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Fear of Missing Out
Apa yang sebenarnya kita lewatkan? FOMO, yang pertama kali muncul dalam artikel Harvard Business School, menjadi istilah global untuk kondisi tak nyaman ketika kita berpikir orang lain memiliki pengalaman yang lebih baik dan lebih kaya daripada diri kita. Diperkuat dengan maraknya media sosial, FOMO telah menjadi krisis budaya. Lalu apa obatnya? Patrick McGinnis, pencipta istilah FOMO, telah memikirkannya selama tujuh belas tahun dan menemukan solusinya: pengambilan keputusan. Belajar menimbang biaya dan manfaat dari pilihan yang kita ambil, membuat skala prioritas untuk keputusan-keputusan kita, dan mendengarkan suara hati sangatlah penting untuk meredakan FOMO dan kerabat dekatnya, FOBO—Fear of a Better Option. Buku yang dilengkapi bagian evaluasi diri ini membantu kita memastikan dan menyingkirkan bagian-bagian dalam hidup yang lebih sering menimbulkan kecemasan daripada kebahagiaan.
300 pages, Paperback
Published March 31, 2021
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About the author
Patrick J. McGinnis
4 books35 followersPatrick J. McGinnis is a venture capitalist and private equity investor who founded Dirigo Advisors, after a decade on Wall Street, to provide strategic advice to investors, entrepreneurs, and fast growing businesses. In this capacity, he has worked in a range of settings, from building startups from the ground up in Silicon Valley to acting as an expert consultant to the World Bank in Latin America, Africa, and the Middle East.
As a 10% Entrepreneur, he has built a diverse portfolio of investments outside of his day job. This portfolio encompasses fast growing new ventures in the United States, Latin America, Europe, and Asia, including ipsy, the world’s largest online beauty community; Bluesmart, the inventor of the world’s first smart, connected carry-on suitcase; and Afiniti, a big data company that is reinventing the call center industry. He has also been a partner in several real estate investments and is a seed investor in the upcoming London stage adaptation of The Last King of Scotland.
An avid traveler, writer, and speaker, Patrick has visited more than 70 countries and is fluent in Spanish, Portuguese, and French.
He is the author of The 10% Entrepreneur, published by Penguin Portfolio Books. He also writes for Fortune, Business Insider, Huffington Post, Boston Magazine, and Forbes.
Patrick is a graduate of Harvard Business School and Georgetown University and lives in New York City.
As a 10% Entrepreneur, he has built a diverse portfolio of investments outside of his day job. This portfolio encompasses fast growing new ventures in the United States, Latin America, Europe, and Asia, including ipsy, the world’s largest online beauty community; Bluesmart, the inventor of the world’s first smart, connected carry-on suitcase; and Afiniti, a big data company that is reinventing the call center industry. He has also been a partner in several real estate investments and is a seed investor in the upcoming London stage adaptation of The Last King of Scotland.
An avid traveler, writer, and speaker, Patrick has visited more than 70 countries and is fluent in Spanish, Portuguese, and French.
He is the author of The 10% Entrepreneur, published by Penguin Portfolio Books. He also writes for Fortune, Business Insider, Huffington Post, Boston Magazine, and Forbes.
Patrick is a graduate of Harvard Business School and Georgetown University and lives in New York City.
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March 9, 2021
71 - 2021
Bersyukurlah apabila menjadi orang yang kurang update, anti mainstream, dan pikir panjaaaang kalau mau ambil keputusan, apalagi yang berefek finansial.
Bukan FOMO Sapiens itu nikmat, bisa merasakan JOMO itu sedap.
Bersyukurlah apabila menjadi orang yang kurang update, anti mainstream, dan pikir panjaaaang kalau mau ambil keputusan, apalagi yang berefek finansial.
Bukan FOMO Sapiens itu nikmat, bisa merasakan JOMO itu sedap.
April 6, 2020
Have you ever heard about FOMO/FOBO???
Read this one...…..
3.5 STARS ! ! !
Thanks for Netgalley & respective publisher for sending me a copy.
Comprehensively, this book would change the perception of Decision making of one.
It tells us how we are dealing with FOMO & FOBO in different situations, how different successful people counters and solved those hardships.
I like the various wonderful examples given by Author.
It's kind of an essay on FOMO & FOBO. How it has started and how technology is playing vital role in this process.
It has some wonderful quote after the heading of every chapter which was incredible.
FOMO
/ˈfəʊməʊ/
nouninformal
noun: FOMO
anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.
"I realized I was a lifelong sufferer of FOMO"
FOBO : Indecision when the decision is simple, or the options all acceptable, is the defining characteristic of “fear of better options” – or Fobo – a social phenomenon coined by Patrick McGinnis, a US venture capitalist and the man known for coining the term Fomo, or fear of missing out.
Read this one...…..
3.5 STARS ! ! !
Thanks for Netgalley & respective publisher for sending me a copy.
Comprehensively, this book would change the perception of Decision making of one.
It tells us how we are dealing with FOMO & FOBO in different situations, how different successful people counters and solved those hardships.
I like the various wonderful examples given by Author.
It's kind of an essay on FOMO & FOBO. How it has started and how technology is playing vital role in this process.
It has some wonderful quote after the heading of every chapter which was incredible.
FOMO
/ˈfəʊməʊ/
nouninformal
noun: FOMO
anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.
"I realized I was a lifelong sufferer of FOMO"
FOBO : Indecision when the decision is simple, or the options all acceptable, is the defining characteristic of “fear of better options” – or Fobo – a social phenomenon coined by Patrick McGinnis, a US venture capitalist and the man known for coining the term Fomo, or fear of missing out.
December 29, 2019
I got a digital edition of the advanced review copy of this book.
By bringing the topic up for discussion the author has begun to address the biggest affliction that the young generation of today faces. The author shares some interesting ways to first identify and accept the FO’s (FOMO & FOBO). He also goes on to share some strategies to address them & in some cases use it as a leverage for our own good.
In my opinion this only scratches the surface of the topic and we still need to go much deeper to be really address the challenges of the FO’s of our generations!!
By bringing the topic up for discussion the author has begun to address the biggest affliction that the young generation of today faces. The author shares some interesting ways to first identify and accept the FO’s (FOMO & FOBO). He also goes on to share some strategies to address them & in some cases use it as a leverage for our own good.
In my opinion this only scratches the surface of the topic and we still need to go much deeper to be really address the challenges of the FO’s of our generations!!
July 18, 2022
Avevo sentito parlare di FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out - paura di essere tagliati fuori) diverse volte ma non avevo approfondito l'argomento.
L'autore ha coniato i termini FOMO e FOBO (Fear Of Best Option - paura della scelta migliore) e ne spiega il significato e come "uscirne", o meglio come gestirle a proprio vantaggio.
Sono temi molto attuali legati alla iperconnessione ma non solo.
Mi è piaciuto molto!
L'autore ha coniato i termini FOMO e FOBO (Fear Of Best Option - paura della scelta migliore) e ne spiega il significato e come "uscirne", o meglio come gestirle a proprio vantaggio.
Sono temi molto attuali legati alla iperconnessione ma non solo.
Mi è piaciuto molto!
May 10, 2023
Aku saranin temen temen baca buku ini soalnya asli sih buku ini berimpact dan berinsightful bgt untuk jaman sekarang yang bawaan kita FOMO apalagi dlm kehidupan sehari-hari kita , or seengganya baca sekali dalam seumur hidup deh beneran baaaagus bener 🙂❤️🔥💯
January 9, 2023
Proseravanje teško
June 28, 2021
It's proving surprisingly hard not to make some sort of Daddish Fomo comment to start of this review, so I'm just going to stick to a familar format.
I can actually remember FOMO first happening as a term back in the naughties and ironically thinking it was the stupidiest thing I ever heard. This was long before social media proper, Streaming Services, Meme stocks or whatever other things I'm missing out on.
So yeah FOMO is most definitely a real thing, and a real important thing to be learned up on. It's not just about social media and how we communicate its about having frantic lives filled with pressure and learning ways to manage that, FOMO (and the similar less common FOBO - fear of a better option is important to understand and handle.
Generally speaking this is a pretty straightforward and charming book on the topic, funny, informative and useful its highly recommended, just one slight niggle in that I felt like the material was a little stretched, there was a fair amount of repetition and IMO the book probably could have been a few chapters shorter - nothing too criminal though it is a relatively quick read anyway.
I can actually remember FOMO first happening as a term back in the naughties and ironically thinking it was the stupidiest thing I ever heard. This was long before social media proper, Streaming Services, Meme stocks or whatever other things I'm missing out on.
So yeah FOMO is most definitely a real thing, and a real important thing to be learned up on. It's not just about social media and how we communicate its about having frantic lives filled with pressure and learning ways to manage that, FOMO (and the similar less common FOBO - fear of a better option is important to understand and handle.
Generally speaking this is a pretty straightforward and charming book on the topic, funny, informative and useful its highly recommended, just one slight niggle in that I felt like the material was a little stretched, there was a fair amount of repetition and IMO the book probably could have been a few chapters shorter - nothing too criminal though it is a relatively quick read anyway.
March 10, 2020
The book focuses on FOMO ( Fear of Missing Out) and FOBO (Fear of Better Options). These concepts rule the lives of billions of people around the world without even realizing it from time to time. Of course the grasp of these concepts individually differs from other human being.
I find the book generally easy to read and full of wisdom. The concepts are well explained and sometimes hard to swallow due to its implications in my life.
At this day and age this book is truly relevant. We are bombarded with choices and this book can help anchor us so we won’t get lost.
I find the book generally easy to read and full of wisdom. The concepts are well explained and sometimes hard to swallow due to its implications in my life.
At this day and age this book is truly relevant. We are bombarded with choices and this book can help anchor us so we won’t get lost.
May 16, 2022
Make sensible decisions, lessen your choices. Did we really need a book to tell us that?
The books works to a certain extent, talking about fomosapiens and fobosapiens and helping us understand how we got there. Beyond that, to each his/her own.
Detailed review coming soon.
The books works to a certain extent, talking about fomosapiens and fobosapiens and helping us understand how we got there. Beyond that, to each his/her own.
Detailed review coming soon.
November 22, 2021
2.5/5 es muy interesante, pero sinceramente no me contó nada nuevo que no supiera de FOMO
February 25, 2022
FOMO sapiens-adalah kita-manusia yang memiliki rasa takut tertinggal dari orang lain. Hal ini juga diamini oleh penulis sekaligus pencetus istilah FOMO ini, yakni Patrick J. McGinnis sang penulis buku ini.
Jika kita mulai mengukur diri berdasarkan jumlah like, hanya kekecewaan yang akan kita dapatkan. Mengapa begitu? sebab, afirmasi eksternal, yaitu yang datang dari orang lain, tidak akan berlangsung selamanya (hlm.37)
Salah satu kutipan yang langsung membuatku merasa tersentil, karena sebagai pengguna media sosial yang isinya tidak jauh dari like, comment, follow, ataupun subscribe, sudah pasti membutuhkan hal-hal itu untuk mengonfirmasi bahwa eksistensi kita dapat diketahui orang lain. Untuk itu, kalau kita hanya mendapat like atau subscriber yang sedikit dibanding orang lain, kita akan merasa kecewa.
Nah di buku ini kita akan diajak untuk memahami FOMO dan bagaimana cara kita untuk menghadapinya.
Di buku ini juga ada bagian pertanyaan evaluasi diri yang berisi 10 pertanyaan terkait persepsi kita, dengan memberikan skor 1 (sama sekali tidak sesuai) hingga 5 (sangat sesuai dengan diri saya). kemudian hasilnya dirata-ratakan. Jika skor rata-ratanya di bawah 3, maka kita sama dengan orang kebanyakan. Tapi, jika skor rata-rata lebih dari 3, kita bisa dikatakan bagian dari FOMO Sapiens. (fyi, skor rata-rata aku 1,7).
Selain FOMO kita juga akan menemukan istilah lain, yaitu FOBO atau fear of better option. Di mana kita merasa takut untuk memilih keputusan karena mungkin di depan sana akan ada pilihan lain yang lebih baik dari yang ada saat ini. Sehingga kita sulit menentukan antara ya atau tidak. Hal ini juga bisa membuat kita tega memberikan ketidakpastian kepada orang lain. sehingga nyaris mustahil kita dapat membuat komitmen. Pernahkah kita membuat janji dengan seseorang tapi kemudian membatalkan begitu saja? Jika pernah, maka kita berada pada spektrum FOBO, jenis ini bisa sangat merugikan orang lain. Seperti sebelumnya, di buku ini juga terdapat evaluasi diri untuk mengetahui apakah kita termasuk FOBO sapiens (jika skor rata-rata di atas 3) terdiri dari 7 pertanyaan untuk diri sendiri, dan 3 pertanyaan untuk orang lain.
Inti dari buku ini yang bisa aku ambil mengenai FOMO adalah kita tidak perlu mengikuti tren yang belum kita pahami sepenuhnya, karena akibatnya bisa jadi akan merugikan kita. Begitu juga dengan FOBO, jika kita dihadapkan dengan banyak pilihan dalam satu waktu, pilihlah yang menurut kita memang yang terbaik, tidak perlu menunggu lagi. karena belum tentu di kemudian hari menemukan tawaran yang sama, bisa jadi kita malah tertinggal karena tidak bisa membuat keputusan saat ini.
Baik FOMO maupun FOBO, keduanya bisa bermanfaat untuk kita, asalkan bisa mengendalikannya.
Jika kita mulai mengukur diri berdasarkan jumlah like, hanya kekecewaan yang akan kita dapatkan. Mengapa begitu? sebab, afirmasi eksternal, yaitu yang datang dari orang lain, tidak akan berlangsung selamanya (hlm.37)
Salah satu kutipan yang langsung membuatku merasa tersentil, karena sebagai pengguna media sosial yang isinya tidak jauh dari like, comment, follow, ataupun subscribe, sudah pasti membutuhkan hal-hal itu untuk mengonfirmasi bahwa eksistensi kita dapat diketahui orang lain. Untuk itu, kalau kita hanya mendapat like atau subscriber yang sedikit dibanding orang lain, kita akan merasa kecewa.
Nah di buku ini kita akan diajak untuk memahami FOMO dan bagaimana cara kita untuk menghadapinya.
Di buku ini juga ada bagian pertanyaan evaluasi diri yang berisi 10 pertanyaan terkait persepsi kita, dengan memberikan skor 1 (sama sekali tidak sesuai) hingga 5 (sangat sesuai dengan diri saya). kemudian hasilnya dirata-ratakan. Jika skor rata-ratanya di bawah 3, maka kita sama dengan orang kebanyakan. Tapi, jika skor rata-rata lebih dari 3, kita bisa dikatakan bagian dari FOMO Sapiens. (fyi, skor rata-rata aku 1,7).
Selain FOMO kita juga akan menemukan istilah lain, yaitu FOBO atau fear of better option. Di mana kita merasa takut untuk memilih keputusan karena mungkin di depan sana akan ada pilihan lain yang lebih baik dari yang ada saat ini. Sehingga kita sulit menentukan antara ya atau tidak. Hal ini juga bisa membuat kita tega memberikan ketidakpastian kepada orang lain. sehingga nyaris mustahil kita dapat membuat komitmen. Pernahkah kita membuat janji dengan seseorang tapi kemudian membatalkan begitu saja? Jika pernah, maka kita berada pada spektrum FOBO, jenis ini bisa sangat merugikan orang lain. Seperti sebelumnya, di buku ini juga terdapat evaluasi diri untuk mengetahui apakah kita termasuk FOBO sapiens (jika skor rata-rata di atas 3) terdiri dari 7 pertanyaan untuk diri sendiri, dan 3 pertanyaan untuk orang lain.
Inti dari buku ini yang bisa aku ambil mengenai FOMO adalah kita tidak perlu mengikuti tren yang belum kita pahami sepenuhnya, karena akibatnya bisa jadi akan merugikan kita. Begitu juga dengan FOBO, jika kita dihadapkan dengan banyak pilihan dalam satu waktu, pilihlah yang menurut kita memang yang terbaik, tidak perlu menunggu lagi. karena belum tentu di kemudian hari menemukan tawaran yang sama, bisa jadi kita malah tertinggal karena tidak bisa membuat keputusan saat ini.
Baik FOMO maupun FOBO, keduanya bisa bermanfaat untuk kita, asalkan bisa mengendalikannya.
February 15, 2021
Akhirnya setelah sekian lama baca buku ini baru kelar 😂
Garis besarnya buku ini menceritakan tentang suatu kondisi dimana kita tidak mau merasa tertinggal dengan kondisi yg sedang terjadi di dunia maya, kita seringkali terpengaruh dengan influencer terkenal. Kita seringkali membeli barang/ menginginkan barang hanya karena keinginan kita tanpa memikirkan dampak secara panjang.
Ada juga saking banyak pilihan dalam hidup kita tidak mampu untuk memilih disebut FOBO. Cara terbaik mengendalikan FOMO dan FOBO adalah mindfullness - mengosongkan pikiran agar pikiran kita tidak memikirkan hal lain
Bagus sayangnya di akhir2 halaman saya bored banget 😭
Garis besarnya buku ini menceritakan tentang suatu kondisi dimana kita tidak mau merasa tertinggal dengan kondisi yg sedang terjadi di dunia maya, kita seringkali terpengaruh dengan influencer terkenal. Kita seringkali membeli barang/ menginginkan barang hanya karena keinginan kita tanpa memikirkan dampak secara panjang.
Ada juga saking banyak pilihan dalam hidup kita tidak mampu untuk memilih disebut FOBO. Cara terbaik mengendalikan FOMO dan FOBO adalah mindfullness - mengosongkan pikiran agar pikiran kita tidak memikirkan hal lain
Bagus sayangnya di akhir2 halaman saya bored banget 😭
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April 23, 2020
Insightful, thought-provoking, and charming.
This book read like a conversation with your favourite sociology professor.
A perfect read for all generations, not just millennials. In fact, it might just help us all understand each other a little better.
I would definitely fear missing out on this book.
It's easy, it's relateable, and there's something for everyone in it.
Thank you Netgalley and Sourcebooks for this e-ARC.
This book read like a conversation with your favourite sociology professor.
A perfect read for all generations, not just millennials. In fact, it might just help us all understand each other a little better.
I would definitely fear missing out on this book.
It's easy, it's relateable, and there's something for everyone in it.
Thank you Netgalley and Sourcebooks for this e-ARC.
November 22, 2020
The timing I read this book was exactly the right time. Ugh, I just realized that I'm a FOMO sapiens and FOBO sapiens. Okay, lets start to deal with that~
Live the enjoy life, without fear of missing something. Let's accept the fact that we cant do everything at all. Choose our priority and keep focus on it. Try ourselves to discipline and clear every distractions. Don't giving your full attention to unimportant things.
Live the enjoy life, without fear of missing something. Let's accept the fact that we cant do everything at all. Choose our priority and keep focus on it. Try ourselves to discipline and clear every distractions. Don't giving your full attention to unimportant things.
July 13, 2021
3.5/5
Buku ini memberikan info yg bagus banget terkait FOMO dan FOBO.
Lumayan buat nambah ilmu.
Suka.
Buku ini memberikan info yg bagus banget terkait FOMO dan FOBO.
Lumayan buat nambah ilmu.
Suka.
May 10, 2021
หนังสือที่สร้างความเข้าใจในธรรมชาติของ FOMO
ที่มนุษย์ทุกคนเป็นกั���ทุกคน เนื้อหาเล่าความเป็นมา และวิธีรับมือกับ FOMO รวมถึง FO ต่างๆ
และทำให้เราได้เข้าใจลักษณะของ Fo ทั้งหลายทั้งในตัวเองและในตัวคนอื่น
ที่มนุษย์ทุกคนเป็นกั���ทุกคน เนื้อหาเล่าความเป็นมา และวิธีรับมือกับ FOMO รวมถึง FO ต่างๆ
และทำให้เราได้เข้าใจลักษณะของ Fo ทั้งหลายทั้งในตัวเองและในตัวคนอื่น
January 28, 2022
４⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Cuốn này lúc mình đang đọc dở thấy hay mà đọc xong lại thấy không để lại nhiều dư âm như những cuốn khác. Có lẽ vì cách tiếp cận & liên kết hơi lạ chăng? Nhưng có quá trời những đoạn nhỏ muốn đọc lại luôn ^_^
Bị thu hút bởi từ khoá “fomo” nên mua sách, nhưng lúc xem mục lục & đọc thấy sách được tác giả viết từ gốc của fomo luôn & phạm vi rất rộng, chứ không phải riêng gì tâm lý fomo trong đầu cơ như suy nghĩ ban đầu của mình.
Đoạn đầu & đoạn giữa hơi căng thẳng, đoạn cuối đọc thư giãn hơn.
Fomo đã được đưa vào từ điển tiếng Anh Oxford năm 2013 mà giờ mới biết, lạc hậu ghê.
Cuốn sách phù hợp với những bạn:
-Nghiện mạng xã hội
-Hay hướng tâm ra bên ngoài & hay để ý nhỏ nhặt không đáng
-Hay để ý ánh mắt của mọi người xung quanh
-Không có sở thích, đam mê, thú vui, sự quan tâm riêng thấy ai làm gì cũng húng theo, dễ bị chi phối
-Không trân trọng những gì mình đang có mà hay đi so sánh với người khác rồi mất thời gian, năng lượng quý giá cho căng thẳng, bất an, đố kị, trầm cảm & xao lãng.
-Hay phân vân trì hoãn & quá cân nhắc khi phải quyết định điều gì đó
-Cầu toàn & hoàn hảo
-Muốn hiểu rõ hơn về tâm lý FOMO, FOBO, FODA
-Muốn tỉnh táo hơn bớt bị truyền thông tẩy não
-Muốn ứng dụng vào đầu cơ, đầu tư
-Muốn đa nhiệm mà không ôm đồm
Đọc xong cuốn sách này bạn sẽ
-Có màng lọc cho riêng mình
-Hạnh phúc hơn & biết biết ơn những gì đang có
-Quyết đoán
-Bớt sống ảo & phông bạt, tập trung hơn vào bản thân & thực tế & vào những thứ bạn ưu tiên, cho là quan trọng
-Làm chủ bản thân & cuộc sống
Nhiều điều mới & hay chưa biết ạ. Cảm ơn bác tác giả rất nhiều ạ.
Cuốn này lúc mình đang đọc dở thấy hay mà đọc xong lại thấy không để lại nhiều dư âm như những cuốn khác. Có lẽ vì cách tiếp cận & liên kết hơi lạ chăng? Nhưng có quá trời những đoạn nhỏ muốn đọc lại luôn ^_^
Bị thu hút bởi từ khoá “fomo” nên mua sách, nhưng lúc xem mục lục & đọc thấy sách được tác giả viết từ gốc của fomo luôn & phạm vi rất rộng, chứ không phải riêng gì tâm lý fomo trong đầu cơ như suy nghĩ ban đầu của mình.
Đoạn đầu & đoạn giữa hơi căng thẳng, đoạn cuối đọc thư giãn hơn.
Fomo đã được đưa vào từ điển tiếng Anh Oxford năm 2013 mà giờ mới biết, lạc hậu ghê.
Cuốn sách phù hợp với những bạn:
-Nghiện mạng xã hội
-Hay hướng tâm ra bên ngoài & hay để ý nhỏ nhặt không đáng
-Hay để ý ánh mắt của mọi người xung quanh
-Không có sở thích, đam mê, thú vui, sự quan tâm riêng thấy ai làm gì cũng húng theo, dễ bị chi phối
-Không trân trọng những gì mình đang có mà hay đi so sánh với người khác rồi mất thời gian, năng lượng quý giá cho căng thẳng, bất an, đố kị, trầm cảm & xao lãng.
-Hay phân vân trì hoãn & quá cân nhắc khi phải quyết định điều gì đó
-Cầu toàn & hoàn hảo
-Muốn hiểu rõ hơn về tâm lý FOMO, FOBO, FODA
-Muốn tỉnh táo hơn bớt bị truyền thông tẩy não
-Muốn ứng dụng vào đầu cơ, đầu tư
-Muốn đa nhiệm mà không ôm đồm
Đọc xong cuốn sách này bạn sẽ
-Có màng lọc cho riêng mình
-Hạnh phúc hơn & biết biết ơn những gì đang có
-Quyết đoán
-Bớt sống ảo & phông bạt, tập trung hơn vào bản thân & thực tế & vào những thứ bạn ưu tiên, cho là quan trọng
-Làm chủ bản thân & cuộc sống
Nhiều điều mới & hay chưa biết ạ. Cảm ơn bác tác giả rất nhiều ạ.
May 5, 2020
So what is FOMO? The Fear of Missing Out, of course. It’s not a new fear. It used to be called “Keeping Up with the Jones”. Now with social media everywhere, the Jones are not just your neighbors but literally anyone on the planet. It was renamed by the author in 2004. Here is the explanation in the author’s own words.
“Just as Homo sapiens displaced Homo erectus, modern humankind is itself giving way to a new species: FOMO sapiens. <…> In its natural habitat, FOMO sapiens can be observed yearning for all of the things, either real or imagined, that could make life perfect, if only it could have them or do them at this very moment.”
I wish there was less time spent explaining both FOMO and FOBO (fear of a better option). Please, just cut to the cure. Plus I’m not totally sold on the whole FOBO phenomena idea. It seems pretty un-fetch to me (pointless Clueless movie reference).
Fear of Missing Out is a real issue for probably millions of Americans. I agree with the book that the first step is realizing you have a problem. The goal is to be decisive and never look back. I think the book describes a sound plan to get from one to the other. But I didn’t need fully half of the book to define the two terms. 3 stars.
Thanks to Sourcebooks and NetGalley for a copy in exchange for my honest review.
“Just as Homo sapiens displaced Homo erectus, modern humankind is itself giving way to a new species: FOMO sapiens. <…> In its natural habitat, FOMO sapiens can be observed yearning for all of the things, either real or imagined, that could make life perfect, if only it could have them or do them at this very moment.”
I wish there was less time spent explaining both FOMO and FOBO (fear of a better option). Please, just cut to the cure. Plus I’m not totally sold on the whole FOBO phenomena idea. It seems pretty un-fetch to me (pointless Clueless movie reference).
Fear of Missing Out is a real issue for probably millions of Americans. I agree with the book that the first step is realizing you have a problem. The goal is to be decisive and never look back. I think the book describes a sound plan to get from one to the other. But I didn’t need fully half of the book to define the two terms. 3 stars.
Thanks to Sourcebooks and NetGalley for a copy in exchange for my honest review.
January 25, 2021
Hmm. Buku ini mengawali pembahasannya dengan solid bahwa ada "kebiasaan buruk di dunia modern" bernama FOMO,.FOBO, & FODA.. menjelaskan masing-masing istilah, hingga memaparkan gejala & diagnosis ringkas melalui survey sederhana.. dan beberapa bagian dijelaskan secara konyol pula.
Secara struktur keseluruhan pun buku ini cukup baik karena memberi gambaran dampak FOMO, FOBO, & FODA pada diri sendiri dan orang lain, faktor pemicunya, plus bagaimana menanganinya. Semua sangat bermanfaat & dapat dipraktikkan di hidup saya. Namun, satu bintang terakhir tak bisa saya berikan karena pada beberapa bahasan, penulis cukup bertele-tele atau memberi contoh yang tidak terlalu signifikan yang mengurangi flow saat membacanya.
Saya sebenarnya juga berharap banyak saat penulis menyebut beberapa "pasukan" yang telah membantunya meramu isi buku ini, khususnya dalam solusi.. sayang sampai akhir harapan itu hanya tipis-tipis terwujud.
Kita berharap saja ada sekuel lanjutannya. Karena insight dari podcast FOMO Sapiens seharusnya dapat membuat penulis berbicara lebih banyak terkait FOMO, FOBO, & FODA.
Secara struktur keseluruhan pun buku ini cukup baik karena memberi gambaran dampak FOMO, FOBO, & FODA pada diri sendiri dan orang lain, faktor pemicunya, plus bagaimana menanganinya. Semua sangat bermanfaat & dapat dipraktikkan di hidup saya. Namun, satu bintang terakhir tak bisa saya berikan karena pada beberapa bahasan, penulis cukup bertele-tele atau memberi contoh yang tidak terlalu signifikan yang mengurangi flow saat membacanya.
Saya sebenarnya juga berharap banyak saat penulis menyebut beberapa "pasukan" yang telah membantunya meramu isi buku ini, khususnya dalam solusi.. sayang sampai akhir harapan itu hanya tipis-tipis terwujud.
Kita berharap saja ada sekuel lanjutannya. Karena insight dari podcast FOMO Sapiens seharusnya dapat membuat penulis berbicara lebih banyak terkait FOMO, FOBO, & FODA.
October 28, 2021
FOMO Sapiens
Just as you could identify Homohabilis by its stone tools, FOMO sapiens exhibits a few tell-tale characteristics. In its natural habitat, FOMO sapiens can be observed yearning for all of the things, either real or imagined, that could make life perfect, if only it could have them or do them at this very moment. It’s so distracted that if it had any natural predators, it would make for shockingly easy prey.
The Fos
FOMO – Fear of Missing Out
Do you ever get stressed out when you come across those delightful (read: highly selective, filtered, and cropped) photos posted by friends, family, and celebrities to your social media feed? As you scroll, you may notice that a feeling starts to build within you, perhaps best understood as a sense of anxiety. While you’re playing with your phone, it occurs to you that all of these people are living lives that are far more interesting, exciting, successful, and, frankly, Instagramable than yours. This feeling is called FOMO, short for Fear of Missing Out, and its effects are widespread.
FOMO \ ˈfō-(ˌ)mō \ Noun. Informal
1. Unwanted anxiety provoked by the perception, often aggravated via social media, that others are having experiences that are more satisfying than yours.
2. Social pressure resulting from the realization that you will miss out on or be excluded from a positive or memorable collective experience.
FOMO causes you to feel as if your life is not up to snuff based on a bunch of notions that probably don’t even correspond to reality. This gap between what you have and what you wish you had is what drives negativity, stress, and unhappiness. The more time you spend building up those feelings, the worse things get since reality will never be able to compete with your imagination.
Types of FOMO
Aspirational FOMO, which is driven by the perception, enabled by an asymmetry of information, that a thing or experience is better than what you have in front of you at the moment; and
Herd FOMO, which is fed by a desire for inclusion and a compulsion to partake in what you feel you’re missing.
FOBO – Fear of a Better Options
FOBO \ ˈfō-(ˌ)bō \ Noun. Informal 1. An anxiety-driven urge to hold out for something better based on the perception that a more favorable alternative or choice might exist. 2. A compulsion to preserve option value that delays decision-making or postpones it indefinitely. 3. Behavior that turns you into an entitled a**hole.
FOBO, or Fear of a Better Option, is the anxiety that something better will come along, which makes it undesirable to commit to existing choices when making a decision. It’s an affliction of abundance that drives you to keep all of your options open and to hedge your bets. As a result, you live in a world of maybes, stringing yourself and others along. Rather than assessing your options, choosing one, and moving on with your day, you delay the inevitable. It’s not unlike hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock only to pull the covers over your head and fall back asleep.
FODA—Fear of Doing Anything.
When you combine FOMO and FOBO, you end up paralyzed with a critical case of FODA—Fear of Doing Anything.
FOBO, on its own, can greatly hamper decision-making, but when you combine it with FOMO, it can lead to a Fear of Doing Anything, or FODA, and the results can be catastrophic. This phenomenon occurs when your desire to try to do everything (FOMO) crashes into your need to keep all of your options open (FOBO).
When you have FODA, you are pulled in two directions at once. Part of you is keen to run in this or that direction in pursuit of something that you perceive to be better and more rewarding than what you have at the moment. At the same time, you are unable to commit to any of those potential options. You aren’t sure where to run, and you loathe the notion of settling for just one alternative. As a result, you run around in circles getting nowhere and exhausting yourself in the process. This is a failure of leadership, focus, and commitment, and it condemns you to decision purgatory.
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”—WARREN BUFFETT
The Role of Perception
Your impression of something’s intrinsic value is based on all kinds of internal and external cues, things like family, friends, social media influencers, past experiences, and interests or passions. These are the elements that convince you that you just have to do or have something. They are not quantitative in nature but are instead shaded, at least in part, by feelings, biases, hopes, and insecurities. In a very fundamental sense, perception is a product of calculations that are highly emotional.
Aspirational in Nature
When you feel FOMO in this way, your core impulse is centered on improving your condition. What makes you want to get off the couch and chase after that party, trip, baby, or job is a belief that in doing so, your life will be better in some way than it is right now. At its core, FOMO is aspirational in nature, rooted in a search for whatever’s bigger, better, and brighter than your current surroundings.
Trade-Offs
What does success look like? It looks like freedom. When you find the power to choose what you actually want and the courage to miss out on the rest, you are finally liberated from indecision and the compulsion to have it all. Even though you’ll be eliminating options, missing out on potential experiences and opportunities, and generally limiting the scope of the things you could potentially do in your life, your overall outlook will improve. You will be more relaxed, in the flow, and free to move forward into the future without regret. Most importantly, when you learn to be decisive, you will be free from fear.
Just as you could identify Homohabilis by its stone tools, FOMO sapiens exhibits a few tell-tale characteristics. In its natural habitat, FOMO sapiens can be observed yearning for all of the things, either real or imagined, that could make life perfect, if only it could have them or do them at this very moment. It’s so distracted that if it had any natural predators, it would make for shockingly easy prey.
The Fos
FOMO – Fear of Missing Out
Do you ever get stressed out when you come across those delightful (read: highly selective, filtered, and cropped) photos posted by friends, family, and celebrities to your social media feed? As you scroll, you may notice that a feeling starts to build within you, perhaps best understood as a sense of anxiety. While you’re playing with your phone, it occurs to you that all of these people are living lives that are far more interesting, exciting, successful, and, frankly, Instagramable than yours. This feeling is called FOMO, short for Fear of Missing Out, and its effects are widespread.
FOMO \ ˈfō-(ˌ)mō \ Noun. Informal
1. Unwanted anxiety provoked by the perception, often aggravated via social media, that others are having experiences that are more satisfying than yours.
2. Social pressure resulting from the realization that you will miss out on or be excluded from a positive or memorable collective experience.
FOMO causes you to feel as if your life is not up to snuff based on a bunch of notions that probably don’t even correspond to reality. This gap between what you have and what you wish you had is what drives negativity, stress, and unhappiness. The more time you spend building up those feelings, the worse things get since reality will never be able to compete with your imagination.
Types of FOMO
Aspirational FOMO, which is driven by the perception, enabled by an asymmetry of information, that a thing or experience is better than what you have in front of you at the moment; and
Herd FOMO, which is fed by a desire for inclusion and a compulsion to partake in what you feel you’re missing.
FOBO – Fear of a Better Options
FOBO \ ˈfō-(ˌ)bō \ Noun. Informal 1. An anxiety-driven urge to hold out for something better based on the perception that a more favorable alternative or choice might exist. 2. A compulsion to preserve option value that delays decision-making or postpones it indefinitely. 3. Behavior that turns you into an entitled a**hole.
FOBO, or Fear of a Better Option, is the anxiety that something better will come along, which makes it undesirable to commit to existing choices when making a decision. It’s an affliction of abundance that drives you to keep all of your options open and to hedge your bets. As a result, you live in a world of maybes, stringing yourself and others along. Rather than assessing your options, choosing one, and moving on with your day, you delay the inevitable. It’s not unlike hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock only to pull the covers over your head and fall back asleep.
FODA—Fear of Doing Anything.
When you combine FOMO and FOBO, you end up paralyzed with a critical case of FODA—Fear of Doing Anything.
FOBO, on its own, can greatly hamper decision-making, but when you combine it with FOMO, it can lead to a Fear of Doing Anything, or FODA, and the results can be catastrophic. This phenomenon occurs when your desire to try to do everything (FOMO) crashes into your need to keep all of your options open (FOBO).
When you have FODA, you are pulled in two directions at once. Part of you is keen to run in this or that direction in pursuit of something that you perceive to be better and more rewarding than what you have at the moment. At the same time, you are unable to commit to any of those potential options. You aren’t sure where to run, and you loathe the notion of settling for just one alternative. As a result, you run around in circles getting nowhere and exhausting yourself in the process. This is a failure of leadership, focus, and commitment, and it condemns you to decision purgatory.
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”—WARREN BUFFETT
The Role of Perception
Your impression of something’s intrinsic value is based on all kinds of internal and external cues, things like family, friends, social media influencers, past experiences, and interests or passions. These are the elements that convince you that you just have to do or have something. They are not quantitative in nature but are instead shaded, at least in part, by feelings, biases, hopes, and insecurities. In a very fundamental sense, perception is a product of calculations that are highly emotional.
Aspirational in Nature
When you feel FOMO in this way, your core impulse is centered on improving your condition. What makes you want to get off the couch and chase after that party, trip, baby, or job is a belief that in doing so, your life will be better in some way than it is right now. At its core, FOMO is aspirational in nature, rooted in a search for whatever’s bigger, better, and brighter than your current surroundings.
Trade-Offs
What does success look like? It looks like freedom. When you find the power to choose what you actually want and the courage to miss out on the rest, you are finally liberated from indecision and the compulsion to have it all. Even though you’ll be eliminating options, missing out on potential experiences and opportunities, and generally limiting the scope of the things you could potentially do in your life, your overall outlook will improve. You will be more relaxed, in the flow, and free to move forward into the future without regret. Most importantly, when you learn to be decisive, you will be free from fear.
December 12, 2021
Еле дочитала. Книга (по большей части) для бизнесменов и инвесторов. Интересно, увлекательно, забавно (НЕТ). Не рекомендую. Может, кому и будет книжка полезной, но по сути в ней много водички и повторений.
March 5, 2025
"Since venture capitalists shouldn't romanticize their decisions, neither should you."
The first section of this book was rather 'meh', but I kept and open mind and withheld judgement for as long as I could. I found myself rolling my eyes a lot while the McGinnis laid out information like he was giving a seminar for business entrepreneurs and tried a little too hard to establish rapport and credibility with the reader. I pressed on, because I do not like to leave books unfinished and I wanted to see where it went.
In chapter six he talks a bit about how entire industries are preying on your attention and desires. If this interests you, I highly recommend reading Stolen Focus, a well-cited work that talks about this in great detail.
When I got to the part about decision-making methodology for FOMO, McGinnis' answer to low-stakes decisions was "have someone else make the decision for you". This is when I got so upset and frustrated, I knew I was going to write a review. (Mind you, I haven't written a review for book in what, 20 years?) It was mostly downhill from there.
The scope of this book is very narrow, examining opportunity and decision making through the lens of an investor and "venture capitalist". Instead of addressing the role emotions play in many of our decisions and how to navigate them, which I would have considered a more holistic approach to decision making, the author advocates for completely removing emotions from the equation. I do not consider this approach wise. This is impractical advice for many life decisions, especially those regarding interpersonal relationships. Alas, the book barely touches on that aspect of life, focusing mostly on the world of work and business. I don't fault an author for writing what they know, but the way the book is advertised, I thought it was going to approach decision making in a broader sense.
I did learn from this book that I do not suffer from FOMO, but rather FOBO (Fear of a Better Option), FOBO's much more toxic sibling.
This book did have some value to me, and everything of value could be found in Chapter 11. The content that I found valuable could probably be found explored in greater depth in any number of books about Buddhism. I appreciate the idea that getting rid of FOBO is a form of decluttering - letting go of all he options that no longer serve you, grieving the potential opportunities, and focusing on what you have instead of what you don't. These were concepts already familiar to me, but that he presented in such a way that they clicked for me.
The epilogue however left me feeling infuriated and disgusted. Using stories of unfortunate refugees to teach privileged people gratitude reduces real human suffering to a lesson for those who do not share in that suffering. They are individuals with their own dignity, struggles, and agency, and should not be turned into mere objects for comparison. This instrumentalizes their hardships, turning their experiences into a tool for making privileged people feel better about their own lives rather than centering their own needs and realities. If the takeaway is simply "be grateful you’re not them," it discourages critical thinking about systemic inequalities and what can be done to help. It focuses on self-satisfaction rather than solidarity or meaningful change. Framing the struggles of the marginalized as a reminder to appreciate privilege ignores the larger political, social, and economic forces that create displacement and hardship. It risks normalizing or trivializing suffering rather than fostering a sense of responsibility to address it.
If you view the world through a hypercapitalist lens and struggle with "the FOs", maybe this book is for you. But surely there are better books out there for those who find themselves either spread thin from trying to do it all, or starving while they watch the figs wither and drop from the tree.
If I never hear the words "venture capitalist" again it will be too soon.
The first section of this book was rather 'meh', but I kept and open mind and withheld judgement for as long as I could. I found myself rolling my eyes a lot while the McGinnis laid out information like he was giving a seminar for business entrepreneurs and tried a little too hard to establish rapport and credibility with the reader. I pressed on, because I do not like to leave books unfinished and I wanted to see where it went.
In chapter six he talks a bit about how entire industries are preying on your attention and desires. If this interests you, I highly recommend reading Stolen Focus, a well-cited work that talks about this in great detail.
When I got to the part about decision-making methodology for FOMO, McGinnis' answer to low-stakes decisions was "have someone else make the decision for you". This is when I got so upset and frustrated, I knew I was going to write a review. (Mind you, I haven't written a review for book in what, 20 years?) It was mostly downhill from there.
The scope of this book is very narrow, examining opportunity and decision making through the lens of an investor and "venture capitalist". Instead of addressing the role emotions play in many of our decisions and how to navigate them, which I would have considered a more holistic approach to decision making, the author advocates for completely removing emotions from the equation. I do not consider this approach wise. This is impractical advice for many life decisions, especially those regarding interpersonal relationships. Alas, the book barely touches on that aspect of life, focusing mostly on the world of work and business. I don't fault an author for writing what they know, but the way the book is advertised, I thought it was going to approach decision making in a broader sense.
I did learn from this book that I do not suffer from FOMO, but rather FOBO (Fear of a Better Option), FOBO's much more toxic sibling.
This book did have some value to me, and everything of value could be found in Chapter 11. The content that I found valuable could probably be found explored in greater depth in any number of books about Buddhism. I appreciate the idea that getting rid of FOBO is a form of decluttering - letting go of all he options that no longer serve you, grieving the potential opportunities, and focusing on what you have instead of what you don't. These were concepts already familiar to me, but that he presented in such a way that they clicked for me.
The epilogue however left me feeling infuriated and disgusted. Using stories of unfortunate refugees to teach privileged people gratitude reduces real human suffering to a lesson for those who do not share in that suffering. They are individuals with their own dignity, struggles, and agency, and should not be turned into mere objects for comparison. This instrumentalizes their hardships, turning their experiences into a tool for making privileged people feel better about their own lives rather than centering their own needs and realities. If the takeaway is simply "be grateful you’re not them," it discourages critical thinking about systemic inequalities and what can be done to help. It focuses on self-satisfaction rather than solidarity or meaningful change. Framing the struggles of the marginalized as a reminder to appreciate privilege ignores the larger political, social, and economic forces that create displacement and hardship. It risks normalizing or trivializing suffering rather than fostering a sense of responsibility to address it.
If you view the world through a hypercapitalist lens and struggle with "the FOs", maybe this book is for you. But surely there are better books out there for those who find themselves either spread thin from trying to do it all, or starving while they watch the figs wither and drop from the tree.
If I never hear the words "venture capitalist" again it will be too soon.
July 2, 2024
Tak Perlu Alergi Menjadi FOMO Sapiens
Setiap dari kita pasti pernah menghabiskan waktu dan energi yang tidak wajar untuk berandai-andai tentang apa yang ingin kita miliki alih-alih mensyukuri apa yang benar-benar kita miliki. Perasaan semacam itulah yang dikenal dengan istilah "Fear of Missing Out" atau disingkat FOMO.
FOMO, yang pertama kali dicetuskan oleh Patrick McGinnis, saat ini sudah menjadi istilah global, apalagi setelah resmi dimasukkan sebagai entri Oxford English Dictionary pada tahun 2013 lalu. Bahkan kalau kita cek KBBI Edisi VI, kita bisa menemukan term "fomofobia" yang diserap dari FOMO, yang diartikan sebagai fobia ketinggalan peristiwa-peristiwa penting dan perkumpulan sosial.
Sadar atau tidak, FOMO ada di mana-mana. Setiap saat kita akan dibombardir pemicu FOMO di dunia maya dan dunia nyata. Fakta inilah yang membentuk kita menjadi spesies baru: FOMO Sapiens. Coba diingat-ingat, berapa kali kita menolak ajakan nongkrong karena harus bekerja lembur, atau mematikan notifikasi grup WhatsApp saat sedang makan malam keluarga, atau pernah gelisah kenapa orang lain bisa kaya berkat bitcoin sementara literasi keuangan kita begitu minim.
Menurut Patrick J. McGinnis dalam bukunya Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice, FOMO sering kali menjelma sebagai rasa cemas yang timbul karena persepsi terhadap pengalaman orang lain yang lebih memuaskan daripada diri sendiri, biasanya lewat terpaan media sosial. Hal ini seringnya dibangun oleh berbagai faktor internal dan eksternal, seperti keluarga, teman, influencer di media sosial, pengalaman, dan juga minat atau kesukaan.
Dalam FOMO, ada asumsi tersembunyi bahwa kita selalu punya pilihan dalam jumlah yang mungkin luar biasa banyak. Pilihan itu bisa nyata, bisa juga tidak. Masalahnya, selalu ada jarak antara pikiran dan harapan kita tentang sesuatu dan realitas. Hal ini disebut juga ketimpangan informasi, dan inilah yang secara langsung membentuk FOMO.
Seorang blogger dan pengusaha bernama Anil Dash, pernah mencetuskan istilah JOMO, singkatan dari Joy of Missing Out. Beberapa tahun setelah FOMO populer dan jamak digunakan, ia menawarkan JOMO sebagai solusi. Lantas, apakah JOMO benar-benar menjadi obat penawar yang tepat? Menurut McGinnis, terkadang jawabannya ya, tapi tidak selalu. Sebab dalam praktiknya, JOMO bukanlah proses, tetapi tujuan.
Perumpamaannya begini, ketika kita merasa perlu mengumumkan kepada dunia bahwa kita bahagia karena tidak mengikuti tren ini-itu (misalnya merasa bangga karena tidak tertarik datang ke konser Bruno Mars karena ia pendukung zionis), justru itu malah jadi tanda narsistik. Jika benar-benar tidak keberatan ketinggalan apa pun, seharusnya kita tidak perlu melabeli perasaan kita sendiri—baik dengan JOMO atau istilah lain.
Buku yang ditulis oleh McGinnis bukan untuk mendikte apakah perilaku FOMO itu baik atau buruk. Ia hanya berusaha mengajak kita untuk mengidentifikasi bentuk FOMO, lalu belajar mengendalikannya dan mengubahnya menjadi pengaruh positif. Toh, kita tidak pernah keberatan ketika ada orang lain FOMO mengikuti cabang olahraga tertentu karena kita sepakat bahwa menjaga pola hidup sehat itu penting.
Pada intinya, perilaku FOMO memang mustahil dihilangkan, jadi kita tidak perlu alergi dengan hal itu. Salah satu hal penting untuk mengatasi FOMO adalah menerima fakta bahwa, sesekali, kita pasti pernah kehilangan peluang bagus—dan itu bukan masalah.
Setiap dari kita pasti pernah menghabiskan waktu dan energi yang tidak wajar untuk berandai-andai tentang apa yang ingin kita miliki alih-alih mensyukuri apa yang benar-benar kita miliki. Perasaan semacam itulah yang dikenal dengan istilah "Fear of Missing Out" atau disingkat FOMO.
FOMO, yang pertama kali dicetuskan oleh Patrick McGinnis, saat ini sudah menjadi istilah global, apalagi setelah resmi dimasukkan sebagai entri Oxford English Dictionary pada tahun 2013 lalu. Bahkan kalau kita cek KBBI Edisi VI, kita bisa menemukan term "fomofobia" yang diserap dari FOMO, yang diartikan sebagai fobia ketinggalan peristiwa-peristiwa penting dan perkumpulan sosial.
Sadar atau tidak, FOMO ada di mana-mana. Setiap saat kita akan dibombardir pemicu FOMO di dunia maya dan dunia nyata. Fakta inilah yang membentuk kita menjadi spesies baru: FOMO Sapiens. Coba diingat-ingat, berapa kali kita menolak ajakan nongkrong karena harus bekerja lembur, atau mematikan notifikasi grup WhatsApp saat sedang makan malam keluarga, atau pernah gelisah kenapa orang lain bisa kaya berkat bitcoin sementara literasi keuangan kita begitu minim.
Menurut Patrick J. McGinnis dalam bukunya Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice, FOMO sering kali menjelma sebagai rasa cemas yang timbul karena persepsi terhadap pengalaman orang lain yang lebih memuaskan daripada diri sendiri, biasanya lewat terpaan media sosial. Hal ini seringnya dibangun oleh berbagai faktor internal dan eksternal, seperti keluarga, teman, influencer di media sosial, pengalaman, dan juga minat atau kesukaan.
Dalam FOMO, ada asumsi tersembunyi bahwa kita selalu punya pilihan dalam jumlah yang mungkin luar biasa banyak. Pilihan itu bisa nyata, bisa juga tidak. Masalahnya, selalu ada jarak antara pikiran dan harapan kita tentang sesuatu dan realitas. Hal ini disebut juga ketimpangan informasi, dan inilah yang secara langsung membentuk FOMO.
Seorang blogger dan pengusaha bernama Anil Dash, pernah mencetuskan istilah JOMO, singkatan dari Joy of Missing Out. Beberapa tahun setelah FOMO populer dan jamak digunakan, ia menawarkan JOMO sebagai solusi. Lantas, apakah JOMO benar-benar menjadi obat penawar yang tepat? Menurut McGinnis, terkadang jawabannya ya, tapi tidak selalu. Sebab dalam praktiknya, JOMO bukanlah proses, tetapi tujuan.
Perumpamaannya begini, ketika kita merasa perlu mengumumkan kepada dunia bahwa kita bahagia karena tidak mengikuti tren ini-itu (misalnya merasa bangga karena tidak tertarik datang ke konser Bruno Mars karena ia pendukung zionis), justru itu malah jadi tanda narsistik. Jika benar-benar tidak keberatan ketinggalan apa pun, seharusnya kita tidak perlu melabeli perasaan kita sendiri—baik dengan JOMO atau istilah lain.
Buku yang ditulis oleh McGinnis bukan untuk mendikte apakah perilaku FOMO itu baik atau buruk. Ia hanya berusaha mengajak kita untuk mengidentifikasi bentuk FOMO, lalu belajar mengendalikannya dan mengubahnya menjadi pengaruh positif. Toh, kita tidak pernah keberatan ketika ada orang lain FOMO mengikuti cabang olahraga tertentu karena kita sepakat bahwa menjaga pola hidup sehat itu penting.
Pada intinya, perilaku FOMO memang mustahil dihilangkan, jadi kita tidak perlu alergi dengan hal itu. Salah satu hal penting untuk mengatasi FOMO adalah menerima fakta bahwa, sesekali, kita pasti pernah kehilangan peluang bagus—dan itu bukan masalah.
December 8, 2021
Fear Of Missing Out #FOMO
Patrict J. McGinnis
Một lượng lớn dân số thế giới không bao giờ phải lo lắng về FOMO và FOBO. Để mắc phải FOBO, bạn phải có nhiều lựa chọn. Muốn biết cảm giác FOMO, bạn phải xem xét mình đang bỏ lỡ những gì và tin rằng bằng cách nào đó, bạn có thể sở hữu nó. Khi đi sâu vào bản chất FOMO lẫn FOBO, bạn sẽ nhận thấy chúng đều là những vấn đề do có quá nhiều lựa chọn gây nên. Chúng khiến bạn tin rằng cuộc sống của bạn có nhiều sự lựa chọn và bạn có thể khám phá các cơ hội đó vào những hoàn cảnh thích hợp. Suy nghĩ này rõ ràng không đúng với tất cả mọi người.
Nếu việc can thiệp vào FOMO của người khác hoàn toàn do bạn quyết định, thì ngược lại, giải quyết FOBO lại chính là vấn đề của bạn.
* Nói một chút về chánh niệm trong thời đại số hay chỉ là chánh niệm?
Dù sức khoẻ thời đại số (digital wellness) và chánh niệm khi sử dụng các thiết bị số (digital mindfulness) đã trở thành thuật ngữ thông dụng trong vài năm qua nhưng đó vẫn là chánh niệm, rõ ràng và đơn giản. Đây là một sự phát triển tích cực. Mặc dù công nghệ khiến con người mất tập trung, nhưng từ thời xa xưa, chúng ta đã phải đấu tranh với những nỗi sợ mang tên FOMO và FOBO. Do đó, nếu muốn giành chiến thắng trước chúng, bạn không chỉ cần giải quyết các vấn đề liên quan đến công nghê. Có lẽ vì vậy mà các phương pháp như thiền định không còn dành riêng cho vài nhóm thiểu số nữa. Ngày nay, nếu muốn trải nghiệm thiền, bạn có thể lựa chọn các ứng dụng có khái niệm - JOMO, niềm vui của việc bỏ lỡ. Đối với tôi, những ứng dụng này giống như kháng thể chống lại sự lây nhiễm của tất cả các ứng dụng khác trên điện thoại của tôi.
Sức khoẻ trong thời đại số và chánh niệm khi sử dụng thiết bị số là chủ đề rất rộng, nếu bạn muốn tìm hiểu thêm thì có rất nhiều nguồn tài liệu tuyệt vời ở hiêu sách hoặc được đăng tải trên mạng.
“Nếu có thể dễ dàng đi qua những vùng nước yên bình của cuộc sống thì nhiều khả năng là bạn cũng sẽ vượt qua đươc cơn bão dữ.”
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goodreads.com/hoang-khang
Patrict J. McGinnis
Một lượng lớn dân số thế giới không bao giờ phải lo lắng về FOMO và FOBO. Để mắc phải FOBO, bạn phải có nhiều lựa chọn. Muốn biết cảm giác FOMO, bạn phải xem xét mình đang bỏ lỡ những gì và tin rằng bằng cách nào đó, bạn có thể sở hữu nó. Khi đi sâu vào bản chất FOMO lẫn FOBO, bạn sẽ nhận thấy chúng đều là những vấn đề do có quá nhiều lựa chọn gây nên. Chúng khiến bạn tin rằng cuộc sống của bạn có nhiều sự lựa chọn và bạn có thể khám phá các cơ hội đó vào những hoàn cảnh thích hợp. Suy nghĩ này rõ ràng không đúng với tất cả mọi người.
Nếu việc can thiệp vào FOMO của người khác hoàn toàn do bạn quyết định, thì ngược lại, giải quyết FOBO lại chính là vấn đề của bạn.
* Nói một chút về chánh niệm trong thời đại số hay chỉ là chánh niệm?
Dù sức khoẻ thời đại số (digital wellness) và chánh niệm khi sử dụng các thiết bị số (digital mindfulness) đã trở thành thuật ngữ thông dụng trong vài năm qua nhưng đó vẫn là chánh niệm, rõ ràng và đơn giản. Đây là một sự phát triển tích cực. Mặc dù công nghệ khiến con người mất tập trung, nhưng từ thời xa xưa, chúng ta đã phải đấu tranh với những nỗi sợ mang tên FOMO và FOBO. Do đó, nếu muốn giành chiến thắng trước chúng, bạn không chỉ cần giải quyết các vấn đề liên quan đến công nghê. Có lẽ vì vậy mà các phương pháp như thiền định không còn dành riêng cho vài nhóm thiểu số nữa. Ngày nay, nếu muốn trải nghiệm thiền, bạn có thể lựa chọn các ứng dụng có khái niệm - JOMO, niềm vui của việc bỏ lỡ. Đối với tôi, những ứng dụng này giống như kháng thể chống lại sự lây nhiễm của tất cả các ứng dụng khác trên điện thoại của tôi.
Sức khoẻ trong thời đại số và chánh niệm khi sử dụng thiết bị số là chủ đề rất rộng, nếu bạn muốn tìm hiểu thêm thì có rất nhiều nguồn tài liệu tuyệt vời ở hiêu sách hoặc được đăng tải trên mạng.
“Nếu có thể dễ dàng đi qua những vùng nước yên bình của cuộc sống thì nhiều khả năng là bạn cũng sẽ vượt qua đươc cơn bão dữ.”
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April 4, 2024
Menyenangkan sekali bisa membaca buku FOMO karya Patrick J. McGINNIS 😊
Ada dua istilah baru yang aku tahu dari buku ini:
FOMO, Fear of Missing Out.
FOBO, Fear of a Better Option.
FOMO itu, ketika kita merasa takut tertinggal dengan segala yang terjadi di sekitar kita. Takut ketinggalan informasi baru, takut dibilang nggak update dengan berita-berita terbaru, takut dihakimi sebagai orang yang ketinggakan zaman karena nggak tahu tren yang sedang terjadi, dan sebagainya.
Kalau FOBO adalah ketika kita nggak bisa memilih dan memutuskan pilihan-pilihan baik yang tersedia untuk kita. Akhirnya, kita menunda dan nggak memilih apa-apa.
Menurut Penulis, sebetulnya hal-hal tersebut normal aja terjadi. Apalagi kalau kita hidup di kehidupan yang beragam dan terpapar dengan teknologi. Namun, akan menjadi "penyakit" kalau kita menjadi hilang kendali, kehilangan identitas diri, menjadi candu, dan nggak ada keseimbangan di dalam hidup kita 😥
Lalu, caranya gimana ya supaya FOMO dan FOBO nggak jadi penyakit?
Dari paparan penulis, kita disarankan untuk mengenali diri sendiri. Kita harus tahu nilai-nilai kehidupan kita dan tujuan yang sedang dituju. Dengan begitu, kita akan bisa memilah hal-hal yang penting dan punya "sistem imun" yang kuat terhadap paparan eksternal yang datang 🥲
Aku pribadi bersyukur banget bisa menemukan buku ini 🌻 Rasanya jadi jauh lebih tenang. Karena selama ini aku merasa resah dengan fenomena yang ada: mengapa segala hal yang ada disosial media tampak sama dan apa yang membuat orang-orang nggak bisa membuat keputusan sehingga menyulitkan orang lain. Khususnya di dunia pekerjaan.
Ada dua istilah baru yang aku tahu dari buku ini:
FOMO, Fear of Missing Out.
FOBO, Fear of a Better Option.
FOMO itu, ketika kita merasa takut tertinggal dengan segala yang terjadi di sekitar kita. Takut ketinggalan informasi baru, takut dibilang nggak update dengan berita-berita terbaru, takut dihakimi sebagai orang yang ketinggakan zaman karena nggak tahu tren yang sedang terjadi, dan sebagainya.
Kalau FOBO adalah ketika kita nggak bisa memilih dan memutuskan pilihan-pilihan baik yang tersedia untuk kita. Akhirnya, kita menunda dan nggak memilih apa-apa.
Menurut Penulis, sebetulnya hal-hal tersebut normal aja terjadi. Apalagi kalau kita hidup di kehidupan yang beragam dan terpapar dengan teknologi. Namun, akan menjadi "penyakit" kalau kita menjadi hilang kendali, kehilangan identitas diri, menjadi candu, dan nggak ada keseimbangan di dalam hidup kita 😥
Lalu, caranya gimana ya supaya FOMO dan FOBO nggak jadi penyakit?
Dari paparan penulis, kita disarankan untuk mengenali diri sendiri. Kita harus tahu nilai-nilai kehidupan kita dan tujuan yang sedang dituju. Dengan begitu, kita akan bisa memilah hal-hal yang penting dan punya "sistem imun" yang kuat terhadap paparan eksternal yang datang 🥲
Aku pribadi bersyukur banget bisa menemukan buku ini 🌻 Rasanya jadi jauh lebih tenang. Karena selama ini aku merasa resah dengan fenomena yang ada: mengapa segala hal yang ada disosial media tampak sama dan apa yang membuat orang-orang nggak bisa membuat keputusan sehingga menyulitkan orang lain. Khususnya di dunia pekerjaan.
March 11, 2022
It is a great book!
Di awal buku ini menjelaskan bahwa paparan teknologi, khususnya media sosial, menjadi salah satu pemicu yang membesarkan 'gelembung' FOMO dan FOBO dalam kehidupan masyarakat modern. Dan tentu, hal ini sangat menarik bagi saya. Patrick McGinnis sebagai pencetus akronim "FOMO" juga menjelaskan bagaimana media sosial menyediakan keberlimpahan pilihan dalam hidup yang menjadi pemicu lahirnya FOMO dalam pikiran kita. Sebagai orang-orang yang tak bisa lepas dari media sosial kita tentu sangat relate dengan hal ini.
Di dalam kehidupan saat ini dimana internet telah menjadi tulang punggung masyarakat modern, kita tidak bisa benar-benar menolak kehadirannya, kita hanya bisa membatasi perannya dalam hidup kita.
Di bagian pertengahan buku penjelasan yang diberikan mengenai fenomena FOMO ini bagi saya tidak terlalu relate dan jadi menurunkan flow bacaan. Namun, di bab penutup Patrick Mcginnis benar-benar memberikan sebuah closing bahwa pilihan adalah sebuah privilese yang langka dan tidak semua orang memiliki kemewahan untuk dapat menentukan pilihan. Ada miliaran orang yang hidup dengan hanya segelintir pilihan atau bahkan tidak punya pilihan sama sekali. Bagi saya, buku ini membuka perspektif baru tentang bagaimana seharusnya kita memperlakukan pilihan dalam hidup, entah pilihan besar atau pilihan sepele sekalipun.
Di awal buku ini menjelaskan bahwa paparan teknologi, khususnya media sosial, menjadi salah satu pemicu yang membesarkan 'gelembung' FOMO dan FOBO dalam kehidupan masyarakat modern. Dan tentu, hal ini sangat menarik bagi saya. Patrick McGinnis sebagai pencetus akronim "FOMO" juga menjelaskan bagaimana media sosial menyediakan keberlimpahan pilihan dalam hidup yang menjadi pemicu lahirnya FOMO dalam pikiran kita. Sebagai orang-orang yang tak bisa lepas dari media sosial kita tentu sangat relate dengan hal ini.
Di dalam kehidupan saat ini dimana internet telah menjadi tulang punggung masyarakat modern, kita tidak bisa benar-benar menolak kehadirannya, kita hanya bisa membatasi perannya dalam hidup kita.
Di bagian pertengahan buku penjelasan yang diberikan mengenai fenomena FOMO ini bagi saya tidak terlalu relate dan jadi menurunkan flow bacaan. Namun, di bab penutup Patrick Mcginnis benar-benar memberikan sebuah closing bahwa pilihan adalah sebuah privilese yang langka dan tidak semua orang memiliki kemewahan untuk dapat menentukan pilihan. Ada miliaran orang yang hidup dengan hanya segelintir pilihan atau bahkan tidak punya pilihan sama sekali. Bagi saya, buku ini membuka perspektif baru tentang bagaimana seharusnya kita memperlakukan pilihan dalam hidup, entah pilihan besar atau pilihan sepele sekalipun.
June 26, 2025
Кнiга "FOMO Sapiens" абяцала дапамагчы разабрацца са страхам упушчаных магчымасцей i навучыць прымаць рашэннi. Аднак, на жаль, яна аказалася зусiм бескарыснай для звычайнага чытача. Асноўная праблема тоiцца ўжо ў назве – аўтар абяцае навучыць "правiльным" рашэнням, хаця ў жыццi такiх не бывае, i вынiк любога выбару становiцца зразумелым толькi пасля таго, як ён зроблены. Такi падыход хутчэй нагнятае трывогу, чым дапамагае яе пераадолець.
Патрык Макгiнiс — венчурны капiталiст, i гэта адразу тлумачыць, чаму кнiга адрасавана багатым iнвестарам, а не шырокай аўдыторыi. Яго парады, такiя як "метад гадзiннiка" цi падкiдванне манеткi для прыняцця рашэнняў, выглядаюць павярхоўна i зводзяцца да дэлегавання выбару, а не да развiцця ўласнай iнтуiцыi i разумення сваiх сапраўдных жаданняў.
Яшчэ больш расчароўвае прапанова дэлегаваць важныя жыццёвыя рашэннi "дасведчанай камандзе" сяброў цi спецыялiстаў. Гэта не толькi перакладае адказнасць, але i пагражае стратай уласнага меркавання i патэнцыяльнымi канфлiктамi. Прыклады з кнiгi яўна дэманструюць яе арыентацыю на кар'ерныя i iнвестыцыйныя кейсы, а не на паўсядзённае жыццё звычайнага чалавека.
⚠️ Асаблiва цынiчным падаўся эпiлог, дзе аўтар параўноўвае праблемы выбару з сапраўднымi трагедыямi сiрыйскiх бежанцаў. Гэты раздзел дэманструе поўную адсутнасць эмпатыi i робiць кнiгу яшчэ больш непрыемнай для ўспрымання.
У цэлым, "FOMO Sapiens" складаецца з самаўслаўлення аўтара, "вады" i бескарысных парад. Гэта дарэмна выдаткаваны час i нервы. Не рэкамендую да прачытання, за выключэннем, магчыма, трэцяй часткi, але i яна не ратуе агульнае ўражанне.
Патрык Макгiнiс — венчурны капiталiст, i гэта адразу тлумачыць, чаму кнiга адрасавана багатым iнвестарам, а не шырокай аўдыторыi. Яго парады, такiя як "метад гадзiннiка" цi падкiдванне манеткi для прыняцця рашэнняў, выглядаюць павярхоўна i зводзяцца да дэлегавання выбару, а не да развiцця ўласнай iнтуiцыi i разумення сваiх сапраўдных жаданняў.
Яшчэ больш расчароўвае прапанова дэлегаваць важныя жыццёвыя рашэннi "дасведчанай камандзе" сяброў цi спецыялiстаў. Гэта не толькi перакладае адказнасць, але i пагражае стратай уласнага меркавання i патэнцыяльнымi канфлiктамi. Прыклады з кнiгi яўна дэманструюць яе арыентацыю на кар'ерныя i iнвестыцыйныя кейсы, а не на паўсядзённае жыццё звычайнага чалавека.
⚠️ Асаблiва цынiчным падаўся эпiлог, дзе аўтар параўноўвае праблемы выбару з сапраўднымi трагедыямi сiрыйскiх бежанцаў. Гэты раздзел дэманструе поўную адсутнасць эмпатыi i робiць кнiгу яшчэ больш непрыемнай для ўспрымання.
У цэлым, "FOMO Sapiens" складаецца з самаўслаўлення аўтара, "вады" i бескарысных парад. Гэта дарэмна выдаткаваны час i нервы. Не рэкамендую да прачытання, за выключэннем, магчыма, трэцяй часткi, але i яна не ратуе агульнае ўражанне.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 3, 2022
FOMO or "Fear of Missing out" by Patrick McGinnis is a book about two of the most common phenomenon we see all around us (and suffer from): FOMO (Fear of missing out) and FOBO (Fear of better options). He first used these terms in a university paper and it then caught on to all the hip journals/publications and the internet followed suit.
He explains how FOMO may make you undertake a series of actions just because you do not want to miss out on something happening, something exciting, and something that your peers/friends/competition is busy in. He suggests how you can avoid the actions resulting from FOMO and how to deal with the situation well. Examples are buying something that everyone is buying, investing in a horde, and signing on more than you can handle.
As FOMO makes you get into overdrive, the other side of the coin is FOBO (fear of a better option) makes you wait endlessly for a better option on the horizon. It cripples you from acting and makes you paralyzed endlessly waiting for something new. There are some suggestions to balance out the FOMO and FOBO in the book.
Suffering from both these on occasions, this was a good read for me. A practical self-help book designed to assist in a modern issue 🙂
He explains how FOMO may make you undertake a series of actions just because you do not want to miss out on something happening, something exciting, and something that your peers/friends/competition is busy in. He suggests how you can avoid the actions resulting from FOMO and how to deal with the situation well. Examples are buying something that everyone is buying, investing in a horde, and signing on more than you can handle.
As FOMO makes you get into overdrive, the other side of the coin is FOBO (fear of a better option) makes you wait endlessly for a better option on the horizon. It cripples you from acting and makes you paralyzed endlessly waiting for something new. There are some suggestions to balance out the FOMO and FOBO in the book.
Suffering from both these on occasions, this was a good read for me. A practical self-help book designed to assist in a modern issue 🙂
May 13, 2020
This is one of the first books I got from NetGalley to review and I must say I am happy I didn't miss out on this book. Why I chose this book was for two reasons - A) It is something that is becoming prevalent more and more and naturally I was interested to see what is it all about B) Secondly I was interested to see what it means for the younger generations as they are exposed to this more than we are.
So does this book do justice to the topic? While everyone is entitled to their opinion, I thought it was an excellent read for me since I am a beginner to this topic. What I liked was it debunked some myths / misconceptions around the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO). And off course the best thing about this title is it presents a balanced view in terms of what FOMO is and isn't with clear examples. Furthermore, it tells how FOMO can be used to your advantage. And if you thought that this FOMO is because of life becoming more and more digital, then well that's one more reason for you to read and see if you're right.
What's that you fear you are missing out on this book? Well no arguments there but don't let your friends and family miss out on this as well.
So does this book do justice to the topic? While everyone is entitled to their opinion, I thought it was an excellent read for me since I am a beginner to this topic. What I liked was it debunked some myths / misconceptions around the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO). And off course the best thing about this title is it presents a balanced view in terms of what FOMO is and isn't with clear examples. Furthermore, it tells how FOMO can be used to your advantage. And if you thought that this FOMO is because of life becoming more and more digital, then well that's one more reason for you to read and see if you're right.
What's that you fear you are missing out on this book? Well no arguments there but don't let your friends and family miss out on this as well.
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