book did have some great advice and takeaways.
October 21, 2024
It is absolutely amazing and insightful for law enforcement, but general relationship support!
March 30, 2025
This is a great read for anyone in the LE community!
November 25, 2025
A fantastic book that should be read by each LEO spouse.
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