Freeing Your Child from Self-Criticism and Perfectionism

by Colleen Adrian

If it were easy to identify our own self-criticism and prevent passing it on to our children, we’d have already done it. It’s deeply troubling to watch our kids judge themselves, or copy their peers because they’re not self-confident enough to be themselves—while often not even noticing their own gifts.

If your child:

•Criticizes themselves or their creations,
•Criticizes others,
•Becomes easily anxious,
•Becomes easily discouraged when trying new activities,
•Feels reluctant to try new activities, or
•Copies their peers rather than acting on their own desires or gifts.

This book will provide you with practices you can start using right away, to help your children of any age begin transforming their self-criticism into self-confidence. Freeing Your Child from Self-Criticism and Perfectionism identifies some of the insidious parenting habits that perpetuate the cycle of self-criticism from generation to generation. It helps you gain insight to how and why it’s so hard to change, and offers you practices that will begin to turn your child’s self-criticism (and your own) around.

90 pages, Kindle Edition

Published March 3, 2021

About the author

Colleen is a writer, parent educator and mentor who specializes in helping parents of sensitive kids who are hard on themselves learn practices that support them to become more confident. She also helps parents of sensitive kids who have intense emotions or tantrums to learn to manage their emotions.

She started researching and writing about parenting 15 years ago when she "hit a wall" trying to parent her child by connecting with him rather than threatening, punishing or rewarding (coercing) him.

She researches and synthesizes material from various disciplines including psychology, neuroscience, spirituality, trauma and the 8 shields model, to create fresh new perspectives. Her work particularly appeals to parents who are sensitive themselves, and struggle with anxiety, intense emotions, perfectionism or shame.

She's committed to parenting consciously, and to sharing her knowledge with others so they can raise kids who are authentic, heart-centered and confident enough to be themselves.

She has a blog at https://colleenadrian.com/blog/ and posts parenting tips on FB and IG.

She lives on a small island on the west coast of Canada with her husband and son, and their chocolate lab, Milton, and their marmalade cat, Rhubarb.