Buckle up my friends, it's going to be a wild ride ..
So let's begin with me during the book..
*MY EYEEESSSS* I rolled them so much I can't see straight anymore
ehm, now to the review,
The story is about Rory, who is fat and she feels like it's dictating her entire life specially with her "over bearing" mother who pushes her to eat healthy and take care of herself after she was diagnosed with PCOS, but she gets into a dare with one of the cheerleaders in her school, if she get to date the famous QB Beckett she will prove that fat girls can have a happily ever after too .. can she do it?
Now, as a former fat person who was diagnosed with Endometriosis ( which is basically PCOS times 4, literally ) I can honestly say this book is trying to push really rotten ideas.
first, the mother has every right to worry about her 16\17 years old daughter who didn't have her period for the past THREE MONTHS !! AND she was diagnosed with PCOS and that shit is serious and can cause all sorts of problem ( I spent 10 years of my life trying to sort it out and it wasn't easy ), I'm sorry, what did you want her mother to do ? clap her hands and laugh about it ? of course she will want to fix it, and as corny as it will sound, yes healthy eating and losing weight is a main factor to reverse any hormonal issue, including PCOS, so, I am team mom on this one and I wish my mom had this knowledge when I was treating my Endometriosis, it would've saved me 10 years of my life and 5 major operations one of them is hysterectomy.
Second, Rory was in a very bad place both physically and mentally yet she was expecting perfection from Beckett, she was so lost in her head that I can't be convinced that she liked him other than his "hot pants", and there was a scene where she literally tells him she was attracted to him because he has a nice body ..
So, dear Rory, it's ok for you to have a fat body and a serious condition ( which you fail to see how serious it is ) but he can't ? is that what you are trying to tell me ?
Third, those "friends" .. god, they were the worst part of the story, if you happen to stumble upon a this kind of people run away in the other direction because these people want you to stay put and never try to better your life, case on point, the moment Rory dated Beckett they left her because they felt intimidated by her, I think Rory could have more chemistry with a wall more than she had with those girls .. the author literally said there wasn't anything in common between them except they are all fat !!, imagine what will happen if one of them tried to better her life by losing weight ?
god damn this fat acceptance movement
I'm not saying you are worthless if you are fat, everybody should be treated with compassion and love no matter what size they wear .. but if you have excess fat cells in your body it can cause serious things to your body because it is not meant to carry this extra weight, and please guys don't give me that crap about ( I can't lose weight because of my hormones)
GIRL .. you can't lose weight because you are eating too much calories, read that again please
that doesn't mean you shouldn't eat .. look up the term Calorie Density and it will explain a lot for you
man I think this is one of the longest reviews I've done so fat because the book really touched a nerve in me .. because all my life people were trying to shame me or tell me I can't strive for better because "This is who I am"
well, I lost 30 KG ( 66 lbs), reversed my condition and I am in the best health of my life, while I am in menopause, so there is no excuse .. if you are lazy to do anything and just want some hot guy to love the way you are mistreating your body, please don't push this idea to other girls who can seriously get harmed by this
thank you
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Update:
It seems that after two years of posting this review I'm still triggering people with what I said, and I feel that it's time to clear the air because it was never my intention to trigger anyone with my words, but I'm also glad to each and everyone who read my review and were amazing enough to talk to me in person and in the comments, so thank you for that, this update might be longer than the original review but I feel it's necessary to explain my point and I hope that anybody who reads this keep an open mind .. here goes ..
First, The most common criticism I got is ( why did you read a book about a curvy girl if you are "fatphobic" ? )
I really wish that anybody who asked this question took the time read my review carefully, because I said it so many times .. I AM a curvy girl and I've been curvy my whole life and I enjoy reading books about curvy girls and there are so many great examples for books about curvy girls that I really enjoyed and recommend them all the time .. (Cupcake by Cookie O'Gorman) is one such example
I never said curvy girls shouldn't have a happy ending, that's stupid and nobody worth his brain would ever say that .. but promoting a serious illness (like PCOS) as something your annoying mother is simply bothering you about is irresponsible, I am an Endometriosis survivor and it's the advanced form of PCOS and this is a serious subject and should never be treated lightly like it was done in the book
Second, about the idea that I am promoting not eating to lose weight .. that is the most absurd idea I've ever come cross, I've been dieting since I was 10 years old, not eating is the worst thing you can do for your body to lose weight, don't do it please ..
everybody is free to do whatever they wish, but there are so many people who are struggling to lose weight, and after YEARS of dieting the term (calorie density) is what helped me to lose my weight, since nobody looked it up I will briefly explain it so we get clear, it's basically increasing the amount of healthy low calorie food over your regular food so you can create a calorie deficit in order for you to lose weight, nothing magical there, no starvation and no hunger .. just offsetting calories because the only way to lose weight is to create a calorie deficit ( that's common science )
Third, My opinion was based on me reading the book until the very last word, and we live in a free age where everyone have the right to express their opinion, and my review is my honest opinion, I appreciate anybody who read my review and I'm more than happy to have a CIVIL conversation about it .. no need to be rude about it
and finally, I am against the fat acceptance movement because I don't like it when somebody call themselves fat, that's not anybody's identity, we might have extra fat cells in our bodies but that doesn't define me or anybody .. we are beautiful no matter what .. what we need is self acceptance movement that teaches us how to love ourselves and treat us with the love and compassion we deserve, body shape has nothing to with it
I hope that explained my review and cleared up some misunderstandings, because this is one of my most popular reviews and I still don't know why ..
Thank you once again